Lhcf Taboo Topic..black Women Who Are Done Checking For Black Men

[Ogoma]

Until I get married, I shall be open to all men.

95% of the men I love the most in this world (father, brother/in-laws, cousins, uncles, friends) are black so I'll never be done with them.....

 

[WhipEffectz1]

Well my current SO is white and we are VERY smitten with each other. I can see why black women would write off black men and only exclusively date white men. Any guy can be a dog, but from my pov white guys are simple, sweet, silly, and more down to earth. I stay outside of Detroit and black men here tend to be arrogant and all about "getting money and fuxking h0es" kwim? So it's refreshing to have a normal relationship for once. White guys have a different way of going about dating and romance. I don't have to pay for anything. Whenever there's a door, it's opened for me and this is almost three months into our relationship.

Pinky, I for one understand what you are saying. However, I had black boyfriends who have held me down and treated me like a queen provided they were able to do that. But then again, I like L7s/college educated men so that could be where you are going wrong. Most of the black men I dated were raised in two family households so they were accustomed to opening doors and what now, since they saw daddy doing it. I will say this though, its easier to get hardcore money, for expenses or frolic) out of white men. Its like there are holes in their pockets. lol You can't go wrong with that in this economy.

 

[PinkyPromise]

.....seriously? then OBVIOUSLY youve been dating a bunch of KANGS/non-quality black men dont generalize all black men because all youve dated are KANGS
like i said in my first post in this thread ive dated only black men.my last ex was black and he was extreeemleeey sweet. we dated for 8months and this dude opened the door for me every single place we went he always made sure i walked either beside him or in front of him never ever behind him and on every date he would always pay but towards the middle of our relationship we decided from then on we would split the bill in half.he always showed his affection towards me and he wasnt afraid to show it in front of his friends either i would actually have to fight to keep him off me after awhile because he was always trying to hug,kiss,caress me,etc. 24/7
lol.
in case you didnt know WHITE KANGS EXIST TOO.i repeat WHITE KANGS EXIST.just ask my friend, her baby daddy is in and out of jail is a highschool drop out, and has 4 other kids each with different mommas..and yuup he is WHITE. but this chick has the nerve to tell me that BM aint sheeiit.uhhm excoo me?

i understand its hard to find a decent black man on these streets trust me i know but dont go around saying "white men treat women better..my white man pays for errthang" uhmm any man regardless of color is suppossed to treat you well and occasionally pay for stuff and open the door for you.duh.

I guess you didn't read any of my other posts.

 

[Princess4real]

It is like March madness all over this board today! LMAO

 

[PinkyPromise]

Pinky, I for one understand what you are saying. However, I had black boyfriends who have held me down and treated me like a queen provided they were able to do that. But then again, I like L7s/college educated men so that could be where you are going wrong. Most of the black men I dated were raised in two family households so they were accustomed to opening doors and what now, since they saw daddy doing it. I will say this though, its easier to get hardcore money, for expenses or frolic) out of white men. Its like there are holes in their pockets. lol You can't go wrong with that in this economy.

It's not even about money per say because I say no but he insists. With the little that he does have he still tries to put me first which I appreciate. I don't know, I was used to "kangs" I guess so it's a breath of fresh air.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

Until I get married, I shall be open to all men.

Exactly how I feel. May the best man win. Whether he's black, Asian, Hispanic or whatever.

 

[Ogoma]

This is how some of my family members are acting right now. Making phone calls back home to try to find me a good Nigerian man since I was incapable of doing so myself. Lol.

"So and so saw your picture and he likes you." I'm like "grandma, I already have a boyfriend."

Are you me? Add in the fact he is Bahá'í (I am considering converting) and my mother has been fasting for weeks.

 

[qchelle]

PinkyPromise I admire your bravery and I'm glad you found someone you're happy with

 

[PinkyPromise]

I just want to say this. .I don't think white men are better than black men. I wasn't even checking for any in the first place. Some women, after going through hell, dated a white man who treated them like gold and wrote off black men altogether. My point was that I can relate to that and understand why they did so, not that I was one of those women.

 

[niqu92]

I just want to say this. .I don't think white men are better than black men. I wasn't even checking for any in the first place. Some women, after going through hell, dated a white man who treated them like gold and wrote off black men altogether. My point was that I can relate to that and understand why they did so, not that I was one of those women.

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[sj10460]

so can someone answer my question, please? Where are you meeting your non-black SO?

 

[Ogoma]

Right! Like are white dudes supposed to be better? I never got that memo. you get a major side eye from me when you try to imply that.

I will say that i'm confused around here. Sometimes folks imply that white men are at the top of the totem poll while others make it seem like they are a last resort since the bm ain't checking for them.

Why would that be confusing to you? Different people would have different motivations or none at all .

 

[WhipEffectz1]

so can someone answer my question, please? Where are you meeting your non-black SO?

Every where you meet other kinds of men.

 

[sj10460]

Oh, I never answered the question, I do not know any black women who swore off black men but I do know black men that only dates white latinas and white women.
I don't think I would ever marry a non black man. My grandma use to tell my cousins and I as children, "you can play with whoever you want, but you marry someone who looks like you"

 

[niqu92]

so can someone answer my question, please? Where are you meeting your non-black SO?

pulled from yahoo answers:

Where can I meet more white people? I am African American.?

I live in Miami, im black but i've long since realized that I fit in more with white people. The music, the way I dress, the way I talk, the way I think. I am also more into white guys. I don't like black men too much at all. I want a white guy who can play the guitar or skates or writes music or sings. I'm sorry to say that I am sick of my people. Don't worry though. I ll never forget where I come from.

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  Suburbia...golf driving ranges are a good place to meet white guys as are sports bars...good luck girl
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WHERE TO MEET WHITE MEN ?

I am african american and i am attracted to white men ,I just dont where to meet them, how do i appraoch them?How can i know if there in to black women?

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well im in the los angeles area where can i meet some guys between like 20-29
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We're everywhere, the thing is white men are not usually as forward and aggressive as black guys, plus we generally think that black women don't like us, so that's all the more reason we don't hit on black women.

I like black women, and I've been with one, the reasons I stated above are no sh!t. Plus, I don't run into many, because they seem like they don't hang out the places I do, probably because most black women don't like white men.

So it's simple: hang out at bars where white guys are and throw them a bone, smile and talk to them to let them know you're approachable, and you'll be picking and choosing in no time.

 

[DaiseeDay]

.....seriously? then OBVIOUSLY youve been dating a bunch of KANGS/non-quality black men dont generalize all black men because all youve dated are KANGS
like i said in my first post in this thread ive dated only black men.my last ex was black and he was extreeemleeey sweet. we dated for 8months and this dude opened the door for me every single place we went he always made sure i walked either beside him or in front of him never ever behind him and on every date he would always pay but towards the middle of our relationship we decided from then on we would split the bill in half.he always showed his affection towards me and he wasnt afraid to show it in front of his friends either i would actually have to fight to keep him off me after awhile because he was always trying to hug,kiss,caress me,etc. 24/7
lol.
in case you didnt know WHITE KANGS EXIST TOO.i repeat WHITE KANGS EXIST.just ask my friend, her baby daddy is in and out of jail is a highschool drop out, and has 4 other kids each with different mommas..and yuup he is WHITE. but this chick has the nerve to tell me that BM aint sheeiit.uhhm excoo me?

i understand its hard to find a decent black man on these streets trust me i know but dont go around saying "white men treat women better..my white man pays for errthang" uhmm any man regardless of color is suppossed to treat you well and occasionally pay for stuff and open the door for you.duh.

Why you yellin tho?

 

[sj10460]

pulled from yahoo answers:

Those replies are so funny. Now I feel stupid for even posting that question. But seriously, it's hard out here in DC and black men in DC . And I hate to generalize but it's like they're a different type of black men.

 

[WhipEffectz1]

Why you yellin tho?

Oh ****!!! That's my dawg!!! Thanks for the laugh.

 

[meesch]

Those replies are so funny. Now I feel stupid for even posting that question. But seriously, it's hard out here in DC and black men in DC . And I hate to generalize but it's like they're a different type of black men.

i have heard nothing but bad things about the men in dc, and really, dating in general in dc. i think that my career path is going to land me there eventually, i can only hope i bring a significant other with me when i go... because that is somewhere i would never want to be while single.

 

[niqu92]

Why you yellin tho?

why is it that everytime someone types in capitol letters the reply/comeback is always "why you yellin tho" and before you use popular comeback #2 "why you mad?" no im not mad

Those replies are so funny. Now I feel stupid for even posting that question. But seriously, it's hard out here in DC and black men in DC . And I hate to generalize but it's like they're a different type of black men.

lmao i just posted that to make you laugh but dont feel stupid for asking tht question cause i kinda wanna know too for future reference

 

[WhipEffectz1]

why is it that everytime someone types in capitol letters the reply/comeback is always "why you yellin tho" and before you use popular comeback #2 "why you mad?" no im not mad

Its a joke yo! lol

 

[loolalooh]

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[deltagyrl]

I agree.....

I love the brothas. But I wouldn't date or be in a relationship with one again. So yes I written them off.

This + your avatar = HILARIOUS

And I ain't mad, do you. Your post just cracked me up...

 

[O-ren]

pulled from yahoo answers:

Im embarrassed that black women actually did this.

Maybe they were joking?

 

[O-ren]

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Don't be basic. She shared her experiences, was candid and honest.

 

[manter26]

Those replies are so funny. Now I feel stupid for even posting that question. But seriously, it's hard out here in DC and black men in DC . And I hate to generalize but it's like they're a different type of black men.

I lived in Gaithersburg for a year and worked in Rockville and Bethesda. I didn't do a lot of dating while I was there. I think I dated 2 Jewish men- both of whom I met at work. Other than that I hung out with exes.

I met people of diverse backgrounds at work. I went to happy hours- mostly in Bethesda; Rock Bottom, Union Jacks- they have trivia, Ri-Ra- St. patricks is insane and they serve Irish breakfast the next morning...really any bar in downtown Bethesda is packed with young people after work hours. I joined my alumni group and watched games every weekend during football and bball season. You can also join a professional organization for engineers or what have you.

I usually went to Dupont if I went to DC at all. I went out in Adam's Morgan a few times but that is totally not my crowd (too young). I met a ton of people on the Mall over the weekend...mostly Air Force guys from Andrews and all hard of hearing from working on the flight deck...erplexed I think the technology belt or NoVa is your best bet at meeting new people if you don't mind leaving the District.

 

[O-ren]

LOL I'd love to see their faces when she says that dead in their face. Please send her down to 34th st and 6th ave where there

Ugh Was walking around Herald Square with a friend of mine. redheaded white male and those fools kept making comments "You can do better than that!" "He wouldnt know how to work you like I do"..so ridiculous.

I would never date him anyway, total Phish hippy, redhead that looks nothing liek Fessbender lol..but it was still just obnoxious

 

[Valerie]

What this boils down to, people have to be honest with themselves, what they like. At the end of the day, you have to know what you want, do you want a date or marriage. People like what they like and it is a waste of time, and energy, arguing that they should like black men, they should give them a chance, not all black men are the same, yada, yada, yah and yet some black men happy to tell you that you are pretty for a dark girl, the type of girls are usually mixed race or whatever.

Ladies, if you like white men or whatever, you like blonds, dark hair, redheads, you go for what you like, it is nobodys business, than your own. If you like chocolate, Chris Brown complexion or Wentworth Miller complexion, go for it too, or you like Daniel Henney, or whatever, that is still your business, there is far too much analysing about why, who, what. People can argue until the cows come home, hell freezes over, and the world stops turning, certain ladies will always love non-black. Black women are entitled to do what they want to do and if they don't want to date black men, who it is really taboo for.

Why should it affect people personally. It is really all about controlling black women again, but yet no-one can tell black men what to do, whether they are stock brokers, investment bankers, lawyers, rappers, bus drivers, they probably have friends who only date non-black women and they would never argue them down into the sunset and beyond, they will accept their friends, turn up the wedding and wish them the best, end of story.

 

[WhipEffectz1]

Why should it affect people personally. It is really all about controlling black women again, but yet no-one can tell black men what to do, whether they are stock brokers, investment bankers, lawyers, rappers, bus drivers, they probably have friends who only date non-black women and they would never argue them down into the sunset and beyond, they will accept their friends, turn up the wedding and wish them the best, end of story.

Thank you so much for this. I usually ignore (jk??!!) your posts but this is right on point! lol

 

[Raine054]

Is it also wrong to only date within your race and exclude other races?

Nope.

I really dont care who you choose to date, but I find it interesting when ppl rationalize dating nonblack guys b/c they're surrounded by crappy black guys. Like is that what's in your circle? Crappy black guys and fine upstanding white dudes? I didn't even know those two groups rolled together.

I mean its just interesting to me b/c all the men I'm surrounded by are generally of a similar caliber, black, white, Asian whatever. And ppl generally date in their social circle right? So I think funny that those are the only type of guys you come across... Like is there affirmative action for friends now?

I agree.