***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

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I read through this thread even though I shouldn't and have nothing about a guy to contribute but it always breaks my heart to hear ladies who had the proposal and it doesn't work out..its good you didn't waste too much time getting it going but it still makes me sad.I want everyone to be happy as life is short.I hope that one day I will be sought after.I get a bit miffed that my coworker who I love dearly is always looked at as the ideal.It sorta reenforces the whole I need to be slim in order to get noticed,that even though some think Im pretty here no man has stopped me and said wow your beauitful.Now I know one has to feel that way about themselves and it attracts others.

I become hopeless about dating and being like others.I get tired having no man in my corner period.No daddy,no brother no uncles nothing.My boss is the only man I know in my life that cares about me.I tell him he is like a daddy to me bc well he is.He makes sure Im taking care of at work,pushes me,and buys me lunch on occasion. I hope next year I will be slimmer and will be more sought after and will have a social life.
 
I get a bit miffed that my coworker who I love dearly is always looked at as the ideal.It sorta reenforces the whole I need to be slim in order to get noticed.

Girl trust, I'm slim and hardly ever get noticed. It's not doing me any good. :lol: But I hope your weight loss brings you even better physical and mental health, which should be the most important thing. Good luck.
 
lushcoils thank you honey..see I don't if it's bc she is older and content with her size and works it.She will come in form fitting dress nothing unprofessional but fitting and my male coworker goes ape.He thinks all women should wear heels daily..its funny when I'm real extra cute I don't get any male play but when I had on a rose sundress this dude who definitely wasn't my type was like pretty dress.
 
How is this chick on Bridezillas getting married before me? I mean REALLY?! My rachetness is no where as bad a hers! SMDH

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So things have officially gotten worse. I went on a date and ex-FH found out and went nuts. Now he lives in the living room w/all his stuff, and I stay in the bedroom with all my stuff. *sigh* I just need to get my own place, desperately.
 
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Did you see her groom? I will stay if he was my only option....

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Do_Si_Dos girl, they were both a mess. Rae Raes hair bugged me the entire 3 episodes but yet dude was still sticking up for her. I guess there's a lid for every pot....still, can't believe she beat me to it! My day will come :: shakes fist:::
 
I got approached in more "business" type environments--I agree, some dudes are straight bums/thugs lol.

Ahh... I see.

Ok I think I have a good idea for your bday. Ladies what do you think?

Romantic dinner (cooked at home)
Jazz club (loves Jazz)
Gift basket with special treats including something he said he wanted a while back...

If you guys have done anything special that you dont mind sharing, please do. I'm open to more ideas.

Well, I'm not sure what point you are in you relationship (physically), but here's an idea:

Nice sensual (not sexual) full-body massage at end of evening (an actual body massage). Take you time, use plenty of oil, and have relaxing music in the background.

^^There's an R-rated version, PM me if you want info... :look:

Or make a jazz compilation cd for him (his faves and/or a few new artists).

I always felt that I had to be perfect in order to be loved. Well, maybe not perfect. but there were things about me that I had to change in order to be loved. But then my guy came along and changed my mind. There are parts of me that I hate but he loves. I asked him what his favorite body part of mine is. He said he loved my legs, and that shocked me because I HATE (!!!) my legs! :lol: He loves my smile and I've always wanted braces. He thinks I have the prettiest feet, and I think my feet are wide.

What I'm trying to get at is, hope you find a guy who loves and accepts you for who you are, as you are now! Because if you suddenly make life changes and you find a man who loves you, you'll always wonder if he loves YOU or loves what you've become.

Good Point!
 
So this guy (from POF) just texted me that he can't wait for our "second encounter" first of all that makes me think of intercourse... Secondly I don't think they'll be a second date. He's cool but I don't like the way he carries himself... Like it's embarrassing!

I've been chatting with this guy from match.com and we seem to have similar personalities but after meeting 3 duds from POF... I doubt I'll like him in real life... I don't think I can take another awkward meet-up... UGH!
 
If only I could get up the courage to actually flirt for once in my life. Ugh! Whenever I like a guy, I get super shy--I can't even look them in the eyes! Therefore, goal for Thursday: FLIRT!
 
Still trying to decide whether or not to go on this date. I'm feeling totally non-committal and not particularly excited about the whole thing but I feel like I may as well go. No idea what to do and gut instinct isn't telling me anything either way...
 
Hey ladies i have a quick question for you. Would you feel sometype of ways if your SO/DH sparked back up an old friendship with his ex's best friend? There was some raw feeeling at the begining of our relationship and the end of thiers. Basically now me and the ex will not even talk to eachother, may come to blows one day, she strongly dislikes me. I kinda feel like he is talking to the enemy even though this friend has never really done anything to me. Am i over reacting?
 
Why do guys that I have NO interest in always like me? Why are my preferences all over the place? Why do guys think it's ok to tell your guy friend to tell you that they want to **** you? Why do I have a crush on awkward white guy that i work with who is kind of cute but kinda immature?
 
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Why is it so important for him to be friends with his ex's bestfriend? Were he and the ex's bestfriend childhood friends are something? Assuming the ex's bestfriend is a female as well. It seems strange to me. What next? Hanging out? Do you think he is trying to keep tabs on his ex?
 
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Thats what im thinking, him and his ex have not spoken in over a year, at least to my knowledge. I dont think they were childhood friends, but they were close while he was with the ex.
 
So, Mr. Tempting text messages me and wants to know if we can spend some time together. HAYELL NAW son. Mr. Tempting makes my knees wobble. I rebuke that one (well to myself) and here comes another Mr. Tempting Part II checking for me. Why Lord? Why? So I sent him a text telling him why I could not see him and he LOLed. Calgon take me away........
 
so, i just went from 2 potentials to 0 all over the course of this weekend...

potential #1 invited me for dinner at his house, which i ended up not really being able to make due to having to stay over for work, weather, and traffic. but i am oh so grateful for all of the above. he convinced me to still come to get the food to go since he'd already cooked, even if we weren't able to eat it together. i won't even mention the location of where he lived, but... #1. aluminum foil covered stove #2. raid roach traps (multiple) on his kitchen counter next to the dishes ewwww... #3. weird stick figure pictures he drew of couples walking hand in hand on the wall. he was a nice enough person, but i already had reservations about him to begin with and this was just the nail in the coffin for him. WEIRDO!!

potential #2 we agreed to meetup next week for our date, but since we both were in the city this weekend, decided to quickly meet up. well, i couldn't stay long because there was no parking, but still wanted to atleast say hey. after talking and saying our goodbyes, he wanted to hug me and tried to kiss me. ummm no. he tried several times for the kiss, but instead got my cheek. it was neither the time nor place for that, and it just felt awkward. i guess he was upset about that, because he went from multiple calls and texts everyday to nothing. he previously would text me good morning and all day form lunch until night with calls in between. i haven't heard from him since i refused to kiss him. oh well...

i am atleast glad i saw these characteristics early on prior to investing any serious emotional energy into either of them. but now its back to the drawing board.
 
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