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SO: I'm gonna take you to Whole Foods on Friday.
Me: WF? Why?
SO: So I can buy you some stargazer lilies. Aren't those your favorite flowers?
Me: :love:
 
luving me said:
@SuchMagnificance...were are the good happy hour spots in Houston? Oh and how often do you use the Aubrey Organics GPB cond? :lachen: Yes it's a 2-part question. :lol:
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So for hijacking this thread for a minute, yall :blush:

luving me

I ended up going to The Horn to watch MNF..had a good time..I dont really know where the happy hour spots are because Im normally at work around that time..I was off yesterday, so I managed to squeeze one in.

I think Grand Lux and Ra Sushi have good happy hours..Check with Thann, she is always on the move.

AO GPB I use every 2 weeks..It has both protein and moisture properties, so I dont have to do a protein treatment, then follow up with a moisture conditioner..I just use AO GPB and Im done..so much more efficient and hair is on relaxer status every time I flat iron..This will be my go-to conditioner for the month of November...
 
RarityFluttershy said:
@SuchMagnificance
So Yeah. I'm Following Your Dating Scene Like A Reality TV Show.:look:
I Hate To Do This But Can A Sista Get Some Details.:lol:
What Happen With This One?

ETA: What Small Test Did He Fail.
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RarityFluttershy

Lol..I might have jumped the gun a little bit..Im working on not being so impatient and giving people the benefit of the doubt. We were supposed to go somewhere and he didnt show..He told me he was lactose intolerant and ate something he shouldnt have and it made him sick..I (angrywoman.com) naturally assumed that he was full of ish and dismissed him.. He asked me later on if I had trust issues..I told him that I did..He asked me to "not be so mean" and "give him a chance to show that he has my back" before I write him off. So we on okay terms for now...:look:
 
SuchMagnificance said:
Lol..I might have jumped the gun a little bit..Im working on not being so impatient and giving people the benefit of the doubt. We were supposed to go somewhere and he didnt show..He told me he was lactose intolerant and ate something he shouldnt have and it made him sick..I (angrywoman.com) naturally assumed that he was full of ish and dismissed him.. He asked me later on if I had trust issues..I told him that I did..He asked me to "not be so mean" and "give him a chance to show that he has my back" before I write him off. So we on okay terms for now...:look:
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:lol:.......
:grouphug2:..........
 
Keshieshimmer said:
@barbiesocialite

Did you tell the guy how you feel about the relationship? Sorry I didn't see the initial reply.

I am sure he is not used to the woman being the person not wanting a relationship first. haha.
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Keshieshimmer

If he asks, I'll tell him.

Talks about "us" or "our relationship" take too much time and energy, def not doing that voluntarily. I'm chillin. lol

I think I'm bored.... I've been tempted all week to send him a text saying "You bore me." :look:
He says he likes it when I'm sweet instead of a ***** but lately I've been noticing, I don't like it when I'm too sweet, he doesn't act right. I've been too nice lately, think I'm gonna revert back to being a *****.....Either that or find a new one......
 
So after a year wasted on him, he is now in a relationship days after he showed up to my house...n*ggas aint sh*t.

Using this negative energy as motivation to get my ish together for graduation and preparing myself for officer training school with the navy.
 
So... slight faux pas here

had my b-day dinner Friday and we were supposed to go the club later. my friend brought this guy she wanted me to meet who is plastic surgery resident, but they got there late and he was sitting wayyy on the other side of the table so i couldn't flirt with him. he sat next to this other girl friend of mine who was allllll over him tho :lol:

anyway after dinner, i gave him the details about the afterparty, but i didn't really think he was gonna come... he doesn't know me at all, we didn't get a chance to talk, so i figured that was it. Oh well.

But I found him on FB and sent a friend request and we've been messaging back and forth. He told me that he actually DID come to the afterparty but a fight broke out. And I was like "oh yeah... I did see that. I think it started when we were leaving the club.... I saw ppl fighting and I just went the other way... didn't want to deal with all of that LOL"

And then he goes "yeah I think I saw you for a quick sec, but then one of the guys got knocked out and it looked like trauma so I went to tend to him"

I'm sitting here thinking like... sh!t. I totally sound like a selfish heartless ***** right now. And clearly he's a good guy and really conscientious. Instead of going to the club or walking in the other direction (like me), he actually fulfills the hippocratic oath and ish. Plus I'm in training to be a doctor too, I'm not supposed to be making light of medical emergencies.

Plus he ended the msg kind of shortly with that last statement. I'm uncertain how to reply now. Between this and that epic fail of a fall I had, I have really been UN-smooth as of late.
 
Mortons said:
Over :yep:

I will officially be celebrating my 6th single year in December
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well cotdamn....ain't that some ish... after that last message i thought it was gonna be on and poppin.....

we need to talk, plus I got a fresh dose of crazy to tell you about... you know I be going through ish :nono::lachen:
 
VeryBecoming said:
@barbiesocialiate Oh, the over analyzing thing was a separate thought. Have you told him he needs to jump on board or get out the way?
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That's too much work lol :lol:

But another poster asked me the same thing earlier today and this was my response:

barbiesocialite said:
@Keshieshimmer

If he asks, I'll tell him.

Talks about "us" or "our relationship" take too much time and energy, def not doing that voluntarily. I'm chillin. lol

I think I'm bored.... I've been tempted all week to send him a text saying "You bore me." :look:
He says he likes it when I'm sweet instead of a ***** but lately I've been noticing, I don't like it when I'm too sweet, he doesn't act right. I've been too nice lately, think I'm gonna revert back to being a *****.....Either that or find a new one......
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The nice thing is so me. I vowed to be nice this week but I really don't see how it benefits me :look: Sure, it's only been two days but still...I expect instant gratification.
 
Well....I wish everyone of you love and happiness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just to give a quick update - I was right to trust my intuition. After not answering his calls/talking to Smoke a few days he called concerned about it. We had a decent conversation but what's even better is that I listened to what he was saying. He isn't ready, whatever the reason may be, and I need to act accordingly. That's exactly what I told him. If I ain't the girlfriend, then don't expect for me to act like I'm the girlfriend and investing all of this time into something that isn't going anywhere for me. Yes, you have spoken to me about our children and being together but exactly how is all of that suppose to happen when you're throwing up the STOP sign. And regardless of all that mumbo jumbo about being hurt in the past - you are a grown ax man. What you're really doing is cock-blocking! (Can I type that? :lachen:)

For my birthday he sent me a fruit basket from Edible Arrangements (playing it safe). The dealership I recently purchased my car from sent me a basket of cookies. I like cookies better. :grin:

I hope you can "LOVE LIKE YOU'VE NEVER BEEN HURT!!!" one day. When you find the one who can make you forget about your pain, you will be able to and apparently it isn't me and I'm okay with that.

Moving on.
 
texasqt said:
Well....I wish everyone of you love and happiness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just to give a quick update - I was right to trust my intuition. After not answering his calls/talking to Smoke a few days he called concerned about it. We had a decent conversation but what's even better is that I listened to what he was saying. He isn't ready, whatever the reason may be, and I need to act accordingly. That's exactly what I told him. If I ain't the girlfriend, then don't expect for me to act like I'm the girlfriend and investing all of this time into something that isn't going anywhere for me. Yes, you have spoken to me about our children and being together but exactly how is all of that suppose to happen when you're throwing up the STOP sign. And regardless of all that mumbo jumbo about being hurt in the past - you are a grown ax man. What you're really doing is cock-blocking! (Can I type that? :lachen:)

For my birthday he sent me a fruit basket from Edible Arrangements (playing it safe). The dealership I recently purchased my car from sent me a basket of cookies. I like cookies better. :grin:

I hope you can "LOVE LIKE YOU'VE NEVER BEEN HURT!!!" one day. When you find the one who can make you forget about your pain, you will be able to and apparently it isn't me and I'm okay with that.

Moving on.
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I love this! I am glad that you stood your ground and created true boundaries. Something I had to learn the hard way.
 
Mortons said:
Over :yep:

I will officially be celebrating my 6th single year in December
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Girl, I'm at 4 years and some change. My birthday is tomorrow and I'm getting my hubby in my 35th year of my life.

I'm officially over the single life. It's time for me to attract great, quality men that meet my needs and my wants.

I'm off to a good start. :grin:
 
I am getting a little bored. Conversations just aren't as interesting as they were in the beginning. I don't know if I jumped the gun on this one or what. I wasn't to pleased with our parting interaction last weekend so we will see how things go on Sunday at the game.

I have been praying for clarity and direction for the last few days but it doesn't seem anything has become clearer.
 
Ladies, I don't know what it is lately, but I've been getting male attention left and right. I'm in Cali for a few days (LA and Anaheim area). It started on the plane ride, continued at the airport. Tonight I went to dinner at the hotel restaurant, and sat in the bar area. The bartender flirted with me all night. When my bill arrived, he only charged me for my meal and none of the extras (appetizers, dessert, 3 mixed drinks). Heck, I didn't even plan on appetizers or dessert....or even 1 drink. He was just so darn persistent. Plus, I was there alone and actually enjoyed the attention. The whole time, he's complimenting me left and right---telling me how beautiful I am, etc..

Then, a group of men from UK or Ireland (I'm bad with accents) came in to orders beers for the poolside. Later on, 1 of them came back for 2 more
bottle. As he's waiting, he strikes up a conversation with me and then tells me that I'm more than welcome to join them outside.

Lately, I've been feeling very crummy about myself (re: weight gain, feeling scruffy, etc). Very recently, I decided to get out of my funk. So, tonight, my hair and nails were pretty and my attire was quite flattering. Anyhow, bartender asked me out to dinner tomorrow evening. Then, one of the "accent" dudes asked me if I wanted to join them tomorrow.

Maybe I'm wrong, but my first thought was that he was looking for a vacation hookup, and that the bartender was looking for a "tourist" hookup. Am I on point with that?

Nonetheless, it felt great being showered with compliments and attention!
 
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Never had anyone ask me out by starting out with a joke before:

We're passing each other in the hallway

Me: Hey what's up
Him: Hey, want to hear a joke
Me: Sure
Him: Why didn't the skeleton go to the party
Me: Um...I don't know
Him: Because he had noBODY to go with him, so why don't you yada yada yada...holiday party yada yada yada
Me: *cue fake laughter* I won't even be here for the holiday party, I'm leaving in 2 weeks
Him: Damn
Me (thinking): Praise Jesus!

Even if I wasn't I wouldn't go because 1. I thought I detected some B.O. and 2. I'm taller than you bruh

***Heavy sigh*** I'm only 5'5'', why for the life of me can I NOT get someone over 5'10'' to talk to me. The last 3 guys to try to talk to me have all been 5'8'' and under :( ...I'm not that freaking tall!!

:perplexed
 
Between trying to move on, my job and life in general, I am absolutely miserable right now. Seriously, it's like on the verge of tears every minute of every day. I have to snap out of this somehow, I feel like I'm suffocating.
 
Trying to decide if I should have this come to Jesus meeting.

Dude said he would do better....then turned around and did what he was doing in the first place. To me, that's unacceptable. I've always been taught that you are as good as your word. If you say you're going to do something, do it.


Or maybe I should just leave it alone and just not concern myself with this person.

I really don't know what to do right now....
 
MzLady78 said:
Between trying to move on, my job and life in general, I am absolutely miserable right now. Seriously, it's like on the verge of tears every minute of every day. I have to snap out of this somehow, I feel like I'm suffocating.
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I'm trying to turn all of my feelings into action. I make sure I do my daily affirmations (I'm gonna tape them to my closet door tonight) and each day I make an effort to do something that will better myself in the long term. Today I start my new savings account specifically for my home :) I think I will start posting these in the circle thread.

You're an awesome chick MzLady I would marry you girl :giggle:
 
shasha8685 said:
Trying to decide if I should have this come to Jesus meeting.

Dude said he would do better....then turned around and did what he was doing in the first place. To me, that's unacceptable. I've always been taught that you are as good as your word. If you say you're going to do something, do it.


Or maybe I should just leave it alone and just not concern myself with this person.

I really don't know what to do right now....
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Just fall back, way back. Don't say anything. Start detaching emotionally and see what happens.
 
MzLady78 said:
Between trying to move on, my job and life in general, I am absolutely miserable right now. Seriously, it's like on the verge of tears every minute of every day. I have to snap out of this somehow, I feel like I'm suffocating.
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Have you found a good therapist yet? Or even a life coach. I think you just need more one on one support to help you move forward.
 
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