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Imani said:
I really wish I'd had some wise older girlfriends or big sisters or something when I was a youngin. All I ever got was "Don't get pregnant and focus on your school work". I think of some of the things I was doing in regards to men that were just a hot mess and foolish. Ah well, you live and you learn.
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Co-friggin-sign.

Between being the oldest with no close extended family (female OR male) no father figure and a mother I couldn't talk to about ANYTHING, I was pretty much screwed. :ohwell:
 
My mother talked to me a lot about relationships and respect, as did her sisters, my aunts, and it made a big difference. I remember when I was in high school and girls would get into situations with guys and I would be thinking, didn't your mother teach you about this? I guess a lot of moms dropped the ball.
 
MzLady78 said:
Co-friggin-sign.

Between being the oldest with no close extended family (female OR male) no father figure and a mother I couldn't talk to about ANYTHING, I was pretty much screwed. :ohwell:
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Damn. You know what? Your posts e-frustrate me. Not because of what you say but because there's no good.reason.at.all for you to be going through all the bs you go through. I've been reading your posts for many years and I just want to drag you down here to the land of men, milk and honey. *exhale* ok as y'all were...:sad:
 
carcajada said:
Damn. You know what? Your posts e-frustrate me. Not because of what you say but because there's no good.reason.at.all for you to be going through all the bs you go through. I've been reading your posts for many years and I just want to drag you down here to the land of men, milk and honey. *exhale* ok as y'all were...:sad:
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Aren't you in Texas? I"m preparing to move to that area right about now for a variety of reasons, but as far as the man thing I've realized that we have to come to terms with how modern life is and in our disconnected society some of us ladies may have to go the extra mile to get what we want.

Where I live there's some nice guys here and there but most of them in my age range with big goals and ambition eventually move and the ones left around tend to be divorced and/or have children. I could certainly make lemonade with a few of these lemons but why act like this is my only possible option? I had to get practical about opening up my career, social, and relationship potential. For me that requires moving.. sometimes we have to get real about our situations.
 
Raspberry said:
Aren't you in Texas? I"m preparing to move to that area right about now for a variety of reasons, but as far as the man thing I've realized that we have to come to terms with how modern life is and in our disconnected society some of us ladies may have to go the extra mile to get what we want.

Where I live there's some nice guys here and there but most of them in my age range with big goals and ambition eventually move and the ones left around tend to be divorced and/or have children. I could certainly make lemonade with a few of these lemons but why act like this is my only possible option? I had to get practical about opening up my career, social, and relationship potential. For me that requires moving.. sometimes we have to get real about our situations.
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Yes, I am in Texas. And if you're thick, then you need to run here, not walk b/c you are in demand.
 
I had to get up and leave. I just can't stand to see a COUPLE try and one up each other. My hair is a mess cause I just dived in the pool not to hear their foolishness.....
 
Why are we talking about marriage after five weeks? :lachen:

We see each other almost every chance we get so we've decided to do a cooling off period next week. To be honest, my mind is too cluttered to think things and analyze. He's infinitely more religious than I am. Not sure if I'm ready to go there yet. We don't have the blinding chemistry that I had before, but there's attraction.

Now I need to make sure he and his family are not crazy :look:
 
carcajada said:
Damn. You know what? Your posts e-frustrate me. Not because of what you say but because there's no good.reason.at.all for you to be going through all the bs you go through. I've been reading your posts for many years and I just want to drag you down here to the land of men, milk and honey. *exhale* ok as y'all were...:sad:
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Shoot, it frustrates me to type them!

I really do think I need to move, though. There's nothing for me here, and I'm not just referring to the man situation either.
 
carcajada said:
Damn. You know what? Your posts e-frustrate me. Not because of what you say but because there's no good.reason.at.all for you to be going through all the bs you go through. I've been reading your posts for many years and I just want to drag you down here to the land of men, milk and honey. *exhale* ok as y'all were...:sad:
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There are so many available men in TX. When we visit family there, I'm always like do women know all these men are out here?:look: :lol:
 
MzLady78 said:
Shoot, it frustrates me to type them!

I really do think I need to move, though. There's nothing for me here, and I'm not just referring to the man situation either.
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I have been telling you to move for years. I think it would change your world. :yep:
 
TheGlamorousLife said:
is there really that many single men in Big Texas? and are these the good type of men:look:
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Dh and I are looking to relocate to TX. We've been there several times in the last year just getting a feel of different areas. I've seen men, men, men. I was out along and got hit on several times by men:look::lol: These have been very short 2-3 day visits but I was like singe ladies need to get there. OH I was in Dallas and Houston.
 
I'm so beyond sick of these selfish *** men that I tend to date.

They stalk me until I start to give a dam about them, then once I do they become "ghost".

Then after a few weeks or months, they come out of nowhere with some "I miss you" bs. I'm SO over it. I see it's only about what you want huh? What about me and my feelings?!?
 
So I put Mr. Virgin Islands in the wind. After I had a chance to peel back the layers and take a good look, I just couldn't do it. He really thought he was slick, but I was a little bit slicker. I've already moved on to greener pastures.
 
hopeful said:
@deltadreamland Sorry things didn't work out, but glad you figured things out sooner than later.
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Thank you hopeful. I'm so glad I figured out sooner too. I didn't invest an ounce of emotions in him. I even mentioned once that he liked me more than I liked him.
He claimed he was mainly interested in finding a companion and a friend, but most of our disagreements centered around "sexual" conversations and his homophobia and great disdain for gay people. One of my best friends is gay, soooo..yeah. So I really think his main interest was sex. Little did he know that I'm not giving it up to anybody for a long time and that decision was made long before he came along. :look:
 
Ive been in Houston all my life and I have yet to be surrounded by a multitude of eligible black men..(that I know of) maybe Im in the wrong area, visiting the wrong spots or maybe im just not what they are looking for
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So I finally decided to stop talking to my ex cold turkey. I thought I was ok w/texting or emailing every once in a blue moon, but somehow I always end up getting upset or just way too emotionally involved/comfortable and end up texting back and forth all day. Its tempting bc I just moved to this area and don't know a soul and its very lonely. he lives here too (like waay on the opposite end from me tho thank goodness) so, to have someone to chat about this area with. But for real, it just needs to stop. Its been almost a year and I still have yet to really move on, so I know this is for the best.
 
I'm seriously considering a professional matchmaker for busy professionals/students. Nothing's happening until I get back from vacation, but my parents suggested it and I'm warming up to the idea (thanks to my dad!:grin:). If nothing else, I'll get to meet people of like-mind. I just can't keep going like this.:nono:
 
My friend and I went to our spot for a quick snack... He was there again. She was hurt that he was laughing it up with a mexican girl after he told her that wasn't his type..: He claimed ONLY black women.
:nono: Now this is the 3rd weekend in a row he had on that shirt ,turned up pointy shoes and slacks. I guess his get a woman uniform.

I don't trust it but I cant tell her nothing.....She stayed waiting for him to finish talkin, I left.

Ps. I looked at his shoes they are so worn down until the bottom sounds like a slipper when he walks.... I don't think he has what he told her.:perplexed
 
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SUPER SWEET said:
My friend and I went to our spot for a quick snack... He was there again. She was hurt that he was laughing it up with a mexican girl after he told her that wasn't his type..: He claimed ONLY black women.
:nono: Now this is the 3rd weekend in a row he had on that shirt ,turned up pointy shoes and slacks. I guess his get a woman uniform.

I don't trust it but I cant tell her nothing.....She stayed waiting for him to finish talkin, I left.

Ps. I looked at his shoes they are so worn down until the bottom sounds like a slipper when he walks.... I don't think he has what he told her.:perplexed
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:lachen::lachen::ohwell::nono:
 
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