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Simply_elle
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blondboobblondboob:blondboobLove that man in the AM....
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CarLiTa
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Thanks so much MzLady 
I am learning not to let this get to me. It's true that I don't know what I need right now... more introspection? I'm sick of that ish
. Maybe just a new person? View this as an isolated incident not worth fretting over? Perhaps. I just hate that whenever things don't work out with a guy that I'm actually giving the time of day to, my first instinct is to run back into my shell.
I have to admit though that I feel like I've lost emotional common sense over the past few years. I used to be very guarded and that seemed to work for me... well, more like I didn't get my feelings hurt.
I'm both comfortable and uncomfortable with my new level of openness...
comfortable bc that became the norm for me from being in such an intense and serious relationship with an emotional person....
uncomfortable bc I'm like huh? Is this the real me or is it the way I crafted myself for the last relationship... and I don't quite know how to reel in my newfound affectionate, playful, open demeanor with these insignificant others.
Now, regarding this guy... after yesterday's post, our mutual friend told me that he said to her that he saw that I reached out, and that he wasn't sure what to say to me and needed to figure some things out.
I was pissed that this dude is openly ignoring me, yet discussing our situation with a mutual friend, whom I see every single day. Soo... I texted him my final note, as seems customary for me these days
I said: so, heard from (mutual friend) that you saw that I reached out and aren't sure what to say to me. You ignoring me for this long says plenty, so don't bother reaching out at all at this point. I've lost whatever interest was there, so please lose my number.
He responded immediately: never said any of that, and sure... that's fine I guess.
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I am learning not to let this get to me. It's true that I don't know what I need right now... more introspection? I'm sick of that ish
. Maybe just a new person? View this as an isolated incident not worth fretting over? Perhaps. I just hate that whenever things don't work out with a guy that I'm actually giving the time of day to, my first instinct is to run back into my shell.I have to admit though that I feel like I've lost emotional common sense over the past few years. I used to be very guarded and that seemed to work for me... well, more like I didn't get my feelings hurt.
I'm both comfortable and uncomfortable with my new level of openness...
comfortable bc that became the norm for me from being in such an intense and serious relationship with an emotional person....
uncomfortable bc I'm like huh? Is this the real me or is it the way I crafted myself for the last relationship... and I don't quite know how to reel in my newfound affectionate, playful, open demeanor with these insignificant others.
Now, regarding this guy... after yesterday's post, our mutual friend told me that he said to her that he saw that I reached out, and that he wasn't sure what to say to me and needed to figure some things out.
I was pissed that this dude is openly ignoring me, yet discussing our situation with a mutual friend, whom I see every single day. Soo... I texted him my final note, as seems customary for me these days
I said: so, heard from (mutual friend) that you saw that I reached out and aren't sure what to say to me. You ignoring me for this long says plenty, so don't bother reaching out at all at this point. I've lost whatever interest was there, so please lose my number. He responded immediately: never said any of that, and sure... that's fine I guess.
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Simply_elle
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From past heartbreaks:
When he says He's busy...especially in the beginning- He isn't really. Just to busy for you. KIM. If a man is interested it's simple he will call,visit,skype,carrier pigeon....NO matter what his "busy" career may demand of him.
When he says He's busy...especially in the beginning- He isn't really. Just to busy for you. KIM. If a man is interested it's simple he will call,visit,skype,carrier pigeon....NO matter what his "busy" career may demand of him.
Do_Si_Dos
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Simply_elle I don't know if your comment was directed at me or not. If so, thanks for your feedback.:wink2: My male friend does travel a lot with his job but he does keep in touch frequently for where we are in our friendship. When he is town, we hang out. I am used to A LOT of attention. That's the biggest issue, not saying the he(current guy) couldn't do more. It is pretty much a long distance friendship, and that's something else. So I need decide if I can if he is worth it, but I am not ready to decide just yet. So until then, I'm going to start accepting dates from other guys. Now he has to get in where, he fits in.
(that was my biggest mistake. I stopped dating other guys) Overall we are in a good place, I think I tend to get in rush when I like a guy.
(that was my biggest mistake. I stopped dating other guys) Overall we are in a good place, I think I tend to get in rush when I like a guy.
MzLady78
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@CarLiTa, you really do remind me a lot of myself. The whole "goodbye" text thing is something I would have done years ago, before I discovered how overrated closure can be. 9 times out 10, their response would just infuriate me all over again, after awhile I decided it just wasn't worth it.
I really wouldn't think too much more about that situation. It may have just been an isolated incident, or maybe (unfortunately) it will happen again. One thing I've learned about this whole relationship/dating thing is that you'll make yourself crazy if you try to anticipate the outcome of every situation. The only thing you can do is make the best decisions you can with the information you have at the time, IMO.
I really wouldn't think too much more about that situation. It may have just been an isolated incident, or maybe (unfortunately) it will happen again. One thing I've learned about this whole relationship/dating thing is that you'll make yourself crazy if you try to anticipate the outcome of every situation. The only thing you can do is make the best decisions you can with the information you have at the time, IMO.
Simply_elle
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Do_Si_Dos
It wasn't directed at you I just was brain purging something that I now know...Is paramount in dating, and wish someone had told me!!
Looking back I've been "pursued" by a doctor..and lawyer... And blown off by a "student" and a construction worker. Really? The men with "busy" careers made time to chase and woo me, yet the others were so...busy? I thinks not.
Also think of the excuses you give when you not really into a guy? LOL
It wasn't directed at you
I just was brain purging something that I now know...Is paramount in dating, and wish someone had told me!!Looking back I've been "pursued" by a doctor..and lawyer... And blown off by a "student" and a construction worker. Really? The men with "busy" careers made time to chase and woo me, yet the others were so...busy? I thinks not.
Also think of the excuses you give when you not really into a guy? LOL
curlcomplexity
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LifeafterLHCF
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So a guy from pof messaged me back and he was rather quick in his response.I was all set for him when he gave me his number.I texted him since I was at work but then he turned around and called.I wasn't expecting the voice on the other end at all.He didn't look like a foreigner but he sounds like one.I'm not into anything but American.I just can't.My daddy is Nigerian/Jamaican and I can barely understand him at times so I def don't want to date that.Then with all the broke foreigner stores Im so leery..I really need to decide if I will call back.
nappystorm
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GoddessMaker I'm the opposite
. I love forgeiners. I'm trying to get back to the American side of things. Watching the Sex Room video. Shower scenes look alot sexier on TV than they are IRL...or maybe I just haven't showered with the right people
He done bought me a pair of sneakers and haven't mentioned sex once. Heeeyyyy!!! Now that's how you do it, playa
I soooo plan to get some right after the stroke of midnight on New Years. I just don't know with whom
Simply_elle
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Wow,
That's harsh lady!!
I've been loved up by plenty of foreign men!! Why limit yourself?? The love of my life is a islander and his rich culture and upbringing is what makes him more appealing. He didn't ask you to wire $500 USD to he Nigerian account did he? If not give brudda man a chance! You want men to approach you, but he's moving to fast..huh? Lol
And whats wrong with a accent?!?..TMI but you'll love it when he's beating the brakes off...
LifeafterLHCF
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Wow,
That's harsh lady!!
I've been loved up by plenty of foreign men!! Why limit yourself?? The love of my life is a islander and his rich culture and upbringing is what makes him more appealing. He didn't ask you to wire $500 USD to he Nigerian account did he? If not give brudda man a chance! You want men to approach you, but he's moving to fast..huh? Lol
And whats wrong with a accent?!?..TMI but you'll love it when he's beating the brakes off...
OMG at the bolded.For me I'm such the intellectual the deep thinker and if I can't understand you perfectly clear it makes the convo so much more labored and I love for convo to flow fluidly.I may call him back once I move since where Im living has horrid reception and I would really hate to have that as a compounding issue accent and bad reception.
Do_Si_Dos
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Simply_elle
That's so true.... Your post made me think long and hard. Thanks again!
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Do_Si_Dos
It wasn't directed at you
Looking back I've been "pursued" by a doctor..and lawyer... And blown off by a "student" and a construction worker. Really? The men with "busy" careers made time to chase and woo me, yet the others were so...busy? I thinks not.
Also think of the excuses you give when you not really into a guy? LOL
That's so true.... Your post made me think long and hard. Thanks again!
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nappystorm
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Simply_elle *high phucking five to that honey* What you know about Jose speaking Spanish while he's face painting or Shabba talking about how good your pom pom is in a Jamaican accent while you calling for Jebus. Whoo, chile...Wow,
That's harsh lady!!
I've been loved up by plenty of foreign men!! Why limit yourself?? The love of my life is a islander and his rich culture and upbringing is what makes him more appealing. He didn't ask you to wire $500 USD to he Nigerian account did he? If not give brudda man a chance! You want men to approach you, but he's moving to fast..huh? Lol
And whats wrong with a accent?!?..TMI but you'll love it when he's beating the brakes off...
nappystorm
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*double post*
Simply_elle
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Ok,
I'm sorry to purely discount a man because he's foreign is a bit harsh. My loves and I may verbally not understand each other, but for couples there are SO many non-verbal ways of bonding from a hand hold, cuddle, or kiss. My current sweet is very intelligent and educated so I feel that a potential language barrier doesn't mean...nevermind.
Good luck dating.
And yes I LOVE the sexy coloring accent. *kanyeshrug
Simply_elle
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nappystorm
Chile yes!!!
Mi pum pum is di devil- I've been told
And that Hugh Grant accent, telling me how awesome while he was doing his work...
Girls don't know what they are missing out on!!!
Simply_elle
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nappystorm
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Ho-nay, if I could dish the tea...the hot freshly brewed tea...@nappystorm
Chile yes!!!
Mi pum pum is di devil- I've been told
And that Hugh Grant accent, telling me how awesome while he was doing his work...
Girls don't know what they are missing out on!!!
but I can't have all of yall in my business.
LifeafterLHCF
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Ok,
I'm sorry to purely discount a man because he's foreign is a bit harsh. My loves and I may verbally not understand each other, but for couples there are SO many non-verbal ways of bonding from a hand hold, cuddle, or kiss. My current sweet is very intelligent and educated so I feel that a potential language barrier doesn't mean...nevermind.
Good luck dating.
And yes I LOVE the sexy coloring accent. *kanyeshrug
Ok I always like to hear others perspectives..how many foreign men have you dated and what has been your experience.I think part of my issue if I dig deep enough is my daddy is foreign and they way he left my mother when I was 6 days old has really bothered me..I talk to him now but its still sorta a sore spot.
curlcomplexity
formerly qtslim83
Wow,
That's harsh lady!!
I've been loved up by plenty of foreign men!! Why limit yourself?? The love of my life is a islander and his rich culture and upbringing is what makes him more appealing. He didn't ask you to wire $500 USD to he Nigerian account did he? If not give brudda man a chance! You want men to approach you, but he's moving to fast..huh? Lol
And whats wrong with a accent?!?..TMI but you'll love it when he's beating the brakes off...
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TheGlamorousLife
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Praying you will be there on Friday. Nervous just thinking about it.
. Nervous just thinking about it.
Simply_elle
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Hey
Hmm... I've dated 9 foreign and 3 American
First off I'm dating K, Not my father. I have a awesome dad but I can't applaud/punish someone for what daddy did or did not do.
These 9 men have taught me SO much, they have:
Encouraged me to travel, educate myself, and love my body
Grow and think outside the box
Be a loving and considerate lover/girlfriend
Showed that men are just a vulnerable if not more than women (these guys seemed more in tune than american guys)
Spoiled me rotten!
Opened my eyes more ways than I can thank them for.
Respect either way was NOT a option
I'm still really close w/ my exes, most moved away and we still FB, Ect. So glad to have had these men in my life...And to think many of them had crazy accents
Halana Malie
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"I smile at the thought of seeing you." This man is falling for me.
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Halana Malie
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I'm realizing a trend that I hate, every time I meet someone who I share a connection with distance plays a part. I won't let him being 3 hours away mess this up for us thank God he feels the same way. I'm going to allow myself to enjoy every bit of this relationship. Wow that's a word I try not to use much but it's headed there.
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Keshieshimmer
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I hate it when I get that empty feeling in my stomach when feel like things are going in the negative direction. I don't want to eat food, just drink liquids all day and my stomach feels that at any moment it will act up.
It is funny, I was convincing myself why I should like him and then I started to get excited. Then when it seems like the interest isn't there anymore I get upset. Why does the guy get to leave first!? ugh.
It is funny, I was convincing myself why I should like him and then I started to get excited. Then when it seems like the interest isn't there anymore I get upset. Why does the guy get to leave first!? ugh.
ChasingBliss
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God knows I have been there! I hated that feeling...just HATED it. I experienced it when having to break from a relationship that I really wanted to work...I really hope you feel better. Meditating and staying busy helped me to get away from that feeling. Then I could eat again.
If he's trying to leave...let him go. Short term pain...long term gain.
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