***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

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Went to a social event last night. This older guy was talking to me a little but I wasn't interested in him. Just being nice. I was talking to lots of people. He asks me if I want to go to dinner sometime. Ughhh.... I feel like I can't say no so I said sure why not. I tried to avoid him at the after party but when I was at the ATM, he came over and said he didn't get my number. Ugh. Hope he doesn't call. I'm not answering. I don't think it's fair. Guys ask for my number and say they'll call or we'll grab drinks and then time passes and they don't. I'm not offended. But now I have to worry about fending off some dude bc I was too nervous to offend him to his face.

Watch me see him at another event... Ugh.
 
I've been singing this song since last night!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0OszA_9KY8

Baby it's you.
You're the one I love.
You're the one I need.
You're the only one I see.
Come on baby it's you.

You're the one that gives your all.
You're the one I can always call.
When I need you make everything stop.
Finally you put my love on top.
 
I went out with my friends and I met some really nice guys. I gave one my phone number, but I think he a little into himself. If that's the case, how can he be into me?:nono:
 
After lashing out at him and telling him to never contact me ever again in his life he sends me a email after two weeks of no contact which is a long time for us. I am low key laughing.
 
Dh is so sexy. He is coaching our daughter's sports team. He wears this certain outfit at practice and the games, and whenever I see him in this outfit I just think yum :lick:. After all these years I am amazed and happy that he still turns me on.
 
Recent post on FB from a friend:

"It's not OK to be a womanizer. Stop using the fact that you're single as an excuse. Be accountable to/for someone beside yourself.

Pick one girl and love on her til the day you die"

...I wish there was a "LOVE" button sometimes.
 
I asked Zdubs to come to a haunted house with tomorrow with me and my friends. I didn't die, surprisingly, and he didn't say no. He is supposed to let me know later tonight if he is going. I gave him my number and told him to text me because I can't take this FB crap anymore. We'll see what happens. :yep:
 
@SweetNic_JA I see. Yeah, I've never heard that advice before.
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He should be in town tomorrow. Meeting his sister. I guess meeting family, or at least his sister, isn't a big deal to him. He told me like it was nothing and he doesn't seem to be worried. Meanwhile, I'm over here like OMGISYOUCRAZYWHYIGOTTAMEETHERFOR!? I also haven't talked to him since Wednesday. I thought we needed a break from talking...I just forgot to tell him that. Now he's calling, texting, and e-mailing wondering what's going on. Oops, now I have to try and explain it blerghhh.
 
I really loved this article and wanted to share:

Hello, I Find You Perfectly Toxic

[To get you thinking about the people in your lives... whether they add substance, or maybe just vapid, short-term 'fun.']

You spend some time with a person. You go out for a drink, you go to a ballgame, you get matching tattoos, you buy a timeshare in Vegas, you suck at the same giant blue margarita from the same giant pink straw, you howl at the moon and dance 'til dawn and have three unruly kids and regret only one of them.

You take that person to dinner, loan him or her a copy of "Jitterbug Perfume," you hang out after work, you talk about the thrum and pulse of time, sex, dim sum, the universe. It doesn't really matter.

What matters is what comes next. You exit said person's company and you go home, sit down, take a breath, gaze inward and check the gauges. You ask yourself: How do I feel?

Are you energized or depleted? Drained and bleary or a little bit amped and pulsing in the core, ready for more? If you are more tired, you have been poisoned. If you are energized, you have been nourished. Simple, no?

This is the test. This is how you know. This is how you can tell if someone is toxic or replenishing to you and your life and it's failsafe and bulletproof and you should hereby use it the rest of your life.

Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/g/a/2011/08/10/notes081011.DTL#ixzz1bSMCwe7E
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With that said, I am supposed to go rock-climbing with a newish friend tomorrow, and I have decided that I don't enjoy her company very much. She's one-dimensional and kind of immature for her age (although she's a couple of years older than me). But... we're going... cause I promised. We shall see.
 
Ugh why do relationships take so ****** long to develop? Why can't it be like my parents, who just took one look at each other and knew they needed to make it happen, captain. I don't wanna spend months feeling someone out, only to realize it aint gonna work and do this with 50-11 people. Ugh, I'm just annoyed.

This is why I have been purposely single for nearly 5 years.
 
Mortons said:
Ugh why do relationships take so ****** long to develop? Why can't it be like my parents, who just took one look at each other and knew they needed to make it happen, captain. I don't wanna spend months feeling someone out, only to realize it aint gonna work and do this with 50-11 people. Ugh, I'm just annoyed.

This is why I have been purposely single for nearly 5 years.
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I know right. I just wish we could find someone, say, "Hey, you look like a nice person. Let's find out if we would be a good match" without worrying about does he like me, blah, blah, blah.
 
I just had an interesting conversation with my BFF and then her husband chimed in. I was telling my BFF that I wasn't going to talk to the guy that I've been seeing tonight. She tells me that she doesn't see a problem with calling someone if you want to talk to them. I tell her no, I don't initiate calls, I only return them. Then she asked her husband his opinion on the matter. He asks me why I don't initiate calls or answer every time dude calls. I basically say a lot of times I'm busy but I feel like if he's interested in me, he should call. He tells me that's good... It'll keep him interested. He'll want to know what more there is to me... Nice to know I'm doing something right. Dude knows that I'm interested... That's all that matters.
 
Is DONE. Really? You stand me up? Really? And I have to see ya trifling butt ALL the time. Thanks for ruining my weekend.

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So let me tell yall about my date :ohwell: I met this guy online. I wasn't feeling his profile but he seemed cool when we contacted on another so I agreed to go out with him. Then it began...

When he came to pick me up, I noticed he strongly resembled my psychotic, stalker ex. I wanted to :roadrunner: immediately but he can't help that so I digress. He asked what I did for a living. I told him I was a doc student and he said, so what that mean? What else do you do? :perplexed I explained that I was currently looking for a job. He then asked how long have I been in college and I said on and off for ten years. He kept calling me a "career student" and I had to explain to him that I need advanced degrees to accomplish my career goals. This is all before we got to the restaurant (Applebees :rolleyes:).

At the restaurant, the waitress took our drink orders and I ordered sweet tea. He said, really:rolleyes:. What's wrong with sweet tea? :sad: Then he was a rude to the waitress. He kept asking me how do I live and what do I do for money and then asked if there were any strip clubs in Hattiesburg :eh: I guess he saw the "storm" :darkcloud: coming and he quickly said he was just kidding :rolleyes: Next came the convo about communication. He text me alot and I answer hours later if I decide to answer at all. I explained that I prefer to talk. He said there is no reason no to answer his texts since I don't work and he does :wallbash: Last came the convo about our families. I told him I was the baby. He told me he knew I was spoiled and that HE wasn't going to spoil me. Oh I let him HAVE IT.:angry2:

:orders:I told him yes I think highly of myself and I have every right to. I've been living on my own since 18 and I'm doing damn well for my age. I don't ask my parents for ish, I don't get on my back or knees for anything, I live below my means, and I'm smart enough to save and budget. I also told him that he has life fvcked up if he thinks I'm going to let him get away with acting like an @$$hole to "bring me down a notch." I'm a good woman and I deserve to be treated well and if he's not prepared to do that then he can "get the hell on, ni99@!" (I wish there was a neck rolling smilie)

So he :blush: then apologized and started acting human (I'm really, really soft spoken so when I go ham, people :nervous2:). It was early and he was behaving so we went bowling. I noticed he kept finding little ways to touch and tug my hair. At one point, he kinda rubbed my edges and said "got a fresh peeerrrmmmm". I said no perms here:naughty: But I noticed he kept doing it. Finally, I said, what are you doing a weave check or something :rolleyes: He said yes and proceeded to dig his fingers all up in my head :blush: After he go through, he never touched my hair again. So you mean to tell me this fool was weave checking all along? Child...

Sighs. Anyhoo, we finished our game and he brought me home. Wasn't the best date but at least I got a story to tell and free dinner.
 
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nappystorm what an a$$! Why was he testing you throughout the entire date? Trying to belittle you when he was the fool all along Hmph! I feel mad like one of my close girlfriends just told me about some jerk they dated :giggle:
 
-PYT said:
@nappystorm what an a$$! Why was he testing you throughout the entire date? Trying to belittle you when he was the fool all along Hmph! I feel mad like one of my close girlfriends just told me about some jerk they dated :giggle:
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PYT Thanks :lol:.

I don't know if he thinks being an @$$ is cute or what. He kept trying to throw in "I'm kidding" or that he likes to "joke alot" and I'm too "sensitive". I'm almost 30 and hipped to that one. I know difference between being a joker and a jerk. He even tried, well I'm an Aries. I said kneegrow, I'm an Aries too so you already know what time it is :brucelee:
 
nappystorm said:
PYT Thanks :lol:.

I don't know if he thinks being an @$$ is cute or what. He kept trying to throw in "I'm kidding" or that he likes to "joke alot" and I'm too "sensitive". I'm almost 30 and hipped to that one. I know difference between being a joker and a jerk. He even tried, well I'm an Aries. I said kneegrow, I'm an Aries too so you already know what time it is :brucelee:
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I'm glad you checked him - properly I may add! I would have left him at Applebees and called it a night. You're good for going bowling with him.
 
nappystorm

Oh. My. Gosh! Wth! I'm glad you said something to him and you cover all the points! It sounded like he was trying to bring you down a notch or two and you were exactly right. A confident, competent man wouldn't do that.

I'm the youngest and it boils me when people act like "Ohhh! You must be spoiled" when it couldn't be any further from the truth. You deserve all that comes to you and certainly not him.

Oh, and the "sensitive" thing? Puh-lease! Who does that work on? Most of us know that's just another way of saying, "Listen, I'm an @ss."

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All4Tris said:
I just had an interesting conversation with my BFF and then her husband chimed in. I was telling my BFF that I wasn't going to talk to the guy that I've been seeing tonight. She tells me that she doesn't see a problem with calling someone if you want to talk to them. I tell her no, I don't initiate calls, I only return them. Then she asked her husband his opinion on the matter. He asks me why I don't initiate calls or answer every time dude calls. I basically say a lot of times I'm busy but I feel like if he's interested in me, he should call. He tells me that's good... It'll keep him interested. He'll want to know what more there is to me... Nice to know I'm doing something right. Dude knows that I'm interested... That's all that matters.
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All4Tris - thanks for sharing. Right now I'm ending my worry about why Smokey hadn't returned my 1 call & 2 texts. 3 is my limit so it's time I put my energy elsewhere for today. He'll call when he wants to chat and I just might be busy.

I hate having to do this because I feel like I'm playing games but I think I've made things too easy for him because of the distance. Get it together dude cuz you're about to lose! I have had this feeling of calling it quits all week & now this. Intuition? Dammit....getting to old for this.

AND then I want to mention it to Smokey, talk to him about it & how I feel like I'm being ignored but one of my male friends told me I shouldn't bring it up because all Smokey would hear would be drama & "blah blah blah." He says dude should be smart enough to figure it out & if he isn't, then he isn't the one. Does that guy even exist???

Just needed to vent. Now on to being productive today.

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Went on a wonderful first time date last night with a single dad of two daughters. Very tall, very dark, and very handsome and respectful.
 
hopeful said:
^^^So are you completely done with your assistant? If so, how is he handling that?
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I let my guard back down with him a little this week, so things have been pretty decent. However, I always said that I'd never date him while he's student teaching under me. I'd rather wait until his student teaching was complete in May. But in the meantime, I'm continuing to date other people as I've always done before he even came along. I'm a very private person, so he has no idea what goes on in my personal life.

I almost requested that he be assigned a new teacher to work under so I could speed things up on the personal front, but that would have been a selfish motive. He loves our students, they love him, and he is such a wonderful assistant to me in the classroom so I didn't want to put him nor the students through that situation. So I'm going to keep him with me, which means that I won't pursue anything with him until after May.
 
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texasqt I hear you and so agree with your male friend. It took a while before I understood that you can't talk to a guy about stuff like that... Your actions (or reactions) have to speak for itself! I once told a friend of mine that she needed to fall back on a guy... Instead if just doing it, she asked him if he wanted her to fall back... Of course he said no but, he kept showing her he wasn't interested and she got her feelings hurt. Sometimes falling back decreases your emotional attachment and it's easier to develop the "it is what it is" attitude.
 
After he sent an email yesterday after I cut off contact with him a couple of weeks ago, this dude shows up unannounced at my apartment!
 
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