***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

[Blkrose]

Stop allowing others to handle what's our responsibility I'm starting to resent you big time for it and it amongst other broken promises are destroying the feelings I have for you. You have had plenty of time and yet continue to take advantage of the situation. Stop assuming and finish what you started or leave me the h*ll alone. This is what we both wanted ....she is what we both wanted. When are you going to grow up and face reality for what it is your too old.
..I'm too old for this mess.

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[VeryBecoming]

him- "i've been calling. where you been at?"
me- "not talking to you."

Runaway bride in effect, que the music in five, four, three, two.......

@barbiesocialite i had this exact same, brief convo last week. don't run! i had to fight it with all my being


my new motto for this relationship is *** it, just live. going to stop analyzing everything.

 

[NYAmicas]

my brother has kang-like ideals.

How is he a Kang? We gotta cement the definition.

 

[Do_Si_Dos]

OT: Soooio i saw lance gross and the sheriff from why did i get married....they are super fine... I got pictures, and i am sooo excited.

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[SweetNic_JA]

I cannot wait until you finish this paper. I will dance around in circles, blowing bubbles with glitter in my hair. This thesis makes you so stressed and I don't like it. You have really really excellent will power, though.

 

[Theo]

So much fun this wknd! Even though I'm in a new city and away from most of my friends and family I have to say this was one of my better birthdays. I had a "dinner" and a clubbing thing on Friday and then Saturday I met up with some friends and went to this house party thing. The only thing was that at my party Friday, the male to female ratio was wayyy off lol. There were like 7 guys present and only like 3 girls... It was kinda weird. All my female friends abandoned me. I was a little disappointed b/c I kinda wanted to play matchmaker that evening. I saw a few of them the day after and I told them they totally missed out, and they agreed, cuz I have pretty good taste in male friends lol. I mean how often do you get that many black male professionals in one place, and they were all cute too. Ugh I'm so mad they didn't come lol.

It also gave off the impression that I'm one of those girls who only hangs out with guys and that's just not true.

I dunno, I'm gonna try again next wk. I just hope my guy friends show up, they were kinda disappointed Friday

Last evening one of the guys I'm seeing took me out for drinks and appetizers, so that was nice. He's really starting to grow on me, but I kinda knew that was going to happen lol.

Also I finally heard from disappearing act dude, he said he's been busy. Meh.

Finally got introduced to this guy my friend has been telling me I need to meet. He's just as nice as she said he would be. I wish we would have gotten more of an opportunity to talk, but he was sitting wayyy on the other side of the table so we weren't able to exchange numbers

I did catch him looking at me a few times though. I made sure I smiled and that we had prolonged eye contact, each time he did, so either he thinks i have a staring problem or he knows i'm interested. He's quite the gentleman btw, helped me put my coat on when time came for us to leave the restaurant. I noticed he didn't help the other ladies put their coat, so maybe there's hope lol.

 

[ChasingBliss]

I cannot wait until you finish this paper. I will dance around in circles, blowing bubbles with glitter in my hair. This thesis makes you so stressed and I don't like it. You have really really excellent will power, though.

LOL you just gave me an idea for stress relief on anything...

 

[deltadreamland]

I had a wonderful weekend with my 5 year old. I didn't miss nor think about a man at all. I even blocked a few numbers that I knew would call so that I could give my son my undivided attention....and enjoyed every minute of it.

 

[MzLady78]

Girl I admire your courage and bravery still trying to make it work in MA. So glad I left that place and about to move again next year to Cali.

Maybe in MA? I hope you don't feel that way in general. You have alot to offer someone. You just need to get the heck outta dodge. Where would you like to go?

VelvetRain, the main reason I've been reluctant to move is because I do plan to have a child someday, whether through adoption or whatever, and I want my mom to be close to help out.

I would love to move to Charlotte. I know a lot of ladies were suggesting Texas, but umm, I stayed out in there with my ex for a week and it was just too damn hot for me.

 

[tyrablu]

"You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one"

I so needed to see that today. Thought I'd share. Hopefully it will inspire someone.

 

[tyrablu]

MzLady78 - I understand that fear. It's one that I think about when I ponder moving (when I'm sick who is gonna make me soup ). But I realize that I just gotta get up and do it. I've lived in S.FL all my life, and I love it for the most part, but I feel this tugging in my heart that I need to get out and experience new things, live on my own for a while, and meet new people.

One of my plans for the new year is to finalize my short list of places I would like to live, visit them, and then narrow it down. I want to be out of S. FL by 2013 the latest.

(((Hugs))))

 

[ChasingBliss]

"You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one"

I so needed to see that today. Thought I'd share. Hopefully it will inspire someone.

Wow, just as I got to your post, I was thinking the same thing....Truth. Truth Truth. At some point it's time to push on and let the past and all its foolishness go. Take your lessons go in peace and live out the rest of this limited existence in Joy the best way you can. No one can fight for us like we can.

One thing that woke me up was a vision of stepping outside of myself and just watching me. As I looked at me in action, moment to moment, I felt an overwhelming feeling of grief for this woman. Why is she doing this to herself? Doesnt she know her worth? Doesnt she know that she's loved and cherished beyond anything any human can give her? I could go on, but no one's epiphany is as impressive to others as it is to self. So I will just say, from that point I made real change.

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

VelvetRain, the main reason I've been reluctant to move is because I do plan to have a child someday, whether through adoption or whatever, and I want my mom to be close to help out.

I would love to move to Charlotte. I know a lot of ladies were suggesting Texas, but umm, I stayed out in there with my ex for a week and it was just too damn hot for me.

Girl come on down, I have been here 2 months and love it so far, Charlotte that is

 

[VelvetRain]

Charlotte is cool but I feel it's more for those who are established in the family life area. My boyfriend is here( took me more than it should for us to find each other) It's just not my cup of tea. He wants to move out west next spring to be near his family and I was asked to come as well. Sometimes you really have to step outside of your comfort zone and experience life and actually enjoy it somewhere else.

 

[melissa-bee]

I am that stage in my life where EVERYONE is getting married and having babies except for me. sisters, friends, cousins, family friends, my friend's friends, my favourite celebs. I'm almost 24 so I suppose I'm still young and I have plenty of time but it doesn't mean I can't notice and think why not me. *sigh*

 

[VeryBecoming]

@melissa-bee Do you actually feel ready to be married at 23?

 

[melissa-bee]

@melissa-bee Do you actually feel ready to be married at 23?

Well naw. But...but..but. Aight I'll stop complaining.

 

[VeryBecoming]

Well naw. But...but..but. Aight I'll stop complaining.

Thought so I was the same way. People getting married and I was wondering hmm, why not me? Then I realized I can barely decide what to wear in the morning, let alone who I want to spend the rest of my life with. Getting over that phase was so freeing.

 

[kismettt]

met his friends this weekend, they are great.

i love how he treats me, i'm glad i decided to give it a second chance. i worry since we want different things, but i was upfront and honest. and that's really all i can be.

i'm not ready for a relationship. so no plans, no overanalyzing. just seeing where it goes, one day at a time.

 

[VeryBecoming]

I am vowing now not to be overly sensitive, passive aggressive or mean this week. Instead I'll be genuine, open and nice.

 

[Theo]

Thought so I was the same way. People getting married and I was wondering hmm, why not me? Then I realized I can barely decide what to wear in the morning, let alone who I want to spend the rest of my life with. Getting over that phase was so freeing.

Me too. Most of my friends are 25+ and marriage is really on their minds, but its just not that high on my priority list. I just turned 24 yesterday and I still have a lot of growing to do IMO.

 

[Mortons]

This is the prime example of not starting something you won't keep up. If you don't contact me by tomorrow, you are deleted and I'm moving on.

 

[CarLiTa]

How is he a Kang? We gotta cement the definition.

Something about needing the woman to propose to HIM. But I was too harsh. It sounded like a kang move, but seems more like an insecure one. He is afraid of things not working out, and he has it in his head that if the woman asks, then it's more likely to work out This is coming from a womanizer. I know, but I'm still always surprised to hear, that womanizers can be insecure too, when it comes to love.

 

[CarLiTa]

But on the other hand, he had the audacity to joke that maybe I am "still" single because I'm always cooking
WHAT?! He just happened to find me cooking elaborate meals the last couple times that he called me on a Saturday afternoon Look, I have to do a lot of cooking during the weekend to free up my weekday evenings, alright??

When I tell him that I've met some people, but that I don't like them like "that," he doesn't seem to get it. Says I need to stop being mean to boys. Yeah yeah, that's what all players think when you don't take their crap anymore.

 

[Theo]

omg i totally forgot to share this story... maybe its cuz i was trying to block it out.

so after my party Friday this guy I kinda like gave me a ride home and I REALLY needed to pee. so we stopped to find me a place to pee. We're up the stairs into the establishment and I fall... really badly. And then proceed to also tumble down the stairs. It was a REALLY bad fall.

So embarrassing. I don't know why this ish has to happen to me.

 

[Etherealsmile]

Hang in there MzLady. (((hugs)))
Once you get out of MA you will feel better. I lived there for three years and could not wait to get out of that state.

I can't express how happy I am to have moved out of MA. I absolutely loathed living there

 

[Etherealsmile]

Went to a Halloween party yesterday and had sooo much fun! I met a lot of nice, friendly gay guys and danced my butt off. Too bad the ratio of straight men was so low. I did end up exchanging numbers with a guy though. The only problem being he's a lot older than i'm comfortable with so i'm not sure if anything will come out of it.

He did call me yesterday after i came home to make sure i made it safely. That was sweet of him

 

[VeryBecoming]

I really hate him when he's sleepy. Like literally loathe him. If that was his personality all the time we would not be dating. It's sweet that he tries to stay awake and talk but ugh I get so annoyed with him.

 

[Katherina]

This guy is physically so sexy , but I feel no mental chemistry. He's younger, and age is just a number to me, but he's not mature enough. Sooo next

 

[babyu21]

I was really disappointed when he let me leave his place knowing my car was acting up and my gas was really low. You say you were concerned but your actions didn't. If you were concerned you would have followed me to the gas station to ensure my car would start up again with no problems.

This was a very telling situation and I am glad to know you aren't someone I can depend on. Luckily I got home with no problems but I was really disappointed with your actions.