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I was so scared to actually talk to my ex because I know he still has feelings for me and I was afraid I would still feel an attraction to him.
OMG He was soooo annoying! I forgot how much he talks! He's so insensitive and arrogant.
I wanted to RUN to my boyfriend and tell him I love him.
He really has raised the standard. If we don't end up together I know for fact I cant regress and go to someone who doesn't treat me like (this is corny) but like a queen.
Thank Jehova for him! :pray:
 
Note to self: Keep your dating adventures to yourself (or this thread). In particular avoid talking to church friends, although well-meaning they make this whole dating thing needlessly complicated!
 
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You make me stronger inside...You are very good to me, but you also challenge me in areas that I have never had to deal with. I hate you, I love you.
 
I can't believe i'm saying this but i'm really starting to enjoy myself out here! I went out last night with a ton of students from the same program and we had too much fun!

I'm glad things are starting to turn around for me:yep: I was feeling so bad last week wondering if i made the right choice coming out here but I suppose I just needed some time....
 
Girl... my social life in grad school was probably the best I ever had. If I put it in stages it would probably be grad school, hs, and college last.
 
So I found out about my first date set up by the matchmaking service I'm trying. I was hoping for an interracial match but this guy is well educated and based on the physical descriptions just what I'm looking for. He's within my age range and doesn't have any kids. So I'm going to approach it with an open mind.:yep: One thing I like about this service is that they are big on their clients giving feedback. So if this match doesn't work, I can tell them what I want more or less of and try again!:grin: I'm supposed to meet my date either this weekend or next weekend!!
 
Guys are so lazy nowadays! How re you going to want to take me out but I'm choosing the place, time, and everything in between? Grow some balls!
 
I've been living on my own (no family, no roommates, NOBODY but me) for over 2 years now. I still breathe a sigh of contentment when I come home from work or wherever and it's me and my little 675 sq ft of MY STUFF, just where I left it.
So sometimes, even though I sort of have marriage "someday" as a vision...I don't know, y'all...It's going to take a lot of work to get me to the point where I can share my sanctuary space with someone 24/7 :ohwell:
*sigh*
 
Things I did for my relationship before the hurricane:

1. Picked my engagement ring...
2. Picked my save the date
3. Went on a date
4. Did some things with dbf that...um...there better be a hurricane....
 
Question, am I supposed to mention when my ex tries to get in contact with me? My ex keeps trying to fly and see me or call and get in contact with me. My mother and best friends think I should get back with him. I don't! So should I tell my current SO when these things happen? I tell him now and he seems to not care. What should I do ladies? I need advice but I don't feel like creating a thread.
 
Everyone on both sides of the family asked me about him last night and I had to tell everyone that we broke up and I felt like calling him and tell him he stinks like hot monkey ball sweat and we have another family party tonight this is the worse breakup I ever experienced  I don't know how I am going to make it
 
It's really funny when you're friends w/ guys and can hear their side of the breakup. Especially when the girl consistently bashes them or talks about them trying to be in their life, when you know that it goes both ways and they contact just as much if not more lol.

Reminds me that there's always three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
 
He bought us a bottle of Moet & Chandon last night. It came in a pretty pinkish (pink is my favorite color) box with silver letters. I asked what for, as I don't drink. He said, "We'll pop it open for our first major milestone ie: getting married, having a baby, buying a new house, et cetera."

I went to look at one of his properties yesterday with him and he was talkin' about how he already knows how he wants dormer the house when we move in. My dude rocks! He makes me so happy!

If I had a flowy skirt/dress on, I'd twirl in it and fall on my bed with my hands clutched together, LOL.
 
Lucie said:
He bought us a bottle of Moet & Chandon last night. It came in a pretty pinkish (pink is my favorite color) box with silver letters. I asked what for, as I don't drink. He said, "We'll pop it open for our first major milestone ie: getting married, having a baby, buying a new house, et cetera."

I went to look at one of his properties yesterday with him and he was talkin' about how he already knows how he wants dormer the house when we move in. My dude rocks! He makes me so happy!

If I had a flowy skirt/dress on, I'd twirl in it and fall on my bed with my hands clutched together, LOL.
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Isn't it amazing the difference a year in your life can make? You deserve this. I'm so happy for you. :yep:
 
Vent*

Is it normal to feel like siht when all of your friends are getting engaged...or married and your SO is sitting there with a durp face?

Would you leave because of a partner not being "proactive" about marriage??

I hate this...great guy, great relationship...yet...I feel this is deal breaker..ish

Thoughts? :sad:
 
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Simply_elle said:
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Is it normal to feel like siht when all of your friends are getting engaged...or married and your SO is sitting there with a durp face?

Would you leave because of a partner not being "proactive" about marriage??

I hate this...great guy, great relationship...yet...I feel this is deal breaker..ish

Thoughts? :sad:
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Is he not marriage minded at all? I wouldn't compare myself to everyone else's timeline...many of the ppl who got engaged/married before me either didn't walk down the aisle, are divorced, or aren't very happy. Do things on your own timeline... now if he's just saying he doesn't ever want to get married that would be a deal breaker.
 
Simply_elle said:
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Is it normal to feel like siht when all of your friends are getting engaged...or married and your SO is sitting there with a durp face?

Would you leave because of a partner not being "proactive" about marriage??

I hate this...great guy, great relationship...yet...I feel this is deal breaker..ish

Thoughts? :sad:
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If we had been together for longer than two years and I wanted to discuss marriage and he didn't, I doubt we'd make it to the third year.
 
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If we had been together for longer than two years and I wanted to discuss marriage and he didn't, I doubt we'd make it to the third year.
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Ditto, a man doesn't need that long to know if he wants to marry you. If he doesn't want to talk about it, i'd take that as a sign to be on my merry way.

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Not really on some one else's timeline...

we've been together two years... And we talked about it, call me stupid but I shouldn't feel the need to coach my SO into marriage? I'm happy...yet this is really bugging me(if that makes sense) I'm not the five year girlfriend type...nor do I not believe in shacking up...So if we don't marry it feels like relationship groundhog day... I'd love to move on and have (more) kids...

On the other hand I feel so ungrateful...He's a sweet man wth? :perplexed:
 
Simply_elle said:
Not really on some one else's timeline...

we've been together two years... And we talked about it, call me stupid but I shouldn't feel the need to coach my SO into marriage? I'm happy...yet this is really bugging me(if that makes sense) I'm not the five year girlfriend type...nor do I not believe in shacking up...So if we don't marry it feels like relationship groundhog day... I'd love to move on and have (more) kids...

On the other hand I feel so ungrateful...He's a sweet man wth? :perplexed:
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Have you guys talked about a timeline for the two of you? When I finally decided I wanted to be married, and that changed after we had been dating for 3 years I had to let him know and discuss what was an appropriate timeline. Prior to that I kept saying I didn't want to be married and neither did he, but that changed for me and initially he wasn't on board because he felt like I changed our plan. We broke up... got back together and will be married before the year is over.

I guess what I'm trying to say is you don't have to coach him, but you do have to state your expectations...don't expect him to be a mind reader. Let him know you're ready and would like to know that you're on the same page about a future together in the very near future.
 
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