I've gotten past the superficial "I'm in love stage".. at least I think I have...
Maybe it's the 6 month itch...
Starting to really learn more about him, good and bad which leads me to question a lot of things, and I see things about myself as well...
I realize that there is so much more to learn about him and myself ...
I went on vacation last week and before I left I had an argument w/ him and was very resentful and angry w/ him.. and it dawned on me, I really don't know him. I know the basics of what there is to know, but I don't really know him know him... meaning, that as time passes, there is so much more I learn, it's like I see more layers to him.
Which led me to the million dollar question, how in the world do you marry someone who you have only known for 3 months? I'm just thinking out loud here... And I know that as time passes you learn more and more about the person you are with and you will never ever fully know them right away, but still... during those 3-6 months, you don't really know the person, you may not know their quirks, weaknesses, arguing styles, etc... there is just a wealth of things that are not really known in such a short time span b/c things take time to manifest. Things are usually peaches and cream during this time frame.
I will admit, I was in love w/ my SO in prob about 2 months...but now that I look back, that was a very superficial lovey dovey kinda love. I never had a real argument w/ him back then or see certain sides of him, and vice versa. I know that as time passes, if we are still together the love I have for him will grow to have much more depth to it.
So again, how do people decide to get married within 3 months? Anything less than 6 months just seems odd and abrupt to me... b/c it's very possible you have not weathered much w/ this person during this short time frame.
One the same token, I think by the time you reach your late 20s early 30s, it really should not take you 4 yrs to figure out if you want to marry the person.