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My friend and I went to our spot for a quick snack... He was there again. She was hurt that he was laughing it up with a mexican girl after he told her that wasn't his type..: He claimed ONLY black women.
:nono: Now this is the 3rd weekend in a row he had on that shirt ,turned up pointy shoes and slacks. I guess his get a woman uniform.

I don't trust it but I cant tell her nothing.....She stayed waiting for him to finish talkin, I left.

Ps. I looked at his shoes they are so worn down until the bottom sounds like a slipper when he walks.... I don't think he has what he told her.:perplexed

You need to write a book
 
We tried to work this out. *shrugs* It's a def no go. I can no longer deal with your lies, cheating, and baby mama's you have picked up along the way through out the duration of our marriage.
Yes we have many years together but that is all we have is all those years:look:. Now when this divorce goes through next month it will free both of us from this toxic relationship:yep:.
I'm looking forward to getting "MY LIFE" back in order (I pray you are too).
 
This is getting interesting. We've been dating only two weeks and been spending alot of time together. I was asked earlier today to have dinner and meet his immediate family on friday. Yikes.
 
Second thoughts are creeping in. Some things are nagging at me, they wont go away. They show up in so many shapes and forms...Something out there wants me to change direction. I'm very troubled. *sigh* It even makes me cry.


There are so many things I want to discuss here RIGHT NOW. I need feedback desperately and I would prefer it from folks I never have to see or worry about it getting back some how. Getting up the courage.
 
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Lines from a movie I'm watching now-
Him: Why won't you ever let anybody in (to your heart)?
Her: Because moments like these, as beautiful as they are, are evil when they are gone.
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Just needed to vent

My king my king where are you your queen has toiled for a long time to prepare for you.Are you hurt have you died I just want to breathe your very essence.I have grown so weary of having to be strong at all times never crying never showing emotion I want to be a woman not the machine.I want the opportunity to love a king to nurture to cater to..but in this society Im told get skinny then look for a man but I just can't accept that diagnosis.My life is slowly coming around I really ust want the ability to enjoy life with someone who loves purely who can be happy for me and I can take my energy of giving to him.

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Bellatimarie[USER][/USER]
You know that noise Im talkin about....

You need to write a book

Je Ne Sais Quoi[USER][/USER]
I really could. I know im strange and I attract strange things. LIKE>>>>>>

One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.
 
@Bellatimarie
You know that noise Im talkin about....



@Je Ne Sais Quoi
I really could. I know im strange and I attract strange things. LIKE>>>>>>

One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.


I really didn't mean to laugh at someone's expense but this is hella funny.:lachen: Dude was serious wasn't he? We were gonna take it there. Yeah just what you thought lol.
 
@Bellatimarie
You know that noise Im talkin about....



@Je Ne Sais Quoi
I really could. I know im strange and I attract strange things. LIKE>>>>>>

One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.

:dead: :dead: :dead:
 
Bellatimarie[USER][/USER]
You know that noise Im talkin about....



Je Ne Sais Quoi[USER][/USER]
I really could. I know im strange and I attract strange things. LIKE>>>>>>

One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.
wtf?!? I'm speechless.
 
Bellatimarie[USER][/USER]
You know that noise Im talkin about....



Je Ne Sais Quoi[USER][/USER]
I really could. I know im strange and I attract strange things. LIKE>>>>>>

One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.

This happened irl?!? Lol, hayle nawl........ That dude was crazy.........I really needed this laugh, because I am really feeling some type of way tonight.

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One year ago today on lhcf I found and copied this prayer on my iPhone


Dear God, I feel an empty space within me, a place where I would so love to love. I know that if my beloved came here, I would adore and cherish, honor and serve him. Please give me the opportunity to expand my heart into the life of another in the holiest way, the most beautiful way, the most intimate way, if that serves your purpose. For I would learn the secrets of love and use what I learn to grace the life of another. What a marveleous possibility, Lord, that such a treasure would be placed in my hands. Please do this. I will try my best. Amen.
 
Second thoughts are creeping in. Some things are nagging at me, they wont go away. They show up in so many shapes and forms...Something out there wants me to change direction. I'm very troubled. *sigh* It even makes me cry.


There are so many things I want to discuss here RIGHT NOW. I need feedback desperately and I would prefer it from folks I never have to see or worry about it getting back some how. Getting up the courage.
ChasingBliss

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Here for you sis...:bighug:
 
One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.

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That is the craziest story ever! You mean, that was okay with previous women he dated? No he didn't tell you to get dressed and pull the bait and switch, like telling your kids they're going to Disneyland when you're really taking them to the dentist. What?
 
@Bellatimarie
You know that noise Im talkin about....



@Je Ne Sais Quoi
I really could. I know im strange and I attract strange things. LIKE>>>>>>

One time I went on a few dates (4) with this guy and he mentioned his sister was a doctor. Then he called one sat afternoon and said I want to take you somewhere special and make sure to wear a dress. I was too excited :grin:.

So we started driving and he kept saying he was running late. :crazy:Started sweating and acting strange. We pull up to a business park and I see serveral offices and no resturant. I asked him what was going on.....:look:

Next thing you know a door swings open and a woman (his sister) is there with her whitecoat asking me to get out the car.:perplexed I was started getting scared. She motions to come on in " Hi, I'm Kimi, i'm a GYN, and I test all my brother's girls and do a through exam. And girl it's free, don't worry":blush: :huh:

Me= STUNNED!

I told him to take me home and he refused. Then he got REALLY angry, stating that he felt we were gonna take it there and he had to be safe.Cause now he was gonna have to make it up to his sister for her time and her staff's time. So had to call my cousin to come get me. :mad:

He called a few days later and left a message about being sorry.

oh, i know that noise... not a good look :nono:

i can just picture him sweating like a pig talking about he's late...ugh... some of these men really disgust me LOL... i don't understand foolishness like this... in his mind he was doing you a favor... and his sister... i won't even get started on her... what's her name and where is she located? i wanna make sure i NEVER go to her doctor's office... thats just out of order!
 
I was really sad and disappointed last week about the guy I went on a few dates with. It all just felt like a big sad joke. He treated me to a nice date for my birthday, and then he disappears. We have mutual friends and it's shocking to me that he doesn't even care to save face. I mean, it's likely that we may find ourselves to be in a group hanging out over the next month. What does he intend to do then? Ignore me? Act like he hasn't been ignoring me?

Last week we almost found ourselves at the same event. I was being pressured to attend this networking event and was leading towards not going, and then one of our mutual friends told me he would be there. For that reason, I made sure to stay home.

My stomach was in knots all last week and I was feeling so much anxiety. I think what really disappointed me is that my judgment was so off.
This guy was really not up to par with my standards, and I chose to give him the time of day. I even said a few pages back that he seemed clueless, but that I'd explore it a bit bc he seems genuine. I feel pretty stupid now, and I'm disappointed in myself for what seems like a continuous streak of bad judgment :-(

I could write a lonng entry here, but in short I need to be weary first and give the benefit of the doubt later. Something in me changed since my last relationship (I've become unnecessarily open) and it's hurting me more than it is helping. I don't even know what I need right now.
 
I love my BFF, I really do..But Im having an increasingly hard time talking to her..She has been with her now husband for over 10 years...she has never had to be alone or go through the trials of single life..So whenever I try to express my feelings to her, she gives me these generic answers and it does nothing but frustrate me.
 
How busy can you really be??? You are focused on building a secure future yourself. Trust me, I get it. I really admire your work ethic and ambitious nature. It is sooo sexy to me that you are actively working toward achieving your goals. :lick: :lick::lick: You have a lot of the qualities I look for in a potential mate and everything seems fairly easy between us, however I refuse to be an option for anyone.

In one of our earlier conversations you mentioned one of your major flaws. You stated that you tendency to have tunnel vision when you are focusing on a goal :perplexed You even went on to explain during this time it may appear as if you are giving a cold shoulder.:look: One thing I can say, you were honest as hayle!!!!!

You asked me not to give up on our "friendship", but at this point you reallllllly need to prove to me that this friendship is worth hanging on to. So my friend, you have your work cut out for you.:yep:

Maybe I should pick up a hobby or two.:ohwell: How did I get here??:wallbash::wallbash::wallbash:
 
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I really didn't mean to laugh at someone's expense but this is hella funny.:lachen: Dude was serious wasn't he? We were gonna take it there. Yeah just what you thought lol.
I mean he was serious....:perplexed
This happened irl?!? Lol, hayle nawl........ That dude was crazy.........I really needed this laugh, because I am really feeling some type of way tonight.

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If I post in here you'll have plenty laughs and cries too...:yep:
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That is the craziest story ever! You mean, that was okay with previous women he dated? No he didn't tell you to get dressed and pull the bait and switch, like telling your kids they're going to Disneyland when you're really taking them to the dentist. What?
Yup, it was like it was a regular occurance:nono:
 
oh, i know that noise... not a good look :nono:

i can just picture him sweating like a pig talking about he's late...ugh... some of these men really disgust me LOL... i don't understand foolishness like this... in his mind he was doing you a favor... and his sister... i won't even get started on her... what's her name and where is she located? i wanna make sure i NEVER go to her doctor's office... thats just out of order!
She's located in Springfield, PA very tall about 55ish by now, 6'2,husky, brownskin with dreads.... I'm not gonna blast her name because maybe a great GYN. But I wasn't trying to find out.
 
So today was my first day back at work-I teach middle school. I hold a leadership position in my school, so my principal is constantly calling me to the office for something. So she called me to the office for like the 5th time today.
No big deal I thought. :look:

I get in her office and see this handsome, FINE, tall, single (well I didn't see a ring nor ring print) black man sitting there. :lick: So she's goes on to say, "Ms. Deltadreamland, this is your student teacher for the year." :spinning:
So I scooped him up from her office to fill him in on the ins and outs for the year. As we're walking down the hall, the women were looking like...WTF! :lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick:

I will NEVER in a million years mix business with pleasure, but he sure will be nice to look at. :yep: Maybe one of my other single colleagues will have the pleasure, if he's single. He appears to be in his early 40's.

And in other news...on to the next one after Mr. Virgin Islands. I've developed a strong and scary (in a good way) connection with a man from Eharmony. We're meeting up this weekend for the first time. He's seen all of my recently taken pics.. and I've seen his-he's VERY handsome, black, yummy, and sexy too. We're very pleased with each other on the physical attraction front.

We're just praying that the connection we have in person is as strong as the connection we have now. :look: We've convinced ourselves that the connection will be there, but you never know...you know? We're both so nervous, anxious, excited, happy, and all of that stuff that goes along with meeting someone for the first time. :look:
 
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So today was my first day back at work-I teach middle school. I hold a leadership position in my school, so my principal is constantly calling me to the office for something. So she called me to the office for like the 5th time today.
No big deal I thought. :look:

I get in her office and see this handsome, FINE, tall, single (well I didn't see a ring nor ring print) black man sitting there. :lick: So she's goes on to say, "Ms. Deltadreamland, this is your student teacher for the year." :spinning:
So I scooped him up from her office to fill him in on the ins and outs for the year. As we're walking down the hall, the women were looking like...WTF! :lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick::lick:

I will NEVER in a million years mix business with pleasure, but he sure will be nice to look at. :yep: Maybe one of my other single colleagues will have the pleasure, if he's single. He appears to be in his early 40's.

And in other news...on to the next one after Mr. Virgin Islands. I've developed a strong and scary (in a good way) connection with a man from Eharmony. We're meeting up this weekend for the first time. He's seen all of my recently taken pics.. and I've seen his-he's VERY handsome, black, yummy, and sexy too. We're very pleased with each other on the physical attraction front.

We're just praying that the connection we have in person is as strong as the connection we have now. :look: We've convinced ourselves that the connection will be there, but you never know...you know? We're both so nervous, anxious, excited, happy, and all of that stuff that goes along with meeting someone for the first time. :look:

Keeping hope alive for ya! :up: Good luck! :yep:
 
So I finally decided to stop talking to my ex cold turkey. I thought I was ok w/texting or emailing every once in a blue moon, but somehow I always end up getting upset or just way too emotionally involved/comfortable and end up texting back and forth all day. Its tempting bc I just moved to this area and don't know a soul and its very lonely. he lives here too (like waay on the opposite end from me tho thank goodness) so, to have someone to chat about this area with. But for real, it just needs to stop. Its been almost a year and I still have yet to really move on, so I know this is for the best.

Imani. I swear almost all your posts mirror my thoughts. I had to make that decision with my ex earlier this year. Changed my number and never gave it to him and deleted his number, because of the bolded. I realized if I ever wanted a chance to move on it needed to be done. Next on the agenda is to let other people know that although they mean well, I do not want to hear anything about him, does me no good.

((Hugs))) to you for realizing that.
 
Dude, you're only a 'good catch' to broads who actually WANT you!

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Saturday night when you leaned in towards me on the elevator and kissed me I had to push you away, not because I didn't want to or that I wasn't attracted to you, but because that was the most unexpected yet PASSIONATE KISS I have ever experienced in the 20 + years of my life! :love::love: I mean I know I was looking good, but my God where did all this passion come from!! In the 5 seconds that we kissed I felt like the most desired and loved woman in the world. Dayum I didn't know a kiss could have me feeling like this. Lol!
 
I was really sad and disappointed last week about the guy I went on a few dates with. It all just felt like a big sad joke. He treated me to a nice date for my birthday, and then he disappears. We have mutual friends and it's shocking to me that he doesn't even care to save face. I mean, it's likely that we may find ourselves to be in a group hanging out over the next month. What does he intend to do then? Ignore me? Act like he hasn't been ignoring me?

Last week we almost found ourselves at the same event. I was being pressured to attend this networking event and was leading towards not going, and then one of our mutual friends told me he would be there. For that reason, I made sure to stay home.

My stomach was in knots all last week and I was feeling so much anxiety. I think what really disappointed me is that my judgment was so off.
This guy was really not up to par with my standards, and I chose to give him the time of day. I even said a few pages back that he seemed clueless, but that I'd explore it a bit bc he seems genuine. I feel pretty stupid now, and I'm disappointed in myself for what seems like a continuous streak of bad judgment :-(

I could write a lonng entry here, but in short I need to be weary first and give the benefit of the doubt later. Something in me changed since my last relationship (I've become unnecessarily open) and it's hurting me more than it is helping. I don't even know what I need right now.

girl your posts always sound like things i could have written.
 
@CarLiTa,

I just wanted to send you a :bighug:

I went through something similar close to this time last summer, down to the dude not really being my type and me giving him a shot anyway just to have him end up flaking out. But even worse, it happened to me back to back. You couldn't convince me that I wasn't the problem (and many ladies on here tried), but in retrospect, I KNOW I didn't do anything wrong. I was the same exact person I was with them with the next guy and guess what, he fell in love with me. So maybe I just wasn't their type for whatever reason. And that's fine, everything ain't for everybody. But let me just add that both did contact me some months after.

I say all that to say don't beat yourself up too much over it. But I feel you, even on the not knowing what you need part.
 
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