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Just finished a "study date" with Zdubs! We met so I could help him with the graphs for biochemistry and we ended up working together for an hour. Didn't get much talking in, but it was still good to have some one-on-one time alone, outside of class. He is sooo sweet and mature. Now please just ask me out for real. Thank you. :)
 
rafikichick92 at first I thought ZDubs had the crush on you, but now it seems the other way around. Was there a "powershift" or has it always been this way. . . I'm really interested in seeing where this goes.
 
Were at a good point...I pray I don't mess this up....but....then again I'm usually good for it.

I think the fight actually helped you and I understand each other more...never expected this.
 
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SweetNic_JA said:
@rafikichick92 at first I thought ZDubs had the crush on you, but now it seems the other way around. Was there a "powershift" or has it always been this way. . . I'm really interested in seeing where this goes.
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SweetNic_JA: I don't think he has a crush on me. If he does, I don't know about it. That would be sweet though. Right now, we are just immunology lab partners and "seatmates" in biochemistry. I'm curious though, what made you think he had a crush on me?
 
Breakthrough moment of honesty with myself, but that may mean I won't do well in a relationship. Ugh, I'm going to bed :(
 
Today, I found out that the executive director at my org is white.
I've been boasting about how it's so awesome to have a black ED and how great I think he is, him and his black wife and their adorable children.

Well, a friend and I were in the kitchen and talking about perceptions about natural hair. She made a comment that biracial girls can wear their natural hair in various lengths and not get any shock from whites... just as our ED was pouring himself some water.

He's really friendly, and he jumps into the conversation and mentions how he does his daughter's hair in pigtails etc. He's like, can you imagine that? white guy, blah blah.

So we're all like ohh! you do her hair! hehehehe blah blah... and as soon as he leaves, my colleague and I turn to each other like wait, he's white???
I wasn't sure when I met him, but I figured he probably was black! He looks tan enough. My colleague suggested that he's probably Jewish.

After work, we ask one of the other black women. She's like yeah, he's definitely white:lol: I'm like dang! I've been boasting to people about how I have a black ED! Now I'm going to have to tell people that I'm wrong! (even his voice confused me)

She's like yeah, he's totally white. He's Jewish. Wait till it's winter, you'll see his paleness:lol:

He's still great, though.
 
He didn't call yesterday so I decided I wasn't going out of my way to talk to him today. He texted me this morning saying he fell asleep last night. Well I texted him at 3pm yesterday soo he was asleep all damn day? Yeah right.

Anyway, I'm at a conference center today and there were all these cute guys. Whenever we were out in the hall with them I was flirting and accepting numbers. I don't intend on doing anything with them but as I was walking back to my group I thought "omg what I am doing?" It's like my default mode is to act out. I told my best friend about the cute guys (not the numbers or flirting) and she was like "good thing you're happily taken!" I say yeah right, happily my arse! I am quite happily taken in reality, just wasn't at the moment.

I think she texted my boyfriend and told him I was pissed. All of the sudden he's calling non-stop. Or maybe that I'm surrounded by hot guys. I hit ignore on all his calls. Finally it gets on my nerves and I answer, say I'm busy then hang up. He calls back and asks if I'm mad at him and I just say I'm busy and hang up again.

I don't know why I enjoy playing with fire. I'm really trying to be better. I feel kind of bad right now because he's really sweet and I'm sure he did just fall asleep but that still doesn't explain everything.
 
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The desire of my heart is to be accepted in the world and not always having to petition for my rights.Like I see some are able to get what they want and not have to ask.I wish I could be the one that others want to do go things for simple bc they like you.I'm tired mentally of people and relationships esp with ppl bc it seems it goes no where.I want to remain optimistic as it's always the darkest before the dawn.I'm just want to live and have a great circle not too many but something.I thought I would be ok being a hermit depressed one.Now that I feel lke I'm alive I have no one..everyone has their family and life.

Maybe I will be one of those old fat alone chicks..I don't want to become great and that only when others come I know deep down inside there a little person who knows she is deserving of all the fullness and happiness in life.
 
I don't want a relationship, I really want to be left to myself.
That being said, I wish I could shut off my ability to be attracted to the opposite sex. Just for a few years.

This guy is so sweet (typical) and such a gentlemen (typical) BUT, not only that, he is also a man of God (UNTYPICAL). At first I didn't have any interest in him aside from friendship, but slowly I'm starting to find myself very attached to him. Now I'm constantly thinking about him, waited for his messages with baited breath, & constantly meeting up with him. I'm not sure if he likes me or if I'm reading too much into his opening of the doors, his walking me home after church/hanging out, his "Good Morning" texts and random smiley faces.

Just yesterday, on one of our recent walks to my home, I sang for him as we made our way down the dark streets. He said he loved my voice and seemed really flustered about it. That made me so happy. We talked more about this class that he recommended me on getting to know the holy spirit, till finally he dropped me off. Before he got on the train he texted me, saying that I was amazing. Then when he got home, he kept going on and on about loving my voice. Then he threw me for a loop when he said that the day was amazing and he believed God showed him some things in me he needed to see. I really wanted to ask him what exactly those things were, but instead I replied "Good things, I hope!^^". Now ever since then he's been calling me hun, if it were anyone else I wouldn't think twice about it. Simply because it's him. Idk if he's just being friendly or flirty...

Wait a minute...what does it matter? I don't want a relationship! Grrrr...
 
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rafikichick92 said:
SweetNic_JA: I don't think he has a crush on me. If he does, I don't know about it. That would be sweet though. Right now, we are just immunology lab partners and "seatmates" in biochemistry. I'm curious though, what made you think he had a crush on me?
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I think it was from the first post that I notice you made. It was a while back. I know I misinterpreted the first post, and that's what threw me off.
 
I can't wait to see him! It'll be the first time I've seen him since professing our love and I wonder if he'll look at me differently. I have no clue why I'm even thinking like that, I'm so dorky. :giggle:
 
I think I want to launch a campaign to be cooler :lol: I know that sounds eccentric as heck, but I'm not sure how else to phrase it.
There are so many things I want to do and learn... little things, challenging things... stuff that's enriching and FUNNNN.
I need to clear some mental space to start doing those things. I want to live beautifully and wholesomely.

This is probably NOT relationship RT, right? :lol: so let's just assume this premise: interesting people are interesting to men. Sounds good?
 
So, I was telling one of my BFFs (hey girl hey!! :lol:) that I am being more selective with whom I give my number to... except that I don't think that's working out too well.

Just in the past week, I avoided giving my number to 2 different guys. My reasoning is that I would like to get to know the guy a little better before giving him as easy access into my personal space.
Once I exchange #s with a guy, we go right into that "dating" process, which doesn't really interest me right now unless I feel a strong desire to communicate more with that person... or that the interaction has the potential to evolve into something more... meaningful...

But how will I know if anything has that kind of potential if I'm not giving out my number at all?:confused: It's not like I interact with single young men on a platonic level frequently... so how do I intend to go about getting to know them first before sharing my number. The guys that I DO interact with... well, I can't date them.

Huh? Am I starting to miss dating?... sometimes... but it's been also really nice to just be alone and distance myself from vapid male attention.

I think I am just starting to worry that when I am ready, no one will come knocking:lol: especially once winter rolls around and no one is going outside:nono:

Booooo, I hope this feeling passes.
 
I will call you on your birthday, to say Happy Birthday, and that's it.

I really wish you would stop calling me, especially late at night.
 
He has verbalized that this isn't for fun and he plans to marry me. I need to pick up the slack and carry my end of the bargain now.
 
called me at 5-somethin this morning with a mild attitude problem talking bout you need to "check me" about what I asked you yesterday so I don't blow up on you again. :rolleyes: I peeped that nasty-nice phone call. N*gga **** you. I'll stop askin sh*t, when you stop doing sh*t.

Shows how much you know, I wasn't even worried or thinking all that. I really was joking. You need to relax. I've let the past go. However, if you didn't mess up so much on your on accord, you wouldn't constantly feel like you're in debt now...talk about projecting.......LOL @ you saying you're tryna make sure you "keep me loyal"....my running shoes are in storage at the moment....

go ahead and save the world, as much as I get frustrated it's one of the things I love & respect about you the most.....

Even still, I'm glad we handled that and our convo ended on a high note. Seeeee, we're making progress!:cupid:
 
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how does asking me what I'm doing today require you to say "my guess is you're with your future husband" :lachen:

Men are funny. what an eventful morning.....
 
MzLady78 said:
^^^ Oh no, way too early in the mornin' for all that mess!
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Gyrlllllllll.... who you telling....


he's still on it as we speak with these crazya$$ text messages. I'm not even trying to answer the phone to entertain this nonsense because he is the bitter/verbal diarrhea type :look: There's someone in line ahead of you, get over it....
 
I have been meeting some really nice guys lately, but I have not had the energy to actually go on any physical dates. I have canceled a few dates or turned down dates that guys have asked me on. <sigh> Talking on the phone is fine, but leaving my house to go on an actual date is not working out for me at the moment. I even planned to go visit my ex last week (long story:look:), but taking a nap seemed more important at the time. Needless to say, the guys that were interested aren't anymore, including the ex. I don't know if it is fear or what. I really need to get it together. :ohwell::perplexed:ohwell: Mother really wants grandbabies but at the rate I am going that's not going to happen any time soon.
 
Do_Si_Dos said:
I have been meeting some really nice guys lately, but I have not had the energy to actually go on any physical dates. I have canceled a few dates or turned down dates that guys have asked me on. <sigh> Talking on the phone is fine, but leaving my house to go on an actual date is not working out for me at the moment. I even planned to go visit my ex last week (long story:look:), but taking a nap seemed more important at the time. Needless to say, the guys that were interested aren't anymore, including the ex. I don't know if it is fear or what. I really need to get it together. :ohwell::perplexed:ohwell: Mother really wants grandbabies but at the rate I am going that's not going to happen any time soon.
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I'm like this! I just had the epiphany that I should stop doing that (but I still do it :look:) because I'm getting older but for the most part when someone asks me if I'm busy on a certain day I think "well...I don't know if you call sitting around in sweatpants browsing the internet while watching Murder She Wrote 'busy,' but..that's what I planned to do :Blush2:" I was casually dating this guy that lived an hour away and I would get so annoyed when he would send me a text talking about "hey. I'm in town." Oh, okay. *turns phone off* :look:

That's why I'm so excited to have a crush. I'd totally get out of bed for him :drunk:
 
InchHighPrivateEye said:
I'm like this! I just had the epiphany that I should stop doing that (but I still do it :look:) because I'm getting older but for the most part when someone asks me if I'm busy on a certain day I think "well...I don't know if you call sitting around in sweatpants browsing the internet while watching Murder She Wrote 'busy,' but..that's what I planned to do :Blush2:" I was casually dating this guy that lived an hour away and I would get so annoyed when he would send me a text talking about "hey. I'm in town." Oh, okay. *turns phone off* :look:

That's why I'm so excited to have a crush. I'd totally get out of bed for him :drunk:
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I really hope things work out with your crush. :yep:
 
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