This is how I roll because I have been there and so I try to keep my advice on a level of understanding. Just because your girlfriends said it does not make it right.
I am never telling anyone to play themselves for dudes, but at the same time I don't say "you stupid cause if that was me..." However, we need a balance. I love Jersey girls AKA Madea lol advice because she reminds you that you are of value and just because ol dude don't see it -don’t mean you should be rolling all over the floor
, but I also appreaiate when she is like yes, it hurts, but....
There should be a balance. I know it’s hard though when you know your friend needs to tell a dude to kick rocks and you fill like you want to fight him yourself…. We just need to be real about the advice we give and stop going hard body on each other