Ladies, why do you/would you date outside your 'race'? I would imagine that for some, this is not a question they have even thought about. Please do and anwser this poll and share your thoughts.
This is what I have noticed- some of the reasons Black women date/marry non-Black men.
1. So that your babies can have that good hair
Though I never heard of this before LHCF. I have heard about the lightening the bloodline reason, so I will put these together as they are similar.
2. Because you have Daddy issues or had bad experiences with Black men and prefer anything that does not remind you of a Black man (consciously/subconsciously). One of my sisters only date white men and I suspect it is because she has Daddy issues. She hates our father with a passion. I think the thought of being with a Black man repulses her.
3. Your first crush was with a white boy and that set a precedent.
Between the ages of 4 to 10 my friends daughter used to be so in love with her brother's best friend who is white. He used to be so kind to her and made her feel special when she was a little girl, not just his friends bratty little sister. I just knew she would have a preference for white guys when she became an adult because of her first crush. She is 22 now and all her boyfriends have been white, even though she is a proud Black woman.
4. Though, you would prefer to be with a white man, the dating scene for Black women is so dire at the moment that you would settle for a white man if he is interested.
5. It was not a preference, you just happened to fall for the guy and it had nothing to do with his skin colour and had everything to do with the person he is.
Though I am not a romantic, I do think that love is an amazing thing. I have seen racists fall in love with Black people (and continue to be racists and can sometimes exempt their spouses and children from their racist views).
I think if I was to go out with a White guy it would be for this reason. I love people who look like me. I used to be the kind of person who used to say I would never date a White man. However, the older I get, and the higher I get in my career, the more I meet some amazing people and this includes white men who, if I was not married, I would date despite my original preference.
6. I am just an equal ops kinda girl. I love all men. Variety is the spice of life! Or: I am mixed-race so dating non-Black men is not dating outside my 'race'.
7. The idea of being with a White man makes me feel important and valued. It gives me status.
8. I don't know. This is not something I have really thought about and I don't really see the need for the over analysis of my dating/marrying preferences.
9. I feel no connection to Black men and have never had the desire to date one.
10. Other- please elaborate.
I can't think of anymore. I you do please add to the list. Lets discuss.............
This is what I have noticed- some of the reasons Black women date/marry non-Black men.
1. So that your babies can have that good hair
Though I never heard of this before LHCF. I have heard about the lightening the bloodline reason, so I will put these together as they are similar.2. Because you have Daddy issues or had bad experiences with Black men and prefer anything that does not remind you of a Black man (consciously/subconsciously). One of my sisters only date white men and I suspect it is because she has Daddy issues. She hates our father with a passion. I think the thought of being with a Black man repulses her.
3. Your first crush was with a white boy and that set a precedent.
Between the ages of 4 to 10 my friends daughter used to be so in love with her brother's best friend who is white. He used to be so kind to her and made her feel special when she was a little girl, not just his friends bratty little sister. I just knew she would have a preference for white guys when she became an adult because of her first crush. She is 22 now and all her boyfriends have been white, even though she is a proud Black woman.
4. Though, you would prefer to be with a white man, the dating scene for Black women is so dire at the moment that you would settle for a white man if he is interested.
5. It was not a preference, you just happened to fall for the guy and it had nothing to do with his skin colour and had everything to do with the person he is.
Though I am not a romantic, I do think that love is an amazing thing. I have seen racists fall in love with Black people (and continue to be racists and can sometimes exempt their spouses and children from their racist views).
I think if I was to go out with a White guy it would be for this reason. I love people who look like me. I used to be the kind of person who used to say I would never date a White man. However, the older I get, and the higher I get in my career, the more I meet some amazing people and this includes white men who, if I was not married, I would date despite my original preference.
6. I am just an equal ops kinda girl. I love all men. Variety is the spice of life! Or: I am mixed-race so dating non-Black men is not dating outside my 'race'.
7. The idea of being with a White man makes me feel important and valued. It gives me status.
8. I don't know. This is not something I have really thought about and I don't really see the need for the over analysis of my dating/marrying preferences.
9. I feel no connection to Black men and have never had the desire to date one.
10. Other- please elaborate.
I can't think of anymore. I you do please add to the list. Lets discuss.............
Its really not that serious. I was always sent to magnet schools on the city that had student bodies that looked like the UN so when I came of age I saw men of all races as equals. 
right then and there, LOL. Sooo, I was done after that; WM were on my radar.
I am married to an Italian-Polish man. 
erplexed
