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Really Would Like Too See You But I Have To Follow The Rules. Sometimes This Is All Confusing Too Me.
(G-D Willing) We Will Be Together I Just Have To Have Faith And Patience. *Sigh*
 
sorry for the long post

hopeful said:
You are not cursed. You are a beautiful young woman with a bright future. Hold on. Focus your energy on something else for awhile.
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@hopeful
Thanks you..You always have such positive word of encouragement and advice and you dont have to do that..I appreciate it very much

RarityFluttershy said:
What Happen?
You Are Too Pretty To Be Putting Up With Non-Sense. (((HUGS)))
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@RarityFluttershy
Awww thanks sis..I know I post this phrase alot, but Im a grown arse woman..I dont need a chaperone, and thats exactly how I felt last night..I was under the impression it was just gonna be me and him but he brought his cousin along. I felt uncomfortable right from the jump..I felt like I was being evaluated...like he brought me to get approval from his cousin..We are all sitting at the bar with "Mr.Monday Night" in the middle..so he is trying to make conversation with both of us..This is our first meet up after the initial introduction, you are supposed to be getting to know me, paying attention to me..So while they are talking about football and whatever else, I ate my food (it was really good) and jumped on LHCF.. Two can play that game..Im like 25% into my food and he says, "we're headed to club such and such, I want you to come with us"
Me: I just got my food, when are you planning on leaving?
Him: in about 5 minutes
Me::ohwell: You cant wait until I finish?
Him: You can meet us there
Me: (negro you don lost your mind if you think Im gonna eat, then follow you to the club and you wont even wait and make an atttempt to talk to me) Out loud I said, "Sure I'll see you there"

They leave, I finish my food and finish watching the game then I go home..He called me about a hour and a half later and had the nerve to be upset...saying "why didnt I show up", how his cousin "knew the deal" and how "i was on the phone all night being rude".. For real? Me? And you brought someone else to our meetup without even telling me, halfway ignore me while Im there, and then leave me to follow you? You got the game all effed up..I dont chase anything but my bad arse poodle and last minute sales at the Galleria..
I deleted his number on the way home..and after that conversation, I hope he deleted mine.
 
@SuchMagnificance
He Could Have Been A Gentlemen And Told You From The Jump That His Cousin Would Be Accompanying You Two On The Date. He Could Have Waited For You To Finish Eating. Why Does The Cousin Have So Much Weight:huh:.
Where Was His Girl?

Wow. (SMH) Men These Days Are A Different Breed. Sorry You Had To Endure This Type Of Behavior.:grouphug2:
There Is Someone Out There For You:yep:.
 
SuchMagnificance

I've had the same thing happen to me before! I should have just left, but I stayed and it was pretty uncomfortable to say the least. It ended the same way, the guy told me him and his friend that he brought along on our "date" were leaving to go to the casino and asked if I wanted to follow them there. I declined of course :ohwell:

I don't know why a grown as$ man would bring another man to hang out with a woman, even worse not letting her know beforehand! :perplexed
 
@SuchMagnificance he sounds like an a$$ and thickheaded, simpleminded to boot. It is not hard to comprehend why you were upset or didn't show up at the club. The simplest thing he could've done was to inform you that there will be a third party on the date. At least that's what reasonable, understanding human beings do:look:

Don't be so hard on yourself sis:yep:, your guy is out there, unfortunately you might have to go through the proverbial frogs before finding him. IA with @hopeful focus your energy on something else for awhile
 
Isn't it amazing when you're in a good place, that songs that you never really paid attention to seem to make sense?
and just have so much more meaning?

By the way, occasional space and distance does wonders for a relationship. It sort of refreshes it.
 
I dont chase anything but my bad arse poodle and last minute sales at the Galleria..
I deleted his number on the way home..and after that conversation, I hope he deleted mine.[/QUOTE]

I ♥ this :yep: Can you recc some good sports bars in Houston? Now that football season's back on I plan to get out a lil more
 
SuchMagnificance said:
Them is names for a KANG

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Ok ... :lol:



ChasingBliss said:
:lol: pretty much what Suchmagnificance said.

We also use those names for typical hood dudes like the clown down the block who always got a hustle but never got no money...and the like


Does your culture have typical names for the lower class acting types? Is there a running theme that causes folks to crack jokes about it? I would love to know.
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Ok! I just never heard anyone refer to someone as a "Pookie ... RayRay" before until some time last week. But now I know what it means :lol:

RarityFluttershy said:
Where I'm From Pookie And RayRay Is A Male Gay Couple. RonRon Is Their Friend:look:.
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:lachen:
 
SuchMagnificance That boy is an immature fool. Who brings another man with them on a date? Who leaves their date before they finish eating? He is the one who is cursed: with ignorance & immaturity & disrespectfulness. Not you my dear. And I applaud you for enjoying your meal and then going home. Some women would have followed his trifling behind. He was testing you to see how much crap you would take. Well you let him know you are above that foolishness. I am proud of you!
 
Sapphire said:
@SuchMagnificance

I've had the same thing happen to me before! I should have just left, but I stayed and it was pretty uncomfortable to say the least. It ended the same way, the guy told me him and his friend that he brought along on our "date" were leaving to go to the casino and asked if I wanted to follow them there. I declined of course :ohwell:

I don't know why a grown as$ man would bring another man to hang out with a woman, even worse not letting her know beforehand! :perplexed
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This sounds to me like these guys already know they are not that into you. I dont know. A guy who is very interested wants NO DISTRACTIONS...and definitely NO other dudes around. These are immature idiots...be glad they showed their stupid arses.
 
ChasingBliss said:
This sounds to me like these guys already know they are not that into you. I dont know. A guy who is very interested wants NO DISTRACTIONS...and definitely NO other dudes around. These are immature idiots...be glad they showed their stupid arses.
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I totally agree. What made my situation even worse was this was a guy I met online so it was our first time meeting in person. :ohwell: If he wasn't interested he didn't have to meet up with me in the first place (he was the one that pursued me after all :perplexed) but I'm glad I found out he was a loser sooner than later.
 
hopeful said:
That boy is an immature fool. Who brings another man with them on a date?
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SuchMagnificance, I'm so sorry this happened :sad: As hopeful said, don't beat yourself up. This was not your fault. If anything, you did AWESOME!!!! I am proud of you :)

Regarding the quoted: Sadly, I have been seeing too much of that. Where does these men get the idea that this is OK? Do they actually go out with other women with their cousins and things work out?

I remember once I was really looking forward to a lunch date with this guy. Right before the date, he tells me his best friend is joining us. I'm like... why... he's like, I don't know :lol: he just wants to come. And I'm like..:perplexed you're going to let him?........... This actually went on for a little bit, and I either should have just canceled right there or told him that I'd rather meet one-on-one. Dude pretty much chatted with his best friend the entire date... inside jokes and all. I was annoyed, bored, ignored. We didn't go out after that.

A second time:nono:, most recently. Dude is picking me up on date, calls me and I hear a voice in the background and ask him who's with him. He tells me it's his roommate:look: and his roommate is DRIVING:look::wallbash: the car... his (my date's) car. Huh? I outright tell him that I want our date to be one-on-one and that he should drop off the roommate. He's agreeing with me, blah blah, and tell me why when he's pulling up to my house and calls me again to confirm my street, THE ROOMMATE WAS STILL DRIVING:wallbash:... As soon as I got in, I was like: "before we proceed with this date, you are driving back to your place to drop off your roommate." No one objected. Otherwise, there would have been no date. Frankly, there should have never been:ohwell:

REEKS of immaturity for a guy to bring a sidekick on a date. Like, why is your boy here?? I barely know YOU, and I don't know him! We're not 'kickin'' it like old friends... are you even thinking about whether I feel comfortable in this situation? Immature and inconsiderate.
 
ChasingBliss said:
This sounds to me like these guys already know they are not that into you. I dont know. A guy who is very interested wants NO DISTRACTIONS...and definitely NO other dudes around. These are immature idiots...be glad they showed their stupid arses.
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Sadly, I agree:ohwell: In the situations I mentioned in my previous post and others that I know of, things either didn't even get off the ground after that inconsiderate date or fell apart very soon after (as was my case with the last guy).
 
So...I've accidentally ended up in another LDR. I knew we were a good fit, but now through Skype I know that we can also be great friends.
 
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