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Devil's Avocado
I'll never grow tired of chivalry. Especially when it's unexpected.
so my exes uncle died today and I didn't reach out and I really dont feel bad about it.
I said I was done and I meant it. I can't run back every time there is some sort of tragedy going on in his life. If he reaches out to me for comfort I will send my condolences but other than that I plan on acting like I don't know...
I said I was done and I meant it. I can't run back every time there is some sort of tragedy going on in his life. If he reaches out to me for comfort I will send my condolences but other than that I plan on acting like I don't know...
Theo
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omg midterms are killing me. usually i try to make a point to still look nice no matter what stuff school tries to throw my way... but i dunno, i've kinda let myself kinda go these past couple days... i've been wearing sweats and workout gear to campus over the last 2 days and eating lots of cheap greasy foods. i had two pimples on my face this morning 
the only highlight is my b-day coming up this wknd... talked to my friend and she said she's going to invite this guy she's been saying i should meet... pretty much since the day i met her lol. she speaks so highly of him so i'm kinda curious to meet him.
the only highlight is my b-day coming up this wknd... talked to my friend and she said she's going to invite this guy she's been saying i should meet... pretty much since the day i met her lol. she speaks so highly of him so i'm kinda curious to meet him.
rafikichick92
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frostydoll
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I love this man so much. He is an amazing lover. My problem? This dude snoring prevent me from spending the rest of the night in his arms. I actually slept in his car one night and came back in to wake him up so he could get ready for the airport. When I tell him about it, he laughs and tells me to snore too!
Has he tried changing his diet? I snore and when me and my boo first started dating it was HORRIBLE! I mean I would sometimes wake myself up it was so loud
He would either have to go to sleep before me or constantly wake me up to switch positions. Over the years, it's not as bad and I notice that it tends to act up when I'm sick or when I'm eating lots of horrible foods (ie tons of fast food).
hopeful
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You're welcome. I just think you're doing too much. You are a prize. You don't have to offer yourself up or encourage someone to like you. The right guy will be like look at that pretty, smart, nice girl, I want to take her out. Be patient.
This is a random thought on a different type of relationship, the with friends and women on this board:
Why is it that some people don't read post fully and then comment on them? Twice in the last two days I have had to correct someone who basically rewrote my comments in theirs and they were wrong! For example if I say my friends like tacos, someone will come back with not everybody likes tacos. I didn't say that, I said my friends do.
It is so frustrating to the point I feel like all of my post need to be short with elementary words.
I also find this with people I know when they are retelling stories. I have a friend who tells it wrong all the time and it frustrates the rest of us because she makes things sound like they have a different intent.
Has comprehension gone by the wayside?
Okay, vent over.
Why is it that some people don't read post fully and then comment on them? Twice in the last two days I have had to correct someone who basically rewrote my comments in theirs and they were wrong! For example if I say my friends like tacos, someone will come back with not everybody likes tacos. I didn't say that, I said my friends do.
It is so frustrating to the point I feel like all of my post need to be short with elementary words.
I also find this with people I know when they are retelling stories. I have a friend who tells it wrong all the time and it frustrates the rest of us because she makes things sound like they have a different intent.
Has comprehension gone by the wayside?
Okay, vent over.
SweetNic_JA
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So we had a hiccup a couple of weeks ago. You think it proved we are stronger. I think it proves I have grown. Our conversations about marriage and our future are getting more detailed - more serious. It's good but it makes me so nervous, but I'm willing to take that journey.
I'm so serious about our "truth serum" talk that we need to have in the future.
I'm so serious about our "truth serum" talk that we need to have in the future.
NaeChail
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Isn't liking that you are hesitating to hold up your end of the bargain. If that's what I wanted to deal with, is just be with my SO and not you. I want my title. You got yours. If I don't get it, don't think because you started this, that you'll be the only one. You see them all day and already know what it is.
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curlcomplexity
formerly qtslim83
It's been a month since I've seen you...and now 2 weeks since I've heard from you. I'm trying really hard to shake this, but it's hard because I really like you. I've been going back and forth from feelings of anger to sadness...wondering what I did wrong. Then I start to question myself....then I snap back into reality.
I was enough...I am enough. If you can't see that, then there's nothing I can do...
I was enough...I am enough. If you can't see that, then there's nothing I can do...
Incognitus
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I know where you are. I've been there. Always remember the bolded.
PureSilver
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Wow and i thought i was good for going 5mths without....especially since i'm in a committed relationship.
Beats me!
LifeafterLHCF
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I wonder how it feels to hug and kiss intimately.I haven't done that in 6 years..
MaraWithLove
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God that was great! I kind of wanna rewind and relive Friday-Monday with you all over again.
VeryBecoming
Devil's Avocado
Wow...I don't like receiving advice but it's really interesting hearing how other people would respond to situations in my relationship. It's tricky determining where their opinions end and my begin though. Especially when they raise a lot of good points. I was fine with a situation before and now I feel like I'm being passive and letting him off the hook.
CarLiTa
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I just had a GREAT conversation with this guy. Sat at a coffee shop and talked for nearly 2 hours.
When he first joined me, he was like: I can't remember the last time we really talked... Do you?
I'm thinking: well, we've never really talked lol which is what threw me off when he so casually suggested that we meet up, as though we were good friends catching up.
Oh, and this was not at all supposed to be romantic. He is in a relationship. He and his friends seem to be a very friendly and seemingly genuine bunch, so I am not worried abt intentions. Though, I was again thrown off when he asked when we are doing this again. Hm? I mentioned a dinner party that I want to throw and how I will invite him.
Oh, and he didn't ask me to meet up in secrecy. He posted right on my FB wall. It's different for me to hang out with guys in strictly platonic ways, but it's very refreshing.
We talked abt straddling social classes, our growth in college, travel experiences, the black experience, our pre-college school experience, etc.
Twas nice.
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When he first joined me, he was like: I can't remember the last time we really talked... Do you?
I'm thinking: well, we've never really talked lol
which is what threw me off when he so casually suggested that we meet up, as though we were good friends catching up.Oh, and this was not at all supposed to be romantic. He is in a relationship. He and his friends seem to be a very friendly and seemingly genuine bunch, so I am not worried abt intentions. Though, I was again thrown off when he asked when we are doing this again. Hm? I mentioned a dinner party that I want to throw and how I will invite him.
Oh, and he didn't ask me to meet up in secrecy. He posted right on my FB wall. It's different for me to hang out with guys in strictly platonic ways, but it's very refreshing.
We talked abt straddling social classes, our growth in college, travel experiences, the black experience, our pre-college school experience, etc.
Twas nice.
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SUPER SWEET
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NYC men 
I think I moved to the wrong city/state aint nothing but peaches.I need a thick slice of pizzaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 
I think I moved to the wrong city/state aint nothing but peaches.I need a thick slice of pizzaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa NYC men
What have I been telling y'all about NY!!
ChasingBliss
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I think I know how to deal with you now. My skin is a little thicker because I learned the secret....I always absorbed the comments then fight them out of my head, telling myself that I dont have to take that on. Never realizing, it's too late, I already did.
The real way to get nice thick skin is to NEVER ENTERTAIN YOUR BS TO BEGIN WITH!
The real way to get nice thick skin is to NEVER ENTERTAIN YOUR BS TO BEGIN WITH!
SuchMagnificent
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He said,"Do something different, because what you been doing hasnt worked..Take a risk"
Im glad I did, thanks.
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Im glad I did, thanks.
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CarLiTa
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My ex... 
Yesterday, he sent a couple of texts, and he eventually asked me what happened to some recipes that I'd promised to get from my mother. This promise is over a year old...
I said I'd completely forgotten abt that and don't remember the recipe at all. He starts lamenting that I'd promised a lot of other recipes and never sent them. So, I said: fine, I'll get it for you if you get me such-and-such recipe from YOUR mother.
Then some floodgates opened. He said that he doesn't understand what's with me and this 'i only do something for you if you do something for me' attitude, and that's not how he operates with people he considers to be friends.
I'm thinking WTH, where is this coming from... So I ask him if he can explain. He tells me that he doesn't find me to be particularly generous or giving, especially with him... And that he's always felt that way, and that we've talked abt this before.
Really, dude? We've been broken il for over a year now, and I haven't had any such relationship-based conversations with you since June. What's your deal now.
I respond that despite the fact that we broke up, I've been quite generous toward him. I've shared recipes, given him things my mother used to send him (bless her heart... Glad she's let him go), etc. I'm like: I guess you don't consider that to be generous.
He then apologizes, talking abt he blanked out on those things I mentioned.
That ingrate... some days I have so much disdain for him...
I said in one of my texts that we'd established that we have different love languages... While I like little gifts here and there (which he was good at), I appreciate much more someone who genuinely RESPECTS me, and who doesn't spend YEARS lying to me and deceiving me just so he could be with me.
I appreciate little gifts a lot less than I do the autonomy to make my own damn emotional decisions without consistently being given half-truths to influence my decision-making.
My friend recently pointed out a post I made on the first page of this thread abt feeling annoyed and resentful toward him... in 2009!!! An entire year before I broke up with him... This nagging feeling that I was being manipulated... And then to discover that it was soooooooo much worse than I could have ever imagined.
The last straw for me was his last overt attempt at manipulating me yet again... Giving me half-truths to not upset me (his words) and get me to consider getting back with him. Hell.to.the.effin.NO.
NEVER. That door has been sealed SHUT.
Yesterday, he sent a couple of texts, and he eventually asked me what happened to some recipes that I'd promised to get from my mother. This promise is over a year old...
I said I'd completely forgotten abt that and don't remember the recipe at all. He starts lamenting that I'd promised a lot of other recipes and never sent them. So, I said: fine, I'll get it for you if you get me such-and-such recipe from YOUR mother.
Then some floodgates opened. He said that he doesn't understand what's with me and this 'i only do something for you if you do something for me' attitude, and that's not how he operates with people he considers to be friends.
I'm thinking WTH, where is this coming from... So I ask him if he can explain. He tells me that he doesn't find me to be particularly generous or giving, especially with him... And that he's always felt that way, and that we've talked abt this before.
Really, dude? We've been broken il for over a year now, and I haven't had any such relationship-based conversations with you since June. What's your deal now.
I respond that despite the fact that we broke up, I've been quite generous toward him. I've shared recipes, given him things my mother used to send him (bless her heart... Glad she's let him go), etc. I'm like: I guess you don't consider that to be generous.
He then apologizes, talking abt he blanked out on those things I mentioned.
That ingrate...
some days I have so much disdain for him...I said in one of my texts that we'd established that we have different love languages... While I like little gifts here and there (which he was good at), I appreciate much more someone who genuinely RESPECTS me, and who doesn't spend YEARS lying to me and deceiving me just so he could be with me.
I appreciate little gifts a lot less than I do the autonomy to make my own damn emotional decisions without consistently being given half-truths to influence my decision-making.
My friend recently pointed out a post I made on the first page of this thread abt feeling annoyed and resentful toward him... in 2009!!! An entire year before I broke up with him... This nagging feeling that I was being manipulated... And then to discover that it was soooooooo much worse than I could have ever imagined.
The last straw for me was his last overt attempt at manipulating me yet again... Giving me half-truths to not upset me (his words) and get me to consider getting back with him. Hell.to.the.effin.NO.
NEVER. That door has been sealed SHUT.
The Girl
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Be careful, in A 'time of need= 'break glass' became my new Boo=IJS
Damaged but not out
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"Something New" is showing on Oxygen.
Guitarhero
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I love this man so much. He is an amazing lover. My problem? This dude snoring prevent me from spending the rest of the night in his arms. I actually slept in his car one night and came back in to wake him up so he could get ready for the airport. When I tell him about it, he laughs and tells me to snore too!
LOLOL! Dayum, you move fast! Snort, snort!!!
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