Lhcf Taboo Topic..black Women Who Are Done Checking For Black Men

[MaryJane3000]

I see you're in DC. Yea, your men are rude. Was there for Halloween, I actually threw my drink in one dude's face cos he violently pushed me trying to get ahead of me toward coat check.

I wish it was a glass of cyanide and not just ginger ale

Yea girl rude as f***!

 

[snillohsss]

I have never met BW like this. The only time I've ever heard someone say that is on LHCF.

Growing up..the blacks in my parents circle actually abhor interracial unions. They basically felt if you can't find an upstanding BM they will find one for you.

 

[barbiesocialite]

Next time Im there and someone mentions "Park" I will scream.

Ghetto mess. Too many damn black people

you went to the Park?!?! no wonder

@ the bolded, exactly why I was laughing in that other thread bout too many black people

 

[kblc06]

But I will speak my piece (I like that saying now lol) before I leave. I don't think I will ever completely write off a specific race of man. I really think that's stupid lol. As many men who inhabit this Earth? You haven't met all of them. And yea yea I understand if someone has dealt with mostly losers of a specific race and the only 'logical' conclusion to come too is to be done with them........but I still think it's stupid

With that said, I'm not the type to seek out majority black venues in hopes of finding me a good black man to create a skrong black family with . I feel no loyalty to black men. I feel no loyalty to any man that I don't personally know. I also think that is stupid lol

And yea, I live with mah black daddy and he is great

Couldn't have said it better

 

[NaijaNaps]

Growing up..the blacks in my parents circle actually abhor interracial unions. They basically felt if you can't find an upstanding BM they will find one for you.

This is how some of my family members are acting right now. Making phone calls back home to try to find me a good Nigerian man since I was incapable of doing so myself. Lol.

"So and so saw your picture and he likes you." I'm like "grandma, I already have a boyfriend."

 

[sj10460]

Hey, what's wrong with The Park? That's the only decent place to go in DC. I don't go there often but its much better than Lux, Bar 7, Fur, etc. I usually stay in the reggae section cuz it's nice and cool

 

[UmSumayyah]

I have never met BW like this. The only time I've ever heard someone say that is on LHCF.

Growing up..the blacks in my parents circle actually abhor interracial unions. They basically felt if you can't find an upstanding BM they will find one for you.

You can't say they aren't helpful.

 

[longhairdreaming]

I don't know any women like this personally but I've dated white(ex-husband), black, middle eastern and hispanic men. I've found great guys and complete jerks in each group. Just looking for a good man who meets my expectations. I think what you find depends on where you are...yea black DC guys were something else. I don't miss them at all!

EDIT: I do know a woman who does this. My sister actually doesn't find black me attractive and never has. All her boyfriends have been white, specifically Jewish. Can't believe I forgot that but I think it's 'cause her preference doesn't stem from any resentment it's just what she's always dated and such things don't matter in my family. so....yea

 

[FemmeFatale]

One of the black women I know that feels like this has no problem telling black men this when they approach her, it's CRAZY and embarrasing! She's a super gorgeous, size 2 marketing exec that lives in the Upper West Side in NY and she feels no type of way about stating her preference directly to bm. She says they play too much games, have baggage and overall don't make enough money for her.

 

[Raine054]

Any black woman who consciously or unconsciously chooses to only date white men has a problem.

 

[FemmeFatale]

Hey, what's wrong with The Park? That's the only decent place to go in DC. I don't go there often but its much better than Lux, Bar 7, Fur, etc. I usually stay in the reggae section cuz it's nice and cool

I don't care for it, I like the spots on H street like Smithcommons.. Much more my speed.

 

[simplertimes]

I will get stoned for this, but if that is the mentality that certain Black women have to take on to find their "Mr. Right", so be it. I rarely hear BW voice these opinions in the media or out loud so it's all good.

 

[sj10460]

FemmeFatale i've never been there but sticky rice and that country club are cool spots, I take my white friend when she's in town

 

[Danewshe]

I know quite a few women on my dad's side who exclusively date/marry outside their race. Hell, I don't think my half-sister has ever dated a brother. So yes, in short, their are BW with this mentality. I'm more of an equal ops kind of girl but having said that, there is a certain kind of BM that I will never check for again. That being said, if I had had my ish together when I met these losers, I would never have lowered myself to that level.

 

[lushcoils]

if you're a Zoe Saldana type and WM simply approach you more then anyone else then I get that too.

BlackMasterPiece, what do you mean by Zoe Saldana type?

 

[calliope]

I have never checked for any man, black or white. I'm a lady- if they wanted to ask me out, they can come to me, I didn't go looking for no man.

In college, I dated a black guy once or twice who got my info and called and asked me out on the day before valentines day (which was a friday, guess he didn't want to take me out on the actual day) for a coffee date on campus.

Saw him like once again for a group date (more dang coffee) and then got a call from my white bf telling me that he'd asked her out on a date (she had a car, I did not) and asked if she could pick him up so he could take her out to Luby's

Needless to say, that ended before it even started.

Fast forward 4 months later and I met my now husband at a party who pursued me, courted me, treated me very well,and didn't ask out any of my friends. The rest is history. You don't always choose who you wind up with, sometimes, it just happens that way.

 

[O-ren]

Hey, what's wrong with The Park? That's the only decent place to go in DC.

Um No. LOL Ive only been to DC like maybe 4 times and even I know there's better than Park. Even Ultra Bar slays Park.

 

[O-ren]

One of the black women I know that feels like this has no problem telling black men this when they approach her, it's CRAZY and embarrasing! She's a super gorgeous, size 2 marketing exec that lives in the Upper West Side in NY and she feels no type of way about stating her preference directly to bm. She says they play too much games, have baggage and overall don't make enough money for her.

I like her spunk..how do they respond?

 

[TrueToHair]

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[Rina88]

One of the black women I know that feels like this has no problem telling black men this when they approach her, it's CRAZY and embarrasing! She's a super gorgeous, size 2 marketing exec that lives in the Upper West Side in NY and she feels no type of way about stating her preference directly to bm. She says they play too much games, have baggage and overall don't make enough money for her.

GIFSoup

DANG That's cold blooded smh. I need to know what a response to that has been.

 

[barbiesocialite]

Hey, what's wrong with The Park? That's the only decent place to go in DC. I don't go there often but its much better than Lux, Bar 7, Fur, etc. I usually stay in the reggae section cuz it's nice and cool

Oh goodness! Those other places are for college students and if you think the Park is the only decent place in DC, then you need new friends!

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

BlackMasterPiece, what do you mean by Zoe Saldana type?

lushcoils By that I mean the tall slender modelesque type with very little boobs and butt, somewhat of a ruler shape and naturally skinny, sometimes these women will have a tough time attracting/appealing to BM and get mostly WM suitors. If WM happen to be the vast majority of the men that step to you or have a tendency to be interested, even though you're open to all possibilities, then I don't begrudge that woman for mainly dating WM, because its the man's place to be the pursuer.

 

[barbiesocialite]

so FemmeFatale, what do you think of your friend that behaves this way?

 

[loolalooh]

I've encountered women like that and I eventually let it be known that its a ridiculous stance to have, and this is coming from someone that dates WM from time to time as well. Judge people by the content of their character, how they approach you, how they treat you, chemistry etc. there are good and bad apples in every ethnicity and its a bad look when you buy into unfair stereotypes for males of your own race. It also kinda reflects badly on the woman imo makes her look resentful and like she has baggage.

Now I understand that there are some professions that once you're in them you're pretty much interacting with mainly WM so there are just higher chances of it happening and thats cool, also if you're a Zoe Saldana type and WM simply approach you more then anyone else then I get that too. But to rule out men of your own race altogether....thats too much and requires some introspection imo.

I was with your entire post ... until the bolded. What does looking like Zoe Saldana have to do with WM approaching a woman?erplexed

 

[C(squared)]

I know a few...in fact more than a few. They would never voice it, yell from the rooftops or write articles about it but they do not date black men at all. These are attractive, successful women with great personality also. I find this whole diatribe interesting because while some BM who prefer to date only interracially, there are BW who share the same sentiment, yet they would never know it. They simply refuse BM advances and go about their business.

 

[TrueToHair]

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[O-ren]

UM BMP already explained herself and it makes sense

No need for yall to get all offended

 

[FemmeFatale]

so FemmeFatale, what do you think of your friend that behaves this way?

I think it's a bit harsh, I understand avoiding kangs like the bubonic plague but she's like that with 95% of black men that she encounters. I get kind of anxious when we go out together .

 

[loolalooh]

lushcoils By that I mean the tall slender modelesque type with very little boobs and butt, somewhat of a ruler shape and naturally skinny, sometimes these women will have a tough time attracting/appealing to BM and get mostly WM suitors. If WM happen to be the vast majority of the men that step to you or have a tendency to be interested, even though you're open to all possibilities, then I don't begrudge that woman for mainly dating WM, because its the man's place to be the pursuer.

Oh okay. I posted a couple minutes after this response, so I didn't see it.

Interesting ...

 

[TrueToHair]

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