BroadstreetBully
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So my cousin called me up the other day with a dilemma. I'm not sure if I'm giving her the right advice, so I need some input from those who might have dealt with this.
Her current SO is attending a military academy. He's 19 and she's 21. It's been hard on her having a long distance relationship, especially since he doesn't have as much freedom to talk to her or see her while he's in the academy.
They've only been together for about 5 months, but he's told her that once they finish school, and he gets stationed, he wants her to move with him and live as a family. We interpreted this as him saying they will be married once he's out of school.
WELL, she went out to see him and he told her that he isn't thinking about marriage until he's OUT of the military. He plans on serving 6-8 years, but who knows! He still wants her to move out there with him, but he says the marriage failure rate in military families is too high, and he doesn't want to risk that.
I basically told her that when the time does come, NEVER go living with a man and playing "wifey" without being married to him.
But do you think his concerns are legitimate, Or is he making excuses? Is it a smart decision to wait until AFTER serving military time for marriage and family? It sounds like a crock of bull to me...but he IS 19
Her current SO is attending a military academy. He's 19 and she's 21. It's been hard on her having a long distance relationship, especially since he doesn't have as much freedom to talk to her or see her while he's in the academy.
They've only been together for about 5 months, but he's told her that once they finish school, and he gets stationed, he wants her to move with him and live as a family. We interpreted this as him saying they will be married once he's out of school.
WELL, she went out to see him and he told her that he isn't thinking about marriage until he's OUT of the military. He plans on serving 6-8 years, but who knows! He still wants her to move out there with him, but he says the marriage failure rate in military families is too high, and he doesn't want to risk that.
I basically told her that when the time does come, NEVER go living with a man and playing "wifey" without being married to him.
But do you think his concerns are legitimate, Or is he making excuses? Is it a smart decision to wait until AFTER serving military time for marriage and family? It sounds like a crock of bull to me...but he IS 19