***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

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sunnydaze said:
I am proud of myself for actually seeing this date through, in my continued effort to put myself back out there this year.

Other than that, you 44 year old, touchy feely, playa-playa, chest muscle flexing old G'..won't be seeing me again. But thanks for showing me a cool spot I had never been to before..I'll make sure to remember it...... to hang out with someone else.:grin:
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:lachen::lachen: I feel you. I experienced many moments like that back in my single days.
 
nappystorm said:
Should I pay the membership fee for Match.com?
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I created a profile and I've been asking myself the same thing.

sunshinebeautiful said:
Yeah chile... :nono: I was all gung-ho at the top of the year like this year I'm gonna meet MY Mr. Right, revamped my online profile on a couple of sites, made plans to go out to Meetups... but then once I encountered some of the usual dating B.S. I was back to feeling like, Damn, I'm tired of this half-stepping ish, and I'm ready to call it off.

*sigh* Then I realize that my vision of Mr. Right + the family I want to have is too important for me to give it up. Every time I turn around someone else is boo'd up, getting engaged, married, or having a baby. I'm not ok with having another year go by and I'm no closer to having the life that I desire. So I'm still pressing forward, no matter how frustrating it is.
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Exactly! All it takes is a few wack *** dudes to cross your path and it's like "ok, I'm off this".

But last night, I was out at my spot, feeling nice and I realized I had NOBODY to call when I got home. It depressed the hell out of me.

I honestly just don't know what direction to go in anymore. Remember the Iraq dude? Well this one is like the 2.0 version. I feel exactly the way I felt the last months I was dealing with him. IDK, I just can't seem to keep a guy's interest. It's like after awhile, they just can't be bothered.

I was watching "I Am Sam" this morning and Michelle Phiffer's character was talking about how always feels like she's not enough and I started bawling because I feel the same way :(
 
MzLady78 said:
Exactly! All it takes is a few wack *** dudes to cross your path and it's like "ok, I'm off this".

But last night, I was out at my spot, feeling nice and I realized I had NOBODY to call when I got home. It depressed the hell out of me.

I honestly just don't know what direction to go in anymore. Remember the Iraq dude? Well this one is like the 2.0 version. I feel exactly the way I felt the last months I was dealing with him. IDK, I just can't seem to keep a guy's interest. It's like after awhile, they just can't be bothered.

I was watching "I Am Sam" this morning and Michelle Phiffer's character was talking about how always feels like she's not enough and I started bawling because I feel the same way :(
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Awwww (((HUGS))).

Mzlady, I've definitely been there before. Numerous times. I was just telling someone how I apparently have a thing for involving myself with the "not into you" guys. :nono:

All I can do is try to be more selective about who I involve myself with - to make sure that they're truly ready and interested in a long-term future with me. I hope to never experience another one of those kinds of relationships again. They are soul crushing.

I know this is easier said than done, but just try to be positive and maybe date some different kinds of guys this time around? I'm gonna try that. I guess I'll report back if I'm successful. :look:
 
So i managed to develop a crush on another guy who doesn't want a relationship. Why can i never cross the path of someone who im attracted to AND he wants to be in a serious relationship??? Well this is my first strike of the year, gotta dust myself off and get back in the game. I'm gonna give this law of attraction business a serious try this year.
 
call you "now"....are you ssssserious? *block number*. You dont know me well enough to make demands, and if you did, you still dont make demands. I mean..sheesh. I might as well joining a convent. I have all the characteristic, minus the catholicism.
 
L sometimes I wonder if you think about me? I think about you everyday :).

But on another note...

Hmm, I met another nice guy but he is too close for comfort. Ill see where this go, taking baby steps, and not letting anybody know. I have become so private when it comes to guys now, its better that way.
 
I just got of a rlp with a man who was everything I wanted, and it was not my decision to end it, although I can see where he was coming from. We had one HUGE difference that we couldn't get past, well, that HE couldn't get past. I'm starting to doubt if that was REALLY the reason, because men will move heaven and earth to be with you if they feel you're "the one", but I digress.

Right now I'm not interested in these lame dudes I keep meeting. I've gone on one date and though he was a nice enough guy, he wasn't for me and my ex has set the bar really high for the next guy, so it'll probably be a LONG time before I date seriously again. And honestly, I'm ok with that right now. I'm not ready anyway.
 
boy all this dating other guys i wouldnt normally is irking me

one is smothering o yeah is is fat too and always wants to smell me eeeeewwww
this other one told me he was married yikes dead issue right there go home please oh yeah boy bye permanently crazy

This other guy has beautiful eyes really beautiful first date is saturday lets see what happens
 
I'm not interested in being in a relationship at this point in my life, but for some reason I find myself reminiscing about the days when I was in love. Sometimes I even become teary-eyed and I'm not sure exactly why.

I'm enjoying being single and free, focusing on my education and goals and seeing a few guys here and there. I don't understand this feeling.
 
When I think about where I was in relationships years ago and in the past with my current SO, I just:nono:

All the times that I really thought I was in love....wow. :ohwell:

But T, this is real! Very real....sometimes, I love [you] so much...sometimes, I want to stomp you in the ground. It's been some painful times for both of us, but to get to where we are now, I'm sure it was worth it.

I am asking for us to make this last for the rest of our lives....I truly know that is what I want...
 
You and I has been my mantra since August 30, 2008. So many days and nights, I longed for you - the sound of your voice, the silk of your touch and the sun in your smile. I could not have scripted yesterday any better. The chemistry and connection we share is literally frightening. It seems as though time never elapsed...
 
Not that I didn't know how this was gonna go, but I finally asked straight out if this was all there was ever gonna be between us and he said probably. When I asked why is that, he said he's good, he's not looking for a relationship.

I suspected as much, but it was hard to hear and yes, I'm a little hurt. But I'm glad I know now for sure.
 
We were talking and come to find out we have crossed paths all of our lives-he lived on the next block up from me when we were kids, went to the same elementary school, and we even know the same people from back in the day, but we never knew each other. How weird is that? :lol:
 
The way we looked at each other yesterday...I know you felt it too. Yeah we're gonna be reunited and it's gonna feel so good. I made a promise to myself...I'm gonna get back with you. This is destiny, we are meant to be.
 
Rastafarai said:
Please tell me you ain't planning to see that fool....please...:nono:
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I want to see him and at the same time I dont. My head and my heart have yet to line up together. I'm sick of myself. I thought I was so much smarter than this. The old me would have kicked this **** to the curb so fast. I dont understand why I've changed so much. I want the old me back.
 
HoneyLemonDrop said:
I want to see him and at the same time I dont. My head and my heart have yet to line up together. I'm sick of myself. I thought I was so much smarter than this. The old me would have kicked this **** to the curb so fast. I dont understand why I've changed so much. I want the old me back.
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What would seeing him do for you but cause you more heartache and self-doubt? Why still maintain contact with him and give him reason to think he may still have a chance?

He knows what he is doing and is also very much aware of your indecisiveness...hence the "oh, yeah, by the way...I'll be there in two weeks" notification.

I fear that if you see him, your heart will give in completely and he would have won at the expense of your emotional and mental well-being.
 
Rastafarai said:
What would seeing him do for you but cause you more heartache and self-doubt? Why still maintain contact with him and give him reason to think he may still have a chance?

He knows what he is doing and is also very much aware of your indecisiveness...hence the "oh, yeah, by the way...I'll be there in two weeks" notification.

I fear that if you see him, your heart will give in completely and he would have won at the expense of your emotional and mental well-being.
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You are so very right. Thanks...I really needed to read this. I know I am not thinking straight right now...The fact that I have put soooo much of my business on this board after ALL these years of being pretty much private, speaks volumes about what I am going through.

I am going to continue to work on myself and pray about this whole thing. I know better Rastafari, I really do...and I'm not going to give up on myself.
 
luving me said:
The way we looked at each other yesterday...I know you felt it too. Yeah we're gonna be reunited and it's gonna feel so good. I made a promise to myself...I'm gonna get back with you. This is destiny, we are meant to be.
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WTF am I recycling dudes now:wallbash: :nono:. Hell naw I need to get it right. He's my ex for a reason. I don't know what I was thinking. Maybe I felt a spark cause he was doing me a huge favor by fixing my car for free. Damn that non-sense, I'm done with him. I need to dodge that bullet and let that dude go. :yep:
 
everything was going good.
then *bam*
:cry4:
a friend emailed me a throw back.
i clicked the link.
it was a song that reminds me of my ex-husband:ohwell:
:cry4:

been feeling sick ever since yesterday.
 
HoneyLemonDrop said:
You'll be here in two weeks? I need a drink.
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HE'S COMING TO SEE YOU?

I got 2 teary phone calls today and some emails and I replied and had to really break things down for him. I'm hoping he understands now my point of view and my last sentence read. I really don't want to visit this subject with you again. He has a ticket for me to come see him to talk and I suggest that if I was to visit, I need a hotel room. He now knows exactly why I do not want to be in his house or no where near his house.
 
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