LMAO!!!!
That is the funniest thing posted in this whole thread! I hope you find some turkey italian sausage soon!
Anywho, from my personal experience that I almost wish I could forget, IR dating and marriage is no simple concept. What most of us forget is that while we're busily falling in love and skipping across the color line, the rest of the world stilll holds firmly onto the notion that blacks are the lowest class and black women have the least social standing.
Just think about why so few BW/WM or BW/nonBM couples exist. NonBM find us less attractive as spouses than any other group of women. It's nice more of us are open to IR, but the bigger issue is that far too few men are open to us.
IR dating comes more easily for the educated, techno-savvy BW just due to her environment which is almost staunchly nonblack. Alot of us who date IR are normally in settings where we are the lone black person in a sea of other races, so we end up IR dating by default.
The huge barrier is having the relatives of your IR partners respect and accept you, this is something I have yet to truly navigate. I laughed at the posts mentioning how confused the posters were that a WM could date a BW yet still hold racist views. WM have done this ever since they found BW in Africa. F*'ing/dating you has nothing to do with respecting you as a human being. Most men see you as a piece of tail, when a man marries you and respects you, then you should expect better from him. His little head could care less what color you are in the dark. The hard part is claiming you in the sunlight in front of his clan/family. lol
I wish you all the best, but please understand that racism is just the tip of the iceberg here. You are fighting against centuries of history in this country alone. Many nonBlacks see us as beneath them (from looks to intelligence to wealth). And there's always great census data to support their stereotypes, so be ready to defend yourself and deal with attitudes that are beyond your control.
Also, consider how black features are not widely seen as attractive (4b/nappy hair, wide noses and lips, larger body frame, etc). Men marry women who have traits they want in their children and few men are willing to have a black-looking baby. Shoot, I know several women who openly admit to choosing nonBM fathers in order to have children with light skin and good hair. I doubt any of you would ever admit to it, but many BW see this as giving their children a "chance" if they have nonBM genes. Ever since slavery, an unfortunate truth has been that light skin and good hair will give you certain advantages.
Being black all over the world has so many disastrously negative connotations, so don't naively try to ignore it as you look for your colorblind knight in shining armor. Since slavery, we have been viewed world-wide as the lowest class of the entire human race. Had we not been slaves and built the world on our backs (and suffered centuries of massive injustices), we would be more respected now.
I used to think that me and my sweetie could fight against the world as long as we had each other's back, but family usually comes first. It's some Romeo and Juliet type crap that you would never believe could happen, but in real life, it's pretty cut and dry. You just KIM or wait it out and pray for a change.
God bless ladies and do your best to love wisely.
She actually gave these people control over her life.
