Thread for the heartbroken
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LushLox
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The worst part in dealing with the aftermath of a bad/broken relationship for me is simply the disappointment. Things start so sunny and rosy and then it ends up....here. It's so emotionally draining.
That's why I waited three years to embark on another relationship, I needed to be mentally ready and it was the best thing I did for myself.
That's why I waited three years to embark on another relationship, I needed to be mentally ready and it was the best thing I did for myself.
ItsMeLilLucky
NotLucky no mo' just blessed.
I was trying to avoid this thread because I didn't want to accept the fact that I'm heartbroken, but here I am. It sucks. I miss the good morning texts, calls, cuddles, and fantastic coloring sessions. I'm definitely going to get a vibrator cause apparently I lose my mind when I'm celibate for too long.
sarumoki
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ItsMeLilLucky
NotLucky no mo' just blessed.
Thanks love
Damaris.Elle
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Time for me to join this thread. This past Saturday, I found out my SO cheated on me.
For the past couple of days, it's been therapeutic to talk about my experience so I'm going to post about it here...this is going to be long enough to be a book.
So, my SO and I were spending time together at my place this past Friday. He decided to head home at about 9pm. I don't know, but something about his demeanor made me think to myself "He's about to cheat on me" but, I've been cheated on in the past and I do still have some trust issues because of that. I quickly dismissed my thoughts as me being "paranoid". He left, I started my long wash routine (detangling, shampooing, henna treatment, DC). He called me when he got home and said "Let's go to brunch on Sunday." I already had plans with my friend to go to brunch on Sunday so he said "OK, let's go tomorrow instead." I asked him what time he wanted to go and he said "Just come over, we'll leave once you get here." OK, fine.
He then texts me about an hour later saying goodnight. For some reason, I also thought the text message was weird. Him sending a goodnight text is nothing out of the ordinary. I think it was because I thought it was a little early for him to be going to bed. But, I texted goodnight back and continued my wash routine.
During my wash routine, I kept having the urge to drive by his place. But again, I dismissed my intuition and thought "Are you going to drive over there with henna in your hair and a plastic shopping bag on your head? Come on now". But, for the whole night I just felt uneasy.
Next morning, I text him at about 10am to see if he's awake. No response. So, I call him 30 minutes later and he picks up and answers in a voice that sounds like he just woke up. Something about the way he answered, made me think he was faking the voice. He said he just woke up and that he would text when he's dressed. So he texts about an hour later and I head over.
Once I get there, his car is not in the parking garage. I instantly was really annoyed...like more annoyed than is probably normal for the situation. So, I didn't make a big deal out of it, but I called and asked him where he was. He says he's at Home Depot getting a deadbolt for my door...I had asked him to install one for me but I thought it was kind of weird that he picked that time to go get it. So I went ahead and let myself into the apartment.
I was hungry, so I opened the refrigerator to see if he had any snacks for me to eat to hold me over before brunch. When I open the refrigerator, I see that there are NO snacks and...Red flag #1: An opened bottle of Stella Rosa. SO doesn't drink and Stella Rosa is a woman's drink. Now I'm on high alert.
I begin to go into other rooms of the apartment to see if I see anything else out of place. I notice the sheets had been stripped from the bed (red flag). I go to the bathroom and notice that in the trash can there is a tissue with red lipstick on it (I didn't have to dig either. The trash can was basically empty except for that). HUGE HUGE red flag. SO has one sister who lives in another state, no female friends and his mom lives over an hour away. At this point my hands are shaking. I go back to the kitchen which has another trashcan, open the lid and see an opened condom wrapper right on top of the trash can.
He calls basically right then and says he's around the corner and to ask if I was waiting outside. I made myself sound normal and said "Yeah, I'm outside." I start walking outside and am debating with myself whether I should bring it up right away or if I should wait and gather more evidence. Then I thought "F*** that I don't need anymore evidence. I'm confronting him now."
When I get to his car he says "Hi, babe" then the first thing he does is start stuttering about how the apartment manager moved out of the building (weird). I got straight to the point and asked if he's cheating on me. He denied it at first and tried to give me a look like "Why would you ask me that?" Then I told him the things I noticed in the apartment and he says "So what does that point to?" and I said "You're cheating on me." and he just says matter-of-factly "Yeah."
I almost fell out of the seat. I shrieked, it felt like I got punched in the chest, it was like I was in physical pain. And all I can remember is saying "Oh my God" over and over and my voice didn't even sound like it was coming from me. I was in so much shock that I couldn't even cry and his face was blank the whole time. He claimed that last night was the only time it happened (I don't believe that) and that it hasn't been going on for long, he would not tell me who the girl was he just said that I didn't know her and that she was "nobody", that he doesn't know what his problem is and that he just feels detached from everything. I didn't want him to see me completely break down so I got out of the car, drove off and immediately called one of my close friends. I spent basically the whole day at her house. I sent him a horrible text message.
Late that night he called and left me a voicemail apologizing and s***. I didn't respond, yesterday he texts me apologizing more and I ignored it. This morning, I couldn't help myself. I responded and just told him how this is effecting me. It's been a cycle of emotions, but right now I don't feel angry. I just feel sad. So f***ing sad.
Next month would have been our 3-year anniversary, I thought I had found my future husband, this is the LAST thing I would have expected from him. I've barely been able to sleep. I don't think I've ever been so heartbroken in my life.
And now that I look back, there were so many times I ignored my intuition in this situation and even in the weeks leading up to this situation...I guess I was blinded by my emotions. I wish I had paid attention but I guess even if I had, the outcome probably would not have been any different.
For the past couple of days, it's been therapeutic to talk about my experience so I'm going to post about it here...this is going to be long enough to be a book.
So, my SO and I were spending time together at my place this past Friday. He decided to head home at about 9pm. I don't know, but something about his demeanor made me think to myself "He's about to cheat on me" but, I've been cheated on in the past and I do still have some trust issues because of that. I quickly dismissed my thoughts as me being "paranoid". He left, I started my long wash routine (detangling, shampooing, henna treatment, DC). He called me when he got home and said "Let's go to brunch on Sunday." I already had plans with my friend to go to brunch on Sunday so he said "OK, let's go tomorrow instead." I asked him what time he wanted to go and he said "Just come over, we'll leave once you get here." OK, fine.
He then texts me about an hour later saying goodnight. For some reason, I also thought the text message was weird. Him sending a goodnight text is nothing out of the ordinary. I think it was because I thought it was a little early for him to be going to bed. But, I texted goodnight back and continued my wash routine.
During my wash routine, I kept having the urge to drive by his place. But again, I dismissed my intuition and thought "Are you going to drive over there with henna in your hair and a plastic shopping bag on your head? Come on now". But, for the whole night I just felt uneasy.
Next morning, I text him at about 10am to see if he's awake. No response. So, I call him 30 minutes later and he picks up and answers in a voice that sounds like he just woke up. Something about the way he answered, made me think he was faking the voice. He said he just woke up and that he would text when he's dressed. So he texts about an hour later and I head over.
Once I get there, his car is not in the parking garage. I instantly was really annoyed...like more annoyed than is probably normal for the situation. So, I didn't make a big deal out of it, but I called and asked him where he was. He says he's at Home Depot getting a deadbolt for my door...I had asked him to install one for me but I thought it was kind of weird that he picked that time to go get it. So I went ahead and let myself into the apartment.
I was hungry, so I opened the refrigerator to see if he had any snacks for me to eat to hold me over before brunch. When I open the refrigerator, I see that there are NO snacks and...Red flag #1: An opened bottle of Stella Rosa. SO doesn't drink and Stella Rosa is a woman's drink. Now I'm on high alert.
I begin to go into other rooms of the apartment to see if I see anything else out of place. I notice the sheets had been stripped from the bed (red flag). I go to the bathroom and notice that in the trash can there is a tissue with red lipstick on it (I didn't have to dig either. The trash can was basically empty except for that). HUGE HUGE red flag. SO has one sister who lives in another state, no female friends and his mom lives over an hour away. At this point my hands are shaking. I go back to the kitchen which has another trashcan, open the lid and see an opened condom wrapper right on top of the trash can.
He calls basically right then and says he's around the corner and to ask if I was waiting outside. I made myself sound normal and said "Yeah, I'm outside." I start walking outside and am debating with myself whether I should bring it up right away or if I should wait and gather more evidence. Then I thought "F*** that I don't need anymore evidence. I'm confronting him now."
When I get to his car he says "Hi, babe" then the first thing he does is start stuttering about how the apartment manager moved out of the building (weird). I got straight to the point and asked if he's cheating on me. He denied it at first and tried to give me a look like "Why would you ask me that?" Then I told him the things I noticed in the apartment and he says "So what does that point to?" and I said "You're cheating on me." and he just says matter-of-factly "Yeah."
I almost fell out of the seat. I shrieked, it felt like I got punched in the chest, it was like I was in physical pain. And all I can remember is saying "Oh my God" over and over and my voice didn't even sound like it was coming from me. I was in so much shock that I couldn't even cry and his face was blank the whole time. He claimed that last night was the only time it happened (I don't believe that) and that it hasn't been going on for long, he would not tell me who the girl was he just said that I didn't know her and that she was "nobody", that he doesn't know what his problem is and that he just feels detached from everything. I didn't want him to see me completely break down so I got out of the car, drove off and immediately called one of my close friends. I spent basically the whole day at her house. I sent him a horrible text message.
Late that night he called and left me a voicemail apologizing and s***. I didn't respond, yesterday he texts me apologizing more and I ignored it. This morning, I couldn't help myself. I responded and just told him how this is effecting me. It's been a cycle of emotions, but right now I don't feel angry. I just feel sad. So f***ing sad.
Next month would have been our 3-year anniversary, I thought I had found my future husband, this is the LAST thing I would have expected from him. I've barely been able to sleep. I don't think I've ever been so heartbroken in my life.
And now that I look back, there were so many times I ignored my intuition in this situation and even in the weeks leading up to this situation...I guess I was blinded by my emotions. I wish I had paid attention but I guess even if I had, the outcome probably would not have been any different.
LushLox
Well-Known Member
@Noelle01 I'm sorry this has happened to you
But you'll be fine. It hurts like hell and you'll be questioning why he's done this to you. Know that this wasn't your fault. He had a moment of weaknesses and wasn't strong enough to resist.
I hope he didn't use the bull crap line about, "I made a mistake." It's no mistake, he knew exactly what he wanted and what he was doing!
Be thankful that you found out now, and not further down the line before contemplating marriage. You're worth more.
But you'll be fine. It hurts like hell and you'll be questioning why he's done this to you. Know that this wasn't your fault. He had a moment of weaknesses and wasn't strong enough to resist.
I hope he didn't use the bull crap line about, "I made a mistake." It's no mistake, he knew exactly what he wanted and what he was doing!
Be thankful that you found out now, and not further down the line before contemplating marriage. You're worth more.
hopeful
Well-Known Member
Ain't that the truth. I'm realizing that we women need to immerse ourselves in our feelings for ourselves and our benefit. We are so in touch with how we feel about others, but detached from our feelings within and for ourselves. Hope that makes sense. @Noelle01 allow yourself to cry and grieve. Let it out. And learn from it.
I found this article to be very helpful:
http://thedailylove.com/the-lesson-in-being-cheated-on/
Favorite quote from this article:
"What if being cheated on is actually a wake up call to trust and value yourself? What if the physical act of being cheated on is an external reflection of how you’ve cheated on yourself. That is to say, you knew something was off, you didn’t feel safe, you knew you deserved better: but you did nothing."
Hang in there dear. You will get over this and be better and stronger than ever. (((Hugs)))
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boudoir
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@Noelle01
Huge hugs!!! and so true @ intuition a woman usually has an uncanny nagging of the mind when shed don't add up!
he will call, he will write, he will try and send a bird with a message, you have to know that you deserve better.
I am extremely bothered by the effort that he put into his cheating, the lying, the bottle of alcohol, this was not some spur of the moment thing, premeditated and planned to a T, he deserve his a66 beat for this! ugh men!
Huge hugs!!! and so true @ intuition a woman usually has an uncanny nagging of the mind when shed don't add up!
he will call, he will write, he will try and send a bird with a message, you have to know that you deserve better.
I am extremely bothered by the effort that he put into his cheating, the lying, the bottle of alcohol, this was not some spur of the moment thing, premeditated and planned to a T, he deserve his a66 beat for this! ugh men!
Damaris.Elle
Well-Known Member
@LushLox He actually did say "I knew what I was doing when I did it." which kind of devastated me even more. I mean, I wouldn't have believed his excuse, but at least try to make one!
@hopeful That article was really helpful. It's true...when I think back, our relationship has been off since October. Nothing drastic happened, but there were subtle changes. One thing I do remember happening is back in February I was out of town at a conference for work and there was some event that he said he was thinking about going to that was happening while I was out of town. I had a really bad feeling about him going to that event and at the time I had no idea why. I did not tell him I didn't want him to go because of course I can't control what he does/where he goes, but when he said he had decided to go I felt like crying. So now I'm wondering if he first met the woman he cheated on me with at that event back in February. I guess since it's after the fact I'm just trying to piece things together.
@boudoir You're right, yesterday he sent flowers and a gift card to one of my favorite restaurants. It's hard because I still love him so much, but I can't allow him back in. But, I will gladly accept the gift card lol.
The way the apartment was left has me wondering if he wanted me to find the evidence...he cleaned, but did not clean everything. If I wanted to cheat and not get caught, I would make sure there was no evidence in that whole apartment. And he had the nerve to have Stella Rosa Berry, one of my favorite flavors. I should have taken it, just to be petty.
Thank you for all your support ladies
@hopeful That article was really helpful. It's true...when I think back, our relationship has been off since October. Nothing drastic happened, but there were subtle changes. One thing I do remember happening is back in February I was out of town at a conference for work and there was some event that he said he was thinking about going to that was happening while I was out of town. I had a really bad feeling about him going to that event and at the time I had no idea why. I did not tell him I didn't want him to go because of course I can't control what he does/where he goes, but when he said he had decided to go I felt like crying. So now I'm wondering if he first met the woman he cheated on me with at that event back in February. I guess since it's after the fact I'm just trying to piece things together.
@boudoir You're right, yesterday he sent flowers and a gift card to one of my favorite restaurants. It's hard because I still love him so much, but I can't allow him back in. But, I will gladly accept the gift card lol.
The way the apartment was left has me wondering if he wanted me to find the evidence...he cleaned, but did not clean everything. If I wanted to cheat and not get caught, I would make sure there was no evidence in that whole apartment. And he had the nerve to have Stella Rosa Berry, one of my favorite flavors.
I should have taken it, just to be petty. Thank you for all your support ladies
hopeful
Well-Known Member
@Noelle01
A part of you will still love him and for some time. The part of you that is determined to move on and protect yourself and only be with someone you can trust can co-exist with the part that still loves him. The part that wants to break free just has to be the stronger part, the part that is in charge.
Continue to journal, discuss, and talk about your feelings, piece things together, it's all part of your healing. You have been violated and betrayed. Allow yourself to feel all of your emotions, including anger. I have found anger to be a very productive emotion, very healing. So long as you don't stay there, let it consume you, or let it encourage you to do something you will regret. Otherwise it serves as a cleansing agent, a guide for you to go in a new direction with your life. And no matter what do your best to keep moving forward. You are completely in charge of your life now.
A part of you will still love him and for some time. The part of you that is determined to move on and protect yourself and only be with someone you can trust can co-exist with the part that still loves him. The part that wants to break free just has to be the stronger part, the part that is in charge.
Continue to journal, discuss, and talk about your feelings, piece things together, it's all part of your healing. You have been violated and betrayed. Allow yourself to feel all of your emotions, including anger. I have found anger to be a very productive emotion, very healing. So long as you don't stay there, let it consume you, or let it encourage you to do something you will regret. Otherwise it serves as a cleansing agent, a guide for you to go in a new direction with your life. And no matter what do your best to keep moving forward. You are completely in charge of your life now.
Damaris.Elle
Well-Known Member
@hopeful and @ArrrBeee thanks. I've been feeling a lot better this week. He's been blowing up my phone (I could block him but I like the attention lol) and I haven't been answering. Then he had the nerve to text me and say "Why aren't you returning my calls?" Damn, I don't know. Maybe because you ****ed someone else?
His sense of entitlement right now is ridiculous.
His sense of entitlement right now is ridiculous.
hopeful
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ArrrBeee
Well-Known Member
@Noelle01
Please do yourself a favor and block his number. The attention he's giving you is like him giving you 1 bite of food. Look for the man that wants to give you a multi course meal.
As long as his number is still popping across your screen, he's in your head and you can't move forward. You deserve better.
Please do yourself a favor and block his number. The attention he's giving you is like him giving you 1 bite of food. Look for the man that wants to give you a multi course meal.
As long as his number is still popping across your screen, he's in your head and you can't move forward. You deserve better.
mz.rae
Well-Known Member
It really hurts to have been there for someone, while they were in the hospital being there every day to see them even after a 12 hour shift at work. To them treating you like crap. Not answering your messages, sending phone calls to voicemail. I wish after all of this a ninja would message or call me like nothing happened and I will surely give him a piece of my mind. I will never be there for anyone else ever again. I hate men, I hate black men.
Daernyris
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@mz.rae
Sorry sis that you're hurting. Believe me when I tell you I understand the rage, I'm currently there with you.
He's shown you who he is, he don't deserve a piece of anything else from you. Not yo mouth, not yo energy, not yo time, not yo heart and definitely not a piece of yo mind. If you give him even a small piece he'll somehow manage to weasel his way back in and have you convinced that you are overreacting. Also, that his behavior is a figment of your imagination.
I know all this sis cause I have been there.
Dead him!!!!
Block him!!!!
Ghost him!!!!
Sorry sis that you're hurting. Believe me when I tell you I understand the rage, I'm currently there with you.
He's shown you who he is, he don't deserve a piece of anything else from you. Not yo mouth, not yo energy, not yo time, not yo heart and definitely not a piece of yo mind. If you give him even a small piece he'll somehow manage to weasel his way back in and have you convinced that you are overreacting. Also, that his behavior is a figment of your imagination.
I know all this sis cause I have been there.
Dead him!!!!
Block him!!!!
Ghost him!!!!
mz.rae
Well-Known Member
Thank you! I know it's my fault because I allowed him back in my life. We had broken up a few years ago after he found out I was talking to another, which I later found out he was talking to another woman back when we together as well. But even beside that he was still a jerk back then. He would get mad at me and give me the silent treatment as well as a whole bunch of stuff. And I felt bad back in the day about my part in the relationships demise and always had a "What if mind set. So when he reached out to me I decided to give him another chance to see where it could go. It started off well, and then all of sudden in six short months it became this. But this time I am not letting him back in, he can kick rocks.@mz.rae
Sorry sis that you're hurting. Believe me when I tell you I understand the rage, I'm currently there with you.
He's shown you who he is, he don't deserve a piece of anything else from you. Not yo mouth, not yo energy, not yo time, not yo heart and definitely not a piece of yo mind. If you give him even a small piece he'll somehow manage to weasel his way back in and have you convinced that you are overreacting. Also, that his behavior is a figment of your imagination.
I know all this sis cause I have been there.
Dead him!!!!
Block him!!!!
Ghost him!!!!
mz.rae
Well-Known Member
I just had to break down and cry earlier today. The guy I was just telling you about, after trying to reach out to him again he deleted me off Facebook. And then a few hours later messaging me saying "It's over". I am a mixture of hurt and happy. I'm happy because good riddance I know I deserve more and something better than what he was offering. But hurt at the same time because he meant something to me. I should have listened to my friends when they warned me to be careful, and felt that the whole situation was going to end bad. But you live and you learn and he isn't going to get anymore chances out of me.
LushLox
Well-Known Member
I've learned the hard way that when you break up with someone it has happened for a reason.
I'll never make the same mistake again.
BrownSkinPoppin
formerly NaturallyBri87
Can't really say that I'm heart broken because I'm glad he showed his true colors. I think I'm just disappointed. We talked about marriage, children, the whole nine. Monday will officially make 3 weeks of no contact. I've returned his belongings but he has not returned mine after multiple requests. He was even given the option to give them to his cousin who I'm friends with (the reason we know each other) but didn't.
I've done some reflecting and I see that he definitely has some growing up and maturing to do. For the most part he was a decent guy but now that the dust has settled I see now that was dating a boy.
He was forgetful. Sometimes he would forget our dates and would I would call him to tell him I was ready and he would be sleep.
He was irresponsible, careless and unreliable. Always "misplacing" his phone. Forgetting it at home cuz he was rushing out the door for work. Cell phone battery was always dead or dying. Always thinking he told me something when he did. "I thought I already told that my dad is out the hospital" "I thought I told you that I had to work this weekend and couldn't go to the movies"
Both of us had to work very late on Valetines Day and so we didn't make plans to do anything special. We both were okay with that. He was just going to come over when I got off (I got off later than him) and just chill. It was our first vday together. He came over with a box of candy that he probably got at Walgreens on his way to my house like we're in middle school. Sir. He did go out all for my birthday two months later but still.
I'm not sure to what to call this one. During the time that we were together I exoerienced two deaths in the family. He met one of the deceased. One was unexpected, and the other had cancer so I knew that she was dying. The cancer one was very hard for me because I was close to her. This was recent, within the past two months. Both deaths happened in the middle of the night so when I found out I just sent him a text letting him know that they had passed. All he did was text back "I'm so sorry" or one of those kind of messages. And now that I think about it, with both deaths, not once did he actually take the time to call me to see how I was doing, ask if I needed anything, didn't call me after the funerals to see how I was doing. Nothing. It didn't cross my mind at the time because I had the support of my family and cousins. But now that I think about it he wasn't really there for me during those deaths. Who does that?
The social media games. Stunting for the gram (that's what actually ended it).
He was handsome, tall, atheletic, good career, charming, tatted up, neat dreads, and had really good D, lol. Maybe I was blinded by that.
But anyway. It's just so clear to me that he wasn't really capable of an adult relationship that moving towards marriage. Not future husband material and that's where I am right now. Future husband. Not just boyfriend. He's not mature enough And Maturity is a process. So oh well. next.
I've done some reflecting and I see that he definitely has some growing up and maturing to do. For the most part he was a decent guy but now that the dust has settled I see now that was dating a boy.
He was forgetful. Sometimes he would forget our dates and would I would call him to tell him I was ready and he would be sleep.
He was irresponsible, careless and unreliable. Always "misplacing" his phone. Forgetting it at home cuz he was rushing out the door for work. Cell phone battery was always dead or dying. Always thinking he told me something when he did. "I thought I already told that my dad is out the hospital" "I thought I told you that I had to work this weekend and couldn't go to the movies"
Both of us had to work very late on Valetines Day and so we didn't make plans to do anything special. We both were okay with that. He was just going to come over when I got off (I got off later than him) and just chill. It was our first vday together. He came over with a box of candy that he probably got at Walgreens on his way to my house like we're in middle school. Sir. He did go out all for my birthday two months later but still.
I'm not sure to what to call this one. During the time that we were together I exoerienced two deaths in the family. He met one of the deceased. One was unexpected, and the other had cancer so I knew that she was dying. The cancer one was very hard for me because I was close to her. This was recent, within the past two months. Both deaths happened in the middle of the night so when I found out I just sent him a text letting him know that they had passed. All he did was text back "I'm so sorry" or one of those kind of messages. And now that I think about it, with both deaths, not once did he actually take the time to call me to see how I was doing, ask if I needed anything, didn't call me after the funerals to see how I was doing. Nothing. It didn't cross my mind at the time because I had the support of my family and cousins. But now that I think about it he wasn't really there for me during those deaths. Who does that?
The social media games. Stunting for the gram (that's what actually ended it).
He was handsome, tall, atheletic, good career, charming, tatted up, neat dreads, and had really good D, lol. Maybe I was blinded by that.
But anyway. It's just so clear to me that he wasn't really capable of an adult relationship that moving towards marriage. Not future husband material and that's where I am right now. Future husband. Not just boyfriend. He's not mature enough And Maturity is a process. So oh well. next.
ArrrBeee
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Bunnyhaslonghair
Ebonics Queen
Almost a year later and I'm still going strong with my zero romantic interest.
I'm in no rush either. I feel like ill get there later this year/early next year.
MzLady78
Well-Known Member
I suffered a terrible setback this weekend. It's so insane and foolish, I can't even post it. But it was bad enough that I started an online therapy trial while I try to find someone local. Crying non stop, not eating and not sleeping for 3 days, didn't go to work yesterday bad.
lavaflow99
In search of the next vacation
So so sorry to hear about this. But thankful you are reaching out and getting help. This too shall pass. Please take care of yourself.
MzLady78
Well-Known Member
So so sorry to hear about this. But thankful you are reaching out and getting help. This too shall pass. Please take care of yourself.
Thank you.
We're all here with you and for you. I'm so sorry to hear about your setback. This too shall pass. You're gonna be okay mama. Take especially good care of your beautiful self.
hopeful
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(((Hugs))) to you too @NaturallyBri87 I'm so sorry about the break up. How are you doing? I'm just seeing your post so it's been a few weeks now since you shared the break up. I hope you are feeling better.
BrownSkinPoppin
formerly NaturallyBri87
I'm doing well! Thank you for asking. My job keeps me very busy during the week and my girlfriends and family have been keeping me busy on the weekends. I haven't even had time to think about him like that. It's been about a month and a half since it ended so time is definitely healing the wounds.
And He actually reached out to me yesterday apologizing for everything. I didn't say anything back.
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