BronzedGoddess said:the rednecks around here seem to have a problem with it. I've lived in 6 states since I've been married. Kansas, Texas, Florida, Maryland, South Carolina and Virginia and the Virginians seem to have the biggest problem with it. Must be the whole heart of the confederacy thing. But in general I think most people see it as a man is a man.
InNeedofHairapy said:If the man before the white man was a "down-low" brother with a peg leg and an angry parrot on his shoulder who screamed "Arrghh Matey" when he was making love...then yes...I guess the white man is a step up.
I mean really...I answered no, I like women...but that's not true either...
Galleta said:sistas are a step up for any man, aint nothing like a strong, sexy sista. white women are too unchallenging.
webby said:Girl, you're not lying...any man is a step up when keep digging for diamonds and keep coming up with coal.
hotshot said:wow.
i'd also like to add that some people reallyinternalize the "step up" mentality. they see whiteness-white communities, white schools, white people as free from the stresses and realities of black life; things are perceived as "easier". white people dont have to worry about the social repercussions that come with being born "themselves". whiteness still means ease and freedom in more senses than one. to be accepted by "whiteness" in terms of dating, beauty standards or social setting can create a deep internal sense of relief and greater cultural agency.
pulling out some masters degree theories on ya. . .
nvybeauty said:In my experience in NY, some White communities are safer than some Black communities. I have lived in both Black and White communities (Westchester and Jamaica) Black on Black crime is alive and real people.
DISCLAIMER: Not all communities ....but some.......
nvybeauty said:In my experience in NY, some White communities are safer than some Black communities. I have lived in both Black and White communities (Westchester and Jamaica) Black on Black crime is alive and real people.
DISCLAIMER: Not all communities ....but some.......
NewYorkgyrl said:You must have been in UPPER Westchester.
Don't get in twisted lower Westchester gets gansta too. Yonkers is only like 10 mintues from the Bronx. Mt. Vernon....let's just say they call it "Murda"ville.
snugglez41685 said:BORN AND RAISED(Where I spend most of my days) IN MURDAVILLE!!! RESIDING IN YO(YONKERS)!!! It ain't no joke in the "ville".Or YO. I've always seen some hood . I walk out my House to go to work like this sometimes(I work overnights).
firecracker said:Thank goodness I stayed way up on Warburton/Greystone Station when I did live in the YO! I was a 15 minute walk away from Downtown Hastings. Down that Warburton hill in the heart of The Yo was no joke.
nvybeauty said:In my experience in NY, some White communities are safer than some Black communities. I have lived in both Black and White communities (Westchester and Jamaica) Black on Black crime is alive and real people.
DISCLAIMER: Not all communities ....but some.......
snugglez41685 said:You ain't never lied! and I'm pretty fresh to Yonkers! i can't waitto save enough to get the heck outtaa here!
firecracker said:I can understand. Is Riverdale still cool?
jadedcynicism said:I think any man can be seen as a step up, all depends on who he's being compared to. I do think there has to be some tangible criteria, and skin color doesn't fit the bill. If a new guy is more financially successful than previous boyfriends for example, some may see that as a step up, but being white doesnt stop the guy being a bum. last time i checked there were lots of broke white people all over the place so i'm not too sure about that "rich white man" theory either.
That's like the time I was out @ the park with my family and some loser yelled out to me... "Yeeeehh, you like dat money don't cha?" I was likeLUVMYNATURAL said:Thank you, it sounds ridiculous, a man is a man.
I'm disturbed 28 people voted, "Yay, they got that paper"
People must not get out much if in this day and age people think only white men have money, I mean really. I have never had a problem meeting black men as financially well off as white men so I cannot relate to this "step up". Seeing as I do not look at financial stability as my first criteria, no man is a step up, as I do quite well on my own .
firecracker said:erplexed Claude Hawmercy when da helz is this damn thread gon die! Their just men no matter what the color goshdarnit! I'm coming Elizabeth I'm coming!
I think that the reason why the white men that you hang out with comment on the black male, white woman thing, is because they can even see how beauiful the black women is and they typically don't understand why our men treat us so bad. I Heard this out of the mouth of the plenty of white men.
We have been there fantasy forever. ever since slavery time white men prefered us over there own women. There are just well trained, ever been walking down the street looking pretty and a white man and his girl are walking towards you. She immediately looks to see if he's looking and he's usually turned the other way completly with a really funny looking face on.