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Totally smh at you. 6 years, and it appears you're dumber now than you were then. I feel so sorry for her.
 
I am so lame, this guy I dated years ago showed up available on gmail chat. I closed the mail window. In my mind he is dead to me, but it appears that he is still alive in real life. haha.
 
I can't believe we spent 6 hours!! on the phone last night..
I don't wanna fall for you, I just met you...
Might I add that he's a damn cancer, I always fall for them.. always..:sad:
 
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I'm going straight home taking a shower and laying around the rest of the night drinking wine and chilling the *** out!


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He said I giggled like a schoolgirl at an old guy flirting with me...

Like I don't giggle at him like that ALL day lol. Goodness I really like this guy!

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I have been seeing this guy for four months now. Things have been rocky lately and I think it may be time for me to walk away. I am choosing my peace of mind and my happiness instead. He says he feels like he's the consumer in this relationship/friendship and that he couldn't fully express himself around me because he didn't think he was good enough for me. I'm starting to think he's right :ohwell:
 
Nuelle said:
I have been seeing this guy for four months now. Things have been rocky lately and I think it may be time for me to walk away. I am choosing my peace of mind and my happiness instead. He says he feels like he's the consumer in this relationship/friendship and that he couldn't fully express himself around me because he didn't think he was good enough for me. I'm starting to think he's right :ohwell:
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trust your gut instinct... you know what's best for you!
 
After 4 straight days of crying, I'm doing a little better. I hope it lasts.

Back to looking at jobs outside of MA.
 
Hang in there MzLady. (((hugs)))
Once you get out of MA you will feel better. I lived there for three years and could not wait to get out of that state.
 
hopeful said:
Hang in there MzLady. (((hugs)))
Once you get out of MA you will feel better. I lived there for three years and could not wait to get out of that state.
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I've been back and forth with this for soooo long now. And the more things don't work out, not just in terms of my love life, but life in general, the more I wonder it it's because I'm not meant to stay here.

There's really nothing for me here. I don't have very many friends, I'm never going to find a decent guy, I'm growing increasingly unhappy with my job after only a year and living at home is killing me softly. I'm just ready to be done with it all.
 
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Living somewhere with a better climate, lower living costs, and more opportunities will make you feel a lot better. Environment makes a big difference. I met a lady once who lived in Seattle and she said both she and her son had become depressed and were on meds, then they ended up moving out of that state and away from all that rain and voila no more depression and no more need for meds. I'm just saying some places just aren't for some people. I could not stand the 6 months of winter you get in MA. That pretty little fall with the changing leaves was not enough to offset the long, brutal winters. And I had a beautiful home, my husband, and my kids, and I still could not wait to get out of there. I just went for a long walk today here in Cali: not a cloud in the sky, sunny, 75 degrees with a slight cool breeze--you can't beat that.
 
My kitchen smells just like my mother's kitchen right now :grin: and i'm cooking one of her signature meals! using YouTube and calling her periodically :lol:

yess!!!

(and no, this has nothing to do with relationships...)

and go Nuelle!! It really is the best decision. Must.have.romance:yep:
 
Him: You know how you say you like to shop? Think about looking at a pair of shoes that you like..You dont wanna come back for them next week because they might not have your size.Im like that about major decisions. I knew from the moment I met you that you were special. I like you a lot and I dont want miss out on an opportunity for us to have something

Me::ohwell::perplexed

(my trust issues have crept into my head right on cue. I dont believe in instant connections anymore..I feel like men are saying things like this to get to the cookies faster. It doesnt help that he has all the things Im looking for and has called/text me for the last several days. Our attraction is strong, there is no denying it but Ive been out of the game so long, if a guy was truly interested in me, I dont think I would know how to recognize the signs..Im so used to liars, con men, and frauds that my force field goes up almost instantly. I dont want to let a good one get past me...Im so confused!!)

ETA: Smh @ him texting me as soon as I hit the submit button for this post
 
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bellatiamarie said:
trust your gut instinct... you know what's best for you!
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Thanks, bellatiamarie. That is exactly what I've decided to do.

He is a nice guy, but also very guarded and somewhat insecure. The lack of direction and romance left me feeling frustrated and disappointed. In those 4 months, he had never introduced me to his friends or invited me to his place - though he's spent time at my place and met some of my friends. We've also been having issues communicating lately. We've talked about it and he's been trying to fix things (bringing me flowers and a care package), but it's just too late. Those gestures no longer make my heart flutter or make me smile as they would have in the past.*
 
MzLady78 said:
After 4 straight days of crying, I'm doing a little better. I hope it lasts.

Back to looking at jobs outside of MA.
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Girl I admire your courage and bravery still trying to make it work in MA. So glad I left that place and about to move again next year to Cali.
 
MzLady78 said:
I've been back and forth with this for soooo long now. And the more things don't work out, not just in terms of my love life, but life in general, the more I wonder it it's because I'm not meant to stay here.

There's really nothing for me here. I don't have very many friends, I'm never going to find a decent guy, I'm growing increasingly unhappy with my job after only a year and living at home is killing me softly. I'm just ready to be done with it all.
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Maybe in MA? I hope you don't feel that way in general. You have alot to offer someone. You just need to get the heck outta dodge. Where would you like to go?
 
I can talk to him about most things, but I don't because I don't want us to be that close. Yet he still knows my ways and knows more about me than most. He's in love with me and would do anything to please me, but the vain girl inside me just won't let him in. I feel bad, he knew I was alone last night stayed on the phone with me until I fell asleep. I don't know what to do with him, I told him I could never love him like that, but he says we wants me in my life because I make him a better person, but I don't agree. He makes me feel like a bad person...I feel like I use him
 
He's back :wallbash:

When I was a little girl my Aunt use to tell me that I didn't believe fire burned. I don't think do. Like I don't understand how I went from NOT talking to him to us deciding that we should work on our relationship. I love him and God knows it true. I also know its not enough. But who's to say that we can fix those things that are hindering us from a lifetime of happiness. I know this all sounds so naive and that at almost 24 (birthday next week) I should know that fairy tales are real. But if I stop believe or if I give up hope then what do I have to look forward to?

Every day there are some statistics about black women getting married at lower rates. There are women on this very site who knock the importance of love. My mother and 1 aunt are the ONLY married woman in my ENTIRE family (BOTH SIDES). I just need to know that this is real and this is right. He broke my heart does he understand what that means to me? the pain I felt? How will I know it wont happen again? I don't want to give up on us. I don't want my dreams, our dreams, to go to waste and be as if they never were...

I know some of you are giving me the proverbial :rolleyes: and it's well deserved. This is the age old story of fighting for that long lost love. Throwing caution into the wind like every romantic movie has taught us that it will end in our favor...It has to be work out in somebody's favor right? If not then we wouldn't believe it could happen to us? There are exceptions to every rule.
 
Men suck. Period. End of story. I am really having a crappy day. Ugh. All due to men. Ugh.

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