***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

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Some of you are posting 2 liners that are so juicy it must be shared....we are here for you...I am here for you...PM me!

But seriously, this thread is really going. Feeling so blessed to share this with you guys!

::: goes to PM inbox, sits and waits:::
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SUPER SWEET said:
I nearly :barf: when she told me what she had done. I just can't be a friend to her anymore. I just can't...:nono:
Women go hard competing but this....:nono:
I need to tell someone else this but my mouth can't even bring it out.:sick:
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If you need a nonjudgemental person to talk to, I am here.

Pm me anytime....

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Softerlove said:
Spill! 2 men?!

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Ok, I'll try to keep this short. First, I haven't been seeing anyone since last fall and saw no prospects on the horizon.

Man #1 -In June I was asked out by a former HS classmate but he came on fast and hard and clingy as hell to boot! :ohwell: I jumped ship and gave the 'incompatible' speech and moved on.

Well....he can't seem to:nono:I broke it off and he was stunned. Said its never happened to him before and he needs closure:eek: Really?!!! We went out ONCE!!! I'm extra surprised since he came across as a 'playa' so I didn't take it seriously at all.

Boy bye! Finally stopped randomly calling and texting me after 3 weeks.

Fast forward to today...we work in the same building and we happen to get on the elevator together. We acknowledge and are cordial. An hour later, he's blowing my phone up AGAIN:wallbash: I only answered to say "Ive moved on plz do the same'

This fool tells me that I'm just scared because I know he's the one for me and don't want to fall so deeply in love with him!:rofl: He's delusional.


Man #2- Chance meeting at a relative's out of state and we were immediately smitten with one another. We talk/text every day and he is by far the most romantic man I've ever met. In fact, he was the deciding factor to dump Man #1:sekret: Its going so well I'm reluctant to talk about it to anyone. I just enjoy his company so much. He's a REAL grownup...finally!
 
Why is it so hard to stay positive? I keep thinking that he's lying about everything, that he's dating someone else too ( which is his right ) and feeling her more than me, that this isn't going to go anywhere even though we just had a convo about what we wanted.
 
I literally laughed out loud at this text message I just got:

So how about you cook a nice meal, we have a drink, and watch the game together

:nono: Ninjas think they slick..I see you trying to weasel your way out of taking me out and showing me a good time by having me slave over a hot stove...We have only seen each other twice..Miss me with the lame a** attempt at some game..Cook for you? You are not my man, nowhere near close, you dont deserve the perks..You supposed to be courting me..
 
Dude stays doing things at the last minute. :ohwell:

He is not a planner. Not really romantic :ohwell:

Didn't know that I needed these things, but I guess I do.
 
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I really want to Thank You for the kind words.... I need them.
It's hard to step away from the 1st person that showed me LOVE in ATL. I was new to the city and she was the ONLY AFAM woman to show me the lil things that count. But I can't be apart of this mess. From what i've heard DUDE is no-good and not to be crossed.
I'll post later on tonite after I get back from our last cocktail as close friends.....:nono::ohwell::sad:
 
I'm starting to feel old. Seems like everyone is getting married and having children who's my age.

But the thing is I don't even like kids or have a desire to get married. I'm even iffy on a boyfriend right now. The only thing I'd be willing to commit to right now is maybe a plant, I not even willing to take care of a pet, lol.

I know its silly to get caught up in what you "should" be wanting/doing and what other people are doing. And I usually don't. But it does cross my mind every now and then and I feel like such an oddball.
 
Why do people say long distance relationships are so hard?

I would think it'd be easy bc you aren't in each other faces enough to get on each others nerves.
 
Imani said:
I'm starting to feel old. Seems like everyone is getting married and having children who's my age.

But the thing is I don't even like kids or have a desire to get married. I'm even iffy on a boyfriend right now. The only thing I'd be willing to commit to right now is maybe a plant, I not even willing to take care of a pet, lol.

I know its silly to get caught up in what you "should" be wanting/doing and what other people are doing. And I usually don't. But it does cross my mind every now and then and I feel like such an oddball.
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I can relate to this 100% Everyone is starting to get married/have babies. I don't know what's wrong with me but I never really wanted to have kids or cared about marriage. Recently, I have realized that I would like to be married because I had an aha moment and I guess I "get" it now. Before it was like "why are people tripping about this? It's not cute :look:" :lol: But even now that I "get" it, I'm not ready for it now. HOWEVER, with everyone around me starting to settle down (and is it weird that Beyonce's pregnancy has affected me too? Like the end of a hot girl, p-popping era? #dontjudgeme for letting Beyonce influence my life), as I was walking to my car yesterday I realized that I sort of feel a void of a void. Like, I don't necessarily feel lonely that I don't have kids and am not married--on the contrary, if I were to see in a crystal ball that this time next year I'd be married and pregnant I'd probably do a wallslide of terror, but at the same time I feel like something is missing. It's weird. Like, I don't personally miss it, but I'm starting to be like, "wait. um....... :look:"
 
Imani said:
Why do people say long distance relationships are so hard?

I would think it'd be easy bc you aren't in each other faces enough to get on each others nerves.
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When you want to see them you cant.

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InchHighPrivateEye said:
I can relate to this 100% Everyone is starting to get married/have babies. I don't know what's wrong with me but I never really wanted to have kids or cared about marriage. Recently, I have realized that I would like to be married because I had an aha moment and I guess I "get" it now. Before it was like "why are people tripping about this? It's not cute :look:" :lol: But even now that I "get" it, I'm not ready for it now. HOWEVER, with everyone around me starting to settle down (and is it weird that Beyonce's pregnancy has affected me too? Like the end of a hot girl, p-popping era? #dontjudgeme for letting Beyonce influence my life), as I was walking to my car yesterday I realized that I sort of feel a void of a void. Like, I don't necessarily feel lonely that I don't have kids and am not married--on the contrary, if I were to see in a crystal ball that this time next year I'd be married and pregnant I'd probably do a wallslide of terror, but at the same time I feel like something is missing. It's weird. Like, I don't personally miss it, but I'm starting to be like, "wait. um....... :look:"
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Plus 1

You are not alone at all.

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I want the real thing. I'm ready for the real thing. Haven't I been patient enough?

Sick of dating losers liars and little boys.
 
@urbainchic This is sooooooooo me right now!!!:yep: I too am so sick of dating losers, liars, and two-timing little boys!!!! They lie about every little things and want to make you feel bad for questioning their motives and intentions.......I just want to scream right now!!! :angry2:



UrbainChic said:
I want the real thing. I'm ready for the real thing. Haven't I been patient enough?

Sick of dating losers liars and little boys.
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I've been quelling my longing for an apology with the reminder that every.single.time I have given a guy a second chance, he's done me wrong 1000 times worse than the first time.

Really, every single time. I have no redeeming story. That is with every guy in my life so far. Whether they are conscious of it or no (they MUST be, no?), it seems that every acceptance of an apology is a window to do even more wrong, be even more inconsiderate, etc.

I am tired of encouraging such behavior by giving in to apologies. When my HS boyfriend tried to get me to get back with him, an entire year after zero communication, he told me that it felt like I "allowed" him to be the way he was. Allowed! And by allowing, he meant that I forgave, once an apology was given:nono: Yes, I am tired of "allowing" guys to be inconsiderate toward me by being willing to (even cautiously) absolve their wrongdoings.

I always thought this statement was harsh: "When someone shows you who he is the first time, believe him." I didn't think a wrongdoing HAD to be an indication that the person who did it was no good... that we all make mistakes, yada yada yada, but any infringement on basic respect early on, any inkling at inconsideration, seems to the clue that this person is inconsiderate, disrespectful, and therefore need not be dealt with.
 
Ok hun, when people don't respond to several emails or texts, it usually means they don't wanna talk to you. Take.a.hike.
 
I focused on wanting marriage and kids for so long that I am starting to feel nonchalant about it all. This scares me.
 
Imani said:
Why do people say long distance relationships are so hard?

I would think it'd be easy bc you aren't in each other faces enough to get on each others nerves.
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WOAH Lady...

When your primary communication is over the phone...Some things you just can NOT convey through chat...can frustrate the h3ll out of you both! (Either love or anger its just better in person!)

Lack of sex can be frustrating...Facetime can only do so much :ohwell:

When you DO decide to move on who moves? (I'm doing this right now)

Trust. Yeah. Mean my ole man/lady is 12 hours away it breeds insecurity sometimes...

Cost of seeing each other...I just quit my pt airline job...so now plane tickets are in budget... It gets expensive...And who in the hayle is up for a 12hr drive?

Easy..yeah no simple call and come over boo:nono:

Not to mention your time together FLIES by waa!!!


*Sorry my relationship distance suckage is showing right now:lol:
 
Going on a gym date tonight and I'm not that excited about it.

I usually get it in at the gym, hard body, sweating and all.

So now I have to maintain some level of attraction :ohwell:...this is going to be awwwkwarrd.
 
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