Ex-SO's bestfriend from childhood is getting married this weekend. How I know? Ex-SO himself texted me out of the blue to tell me (and that he is in their town for the wedding) and is also asking many random and inquisitive questions about my day.
I met this best-friend exactly 1.5 years ago, and he hadn't even met his fiancee yet. It's super sweet. Since they started dating, he seemed absolutely smitten with her.
So, basically 2 of my ex's 3 best friends have gotten engaged and married in the past...6 months. I wonder how that makes him feel
(well, mostly, I wonder why he's texting me so much today. We've been keeping conversation either extra short or non-existent the past 3 months).
See, when our relationship began to take a sour turn, and he was crushed that his mistake could lead to him losing me (and it did), he supposedly started having frank conversations with his best friends and other guys... letting them know to hold on tight to a good thing, and to try their hardest not to mess it up.
According to him, one of his roommates and his girlfriend was in a similar situation as he and I were (the sour turn), and had broken up. After some time, after working out their issues, they got back together, and the roommate proposed to the girlfriend immediately. That roommate told my ex that he used the advice my ex gave him to recapture and keep that good thing.
The only remaining single guy among my ex's best friends had a conversation with me about 6 months ago. He told me that he wishes that he felt for someone the way my ex feels about me.
Ex-SO also told me that he advised a younger male friend of his not to stall with this girl he was really into... not to wait to be exclusive and be public about his attachment to her. The guy took his advice, it seems.
Frankly, I don't know how to process these stories. Am I to feel flattered?
Because, uh, he should have had all these epiphanies much much sooner if he wanted to keep me. And I am not sure I care anymore, TBH.
As for him, I really do wonder how he feels... does he feel good that others are learning from his mistake and forming happy unions? Does he have remorse all over again? Hm.