Tonight, I walk into my kitchen, and my roommate has a guest... this guy whom I met my first year in college... he expressed interest, but he wanted to walk me to my dorm after he'd met me, and I declined. He later friended me on FB and invited me to a football game with him. I accepted, and then I declined
bc I was more attracted to someone else and didn't want to lead him on
We remained acquaintances on FB, but didn't communicate much after that. Well, he's done really for himself. Finishing a Master's in a hard science, considering a PhD, was telling us about buying land in his home country
with his savings from college, and wanting to start a school back home
Pretty much a lot of the things I also want to do. He said he would call me once he starts his school, given my current work
Made me think about all the guys I passed up in college. Didn't take the time to get to know them bc I was focusing all my emotional energy on my ex, the womanizer who hid his wreckless and "colorful" past from me bc he knew that if I knew, I wouldn't date him, and then confessed that ish to me at (unknowingly) the worst possible time.
Not only have these guys done well for themselves, but they also seem to have much gentler spirits than did my ex... and I don't know if that's my outsider, imaginative perspective.
I also feel that I understand myself a lot better now, and having had those experiences with my last SO (some amazing, some heartbreaking) have taught me a lot about myself and the kind of character that I am looking for.
Sometimes I wonder what my relationship experience might have been like had I continued conversing with some of these guys... Logistically, there's no way to find out even now... as, alas, they're all mostly in my ex's friend/acquaintance group