***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

[FlowerHair]

Now that everyone is off the rag after these past few tumultuous days on LHCF maybe we can move into the ovulation phase and get a little happy time with our special friends/husbands/boyfriends etc.

After all, it's a holiday now.

Easter eggs - ovulation - get it?

 

[Sprinkl3s]

I’m a recovering under cover over lover
recovering from a love I cant get over
recovering under cover over lover
and now my common law lover thinks he wants another

and i'd lie for you
I cry for you
mm pop for you
and break for you
and hate for you
and I hate you too
if you want me too
I pray for you
crochet for you
make it from scratch for you
leave off the latch for you
go to the store for you
do it some more for you
do what you want me to
guess I’m a fool for you
-Erykah Badu


This CD is going to be the death of me!

 

[DayStar]

Sooooooooooooooooooooo making this stuff happen!!!!

 

[crlsweetie912]

*sigh*
After all these years and a child together, you gonna go off on me like THAT! I have never been so disrespected and humiliated in my LIFE! You will NEVER get the chance to hurt me like that again. You didn't break me, but you made me STRONGER! Kick rocks......

 

[dark_lovely]

He preaches how love is a powerful presence but his action speaks volumes. All Im getting from his actions are that lust prevails over love.

He puts up this persona like he is a modern day romeo. WTH? He was supposed to be different.

I can't see myself getting in the way of love. It's not fair to me, him, or her.

Why cant he see that you dont mend a broken heart by jumping into another person's bed?

Karma is a ***** and to be honest I want my happily after ever not someone else's nightmare.

 

[Bmack]

Why are some women so fast to give each other advice they do not follow themselves? SMH.

 

[ChasingBliss]

Why are some women so fast to give each other advice they do not follow themselves? SMH.

Girl I learned this the hard way. For years I thought I was a pillar(sp?) of strength that could not be broken by any man. My friends relied on my hardcore advice to make them feel better. Then my exboyfriend came along, ripped my heart out of my chest and poured acid on it.

As a result, I am FAAAAAAAR more compassionate about heartbreaks and I tend to focus my advice on the FACT that no matter what, you will get through this. I learned that it was better to stay focused on comforting the person and acknowledging and respecting the place where they were...and stop the "girrrrrl you better stop crying and let that shyt go!". It just aint that easy for everyone.

Mind you, most of my friends like the old me, lol...but I cant be like that anymore...I've gained wisdom and sometimes that process hurts.

 

[gabulldawg]

Sometimes I feel like I should be more scared than I am, but I'm not. I know we haven't known each other for that long in the grand scheme of things, but I feel like this is one of the best decisions that I have ever made. It just feels so right. I feel like I've known him for years and look forward to getting to know him even more as the years progress.

There have been a few nay-sayers who think that we are moving too fast, but I say screw them. It's my life and I will live it the way that I want. If I'm happy with my choice and he is happy with his choice then that is all that matters.

 

[youwillrise]

AHHHHHH!

laskjdflkjasdlfkjasdflksjdfl.

//end transmission

 

[DayStar]

He is a MAN

 

[Bmack]

Girl I learned this the hard way. For years I thought I was a pillar(sp?) of strength that could not be broken by any man. My friends relied on my hardcore advice to make them feel better. Then my exboyfriend came along, ripped my heart out of my chest and poured acid on it.

As a result, I am FAAAAAAAR more compassionate about heartbreaks and I tend to focus my advice on the FACT that no matter what, you will get through this. I learned that it was better to stay focused on comforting the person and acknowledging and respecting the place where they were...and stop the "girrrrrl you better stop crying and let that shyt go!". It just aint that easy for everyone.
Mind you, most of my friends like the old me, lol...but I cant be like that anymore...I've gained wisdom and sometimes that process hurts.

This is how I roll because I have been there and so I try to keep my advice on a level of understanding. Just because your girlfriends said it does not make it right.

I am never telling anyone to play themselves for dudes, but at the same time I don't say "you stupid cause if that was me..." However, we need a balance. I love Jersey girls AKA Madea lol advice because she reminds you that you are of value and just because ol dude don't see it -don’t mean you should be rolling all over the floor, but I also appreaiate when she is like yes, it hurts, but....


There should be a balance. I know it’s hard though when you know your friend needs to tell a dude to kick rocks and you fill like you want to fight him yourself…. We just need to be real about the advice we give and stop going hard body on each other

 

[Bmack]

Its funny how when you pull back, start doing you, start getting back into what make you happy, he will come back hungry as a hound…the strongest dose of “act right” seems to be when a women who lets a man know that she is worthy of the best, and of high value.

I am seeing it with my girlfriend now. One is losing weight doing well and dude is on it like a hornet, but all she is giving him is *Crickets* and he don’t know what to do with himself.

Another girlfriend called and told me “all of a sudden I don’t even find him attractive” and he is blowing up the phone, going off about why she did not return his calls, blah, blah, blah. The thing that has me smh is that this is the same dude that was smelling himself about a month ago…oh, but know what happened – after my girl Kish left him holding his rock all hungry like…now he smells the roses.

 

[ChasingBliss]

This is how I roll because I have been there and so I try to keep my advice on a level of understanding. Just because your girlfriends said it does not make it right.

I am never telling anyone to play themselves for dudes, but at the same time I don't say "you stupid cause if that was me..." However, we need a balance. I love Jersey girls AKA Madea lol advice because she reminds you that you are of value and just because ol dude don't see it -don’t mean you should be rolling all over the floor, but I also appreaiate when she is like yes, it hurts, but....


There should be a balance. I know it’s hard though when you know your friend needs to tell a dude to kick rocks and you fill like you want to fight him yourself…. We just need to be real about the advice we give and stop going hard body on each other

Yes, my friend is doing this right now. She literally want's to cut my ex. He's just lucky he lives in another state.
I'm scared to tell her things sometimes because this chick goes IN!

 

[OneInAMillion]

There are good days and there are not so good days. Gotta remember that it's just going to be that way, and that as long as the good outweigh the bad, we'll be ok.

*Sigh* We had our first spat since we got engaged and I'm a little sad . It was so stupid...of course about stuff like folding laundry and putting chicken breast in freezer bags....LOL this is what my parents argue over, so I guess that's what marriage comes with .

 

[Bmack]

There are good days and there are not so good days. Gotta remember that it's just going to be that way, and that as long as the good outweigh the bad, we'll be ok.

*Sigh* We had our first spat since we got engaged and I'm a little sad . It was so stupid...of course about stuff like folding laundry and putting chicken breast in freezer bags....LOL this is what my parents argue over, so I guess that's what marriage comes with .

Keep this in mind and you are already half way there!!! Good luck on you marriage at the end of the day it is a blessing!!

 

[gabulldawg]

There are good days and there are not so good days. Gotta remember that it's just going to be that way, and that as long as the good outweigh the bad, we'll be ok.

*Sigh* We had our first spat since we got engaged and I'm a little sad . It was so stupid...of course about stuff like folding laundry and putting chicken breast in freezer bags....LOL this is what my parents argue over, so I guess that's what marriage comes with .

I know how you feel. Our first little "fight" was over mardi gras bead. Of course it was deeper than that, but that was the focus of the argument. But at the end of the day we were fine and got over it rather quickly. Apologize and move forward. No biggie.

 

[OneInAMillion]

I know how you feel. Our first little "fight" was over mardi gras bead. Of course it was deeper than that, but that was the focus of the argument. But at the end of the day we were fine and got over it rather quickly. Apologize and move forward. No biggie.

Thanks girl! Its crazy how you can fight over silly stuff like that! I have a bad habit of overthinking things that go wrong and punishing myself, but your right. We made up already, just need to let it go...

 

[OneInAMillion]

Keep this in mind and you are already half way there!!! Good luck on you marriage at the end of the day it is a blessing!!

You're right. HAHA we just need to revisit our expectations of "helping around the house."

 

[phynestone]

You're a nice guy, but confused. I'm putting you in the friend category until you flat out ASK ME OUT! I don't do the mixed messages. Sorry.

 

[OneInAMillion]

Sometimes I feel like I should be more scared than I am, but I'm not. I know we haven't known each other for that long in the grand scheme of things, but I feel like this is one of the best decisions that I have ever made. It just feels so right. I feel like I've known him for years and look forward to getting to know him even more as the years progress.

There have been a few nay-sayers who think that we are moving too fast, but I say screw them. It's my life and I will live it the way that I want. If I'm happy with my choice and he is happy with his choice then that is all that matters.

I've learned that there are gonna be naysayers on either side: "you're moving too fast" or "you're just moving too slow, aka is he gonna make a commitment." You have to with your instincts and what what you see day to day.

 

[missjones]

I met him today. He said I was prettier in person

 

[ixoyegodisgood]

O'well...maybe I have waited too long.

 

[xquisitduchess]

The truth hurts but at least now i can move on. i dont think i got the whole truth there is still some mild confusion but at least i learnt enough to know that it is time to move on. it hurts i have moments that i just randomly start crying because i wonder why me maybe i just didnt learn enough from my past relationships, but what i learned out of this relationship is to listen to my intuitions more...i wasnt soo sure in my past relationship but now i am more inturned with my mind and body. eventhough i know we are not meant to be and that it is time to move on...it takes time to get over someone you love....dat time however cannot come soon enough because i dont want to waste my time crying over someone that is not worth it...i just dont know how to snap my fingers and make the pain go away..

 

[BrandNew]

I miss him already. This is bad. I shouldn't want him like I do, why is this so hard?!

 

[chickle]

omg, i am about to meet my current crush somewhere..wish me luck. i am so friggin nervous.

i am so "alternative", i am just beginning to feel comfortable in my own skin, but he is like the alpha male...i am not sure how to describe him, but he is tall dark and handsome, lol. i already have trouble talking to guys in the first place, this is not going to be pretty

 

[Ms Red]

One year and 3 months later, still butterflies.
Pray this is His will and that it works out...

 

[locabouthair]

The truth hurts but at least now i can move on. i dont think i got the whole truth there is still some mild confusion but at least i learnt enough to know that it is time to move on. it hurts i have moments that i just randomly start crying because i wonder why me maybe i just didnt learn enough from my past relationships, but what i learned out of this relationship is to listen to my intuitions more...i wasnt soo sure in my past relationship but now i am more inturned with my mind and body. eventhough i know we are not meant to be and that it is time to move on...it takes time to get over someone you love....dat time however cannot come soon enough because i dont want to waste my time crying over someone that is not worth it...i just dont know how to snap my fingers and make the pain go away..

((HUGS))............

 

[azucar]

He's not what he presented himself to be. *sighs* Let the journey continue.

 

[southerncitygirl]

i need to be out and about more so i can meet some menfolk and be dating regularly.

 

[DayStar]

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