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NaeChail, does your brother have kids and is he married? If so, did he help you decide based off of his experience?
Don't know how I missed this mention! Sorry!
But no, my brother is a teen lol. No kids, (thank God!!) and definitely not married
. But I have raised him under my roof since he was a preteen and I was barely out of my teens myself. I took care of him before that too pretty much, but he was living with bum foster parents
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There's actually 2 of them. The older on JUST graduated basic training for the Army (not what i wanted for him; he was the fastest kid in the state in several track and field events and had scholarships out the wazoo but I'm proud none the less). And the one that still lives with me is...
. No matter how hard I try to give him a chance a life better than our parents had and even better than my own, he is bent on being a KANG. He runs around with a bad crowd, and I work 2 jobs and am about to go back to school...I can't keep an eye on a 17 yr old 24/7. He has SO much potential (high test scores, great reading/writing skills) and just doesn't want to do anything with it. And my bio mom has another kid that's about to be 5 that before long will end up living with me too (she and her new husband are a MESS...CPS knocks constantly).
I feel burned out and I am only in my early 20s. I'm raising enough of my mom's kids (myself included lol) to have any of my own. As of right now, I don't think I can deal with 18 years of this type of thing all over again, and then some, because even though they leave the nest, you never get done being a parent.
Sorry so long, lol....felt good to vent though
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