Single and Ready to Mingle: 2011 Edition!
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Glib Gurl
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At the Chroma Room in the Ultra Bar?? If so, I might see you there.
Actually no
But I'm sure there will be "cousins" (or even just lurkers) at the party I go to . . . it's their founder's day or something . . . so yeah, Kappas are LIVE all over the place!
^^^^ Yeah, I just found that out. I was coming back to update my post before anyone noticed 
Anywho, the party is from 5-2. My friends want to go at 10 because one of them is having dinner with her boo. That sucks cause I wanted to go at 7 and be home by 10. Decisions...
Anywho, the party is from 5-2. My friends want to go at 10 because one of them is having dinner with her boo. That sucks cause I wanted to go at 7 and be home by 10. Decisions...
Ltown
Greyland
I challenge myself this year by going out not waiting on folks and went alone on New Years and mingle with people I don't know, well there was lot of men/women alone but mingling so this was a fresh start for me 2011. I'm not waitng on other because they were hindering me. I'm in DMV too and will be hitting First Friday at Park 14th street.
Glib Gurl
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Okay so I'm back from the party and . . . let's just say I'm not. quite. there. yet. It was way out of my comfort zone. I'm sorry but I just don't find the fun in standing around in a small, crowded space, listening to bad music, sipping on an overpriced drank 
, trying to look like I'm enjoying myself 
I was open and friendly for about a half hour, then the atmosphere got to me and I just shut down. 
The one good thing is that there were TONS of men there . . . attractive, college educated guys with things going for themselves . . . I spoke to a few . . . but that's just it . . . *I* had to speak to them first. Not cool. Plus, these sisters were NOT playing. Here it is - a Wednesday night happy hour and these ladies show up in tiiiight, low-cut, party-until-Sunday-morning-walk-home-barefoot-cuz-my-heels-hurt outfits
Yeah. Totally not for me . . . or at least, not right now.
I need to try something a little more low-key and build up to my next bar event . . . .
, trying to look like I'm enjoying myself I was open and friendly for about a half hour, then the atmosphere got to me and I just shut down. The one good thing is that there were TONS of men there . . . attractive, college educated guys with things going for themselves . . . I spoke to a few . . . but that's just it . . . *I* had to speak to them first. Not cool. Plus, these sisters were NOT playing. Here it is - a Wednesday night happy hour and these ladies show up in tiiiight, low-cut, party-until-Sunday-morning-walk-home-barefoot-cuz-my-heels-hurt outfits
Yeah. Totally not for me . . . or at least, not right now. I need to try something a little more low-key and build up to my next bar event . . . .
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zzirvingj
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Okay so I'm back from the party and . . . let's just say I'm not. quite. there. yet. It was way out of my comfort zone. I'm sorry but I just don't find the fun in standing around in a small, crowded space, listening to bad music, sipping on an overpriced drank
The one good thing is that there were TONS of men there . . . attractive, college educated guys with things going for themselves . . . I spoke to a few . . . but that's just it . . . *I* had to speak to them first. Not cool. Plus, these sisters were NOT playing. Here it is - a Wednesday night happy hour and these ladies show up in tiiiight, low-cut, party-until-Sunday-morning-walk-home-barefoot-cuz-my-heels-hurt outfits
I need to try something a little more low-key and build up to my next bar event . . . .
I went out to this popular "sports bar" for a girlfriend of mine's birthday and we were all in cute jeans/cute tops (with the exception of 1 girlfriend). But MAN was I surprised to see all of the CLUBwear in that place!
I mean, women were dressed to the nines in the shortest mini dresses and tallest spiked stilettos
It actually made my head hurt just a little lol...
MummysGirl
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Taking notes...
FlyyBohemian
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Im in! I was invited to go on a double date this weekend by one of my girlfriends. I went before and me and the guy hit it off. I think I might go again!
FlyyBohemian
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That atmosphere sounds familiar...I get you girl. That is so not my scene!
Lol @ Kappa parties. Many of my close male friends/acquaintances are Kappas, so not to throw any shade, but yeah.... before you even posted the results of how the party was I already had a feeling of what it was going to be. Especially the part about you having to speak first.
I went out to this popular "sports bar" for a girlfriend of mine's birthday and we were all in cute jeans/cute tops (with the exception of 1 girlfriend). But MAN was I surprised to see all of the CLUBwear in that place!
I mean, women were dressed to the nines in the shortest mini dresses and tallest spiked stilettos
You are in the A, right? They don't be playing, lol.
zzirvingj
New Member
Yep.
And you're right...they don't play around here. lol
I've lived here for a while but moved away for two years and came back last summer. I'm still shocked at how all the women were dressed that night.
LivingDol1
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hey LHCFers!
it's a new year so i'm going to put out the effort.... i said that i would ditch the online dating and try a matchmaker... i think i've found something that might be right up my alley. would be a very big stretch for me to do this because i'm more shy than outgoing but i do have my adventurous moments...
i'm not even telling any of my real life single gal pals the particulars about what i'm doing because i don't want to rely on needing to go someplace with a friend in order to get out and about. i'm doing this on my own with no buffer... i hope i finally have some luck.
it's a new year so i'm going to put out the effort.... i said that i would ditch the online dating and try a matchmaker... i think i've found something that might be right up my alley. would be a very big stretch for me to do this because i'm more shy than outgoing but i do have my adventurous moments...
i'm not even telling any of my real life single gal pals the particulars about what i'm doing because i don't want to rely on needing to go someplace with a friend in order to get out and about. i'm doing this on my own with no buffer... i hope i finally have some luck.
jazzysweet
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This is a great challenge. If funny to hear about Kappas and how they need to be approached.. I am having a similar experience now..I'm dating an Alpha and he is soo dry... I feel like I have to do initiate everything so I'm done. I'm ready to mingle with some other ppl and will be joining some meet-ups this weekend and see what happens. If there are any of you in the SF Bay area and you want to join any meet ups with me, please message me.
*SkolarStar*
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Okay so I'm back from the party and . . . let's just say I'm not. quite. there. yet. It was way out of my comfort zone. I'm sorry but I just don't find the fun in standing around in a small, crowded space, listening to bad music, sipping on an overpriced drank
The one good thing is that there were TONS of men there . . . attractive, college educated guys with things going for themselves . . . I spoke to a few . . . but that's just it . . . *I* had to speak to them first. Not cool. Plus, these sisters were NOT playing. Here it is - a Wednesday night happy hour and these ladies show up in tiiiight, low-cut, party-until-Sunday-morning-walk-home-barefoot-cuz-my-heels-hurt outfits
I need to try something a little more low-key and build up to my next bar event . . . .
LMBO @ the happy hour outfit
I'll be lurking in this thread for tips... still trying to achieve the woman I want to be so I'll be taking notes from yall for future reference
Glib Gurl
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I posted this in my blog, but figured I would post here as well.
*copy* *paste*
So, despite the setback earlier this week, I decided to venture out again tonight for another speed dating event. And get this - I WENT BY MYSELF I *never* go out alone . . . especially not on a Saturday night. But dangit, my bestie didn't want to come and I was feeling a little intimidated at first (thinking about all the "competition" that would be there), but I figured, when else am I guaranteed to have at least 10 guys talk to me at the club? Plus I'd rather go and have the experience than sit at home and feel like I missed something. So, I put on a cute outfit, did my hurr and makeup, and hit the scene.
I am so glad that I went . . . I actually ran into a friend from college there (she was one of the event organizers). Also the men were of a much better quality than the event I went to last month . . . I don't know if I will have a mutual match with any of them, but all in all, it was more "practice" for talking with guys. I got some interesting feedback . . . at least two of the guys said that I came across very "serious," which surprised me because I was being very talkative and bubbly . . . at least I thought I was. *shrug*
Oh, and do you know that I ran into a dude that I met at the LAST speed dating event I went to? In fact, we were supposed to go out yesterday for a lunch date, but I had to cancel because of work. (In case you're wondering, this was the same dude who was constantly asking for pictures.) Anyways, he was a little gruff with me. "You stood me up!" he said. Actually I didn't - my boss really did change my schedule so I couldn't make our date. But I admit that the fact that he kept asking for pictures really turned me off so I didn't mind not going. Anyways, he asked me how I would make it up to him. I told him that I'd allow him to take me out We'll see if we actually "match" again. A part of me wants to reach out to say that I wasn't blowing him off, hope to see him again, etc. But another part of me says let it go - if he wants to go out with you, he will reach out himself.
The funniest part of the evening was when this older, crusty dude sat down. He was wearing a corduroy blazer with elbow patches and looked like he was two weeks overdue for a haircut. As soon as he sat across from me he said, "I already know what I'm looking for in a woman." Okay . . . from that alone, I knew he wasn't interested, so I figured I'd just make conversation. I asked him what he was looking for . . . "Well, first off, I want a woman who's at least 40 and that's not here. And, like I said, I have a type . . . I mean, you're tall enough so that's good. But there's one thing about you that 'disqualifies' you . . . . "
"Oh really?" I said, "What might that be?"
"Well, I don't want to say."
"I bet I can guess . . . body type?"
He laughed and said yes.
I didn't care because again, I wasn't feeling him at all. And he justified it saying, "Look, if a guy was 5'1", you wouldn't be interested in him no matter how smart or engaging he was right? This is no different."
When our time was up, he shook my hand and I pulled him in and said, "Just remember: anyone can lose weight, but stupid is forever."
Despite Old Head, it was still a good evening. Even though there was a mixer, I decided to leave after the speed dating part. (What can I say? Baby steps . . . plus I wasn't in the mood to strike up conversations with men and I didn't get the impression that they would strike them up with me.) So yeah, I left, but I left feeling satisfied with myself.
One thing that was fascinating to me is that most of the guys, when discussing what they were looking for in a woman, only mentioned physical things . . . "I like women who are tall, voluptuous, etc., etc." When guys asked me what I was looking for, right off the bat, my first answer was that I liked men who are "intellectual." Hmmm. While that's true, I wonder if that's a "turn off" of an answer . . . will need to think that over.
Anyways, onto the next adventure!
*copy* *paste*
So, despite the setback earlier this week, I decided to venture out again tonight for another speed dating event. And get this - I WENT BY MYSELF I *never* go out alone . . . especially not on a Saturday night. But dangit, my bestie didn't want to come and I was feeling a little intimidated at first (thinking about all the "competition" that would be there), but I figured, when else am I guaranteed to have at least 10 guys talk to me at the club? Plus I'd rather go and have the experience than sit at home and feel like I missed something. So, I put on a cute outfit, did my hurr and makeup, and hit the scene.
I am so glad that I went . . . I actually ran into a friend from college there (she was one of the event organizers). Also the men were of a much better quality than the event I went to last month . . . I don't know if I will have a mutual match with any of them, but all in all, it was more "practice" for talking with guys. I got some interesting feedback . . . at least two of the guys said that I came across very "serious," which surprised me because I was being very talkative and bubbly . . . at least I thought I was. *shrug*
Oh, and do you know that I ran into a dude that I met at the LAST speed dating event I went to? In fact, we were supposed to go out yesterday for a lunch date, but I had to cancel because of work. (In case you're wondering, this was the same dude who was constantly asking for pictures.) Anyways, he was a little gruff with me. "You stood me up!" he said. Actually I didn't - my boss really did change my schedule so I couldn't make our date. But I admit that the fact that he kept asking for pictures really turned me off so I didn't mind not going. Anyways, he asked me how I would make it up to him. I told him that I'd allow him to take me out We'll see if we actually "match" again. A part of me wants to reach out to say that I wasn't blowing him off, hope to see him again, etc. But another part of me says let it go - if he wants to go out with you, he will reach out himself.
The funniest part of the evening was when this older, crusty dude sat down. He was wearing a corduroy blazer with elbow patches and looked like he was two weeks overdue for a haircut. As soon as he sat across from me he said, "I already know what I'm looking for in a woman." Okay . . . from that alone, I knew he wasn't interested, so I figured I'd just make conversation. I asked him what he was looking for . . . "Well, first off, I want a woman who's at least 40 and that's not here. And, like I said, I have a type . . . I mean, you're tall enough so that's good. But there's one thing about you that 'disqualifies' you . . . . "
"Oh really?" I said, "What might that be?"
"Well, I don't want to say."
"I bet I can guess . . . body type?"
He laughed and said yes.
I didn't care because again, I wasn't feeling him at all. And he justified it saying, "Look, if a guy was 5'1", you wouldn't be interested in him no matter how smart or engaging he was right? This is no different."
When our time was up, he shook my hand and I pulled him in and said, "Just remember: anyone can lose weight, but stupid is forever."
Despite Old Head, it was still a good evening. Even though there was a mixer, I decided to leave after the speed dating part. (What can I say? Baby steps . . . plus I wasn't in the mood to strike up conversations with men and I didn't get the impression that they would strike them up with me.) So yeah, I left, but I left feeling satisfied with myself.
One thing that was fascinating to me is that most of the guys, when discussing what they were looking for in a woman, only mentioned physical things . . . "I like women who are tall, voluptuous, etc., etc." When guys asked me what I was looking for, right off the bat, my first answer was that I liked men who are "intellectual." Hmmm. While that's true, I wonder if that's a "turn off" of an answer . . . will need to think that over.
Anyways, onto the next adventure!
Wow, speed dating sounds really... interesting! Good for you for going out though, Glib.
I'm so silly I would've just had a silly grin on my face the entire time laughing at ninjas, lol. It almost seems like speed dating attracts a lot of...um, interesting characters. But there's always the possibility of that diamond in the rough.
I'm so silly I would've just had a silly grin on my face the entire time laughing at ninjas, lol. It almost seems like speed dating attracts a lot of...um, interesting characters. But there's always the possibility of that diamond in the rough.
Glib Gurl
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Okay, it looks like the Alphas are hosting a bunch of events for MLK Jr. Day . . . I wonder if it's worth trying to go . . . I know of at least 2 breakfast events . . . but do I really feel like getting up early on a Monday morning and paying for an overpriced breakfast? Are there actual networking opportunities (professional or otherwise) at these types of things?
This is what I'm on right now. I have an ok job, but in a very small city. I want a better job in a real city, top goal for 2011.
But, I'm still going to make it a point to at least get out once a month (the nearest decent cities are 50 miles in one direction and 100 miles the other way). Just to keep from going crazy/being a hermit and at least have some type of social interactions.
phynestone
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So I was supposed to have a date last night, but it didn't happen. He was supposed to confirm things around early afternoon, but I didn't hear from him until later, so I decided to stay in, at first. But my roommies talked me into going out because I had gotten my makeup, nails and hair done and it would be silly to "waste the pretty". I'm already pretty, but you know what I mean.
I ended up going downtown to a sports bar that I had never visited prior to that night and I had a good time. There was a basketball game (and you know I like college basketball) playing and I sat down, ordered some food and proceeded to watch. Well, the guy next to me begins to make small talk with me and we continued to chat for some time until I started to eat. He decides to leave, but not before leaving me his number and so I decided to give him mine. We'll see what happens with that, but I'm not getting my hopes up.
I have another date scheduled for Sunday, after church. I want to keep it short because I'm usually kind of beat after service, but if I like the dude, perhaps I'll stretch it out.
And I'm supposed to have another date this weekend. Yes, three in a week. I can't help it if I shine. This one is with the football player, but I haven't heard from him in a few days and I'm not going to initiate anything. He should be the one to remember if he's so excited about going out with me.
Will keep y'all informed of my progress in the dating realm.
I ended up going downtown to a sports bar that I had never visited prior to that night and I had a good time. There was a basketball game (and you know I like college basketball) playing and I sat down, ordered some food and proceeded to watch. Well, the guy next to me begins to make small talk with me and we continued to chat for some time until I started to eat. He decides to leave, but not before leaving me his number and so I decided to give him mine. We'll see what happens with that, but I'm not getting my hopes up.
I have another date scheduled for Sunday, after church. I want to keep it short because I'm usually kind of beat after service, but if I like the dude, perhaps I'll stretch it out.
And I'm supposed to have another date this weekend. Yes, three in a week. I can't help it if I shine. This one is with the football player, but I haven't heard from him in a few days and I'm not going to initiate anything. He should be the one to remember if he's so excited about going out with me.
Will keep y'all informed of my progress in the dating realm.
phynestone
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Weekend update-
I didn't go on any dates with the men that were planned for this weekend. Not the football player, specialist or musician. It's better that I just refer to them by their occupations so you guys can keep them straight. And no, I did not reach out to them and don't plan to. If they were so interested in ME, they would have MADE SURE that our plans were confirmed for the weekend. I refuse to continue to make excuses for people when their actions don't match their words.
The semester has started, so I'm just going to focus on working and studying. I still plan to go out here and there and will not let these bozos get me down.
I didn't go on any dates with the men that were planned for this weekend. Not the football player, specialist or musician. It's better that I just refer to them by their occupations so you guys can keep them straight. And no, I did not reach out to them and don't plan to. If they were so interested in ME, they would have MADE SURE that our plans were confirmed for the weekend. I refuse to continue to make excuses for people when their actions don't match their words.
The semester has started, so I'm just going to focus on working and studying. I still plan to go out here and there and will not let these bozos get me down.
MzLady78
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Yep!
The same thing happened to me this weekend, only this fool even had the nerve to text me to "check on me", yet made no mention of our plans to go out this weekend. I'm only giving dudes one chance from now on and he blew it.
MzLady78
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I friggin love it!!!! I'm really proud of you for getting back out there again and not letting these loser a** dudes get you down.
Papoose
The Phoenix
Can I still join? I've been out of the game for a MINUTE & I'm ready to get it poppin in 2011. I've been in H-Town since August, so I'm comfortable getting around now...for the most part. I wanted to get my first semester of grad school under my belt first. I've committed to putting myself out there & this challenge is exactly what I need! I haven't told any of my "new" friends here about my goal, but my bff's know what's up & have been pushing me to do this for some time. So I just left the meet-up site. I identified a few groups that sound interesting. If anyone is in Houston & wants to venture out together....
Glib Gurl
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Girl, come on in . . . you sound really excited and that is awesome.
I was chatting with a friend today and she was saying how she was asking me what I was up to and I told her about the speed dating. When she asked if I really connected with anyone, I told her no, but that I would not mind going out on a few dates just "for more experience." She thought that was a terrible idea . . . a waste of time that might cause me to get involved with a dude just to say I have someone.
You kknow, I *used* to think that way . . . but now I realize that I have to DATE in order to get experience/practice with being around men . . . you cannot treat every date like the SuperBowl . . . you gotta have a few scrimmages before you get to the big game! So, for right now, I'm chalking all of this up to experiences and adventures . . . and as long as I'm having fun, I'm just gonna go with it.
Renewed1
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Well I'm in -- I'm going to the theater this Wednesday (alone); so hopefully some cute guy will approach me. Plus I'm going to a bar on Saturday for some dancing.
I'm finding that I rather not have my friends around when I go outside. If I'm on the market for a husband, I need to leave them at home.
I'm finding that I rather not have my friends around when I go outside. If I'm on the market for a husband, I need to leave them at home.
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