***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

[KPH]

It gets worse and worse. And you keep texting me talking about you don't want to lose your "friend" WTF....Friends don't LIE to each other, cheat, steal and stomp on each other's feelings. You can't even admit what you did. Why the fluck would I want to be your friend.....You are now dead to me....

I know how you are feeling all to well and all I can tell you to do is let it go. Sounds like the rat doesn't even know what a friend is and you don't need a person in your life who doesn't know the meaning of friendship and try and keep the door with you cracked open enough to pretend it is a friendship. He has showed you how much of a good friend he can be. Give that situation over to GOD. I know it will take time but don't let him make you turn away from a true friend, Jesus.

 

[crlsweetie912]

I know how you are feeling all to well and all I can tell you to do is let it go. Sounds like the rat doesn't even know what a friend is and you don't need a person in your life who doesn't know the meaning of friendship and try and keep the door with you cracked open enough to pretend it is a friendship. He has showed you how much of a good friend he can be. Give that situation over to GOD. I know it will take time but don't let him make you turn away from a true friend, Jesus.

Thank you! The hardest part is that I THOUGHT that we were friends for over 6 years before we even started dating. Now finding out all that was lies too....But I will survive! Thanks KPH.

 

[ChasingBliss]

I know the girl...another one at our church...he seems to be a serial azzhole....SMDH. I see this girl every week. She knew we were friends but didn't know when we started dating. She works with the singles ministry so her and I started talking and she invited me to go out Saturday to dinner and a movie. She asked me about my last relationships and I told her a few things, never even mentioned his name. She says dang, that sounds a lot like the last guy I dated....It all came out. He still denies EVERYTHING. It didn't go as deep as our relationship, but he still lied cause he was still seeing her when he and I started dating.... I feel sick......
EVERYTHING he said to me he said to her, just all lies.....a string of lies.....

Arrrgh! I hate that this is happening to you. I'm with KPH, give it to God. That's what I did and continue to do...

 

[KPH]

I know the girl...another one at our church...he seems to be a serial azzhole....SMDH. I see this girl every week. She knew we were friends but didn't know when we started dating. She works with the singles ministry so her and I started talking and she invited me to go out Saturday to dinner and a movie. She asked me about my last relationships and I told her a few things, never even mentioned his name. She says dang, that sounds a lot like the last guy I dated....It all came out. He still denies EVERYTHING. It didn't go as deep as our relationship, but he still lied cause he was still seeing her when he and I started dating.... I feel sick......
EVERYTHING he said to me he said to her, just all lies.....a string of lies.....

Lord, another brother sitting in church taking up a parking spot and a seat and getting NOTHING out of it but being a messy man. Mr. Harris had the nerve to tell me how he cried at church one Sunday and the only thing I could think of was that Satan shows up in a seat on Sundays too. Really, how can any man sitting up listening to the word of GOD be so selfish and evil?

 

[Dee_33]

Wow dude, I thought we could be good together, but I see sex is all that's on your agenda . Keep it moving sir.

 

[crlsweetie912]

Lord, another brother sitting in church taking up a parking spot and a seat and getting NOTHING out of it but being a messy man. Mr. Harris had the nerve to tell me how he cried at church one Sunday and the only thing I could think of was that Satan shows up in a seat on Sundays too. Really, how can any man sitting up listening to the word of GOD be so selfish and evil?

That's the million dollar question.....Oh well, live and you learn.
I know this isn't all that God has for me but this has really hit me HARD finding out all of this. Yall pray for my strenght to get over this. If "friends" can do you like this.....SMDH.....
THANK YOU SO MUCH all of you ladies for your ongoing support. You don't know how much it means to me. I APPRECIATE YOU and pray for you all to find the love that you DESERVE!

 

[NYAmicas]

Dude..........FALLLLLL BACKKKKK!!!

 

[Americka]

Why? Why would you confess something like this 12 years later? The Devil is truly coming humble in his approach!

 

[moonglowdiva]

He said he wants a wife. I think he's crazy. He's not ready.

 

[missjones]

ugh

 

[ixoyegodisgood]

Ooo..I hope he shows up at the get together next month.

 

[HollyGolightly]

Is it worth it to try and build a relationship with someone that I'm not physically attracted to? He's not hideous, but I could never see myself having sex with him.

Sometimes I think I need to stop being so picky. I don't want to die an old lonely cat lady.

 

[mw138]

I like my ex much more as a person after our break up. I think it's what he needed to finally grow up.

 

[Kerryann]

HHHHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEsssssssss managed to weezle himself back into my life but i do love him dyam dickmatization

 

[Dee_33]

Let's see:

We met on Sunday, had 3hr convo on Tue, I didn't call you Wed and now you call me Thur night all mad cause I didn't call you Tue . Yeah, I'm gonna go far away from you

 

[septemberbaby]

I know the girl...another one at our church...he seems to be a serial azzhole....SMDH. I see this girl every week. She knew we were friends but didn't know when we started dating. She works with the singles ministry so her and I started talking and she invited me to go out Saturday to dinner and a movie. She asked me about my last relationships and I told her a few things, never even mentioned his name. She says dang, that sounds a lot like the last guy I dated....It all came out. He still denies EVERYTHING. It didn't go as deep as our relationship, but he still lied cause he was still seeing her when he and I started dating.... I feel sick......
EVERYTHING he said to me he said to her, just all lies.....a string of lies.....

Disgusting. You deserve better. Be glad you found out what type of person/man he really is BEFORE you married him.

You will get through this.

 

[kismettt]

idk what has gotten into him...

but i like it

 

[laCriolla]

does anyone think guys are turned off by a woman's ambition?

i read somewhere guys don't like it when he perceives a girl could be more ambitious than he is. Not saying she has more money at the time or anything but that she is more driven than he is.

anyone think it's true? should that be hidden?

i went to h.s. with a bunch of clear (ahem) chicks who used to put on this dumb blonde clueless voice and played down their intelligence. they never said they wanted more than barefeet and babies. but of course they did.

I on the other hand think i pushed a guy away because i have an advanced degree and a license (yayyy!!) and while in school he'd drop little lines that led me to believe he was intimidated by my soon-to-be status. :-( he could have gone for an advanced degree, i wasnt stoppin him.

 

[Bunny77]

LaCriolla,

Some men are, but not all... if I've learned anything, it's not to be concerned with the men who have issues with my ambition. The types who are like that are usually lacking something themselves, and it will show up in a relationship later on.

Now, I will say that I would make sure to show off the other traits that I have that aren't related to school and work... people take this to mean "dumbing down," but it's not at all. Just show that you're well rounded -- smart, intelligent, warm, funny, ambitious, loving, caring, soft, strong (but not hard strong)... you'll be all good. The right man will appreciate that, trust me.

 

[missjones]

Ok, so I call him and some female answers his phone. I hung up Hmmm. He did say he was visiting his sister, but idk

 

[NYAmicas]

How come everyone else can tell a guy they're dating others and not ready to commit but I get the psychopaths who want to attach me to a ball and chain?

The heck am I doing/saying wrong?

 

[Kalani]

Haven't had a boyfriend in years....haven't been on a date in well over a year...have not even met any good potential date material this whole past year..rapidly approaching mid thirties....feeling like maybe I should start my cat collection now as I prepare for old maid status

 

[missjones]

Ok, so I call him and some female answers his phone. I hung up Hmmm. He did say he was visiting his sister, but idk

See, this is the problem with meeting people online. You don't know who you're talking to. I called that number 2x and both times the same female picked up the phone. He says that's been his number for 5 years. I refuse to call again and I'm not giving him my number

 

[Dee_33]

^^^you could've asked to speak to him, that way you'd know for sure. I sometimes answer my brother's cell if he's visiting. Funny story, I was looking at pics of my niece that my bro had stored in his phone and his wife called, she didn't reconize my voice when I answered and she was all "WHO IS THIS!!!", LOL I was like girl calm down, it's me.

 

[DayStar]

Spanish men from the east coast are hot....

Im not feeling anyone here, these guys act like they got a china that bleeds....I have no desire to entertain anyone...

 

[missjones]

^^^you could've asked to speak to him, that way you'd know for sure. I sometimes answer my brother's cell if he's visiting. Funny story, I was looking at pics of my niece that my bro had stored in his phone and his wife called, she didn't reconize my voice when I answered and she was all "WHO IS THIS!!!", LOL I was like girl calm down, it's me.

I asked for him the second time I called and she said wrong number.

 

[Vinyl]

I asked my boyfriend out on a date and he said yes! We've been going through a rough patch lately, didn't speak for a few days, and now it's time to just hang out and have some fun without worrying about stuff.

 

[ChasingBliss]

Haven't had a boyfriend in years....haven't been on a date in well over a year...have not even met any good potential date material this whole past year..rapidly approaching mid thirties....feeling like maybe I should start my cat collection now as I prepare for old maid status

Naw, you will meet him, the one...he's out there...trust.

 

[HollyGolightly]

Persian boo asked me to come hang out and meet his family (cousins) after I got off work. Yeah right, I'm not coming to see you at 4am. Ain't nothing open after midnight but legs.

I told him to call the next girl on his list because I wasn't falling for that. He can see me at a respectable time if he misses me so much. He assured me that there was no "next girl" and that I was the only girl.

I really could care less if he's sleeping with someone else. I told him to have his fun right now with other girls because it will end if and when I start sleeping with him.

Last month he made me promise not to sleep with anyone else. I did promise, but only because there was no one around that I wanted to sleep with. Best believe, if I meet someone that I click with or if my relationship with one of the other guys that I'm dating gets serious, I will sleep with them with no guilt.

 

[Xavier]

Man when you click with someone it is an amazing feeling.

I posted about some guy a few months back and he seemed so perfect but ended up being a loser. I was so disappointed with my sad dating situation. I haven't had a SO in like 5 years.

Well wouldn't you know that I reconnected with an old friend from highschool(he contacted me on facebook) and we have been hitting it off. We are both so into each other. It feels so natural and easy with him. I am so excited about where things are going.