I don't see a problem with this. However, I don't think it's wise for a woman to agree to a one sided arrangement. At the same time, not all women truly desire to cheat, explore their options, etc.
Hey whatever works.
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I'd never do an open marriage (to my knowledge anyway)sometimes you need a guy t otake you out to eat, pay a bill, have on deck sex, etc...but you don't want to put all your eggs in that basket. I get that....
That's totally different than being in a married open relationship.
I don't think all open relationships are created equally and there's some legit reasons why folks would agree to it. That's why I can't chalk it up entirely to self esteem. I am entirely too possessive and too much of a hypochondriac to be in an open relationship. That said I've seen some set ups that work but there is an element of risk that I'm not comfortable with.
The 'safest' form of open relationships is probably agreeing to go the swinger route where it's couple on couple because each side has a built in emotional back up to work against folks catching feelings. I used to think this was creepy but swingers who maintain long term relationships usually have a very high level of maturity and are natural compartmentalizers.
I know women who have no desire to have sex with their husbands (usually after pregnancy/menopause or sometimes dude just can't fk worth a damn) and they have blessed dudes getting outside relief as long as it's not in their faces. The problem with this as I see it is you're setting yourself up to be replaced.
I don't think all open relationships are created equally and there's some legit reasons why folks would agree to it. That's why I can't chalk it up entirely to self esteem. I am entirely too possessive and too much of a hypochondriac to be in an open relationship. That said I've seen some set ups that work but there is an element of risk that I'm not comfortable with.
The 'safest' form of open relationships is probably agreeing to go the swinger route where it's couple on couple because each side has a built in emotional back up to work against folks catching feelings. I used to think this was creepy but swingers who maintain long term relationships usually have a very high level of maturity and are natural compartmentalizers.
I know women who have no desire to have sex with their husbands (usually after pregnancy/menopause or sometimes dude just can't fk worth a damn) and they have blessed dudes getting outside relief as long as it's not in their faces. The problem with this as I see it is you're setting yourself up to be replaced.
I agree with this too.
Cheating turns into an open relationship when the other party knows but decides to stay in the current relationship.
there is definitely a less practical/"materialistic" vibe about relationships in this thread which is weird... aint we getting older now?
becoming more romantic instead of less as you age is the wave now?
Replaced how? Not necessarily.
We are all replaceable though whether we know it or not.
No but I've heard about the drama that ensued. 9 times out of 10 dudes break off sex only relationships in the most indignant ways and it usually leads to messiness.Do you know any who've actually been replaced in that specific manner?
Of course we're all replaceable but that doesn't mean you volunteer to make yourself obsolete. Men have a type and I would assume that my husband would pick a woman who is similar in personality/temperament to me and that's the most dangerous thing in the world because I KNOW I'd be looking from the outside scheming my way into a permanent situation. If I were to go that route I'd have to approve the chick in advance so I could get a feel for whether she's smart enough to be a threat.
Chess not Checkers.
No but I've heard about the drama that ensued. 9 times out of 10 dudes break off sex only relationships in the most indignant ways and it usually leads to messiness.
How do you all feel about Polyamory? I saw a few episodes of the Showtime docuseries Polyamory: Married & Dating, and it seems that no matter how "cool with it" people claim to be... jealousy plays a major role. I stopped watching it because the gratuitous sex scenes started getting more and more ridiculous. However, overall, it's an interesting show.
this is how you should make choices though.See I'm a risk taker right.....
At the same time, I'm not a gambler.
Odds must always be in my favor. To me there's a dfference between reality and fear. People have their spouses stolen all the time, but there are usually common linking elements. Now when certain pops boil down to women just being paranoid with little actual reason to be worried I have to take a step back next say "hmmmmm"....maybe....
How do you all feel about Polyamory? I saw a few episodes of the Showtime docuseries Polyamory: Married & Dating, and it seems that no matter how "cool with it" people claim to be... jealousy plays a major role. I stopped watching it because the gratuitous sex scenes started getting more and more ridiculous. However, overall, it's an interesting show.
Of course we're all replaceable but that doesn't mean you volunteer to make yourself obsolete. Men have a type and I would assume that my husband would pick a woman who is similar in personality/temperament to me and that's the most dangerous thing in the world because I KNOW I'd be looking from the outside scheming my way into a permanent situation. If I were to go that route I'd have to approve the chick in advance so I could get a feel for whether she's smart enough to be a threat.
Chess not Checkers.
No but I've heard about the drama that ensued. 9 times out of 10 dudes break off sex only relationships in the most indignant ways and it usually leads to messiness.
Used to be a lot of people on this board had a very materialistic notion of marriage. It was about what things marriage got you (house, money, stability, status, security, kids) and less about the man himself. Not sure if that's still true.
there is definitely a less practical/"materialistic" vibe about relationships in this thread which is weird... aint we getting older now?
becoming more romantic instead of less as you age is the wave now?
I'm a late bloomer and didn't realize romance was a legit option. As far as I was concerned that **** was just stuff folks put in books with Fabio on the cover.becoming more romantic instead of less as you age is the wave now?
See I'm a risk taker right.....
At the same time, I'm not a gambler.
Odds must always be in my favor. To me there's a dfference between reality and fear. People have their spouses stolen all the time, but there are usually common linking elements. Now when certain pops boil down to women just being paranoid with little actual reason to be worried I have to take a step back next say "hmmmmm"....maybe....