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i'm having so many mixed emotions right now .. to an extent i miss my ex very much but when i look back on the relationship ,if that's love then i don't want it and i don't think my ex has changed for the better... maybe later on in life ..idk .

I like the potential SO a lot but i don't want to ruin our friendship that's been developed for the last few years.


i miss the feeling of being in a relationship but i can tell im not ready yet and i'd rather be single then to be with the wrong person or be the wrong/ damaged person for someone
 
SunkistDiva said:
How young is too young? I was approached by a really hot guy at the bookstore. Polite, interesting, well spoken, and it helps that he is really handsome. Too good to be true? I wasn't sure of his age. I thought 27. Mind you I am 32. He is.....22. Is that too young? Am I Stella already?
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Age is but a number. Look at Demi Moore and her Ashton. :grin:
 
I am so tired of you and your ish, I was home sick with a migraine from thursday and you didnt even think to call and check to see how I am doing??? Yea I can really see how important I am to you. Now LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
 
dumb:
me: miss me?
him: like a fat kid misses cake

i suppose it works. not terribly original though (and i suppose the alteration fits our purposes).
 
Miss him but he won't meet me halfway...Y'all pray for my strength cuz I need to to get completely over him:perplexed
 
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I'm happily engaged to the love of my life! He surprised me on Friday with a beautiful dinner and ring :) While I'm so excited and ready to start planning for an engagement party, photos, etc, I'm SO hurt that my best friend isn't happy for me. She NEVER likes anyone I date, and for no other reason than she likes us to all be single at the same time. I'm just so annoyed that she's so negative about this whole thing--she tries to put my FH down and thinks its a big joke. He's so supportive through all this, everyone can see that this is nothing but jealousy--not that she wants him in any way, but she wants me to be single for as long as she is.

UGH, has anyone had to deal with this? I'm guilty of taking stupid stuff like this to heart, but the girl makes me want to avoid having any type of bridal shower and the like.
 
^^ Congrats!!!


This guy is so nice and a complete gentleman but WTF is he so CORNY!!!! I just want to scream it at him and tell him that he's corny but he's very kind and thoughtful and I dont want to hurt his feelings. But he's always saying or typing something LAME and I want to help his game out so bad. How can one be so corny??:wallbash:
 
he compliments my pretty nails that are natural with the chipped pale pink polish that I slipped my mind to fix, my 6 month post hair after my curls have fallen and roots have frizzed, and my relatively modest style in a world where everything hangs out, he's supportive of my weight watchers (although he doesn't see and issue with the way I am) but since we have the same health needs he gives me tips and tells me what he buys...

he likes because I'm natural, I'm real, and remain true to who I am... very different for me.. kind of nice
 
I feel sad. I have taken so long to get over some1 I had no business with in the first place...I have lied 2 myself repeatedly n answered the phone when he called "just to say hello"...
I can say Im over it...but y does it hurt 2 know you are happy with some1 else? Yet...I know you're not for me...nor will you ever be...
 
OneInAMillion said:
I'm happily engaged to the love of my life! He surprised me on Friday with a beautiful dinner and ring :) While I'm so excited and ready to start planning for an engagement party, photos, etc, I'm SO hurt that my best friend isn't happy for me. She NEVER likes anyone I date, and for no other reason than she likes us to all be single at the same time. I'm just so annoyed that she's so negative about this whole thing--she tries to put my FH down and thinks its a big joke. He's so supportive through all this, everyone can see that this is nothing but jealousy--not that she wants him in any way, but she wants me to be single for as long as she is.

UGH, has anyone had to deal with this? I'm guilty of taking stupid stuff like this to heart, but the girl makes me want to avoid having any type of bridal shower and the like.
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Hmmm, she might not want him in particular, but she certainly doesn't want YOU to have him. Of course she's jealous. Please do not choose her as the maid of honor. Please do not!!!
 
What the heck do you want from me? I gave you my best and you obviously did not value or appreciate me. I have nothing more to give!!!
 
Waiting on the Mr. Harris story KPH!

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I gave you your cards, letters, jewelry, etc back, and you have the NERVE to say to me that you are "suffering and I just put a knife in your chest"
***** PLEASE! You put a knife in your own chest.
Recycle all that ish you gave me since I'm sure your lying cheating *** will find another woman within the next five minutes....
 
crlsweetie912 said:
Waiting on the Mr. Harris story KPH!

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I gave you your cards, letters, jewelry, etc back, and you have the NERVE to say to me that you are "suffering and I just put a knife in your chest"
***** PLEASE! You put a knife in your own chest.
Recycle all that ish you gave me since I'm sure your lying cheating *** will find another woman within the next five minutes....
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:lachen:Girl, I went back and forth with that idiot yesterday. I have told him in more ways than 10 that we will NEVER EVER MAKE IT AS FRIENDS (either). He acts like I'm speaking a foreign language to him. I told him i'm an adult and have all the male friends I need and there is no room for any more. :wallbash::wallbash: Really, just leave me alone. Being in a long distance relationship was as he called it "MESSY" to him so being in a long distance friendship with a man I don't respect or trust is "IMPOSSIBLE." He keeps trying to explain himself but it only makes the hole he's in deeper.

I think i'm going to have to end up cursing him straight out and having no mercy when I do it before he stops trying to contact me. He's been to Orlando more now that I HATE HIM than he did when I LOVED him. YES, THE LOVE IS GONE.
 
crlsweetie912 said:
Waiting on the Mr. Harris story KPH!

_____________________________________
I gave you your cards, letters, jewelry, etc back, and you have the NERVE to say to me that you are "suffering and I just put a knife in your chest"
***** PLEASE! You put a knife in your own chest.
Recycle all that ish you gave me since I'm sure your lying cheating *** will find another woman within the next five minutes....
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The friggen nerve!
 
CreoleNat said:
Hmmm, she might not want him in particular, but she certainly doesn't want YOU to have him. Of course she's jealous. Please do not choose her as the maid of honor. Please do not!!!
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You're absolutely right! At this point, the thought of having her anywhere near the wedding makes me annoyed. I'm just disappointed in how she's taking this. He makes me happy and is 100% supportive. This is who I love, and she mocks the whole thing :nono:. Here's the most recent reason she's been a pain:

I decided a long time ago that a small, intimate wedding was what I wanted. FH and I both have small families and small circles in general. I've been thinking of having an outdoor wedding in my Grandparent's backyard because its gorgeous, where I grew up, and I just have the vision for a reception there. Could I spend tons of money? Sure, but we have other plans and a ballroom wedding is not the top of my wishlist. So anyway, my friend has been harrassing me about how that's not a dream wedding, I'm only doing it because FH doesn't have any money (he's in the military, she defines that as broke, which is a whole seperate issue), and how I need to look for someone based on a bank account. I'm just tired of having to defend what it is I really what and what my goals are. I want to just tell her that all I want is for her to be supportive, and ask me the right tough questions because I do need that.

What I could really do without is all the immature talk about marrying a 6'7 big-backed bank account, which she herself has yet to find :rolleyes:. I've explained to her that I've been with guys based on that before and that at the end of the day, there has got to be more than that to the man you choose to marry. I'm FINALLY in a healthy, stable relationship with such a loving man. I just don't understand why she can't see that?

I'm going to start doing is ignoring all the negativity. I'll have to suck it up and have a talk with her when I'm ready. But really, I'm sick of her emails about inviting guys that I really disliked in undergrad as her date to my wedding. That BS has got to stop.
 
OneInAMillion said:
I'm happily engaged to the love of my life! He surprised me on Friday with a beautiful dinner and ring :) While I'm so excited and ready to start planning for an engagement party, photos, etc, I'm SO hurt that my best friend isn't happy for me. She NEVER likes anyone I date, and for no other reason than she likes us to all be single at the same time. I'm just so annoyed that she's so negative about this whole thing--she tries to put my FH down and thinks its a big joke. He's so supportive through all this, everyone can see that this is nothing but jealousy--not that she wants him in any way, but she wants me to be single for as long as she is.

UGH, has anyone had to deal with this? I'm guilty of taking stupid stuff like this to heart, but the girl makes me want to avoid having any type of bridal shower and the like.
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Well first of all...congratulations on your engagement!! :woot: :yay: :woot: So glad that you've found such a nice, loving man to be with. :yep:

As for your "friend"..... The only reason why she's acting the way she is is sour grapes, plain and simple. :ohwell: I've never been in your situation (I haven't been engaged yet), but I know that when one of my closest girl friends just started seriously dating last year, and got engaged earlier this year, I have to admit...I was a little sad. I was HAPPY for her don't get me wrong (cuz her guy is so nice and wonderful :D), but I did feel a little downhearted...not for her, but more so for me. We were like the "single sisters" and we would pick each other up when our relationships or crushes on guys went sour. :nono: But now, after she met him all of that changed! I got over it quickly though, and now I couldn't be happier for her even though I'm still single. So sometimes time is just all that it takes. And if she can see that your guy makes you REALLY happy, then I think she'll be more and more happy for you.

So, your friend is just feeling a little jealous that you're engaged and she's not even dating someone yet. That's all. Just have patience and sympathy with her. If you guys are as close as you say, and you've been friends w/her for this long, then she MUST have some redeeming qualities right? One thing you can do is try to (subtly) hook her up with some guys so that she can keep her mind off of you and your relationship. Maybe your fiance might have some guy friends of his who are looking for a nice woman? She'll forget all about you when/if she meets another guy who makes her feel so wonderful. :yep: OR...if you don't want to go the "matchmaker" route.... Why not call her up and take her out (just the two of you) and do a girls' night or something. Sometimes what might be bothering her is the fact that she feels like in a way she's lost a friend, or part of the same relationship that you two used to have. Let her know that even though you have a man, you can still "hang" with the girls w/out him around, and you two will still be close friends no matter what the dating status is. :)
 
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