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The nerd date went well, he's so sexy with his glasses on :lick: and we have alot in common. I also LOVE the fact that I can get my way, he was like it's your world baby, anything you want, I was like yea that's right!!! LOL
 
Ok you guyses nerd talk reminds me of a conversation I had with a rather bitter former nerd. I mean this dude was bitter as hayel. He said that he hates when women grow up after they get dogged by all the bad boys and dudes with swagger, they wanna run to the nerds with all their baggage and sometimes kids to boot for a good life. He feels like if these type of women wouldnt give him the time of day back then, he dont want them now. He says he is able to tell these women apart from others simply because they tell him exactly how their lives have gone and what they want now as if it should be a compliment to him.

I think he has some sort of personality disorder behind it. He sorta reminds me of the faux nice guy (described on this board) too.

Just sharing
 
Low self esteem is a relationship killer..if you have an attractive, smart, decent man yes other women will holler at him..let the birds flock and Hold Your Head ladies
 
So Mr. Eharmony is back in town this weekend. He lives about 2.5 hours away from me...but still in GA. Last weekend he drove over for our date, but this visit is more about professional work related stuff. He will be here until the 29th, so we've pretty much made it clear that we will see each other during his two weeks here. :spinning:

And he's a nerd too; with the nice rimless glasses as well. :lick:
 
This man is just so damn awesome. He bought groceries, made me the best dinner and refused to let me clean up. Dessert, had me seein' stars. When we woke up (sorta late) he made the most healthiest and tastiest lunch. His conversations are just delicious and I am so smitten. I haven't seen him in 6 hours and miss the hayell outta him! *swoons*
 
Lucie said:
This man is just so damn awesome. He bought groceries, made me the best dinner and refused to let me clean up. Dessert, had me seein' stars. When we woke up (sorta late) he made the most healthiest and tastiest lunch. His conversations are just delicious and I am so smitten. I haven't seen him in 6 hours and miss the hayell outta him! *swoons*
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You deserve this! :yep: So tell us about him? How did you meet?
 
Lucie said:
This man is just so damn awesome. He bought groceries, made me the best dinner and refused to let me clean up. Dessert, had me seein' stars. When we woke up (sorta late) he made the most healthiest and tastiest lunch. His conversations are just delicious and I am so smitten. I haven't seen him in 6 hours and miss the hayell outta him! *swoons*
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Wow! Good for you! :grin:
 
deltadreamland said:
You deserve this! :yep: So tell us about him? How did you meet?
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Aww....... thanks! I actually met him at a wake. :look: I know it's God sense of humor because I used to always laugh at my dad while getting ready for a wake. Fresh haircut, shiny shoes, pressed suit! And I'd think is he going to a wake or on a date? He used to always tell me how it's a blast from the past with his old friends and that there are available women there usually. :perplexed :rolleyes:

Lo and behold, I saw this man walking towards the first row and thought I wanna lick the he11 out of his face! :blush: :lol: I felt instantly bad and tried to repent but he was distracting me. After the service was over I went to give him my condolences and left. The next day I told my sis, how hot I thought the guy who sang was. She laughed. It turns out, he had asked her all about me. Two days later we were all hanging out at his sister's house and the rest is history.

pookaloo83 said:
Wow! Good for you! :grin:
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Thanks!
Highly Favored8 said:
@Lucie happy for you! Looking good in your Siggy!
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Thanks a bunch Highly Favored8! :grin:
 
I think I'm not as open to dating outside of my race as much as I thought.I don't know if its the confidence issue,the plight of racial issues,or maybe I'm a bit scared of the intimacy issues or maybe I want to prove folks wrong that I can find a good black man.

I need to be more proactive about dating as I know he won't find me at Sephora or at Kroger..maybe Wholefoods though lol.
 
@GoddessMaker
If Dating Outside Your Race Isn't Your Thang That's Okay. We All Have Our Preference.
And Also You Never Know Where "Mr. Right" May Be. I Think I May Have Found One At A Girlie Store:giggle:.
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GoddessMaker said:
I think I'm not as open to dating outside of my race as much as I thought.I don't know if its the confidence issue,the plight of racial issues,or maybe I'm a bit scared of the intimacy issues or maybe I want to prove folks wrong that I can find a good black man.

I need to be more proactive about dating as I know he won't find me at Sephora or at Kroger..maybe Wholefoods though lol.
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GoddessMaker
My engaged friend was telling me that she has learned that sometimes it is a goofiest, out of your race, not so hot guys that can sweep you off your feet.

I understand about the Sephora thing, I tell girls I like (my hobbies) shopping and makeup, but would hate a guy who liked the same things. We have to work harder!:lol:
 
i'm sorry... but i have to be a debbie downer for a second... i can count off-hand right now at LEAST 10 women that i know that are in relationships with men who cheat, lie, and/or are abusive (physically, emotionally, verbally)... and one is with a crackhead... these women are beautiful and faithful... women who take care of kids and home.

my question or issue is... why should i feel like i'll attract a man into my world that will NOT cheat, lie, or be abusive (or have any worse issues) when i'm surrounded by all this foolishness? things are just looking grim right now... i don't have any positive or even half-way positive man/woman MONOGAMOUS relationships to look to for even a glimmer of hope... i'm so discouraged... i'm learning a lot from you seasoned ladies... and even the not-so-seasoned and i'm working on becoming the best me possible... i'm not even trying to be in a serious relationship right now... i KNOW i'm not ready... but i want kids with a HUSBAND one day... not a baby daddy... and i don't want to be getting married only to get divorced in 3 years... or in a relationship where we're just passing the time because we have kids to raise and neither one of us is getting anything from this relationship... i'm rambling on-and-on... but i'm scared y'all... i.am.scared. #seriously.

i guess i need to really let my faith kick into high-gear and not worry about what it looks like and what's going on with other people... God knows the desires of my heart.
 
I love reading "What about the brothas that you turned down in HS? Or the one in college but who didn't have a car?"...So, now in my late 20s or 30s (not me) it was MY fault for turning down a 17 and a 21 year old? Like I missed the boat on that one...? You're telling me that I am single because I didn't want to think about marriage when I was 17 or 21? Just annoying. Everyone else gets their choice, but black women are suddenly too picky.

Just a thought. I'm dating and happy.
 
Keshieshimmer said:
@Angelicus I just wanted to say that your are really beautiful, and I am really starting to think that men just maybe intimated by your beauty and success. What is WRONG in AZ!?
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Keshieshimmer, I really think that it's an AZ thing. The whole 3% black men statistic is killing me to the point where I want to move IMMEDIATELY after finishing ministry school. The majority of the black men I've seen here are African and they aren't too bright as you can see from my blog posts. The rest of them refuse to put a shirt on and walk around with a wifebeater on.I guess the sun out here makes people look old because I can't find any young ones. I tried that whole "okcupid" thing but after just one day I had to let that mess go-- boring + ugly men? C'monnnnnnn son!

I did actually go out last night but and it was horrible. Not even worth typing about and I want to give up so bad. BUT WHY WASTE THE PRETTY!?
 
danibeeja_gyal said:
@Angelicus
you say your in ministry school? Well maybe your just supposed to focus on that alone for now and leave the dating for later.
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danibeeja_gyal now you know my flesh doesn't want to hear that answer :lol: I'll be done in a year. In the meantime, the men here are still wiggidy wiggidy... I took almost three years off dating and just got back into it and it's not looking too good. I think I am about to give up and retire. :sad:
 
A really random thought while looking at prison shows it pisses me off seeing this dudes being able to get out and get a boo like dang I have no record and am making strides of being a productive citizen in society and I can't get a hello from no one..I was so born the wrong sex.
 
GoddessMaker said:
A really random thought while looking at prison shows it pisses me off seeing this dudes being able to get out and get a boo like dang I have no record and am making strides of being a productive citizen in society and I can't get a hello from no one..I was so born the wrong sex.
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:rofl:So Many Things I Want To Say.
 
I've Learned To Respect Love With Its Comings And Goings.
I've Also Learned That Those Dating Self Help Books Are Sometimes (If Not Always) No Good (At Least For Me).:lol:
The Answers We Seek In Love Are Within Ourselves:look:(Who Would Have Thought).
 
Angelicus said:

Keshieshimmer, I really think that it's an AZ thing. The whole 3% black men statistic is killing me to the point where I want to move IMMEDIATELY after finishing ministry school. The majority of the black men I've seen here are African and they aren't too bright as you can see from my blog posts. The rest of them refuse to put a shirt on and walk around with a wifebeater on.I guess the sun out here makes people look old because I can't find any young ones. I tried that whole "okcupid" thing but after just one day I had to let that mess go-- boring + ugly men? C'monnnnnnn son!

I did actually go out last night but and it was horrible. Not even worth typing about and I want to give up so bad. BUT WHY WASTE THE PRETTY!?
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Honey, we are on the same accord with the bolded. Last night I got so pretty. After spending the day volunteering at my church's rummage sale (which got rained on :ohwell:... But I still had fun :)) I just wanted to go out and kick it hard. Earlier in the day my best friend tells me that some friends of hers are going to be at a club after their show and I'm like yea, let's go! :grin: Later she says they're not going anymore and if I wanted to hang at their hotel room. I'm like yea, whatever. :yawn: We go there twice because of some mix-ups and I really felt like I wasted my pretty. I wore the cutest outfit, did my makeup (I usually mess up with it and this time I did a good job!), and I was proud of my look!

And no one (that was worth it) saw me! :whyme::cry::cry::cry:
 
I've been friends with this guy for a while now. We went to school together, he was an undergrad and I was grad student. He works around where I live and I see him frequently. We talk about lots of things and I'm really comfortable around him. He's family oriented, has great goals for the future and my family really likes him. Recently he's been casually making comments about us going out and asking how well I am with long distance relationships (He lives about an hour away). He's even mentioned going on a weekend trip together. I've been out of the dating game for a while and I have a tendency to rush things so i'm just trying to fall back and let things happen.
 
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