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I say to people all the time that I must have been a serial killer in my past life. :look:

But I'm really gonna try my best to stop worrying about this aspect of my life. I spent more time lamenting being single and thinking about my current situation on my vacation that I should have. And quite frankly, I'm tired of spending so much energy on these things. Whatever will be will be. In the meantime, I need to get serious about the parts of my life that I can control.

MzLady78 we are>>>>>> here<<<<<

I am focused on passing the CPA exam, losing my last 20lbs, spiritual growth and paying of my student loans.

Glad you had a good time and welcome back!!!:bighug:
 
I say to people all the time that I must have been a serial killer in my past life. :look:

But I'm really gonna try my best to stop worrying about this aspect of my life. I spent more time lamenting being single and thinking about my current situation on my vacation that I should have. And quite frankly, I'm tired of spending so much energy on these things. Whatever will be will be. In the meantime, I need to get serious about the parts of my life that I can control.


Ok this reminds me of my best friend always saying that she must have killed a school bus full of children in her past life. It makes me feel sad. Or when my daughter sometimes shouts fml--I HAAATE that one.

But I do know how it feels to wonder if you did something so terrible to deserve what's happening now. But we havent. It does get better. It really does. But it starts with the personal messages we tell ourselves. Been on both sides of it ALL. Again, it really does get better.

(((((((Hugs)))))))
 
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Hmm... so I think I'm scared to date a white dude. I am all for it when it comes to black women as a whole looking outside their race for love, but when it comes to me, I just shrink back like no, not right now. :lol:

There's this guy, and if he was black he'd be PERFECT, I mean, everything I'd want in a guy. And I'd probably be all over him. But he's not, so I'm like meh. Every time he asks me to do something, I tell him I'm busy.

What's wrong with me.
 
Well, well, well. Haven't heard from you in a while. Just rediscovered my number have we? Things must be slow :lol: Quit calling, its not like I'm gonna answer, coon.
 
To anyone who thinks life isn't going how they want because of something they did in a past lifetime: stop it! I know you may only be half-joking, but perhaps are half-telling the truth. In my therapy work the foundational message is that I am good, sweet, and beautiful at my core. You have to reclaim the truth: that you are good and deserving. Somewhere along the way we lost that fundamental truth. When you say I must have done something really bad in a past life, you are essentially saying that you deserve to be single and lonely, it is your fault, and something is wrong with you.

I'm definitely half joking. :lol: I know nothing has happened in my current life THAT bad that it might be punishment for doing something horrible in another life. But yeah, sometimes when I have these setbacks, like losing my job after finally starting to recover from the AZ fiasco, I definitely have to wonder what I'm doing or have done wrong. But I know that I deserve love, happiness and to have a good life.

MzLady78 we are>>>>>> here<<<<<

I am focused on passing the CPA exam, losing my last 20lbs, spiritual growth and paying of my student loans.

Glad you had a good time and welcome back!!!:bighug:

Thanks! :)

I feel you, I just told my sister right now, I'm trying to focus on paying off some of this debt, losing weight so I can get a bikini when I go on my next vacation and being in a better place mentally.

Ok this reminds me of my best friend always saying that she must have killed a school buss full of children in her past life. It makes me feel sad. Or when my daughter sometimes shouts fml--I HAAATE that one.

But I do know how it feels to wonder if you did something so terrible to deserve what's happening now. But we havent. It does get better. It really does. But it starts with the personal messages we tell ourselves. Been on both sides of it ALL. Again, it really does get better.

(((((((Hugs)))))))

I have to remind myself of this all the time. I don't know when I became such a negative thinker, maybe just seeing and experiencing so many different things over the last few years. I have to work on this.
 
The cons of dating a nerd, they can be socially inept.


So the nerd needs coaching, he's not so great in communication but he said he would step up. I told if he wasn't that into me to just leave me alone, but he said he's stressed out from work, which he is, and that he is interested. Here's the thing though he reminds me of my sister, which I kept telling him throughout our date. My sister sucks at communicating if your not in person, he said he would go a month before talking to his parents when he was at college. They're both introverted and socially awkward but will talk to you if you speak to them, however they don't see to take the initiative to make the other person feel as if they are interested in them..... Be that is it may however I still don't find it to be a good excuse especially since I have told him, so like I said I told him my complaints and he said he will do better. We'll see....
 
Why did I screw up the best relationship that I've ever had? Sure, it had it's downside but looking back and knowing what I know now.....that wasn't so bad.

I'm going to be alone forever. FML.
 
Three Full Hours With You Today:cloud9:. I Won't Lie I'm In Love:infatuated:.

ETA: When That Man Told Me He'd Have Me Lickin My Fingers When Eating His Food. *Faint*
Then He Whispered To Me "Just Watch You Will Be My Wife All Mines":blush3:. (Lawd Help Me)
 
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Hmm... so I think I'm scared to date a white dude. I am all for it when it comes to black women as a whole looking outside their race for love, but when it comes to me, I just shrink back like no, not right now. :lol:

There's this guy, and if he was black he'd be PERFECT
, I mean, everything I'd want in a guy. And I'd probably be all over him. But he's not, so I'm like meh. Every time he asks me to do something, I tell him I'm busy.

What's wrong with me.

freelove yeah what is wrong with you?:lol::perplexed why are you standing in your own way? re-read what you just wrote to yourself. Does it even make sense to not give this guy a chance? What's the harm in going out to dinner or catching a movie or going to starbucks? He's not asking you to marry him you know:lol:

See what I just highlighted there? re-read that again:lol:


hums *I have a dream that someday human beings will stop looking at one another as black, white or yellow and focus on the humanity of that person*:yep:
 
We've been friends for 8yrs....Why you had to go mess this up by loving me more than a friend? Your too good to me and I wish I could feel the same way but i'm not physically attracted to you. Why cant I see you more than a friend... is it cause i'm really shallow or is it because i dont want to lose your friendship? Can you handle being just my friend? Do you love me enough to let me go? How did you fall for me and I aint give you no benefits! You've treated me better then any guy I've dated yet we've never really dated lol Why am I mad at myself for not fallin for you back? Is it because i'm scared that your the best I ever had and I might not find anyone better You love me flaws and all so why cant I do the same?
 
@MzLady78 we are>>>>>> here<<<<<

I am focused on passing the CPA exam, losing my last 20lbs, spiritual growth and paying of my student loans.

Glad you had a good time and welcome back!!!:bighug:

Do_Si_Dos best wishes on your CPA exam:yep: I have a friend who sat for that exam a few months back and did so well on it. I'm proud of her but from what I keep hearing it is not the easiest exam out there.
 
danibeeja_gyal I'm not 100% sure but I think I would have to throw that nerd back in the ocean. You will always be questioning how he really feels about you which will get old and could hurt your self-esteem. You are way too young and pretty to settle like that IMO.
 
hopeful he called me today and actually did what I told him to. But don't worry i'm not invested in him, i've actually been toying with the idea of having him as just a friend.
 
So, two years after you inexplicably throw away our friendship, you re-add me on Facebook and ask me do I think about you. Guess things didn't work out with the chick you thought was more deserving of your time.

I'm telling you, they always come back....
 
@freelove yeah what is wrong with you?:lol::perplexed why are you standing in your own way? re-read what you just wrote to yourself. Does it even make sense to not give this guy a chance? What's the harm in going out to dinner or catching a movie or going to starbucks? He's not asking you to marry him you know:lol:

See what I just highlighted there? re-read that again:lol:


hums *I have a dream that someday human beings will stop looking at one another as black, white or yellow and focus on the humanity of that person*:yep:

lol Etherealsmile I don't really know. You're right its extremely silly :lol:

If he asks me out again, I'll go.
 
I'm back from Puerto Rico. I had a good time overall, but I will say, I've never felt more single in my life. :look:
You know I felt the same way when I went to Maui....it seemed that everyone was coupled up...for the first time in a long time I actually felt lonely and that feeling of loneliness didn't go away even weeks after I was back at home. I think I posted about that somewhere in this thread. I had a really good time by myself though. Now, I'm back to enjoying my single life now, lol.
 
When someone posts a personal situation about a "friend", I automatically think it's the poster's situation... I dont think anything negative though, I just assume so and actually feel empathy. I could be wrong though. I keep a prayer in my heart for each situation...these hot mess situations could be any of us.

My random thought for the morning...
 
So, two years after you inexplicably throw away our friendship, you re-add me on Facebook and ask me do I think about you. Guess things didn't work out with the chick you thought was more deserving of your time.

I'm telling you, they always come back....


got me thinking of Drakes- Marvins Room :look:
 
You know I felt the same way when I went to Maui....it seemed that everyone was coupled up...for the first time in a long time I actually felt lonely and that feeling of loneliness didn't go away even weeks after I was back at home. I think I posted about that somewhere in this thread. I had a really good time by myself though. Now, I'm back to enjoying my single life now, lol.

Yeah, it was weird. I didn't feel like that when I went to Bermuda by myself a few years ago, and I was there longer and everything. But either way, it was fun and I'm glad I went.

got me thinking of Drakes- Marvins Room :look:

I keep seeing references to this song, but I've never heard it. I'll have to check it out.

I don't have a grudge, I did accept his request and talk to him by private message back and forth. We've actually been in touch here and there prior to this, and I ran into him once. I just think it's funny because it never.fails. They always resurface. I went through his pics and the ones he had of him and the chick I think he moved on to after me are gone.
 
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