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Did I really just get awakened at two o'clock in the morning about a Mikes hard lemonade?!

Hey, arsehole, I have to wake up at 5:30 to go to work, you are off today! So you could kept it to your freaking self for a day. And yes, I bought one from the store and I drank it. I really don't see the need for an interrogation!
 
I feel the same damn way!!! I changed my location on pof from atlanta to new york and i'm getting messages from fine, masters and PhD educated men: black, italian, middle eastern and hispanic; may 2012 can't come fast enough.

Where in NY do they seem to be located in? I mean, can you see a pattern?
 
I get to see him this weekend. It's the first time in almost a month. Instead of staying with my best friend, which I usually do in that city, I'm staying at his house. We have never spent that much time together in close quarters. This is the test.
 
Let me say this... YOU CAN"T HELP THOSE THAT DON"T WANT TO BE HELPED! I just can't....:nono::nono:

Please remember,everyone didn't have the start or advantages you had/have.:sad:
It's hard to understand what you haven't experienced. It's so easy to just walk away and forget the uncomfortable.

She told me she lived where everyone was piled on of one another. So sharing a MAN is a part of her nature. :ohwell:
She never had a man make her feel like she was more than just a body to release himself.

Well it begins.....BRAINWASHING!

He called her to tell her to get ready for a weekend with the stars. He picked her up from work and took her shopping for outfits. He let another one of his women do her hair and make up. She felt the prettiest ever. They walked toward the ballroom and she said her stomach just dropped.

Wow, I feel sad and I dont even know what happened yet...Sounds like at that point she realized that she was being prepped for sale.
 
I look forward to going home and chilling w/my SO. I really do enjoy his company, we crack up together !
 
Ugh, I'm involved with a guy who seems emotionally unavailable. I'm so glad I went into it looking at his actions, not words...

I'm giving it another week before I give up 100%.

I'm like at 65% nay ight now.
 
I'm so glad you posted this. Previously you stated that she had come from a nice family but I kept thinking no way she was raised in such a nice family and then would subject herself to the treatment you previously wrote about. Is the truth that she was raised by heathens and/or was molested as a child? Did she lie to you about her family background?

Let me say this... YOU CAN"T HELP THOSE THAT DON"T WANT TO BE HELPED! I just can't....:nono::nono:

Please remember,everyone didn't have the start or advantages you had/have.:sad:
It's hard to understand what you haven't experienced. It's so easy to just walk away and forget the uncomfortable.

She told me she lived where everyone was piled on of one another. So sharing a MAN is a part of her nature. :ohwell:
She never had a man make her feel like she was more than just a body to release himself.


Well it begins.....BRAINWASHING!

He called her to tell her to get ready for a weekend with the stars. He picked her up from work and took her shopping for outfits. He let another one of his women do her hair and make up. She felt the prettiest ever. They walked toward the ballroom and she said her stomach just dropped.
 
I'm so glad you posted this. Previously you stated that she had come from a nice family but I kept thinking no way she was raised in such a nice family and then would subject herself to the treatment you previously wrote about. Is the truth that she was raised by heathens and/or was molested as a child? Did she lie to you about her family background?
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I should have known better. She was quick to build our friendship and be best buddies. Which is built on NOTHING BUT LIES. She made up the GOOD fanasty life that she wanted and included others in her lies as well.:nono::nono:

I mean it's deep from riding around in a Range Rover with no insurance and title to buying items on others credit cards. Lying about males, i mean what they bought her or did for her.


Her EX-friend called me to tell me what's REALLY going on......:yep:
It's been a SHAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM. This is just crazy. I decided to just CONFRONT her this weekend about her REAL LIFE and to let her know I'm done! I may not say anything because I move in less than 2 weeks to a new place that she has no idea about.

And dude was in Applebees last weekend with more women. My date and I saw him and shook our heads.
 
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If I were you I would not confront her about ANYTHING :nono:. Just move and KIM. Stay away from her -- she is dangerous. I'm sorry she's had a rough life but none of it has anything to do with you and sooner or later she will try to drag you into her hell -- in some ways she already has--the stories she's already shared with you are disgusting things you may have never been exposed to if it hadn't been for her. Get a clean break from her.
 
You're meeting my best friend today and I'm meeting your best friend. You said you can't wait to see where we are in 4 years. Me neither. :grin:
 
I don't know if I am more angry at myself or more angry at the situation. This is definitely a learning experience and I WILL never put myself in this situation again. I am not even going to wrap my mind to understand how someone can supposedly care for you and value you as a person but be so selfish, narcissistic, and emotionally handicapped.

Your main concern was you and how this "friendship" benefited you although I tried to be nothing but loyal. I have learned my lesson and will cut you out of my life for good.

I finally told my mother what has been troubling me for a long time and it felt good. Mothers are the best. She reminded me that there is no attachments, ie. babies or marriage and that I am at the peak of my life. I can do anything I want, nothing is impossible. She told me to pick up my heart and my pride, don't wallow in misery, and move on. That is what I am going to do.
 
(((tinkat)))

ITA with your mom. You are young, beautiful, and are free to do as you please. I believe the coming months will bring true romantic love into your life.
 
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Wow, I feel sad and I dont even know what happened yet...Sounds like at that point she realized that she was being prepped for sale.

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vIt was more than a sale of bodies. The pimp,she and the girls are nothing but common thieves. They are in a scam to meet men as call girls then steal and extort. It's a large event too, an after party with nothing but men but single and married that are paying for a good time. But they get way more than what they bargained for. Oh this party thing travels all the major cities.
 
This is so strange:lol: i'm not used to such timid men, why aren't they approaching? I swear moving to this small arsed town is starting to get on my nerves. I miss being in Chicago, the men there acted like real men, approached, chatted with you like a lady. the guys on campus? hmpfh:nono:

Let me not even get on the case of the black men here:lol:, maybe its just my perception but I'm not getting any play from them. The small amount of play i'm getting is from white or non-black men. The brothers out here are so attractive but i'll be damned if i'm going to approach you when i've given every indication of being open and receptive to your advances. Wait, maybe i'm just the wrong skin color:lol:

Darn i miss Massachusetts, I guess i didn't know how good i had it until i moved out here. Why does Chi town have to be so far away from me? bleh:spinning:. I can't exactly afford to go out there every weekend. Gas prices are still ridiculous out here:nono:.

I guess its a good thing my next two months will be so busy, otherwise i'd be starting to wonder what the heck was wrong with me. I very well know its not me, its them. What a strange batch of men:look:
 
Ladies, can I ask your opinion of something? How do you know when it's worth it to stay with your SO? In a scenario where it's: 1. long distance, 2. the people involved are both working to better themselves (i.e. pay off debts, work, school) so that the relationship isn't as...emotionally binding, but still want to be together? It's a situation that's come up with me and honestly I'd say it's so hard to choose; but in the end how do you know what's best for you and that you won't look back thinking your decision was a mistake? :sad:
 
His mom loves me, thank god! She and her friend started giggling when they saw the stripper pole in our living room. She actually kicked her shoes off and started trying to climb it.

Now I know I'm marrying into the right family.
 
I have officially come to the realization that I am not meant to be in a relationship...

...I don't even have the energy anymore to deal.
 
Gah, I love going out and spending not a dime on excellent entertainment :yep:

Went salsa dancing tonight, which was so much fun! Dancing regularly again makes me more conscious of body softness and stiffness, forcing me to relax and just enjoy the moment. I miss being part of the community of dancers... I hadn't seen them in 3 months... They still remember and are very friendly with me, but I miss feeling like I was part of the in-group.

The friend I went with brought a guy along... Lawd knows why. She said a guy texted her recently saying he was thinking abt her. So, she sent him a text inviting him to salsa. Turns out he isn't the guy she thought he was! :lachen: she totally thought she sent the invite to another person entirely.

Turns out this dude is some dude she met on OKCupid years ago...

Turns out, too, that this guy and I had exchanged a few messages on OKC too :lol: awwwkward.

So, neither of us is interested, and she ignored him almost the entire hour that he was there... Poor guy left extra early. But who can blame him.



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So I told Match #1 I thought we should see other people. He took it really hard even though we only had one date and hadn't really talked since then.:ohwell: He was WAY too eager to move things forward and we clashed on important issues. Frankly, I'm surprised he worked up the nerve to call me since I kept blowing him off/was busy. He definitely knew what he was doing when he called me on a number I didn't recognize. Well I'm glad that's done and I can't wait for date #2 with Match #2 next week!
 
i'm not used to such timid men, why aren't they approaching? I swear moving to this small arsed town is starting to get on my nerves. I miss being in Chicago, the men there acted like real men, approached, chatted with you like a lady. the guys on campus? hmpfh:nono:

Let me not even get on the case of the black men here:lol:, maybe its just my perception but I'm not getting any play from them.

Welcome to my world. :look:

Well, atleast you know where to go to change things.
 
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whoooo that ET thread felt like a vent lol

yet people look at me like I'm a 4-eyed minotaur when I'm not interested in going certain places or certain folk's homes. It's like, I don't care who is going to be there with his friends and what team they play for. I've met enough of them to know have no interest in ever dating an athlete. *hump* yes, it's true, there are women that prefer a degree and a white-collar profession over super caked dude that throws a ball for a living and has hoes in different area codes *shocker* lol....

Money doesn't impress me, intellect does.

Interestingly most players I've met like me (not necessarily romantically) or think I'm interesting. They are so used to being spoiled and getting away with ignorance by k*ss a$$ women impressed by the glitz n glamour that cater them, that it's prob refreshing to get called out and fussed out on their foolishness. lol Like that one time at the restaurant when dude missed the initial event then showed up 3-4 hours late @ 1AM and kept texting instead of calling. ***. When he came in my girl was cheesing like it was her bday, I on the other hand told him about himself and made him apologize to all of us at the table. She might not mind (he made up by taking her shopping), but I don't tolerate disrespect & inconsideration. It's funny, that was his first time meeting me and he directed conversation at me and not my friend so much I had to act like I was busy texting bc I could tell he was starting to like me and my girl was looking like the 3rd wheel smh So yea, she hasn't introduced me to anymore of her bfs anymore...lmao
 
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