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This has nothing to do with relationships, but I thought it was funny, so here goes. This morning, we're all coming into class before biochemistry (the class tends to arrive 25 minutes early). I'm already there and Zdubs gets there a few minutes after me. We kinda make small talk about the lab work because he had messaged me on FB last night asking me about it then we both kinda fell quiet about the time one of our mutual friends arrives and sits down.

Zdubs greets him and he responds that today is a good day because he is going home this weekend. Zdubs says, "You can't go home, man. Our test is next Friday and we're 4 lectures behind [on studying]." The guy (we'll call him Delagatti) replies, "Dude, I can't stay here this weekend, I'm going home." Zdubs says, "You can't go home, Delagatti. You need to study for this test. If you don't, you're stupid." Delagatti responds, "Dude, I shouldn't have told my parents I was coming." Zdubs says, "Darn right you shouldn't have. Listen to me, dude, God is speaking through me right now, and He is saying you need to stay here and study for this test [yes, he did go there]." Delagatti looks torn. He says, "But now my family is expecting me."

Zdubs literally puts his face in his hands, shakes his head, and looks up all red in the face. He says, "Bro, your parents want you do get good grades, right? So if you go home, you're gonna get rocked on this test [I've never heard half the slang this kid uses] and that's stupid. And if your parents don't understand that, they're stupid." At which point I interrupt with, "Zdubs, you just called his parents stupid." He replies, "Yeah, I have no problem" and goes back to shaking his head.

We still don't know if Delagatti's going home this weekend or not as he wisely stopped mentioning it after that. If I was him, I'd be like, "screw the test", but that's just me. Obviously if it was Zdubs, he'd be like, "screw going home" [it's a 9 hour drive in this scenario]. He's already told me that he only goes home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Spring Break. His parents do visit him though and to his credit, he did suggest that Delagatti ask his parents to come down here instead. But dang, son! He goes hard for schoolwork!
 
I'm reminding myself that I'm not the same person I used to be period! I view relationships and dating in general differently than I used too... I'm not dating just to date! That's how I ended up in not so great relationships in the past. I would rather be alone... I know this because I've been just that in the past two years! It doesn't matter that some of my friends think I'm the same way when it comes to men because they're only basing this on my past relationships.
 
I am grinning from ear to ear right now because guess who just came up to me in the quiet study zone to ask me if I wanted the recordings of the biochemistry lectures from these past 2 weeks???? You guessed it, ZDubs himself!!! :grin: :grin: :grin: What a sweet heart! I can't stop smiling!

ETA: Yes, I know it's kind of lame to be so happy about something so small, but still ...
 
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i wish i didnt have to see him everyday it would make it so easy to forget about him. i also wish he wouldnt still be nice and wave and say hi, i dont want him to speak to me, i want him to leave me alone so i can forget about him. Ugh, i wish do something to make me angry instead of being the sweet guy he is
 
Well that "smooth sailing" I mentioned earlier lasted about 2 hours. I've been getting dizzy a lot lately and he thinks it's because I don't eat or sleep enough. Well yesterday I nearly blacked out and told him about it. He freaked out and like lectured me about my health for a while. I told him it was none of his business really then he yells YOUR SAFETY AND PROTECTION IS MY BUSINESS! I was like oh :look: I've never seen him even slightly upset. I guess I thought he was just being bossy but he was really concerned.
 
VeryBecoming said:
Well that "smooth sailing" I mentioned earlier lasted about 2 hours. I've been getting dizzy a lot lately and he thinks it's because I don't eat or sleep enough. Well yesterday I nearly blacked out and told him about it. He freaked out and like lectured me about my health for a while. I told him it was none of his business really then he yells YOUR SAFETY AND PROTECTION IS MY BUSINESS! I was like oh :look: I've never seen him even slightly upset. I guess I thought he was just being bossy but he was really concerned.
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Awww!!! That is really sweet!
 
Etherealsmile said:
lushcoils, what's wrong?:sad:
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Etherealsmile
Just the usual cycle of letting the lack of attention from men online and in real life get to me. But, I'll get over it soon. I'm working on accepting it, but every now and then I break down since changing my mindset (from trying to solve the issue to acceptance of my reality) will be a bit of challenge. I just need some more time and prayer. :yep:
 
Lord forgive me for my next comment..I really wish I had a male entertainment friend for night time stories only..ok thats out of my mind for a while..Im like so tired of hearing my male coworker bring up his fiance..its a bit much.Like dude you only marrying her bc she will let you hoe around and not say nothing..she is just happy to be married..I was looking at their pics recently and there is no affection nothing..He says he is happy but I can see right through that but let me tell it I'm just a fat hater.

I wish I had someone to match me up with someone but those days are not in existence anymore..oh well back to the empty house.
 
lushcoils said:
@Etherealsmile
Just the usual cycle of letting the lack of attention from men online and in real life get to me. But, I'll get over it soon. I'm working on accepting it, but every now and then I break down since changing my mindset (from trying to solve the issue to acceptance of my reality) will be a bit of challenge. I just need some more time and prayer. :yep:
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i'm so sorry:sad: i wish i had words of encouragement but I don't know what to say to alleviate the pain you've been dealing with for some time now. I really hope things start looking up for you soon. I'll keep you in my prayers *hugs*
 
Putting together a list of questions to ask Zdubs tomorrow during lab. Also asking him to come to a haunted house with me and some friends on Saturday.

But things seem to be moving in the guy department. I've been chatting with another guy from biochemistry on FB alot. Not really looking for it to go anywhere (he is short :look:), but definitely going along for the ride. I think one of the guys on leadership with me in one of the clubs I belong to may be into me. He asked for my number, but he hasn't texted me and it's been almost a week. Grr.
 
And back down to the earth we crash....HARD. I am so confused. And I'm sick of this roller coaster.

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GoddessMaker said:
Lord forgive me for my next comment..I really wish I had a male entertainment friend for night time stories only..ok thats out of my mind for a while..Im like so tired of hearing my male coworker bring up his fiance..its a bit much.Like dude you only marrying her bc she will let you hoe around and not say nothing..she is just happy to be married..I was looking at their pics recently and there is no affection nothing..He says he is happy but I can see right through that but let me tell it I'm just a fat hater.

I wish I had someone to match me up with someone but those days are not in existence anymore..oh well back to the empty house.
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GoddessMaker: I tooooootally feel you. Sometimes I want my ex back :look:. Honestly, it's why he lasted as long as he did. :look: I feel like a loser every night when I'm in my dorm by myself, no dates, no boyfriends ... *sigh*
 
-PYT I'm just sexually deprived it's been 6 years..so not having a boo is a bit sad since I get no attention but I'm happy there no drama..some ladies get plenty of attention from men and its nice..not saying it validates anything just a nice feeling..
 
GoddessMaker said:
-PYT I'm just sexually deprived it's been 6 years..so not having a boo is a bit sad since I get no attention but I'm happy there no drama..some ladies get plenty of attention from men and its nice..not saying it validates anything just a nice feeling..
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The companionship is great but atleast we arent dealing with drama.
GoddessMaker your siggie is so pretty.

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-PYT It's just hard being in an environment where everyone else is in a relationship. In the past 2 weeks I know 5 couples who've gotten engaged. I guess it's a natural reaction to being in such an environment. Plus I miss the emotional companionship of a boyfriend, especially since me and my ex were such good friends before we started dating. But it's an up and down thing. Some weeks, I'm doing alot with my friend girls and enjoying singlehood, other times I'm alone in the dorm on FB with a news feed full of happy couples and it's like, "why not meeee?"
 
lushcoils

Oh I understand. I know I used to breakdown often, cried on the phone to my mom because I felt so alone. It was especially rough when I moved away from my family for graduate school. I had friends here but we had nothing in common, and the guys hitting on me were not the guys for me.

Now I still get sad every once in a while but I can deal with it. I figure it is ok to be sad about something but you can't let that define you. I even went to a therapist (can't say that helped too much, but I always felt better and not weird when I left). Prayer, going to church, re-finding my love for dance really helped me. God didn't send me a man (where he at man? haha), he sent me strength.

Hugs.
 
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