Hi Ladies! Thank you for your comments. I wanted to give you an update. I know my story isn't new because this guy is the kind of man who will pop up periodically. And each time he's been popping up, he'll do something more attention grabbing like propose to get married in June as he did this last time.
I told him I thought about it some more and my answer is still no. He said he doesn't like that answer, and he will think of it as only a break, but he will leave me alone. Knowing him, I know this means he'll check back with me in a few months to see if I changed my mind, so I made sure to reply to him, "Thank you for agreeing to leave me alone. Take care." I hope he gets the message I don't want to be contacted again so I can move on. I think I will finally move on when I meet someone new and much better than him.
I used to think "how can he do this to me?" and "he's so evil" but I now honestly believe he wants a good relationship and he wants to be married and settled and secure, but he doesn't know how to get there with a woman because he's just not the right kind of man- he doesn't know how to love anyone but himself. That's why he's so educated, charming, handsome, AND still single even though he doesn't want to be!