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Found a thread where women discuss being dropped as soon as their men left prison despite their undying love and devotion. It's like a trainwreck yet I cant look away.
 
I am texting you, trying to tell you how I feel about you...in a round about way because I can't bring myself to say it because I can't deal with rejection and I'm pretty sure that's what's waiting on the other side of my confession. I've never been so scared....

ETA: and I chickened out. I told you to disregard everything I said and I'm sitting here fighting back tears.

Oh no. Can you not tell him in person? What about him? What signs is he giving you?
 
Found a thread where women discuss being dropped as soon as their men left prison despite their undying love and devotion. It's like a trainwreck yet I cant look away.

As many years as this has been happening to women, I dont understand why they still do this. Men crave relationships in prison to get through their hard times. A woman will love them and take care of them and bring them stuff. But when they get out...it's like a kid in a candy store...women every where. They know exactlly wtf they're doing. Too band many women get caught up. I've actually heard a dude say, they latch on to the desperate lonely women...you can use them all the way through your bid. *smh*
 
Gave myself a little pep talk before I left the house this morning, I'm feeling a little better. Maybe I should start doing affirmations daily like Mortons was saying. I really want to go away this weekend and have some alone time to think and work on my list of goals for next year. I'm rather disappointed that I've let another year pass without getting some things done. Meanwhile, part of the reason me and ole boy hadn't seen each other in almost a month was because he's been busy trying to get his life in order.
 
Oh, and I also wanted to say you ladies are awesome. The support I've gotten in this thread and through private messages has meant a lot to me and I'm truly grateful.
 
LOL Klearli did he offer you some fish?

Seeing him tomorrow! He better have plans already set. I much rather let him decide what we do than hear "I dunno, it's up to you."
 
@NYAmicas, That's horrible :sad: you got a link :sekret:
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/
There was a thread titled "He Got Out and Left Me" or some mess like that. Women staying faithful for years, running up their phone bills and sending all their money to the man in jail only for him to cheat and leave a few days after he gets out.:nono: Some of them started a relationship wtih another prisoner after they "healed."
As many years as this has been happening to women, I dont understand why they still do this. Men crave relationships in prison to get through their hard times. A woman will love them and take care of them and bring them stuff. But when they get out...it's like a kid in a candy store...women every where. They know exactlly wtf they're doing. Too band many women get caught up. I've actually heard a dude say, they latch on to the desperate lonely women...you can use them all the way through your bid. *smh*

Exactly. Dude is locked up, what else is he going to do but profess his love to you (and his bunkmate) and call and write on the daily. Woman talking about they only knew the dude for a few months before he got locked up for years but they're dedicated to their "man.":nono: It was really pathetic.

2 messages I got from some random Inmate in Sept and OCT. Note I did not respond to any message nor send him a request. He is obviously looking for stupid, lonely victims.:perplexed

I would like to get to know you better.
I am still in jail, but I will be home in about 8 months and I would really like to get to know you better and more.


Hello gorgeous sorry about not responding sooner to your friend request. I hope by the time you receive this email It brings a huge smile to your beautiful lips, a smile I would love. I would like to get aquainted with you, its as if my life is incomplete who knows you just might be the missing piece


And dude is NOT cute either.:look:
 
Nope, I'm still new to all this...in person is way too much. Lol!

And he has feelings for me but I'm not sure how deep they run...if we are...Idk lol. It's just a mess. Lol.

Sent from my pretty red Inspire, excuse the typos!
 
Trying to stay in "believe him" mode a la Maya Angelou quote. :yep: Now quick, someone send me an email so I don't have to look at his name and number at the top of my inbox all day!
 
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Hmmmm if I tell you that I'm not good with replying to text messages.... Why would you continue to text me???
 
Topic: Love at first sight.

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My husband and I have been together for almost 12 yrs now. The 1st night he called, we talked for 23 and a half hrs. During that time, he told me that he never thought he'd find anyone, but in less than 24 hrs, he had found someone he not only loved, but could spend the rest of his life with. I felt the same. Anything can happen folks...don't knock it just because it hasn't happened to you yet. ;)

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well that's a cool story, but talking to someone for 23 hours is just crazy lol. as well as saying I love u in the same conversation. if a girl told me she loved me within 24 hours i'd never talk to her again!

I <3 FB

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Topic: Love at first sight.

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My husband and I have been together for almost 12 yrs now. The 1st night he called, we talked for 23 and a half hrs. During that time, he told me that he never thought he'd find anyone, but in less than 24 hrs, he had found someone he not only loved, but could spend the rest of his life with. I felt the same. Anything can happen folks...don't knock it just because it hasn't happened to you yet. ;)

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well that's a cool story, but talking to someone for 23 hours is just crazy lol. as well as saying I love u in the same conversation. if a girl told me she loved me within 24 hours i'd never talk to her again!

I <3 FB

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Awww, it's not too crazy :lol:. That's two people who went with their feelings and it actually worked. It's taking chances though. I'm glad it worked out for them.
 
It's amazing how you instantly get on the defense when I bring up an issue that needs to be work on. Almost like you cannot handle someone telling you that you need to grow up. Even after 8 years, I'm not scared or moved by your mean looks and piercing stares. Dude I'm as strong as the come, it's in my blood. The women in your past may have been intimidated by you thus allowing you to control them, but I'm not.

What's even more amazing is seeing your face as I'm candid and direct about how your actions impact, me and how people view you on the outside. You sitting there with a sour mouth staring at me was pure comedy. What you thought I was going to bite my tongue, give you pass because you were raised without a father? Nope not me dude.

But when I ask you whats next, you looked as though you seen a ghost....he mumbles in pout "nothing". Then I say "how about cuddle?" :lol:

See I can confront you and love you at the same time....that's what love is and like the bible says "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." My love for you without fear and is deep, you have no idea. God put us together for a reason.

If I didn't care about you as a human being and desire to see you continuously evolve for the better then I wouldn't have married you.
 
In class right now and my (not mine at all) yt guy is sitting over two columns from me looking TOO fine! Found out that he's a military man too. *dreaming*
 
In class right now and my (not mine at all) yt guy is sitting over two columns from me looking TOO fine! Found out that he's a military man too. *dreaming*

Oh my gosh, yes these military men are VERY attractive. Apparently they have a bunch who are single in the Columbus, Ga area. I went out on a date with an army ranger and yeah he is uber sexy. Like I love me some active, bada$$ man. ya know?
 
So today at lunch I made a list of the guys I wouldn't mind getting to know and possibly dating and it's a LONG list, but I have no idea where to start. :(
 
It's amazing how you instantly get on the defense when I bring up an issue that needs to be work on. Almost like you cannot handle someone telling you that you need to grow up. Even after 8 years, I'm not scared or moved by your mean looks and piercing stares. Dude I'm as strong as the come, it's in my blood. The women in your past may have been intimidated by you thus allowing you to control them, but I'm not.

What's even more amazing is seeing your face as I'm candid and direct about how your actions impact, me and how people view you on the outside. You sitting there with a sour mouth staring at me was pure comedy. What you thought I was going to bite my tongue, give you pass because you were raised without a father? Nope not me dude.

But when I ask you whats next, you looked as though you seen a ghost....he mumbles in pout "nothing". Then I say "how about cuddle?" :lol:

See I can confront you and love you at the same time....that's what love is and like the bible says "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." My love for you without fear and is deep, you have no idea. God put us together for a reason.

If I didn't care about you as a human being and desire to see you continuously evolve for the better then I wouldn't have married you.

Wow, I loved that!
 
Just watched Oprah's life class with the lesson focusing on when someone shows you who they are,believe them. So true! Ladies stop wasting your time and energy on the men you KNOW in your gut are not good for you! Remove them! Don't allow them to drain your energy and further shorten your life! Such a simple lesson but we as women so often ignore it. General post, but I felt I had to make a public service announcement.

Came back to this thread just to read this PSA. Sometimes these men don't even drain you. You feel good with them, but you know deep down inside they are not good for you or what you want to accomplish.
 
Just watched Oprah's life class with the lesson focusing on when someone shows you who they are,believe them. So true! Ladies stop wasting your time and energy on the men you KNOW in your gut are not good for you! Remove them! Don't allow them to drain your energy and further shorten your life! Such a simple lesson but we as women so often ignore it. General post, but I felt I had to make a public service announcement.

Thanks for the reminder. It just reminds me to go read that 25 commandment list again.
 
The boy is cute BUT he's a dumb as a box of rocks. WTH am I suppose to do with that? I just can't win.

Also wth does everyone expect me to have a boyfriend? Or assume I'm hiding him? I wish.
 
Cute, flirty asked for my phone number.
Called when you said you would call, cause I don't text.
But you are separated and are waiting for her to get her papers, before you get divorced.
Oh you don't live together. That's suppose to make this better?
Call me when you have court order signed and notarized, cause I will not be dating nor calling you.
 
Tomorrow is Mark's birthday. His birthday is the same day as one of our students that he is very fond of, so he's coming in the morning to bring her chocolate covered strawberries and a card. He informed me that he will tell her it's from both him and me. That's sweet of him.

Should I get him something for his birthday, as my student teacher? I would think yes, but I haven't had a moment to shop at all.
 
Trying soo hard to be cool with the people at my new job and possibly build new friendships

BUT I am so tired of being called white washed, by non-blacks nonetheless, as if ALL black people are supposed to be ghetto.
If I have to school them one more time, I am going to scream.
 
And why do we have to play these games!?!? If I like you and want to call you, I can't because I don't want to appear overly eager. And WTF if I take awhile to answer your text or call you take the same amount of time to respond to mine when I finally do reply. I take 5 mins, you take 5 mins.
 
Oh my. I am going to explode from longing and butterflies and just....*sigh*

Can I have you? Geez. I mean, I have you...but Idk if we are on the same page lol.

Sent from my pretty red Inspire, excuse the typos!
 
It's amazing how you instantly get on the defense when I bring up an issue that needs to be work on. Almost like you cannot handle someone telling you that you need to grow up. Even after 8 years, I'm not scared or moved by your mean looks and piercing stares. Dude I'm as strong as the come, it's in my blood. The women in your past may have been intimidated by you thus allowing you to control them, but I'm not.

What's even more amazing is seeing your face as I'm candid and direct about how your actions impact, me and how people view you on the outside. You sitting there with a sour mouth staring at me was pure comedy. What you thought I was going to bite my tongue, give you pass because you were raised without a father? Nope not me dude.

But when I ask you whats next, you looked as though you seen a ghost....he mumbles in pout "nothing". Then I say "how about cuddle?" :lol:

See I can confront you and love you at the same time....that's what love is and like the bible says "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." My love for you without fear and is deep, you have no idea. God put us together for a reason.

If I didn't care about you as a human being and desire to see you continuously evolve for the better then I wouldn't have married you.

This was so beautiful to me!
 
Tomorrow is Mark's birthday. His birthday is the same day as one of our students that he is very fond of, so he's coming in the morning to bring her chocolate covered strawberries and a card. He informed me that he will tell her it's from both him and me. That's sweet of him.

Are you sure it is appropriate for him to get this student some chocolate covered strawberries? I know life isn't fair but none of the other students get something right?
 
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