GeorginaSparks
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Off topic but I've never experienced buyers remorse. One time I got this long ass email from this dude out of nowhere talkin about had I stuck around longer I could have reaped the rewards of his new lifei simply replied that I still don't like him. Congrats on your new found degree, car, home and whatever else you've accomplished but I still don't like YOU so what point are you really trying to make here? We don't mesh and that's ok. My goodness.
People really don't seem to get it. Even my friend from long ago bless her heart...rejected by a dude and was doing the absolutely most to show him what he could have had. I wanted to be like he wasn't feeling you and never will so why are you making a fool of yourself? Like the rejectee is going to live some dismal life because they didn't give your sorry ass a chance. Everybody ain't for everybody. Don't mind me just a rant lol
I had a guy come to my JOB to show me his new tooth
he had a chip on his tooth and i told him he needed to fix it. And he also came to inform me he bought a new car and got a job and was so much happier. He also wanted to know if i wanted to give it another shot even though he could see on facebook i was engaged to my now DH. 
GTFO All i could say was congrats. When i stopped talking to him, i told him it didn't seem like he was ready to be dating that he needed to get his life together.
We went to an Asian restaurant and he was acting like he had never had Asian food. I almost died. He's now married to an Asian woman!! That's why i don't teach and train men for another woman.
Sosoothing
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I agree with those who say dont blame yourself. It would be akin to putting yourself down and he doesnt need reasons to feel he is the one on a pedestal. In this case, the truth of what happend to turn you off the first time works just fine as an explanation.
PittiPat
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Mai Tai
Miss Nigeria-America
Off topic but I've never experienced buyers remorse. One time I got this long ass email from this dude out of nowhere talkin about had I stuck around longer I could have reaped the rewards of his new life
People really don't seem to get it. Even my friend from long ago bless her heart...rejected by a dude and was doing the absolutely most to show him what he could have had. I wanted to be like he wasn't feeling you and never will so why are you making a fool of yourself? Like the rejectee is going to live some dismal life because they didn't give your sorry ass a chance. Everybody ain't for everybody. Don't mind me just a rant lol
And there you have it!
caribeandiva
Human being
What?!!I had a guy come to my JOB to show me his new tooth
All i could say was congrats. When i stopped talking to him, i told him it didn't seem like he was ready to be dating that he needed to get his life together.
We went to an Asian restaurant and he was acting like he had never had Asian food. I almost died. He's now married to an Asian woman!! That's why i don't teach and train men for another woman.
GraceJones
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This guy sounds like a joke and the pain in the behind. Keep him around if you want but I would date more people besides him... He seems bitter. He used to be a cornball and now wants women to kiss his feet. Knowing dang well be was wack back then and is still wack with a little less weight. He would get on my absolute nerves with that
CaraWalker
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no offense but he dates like a lame.Our 2nd date was our last date until nowI was trying to figure out if I liked him to continue then he sent me that text asking if I wanted to come over and I knew I didn't.
Funny thing is, he also invited his friend (my friend's BF) and she came with him. She didn't realize this was our date (not just another double date) and she made her BF leave with her. So both B and her BF are idiots.
InchHighPrivateEye
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Thisssss!
BGT
Well-Known Member
^^
No reports ladies. We're planning a date soon but we're both just really busy; him with work and me with work and being a full time double masters student. This would have annoyed me last time because I didn't have anything going on in my life, but being that I'm so busy, I can appreciate the time we carve out for each other. I don't want you ladies to think I am settling for scraps of time, I am not. He is basically settling for the scraps of time I give him.
No need to say "no offense", I agree, he was lame back then
No reports ladies. We're planning a date soon but we're both just really busy; him with work and me with work and being a full time double masters student. This would have annoyed me last time because I didn't have anything going on in my life, but being that I'm so busy, I can appreciate the time we carve out for each other. I don't want you ladies to think I am settling for scraps of time, I am not. He is basically settling for the scraps of time I give him.
caribeandiva
Human being
ivyness
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THANK YOU!Honestly if he kept asking me why am I interested now versus earlier, I'd straight up tell him. I'm blunt like that.
BGT
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Yeah it's hard but it will be worth it. Now if I can get a scholarship or graduate assistantship to pay for it.
GraceJones
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So I'm back again. I'm tired of men (or people really) feeling entitled to have certain things just because. If you're at a certain level, you're gonna attract a certain level. If you don't like that, do improvements.
Some people don't have the natural treatments, charm, charisma, etc as others when it comes to the opposite sex and that's okay. Work at it until you get what you want. To ask what has changed is pointless. It's like he's resentful or something.
I say that because I used to be this person always complaining and whinning, sobbing blah blah blah. You can't hold that over everybody! I lost weight, worked on my social skills and my fashion and guess what? Guys started hitting on me. We all have to make changes to get what we want
Some people don't have the natural treatments, charm, charisma, etc as others when it comes to the opposite sex and that's okay. Work at it until you get what you want. To ask what has changed is pointless. It's like he's resentful or something.
I say that because I used to be this person always complaining and whinning, sobbing blah blah blah. You can't hold that over everybody! I lost weight, worked on my social skills and my fashion and guess what? Guys started hitting on me. We all have to make changes to get what we want
BGT
Well-Known Member
So we had the talk. I told him through his actions I felt like he didn't take me seriously and I felt disrespected. And he apologized profusely and said he understood now and how he needs to work on how other people see his actions. It was a positive convo and now we (he) can move forward.
caribeandiva
Human being
BGT
Well-Known Member
Hopefully he'll stop
We talked on the phone again this morning, I told him I don't want to talk about it anymore and he said understood.
He went out last night and told me that he wrote down an important question he wanted to ask me on a napkin but lost the napkin and can't remember the question.
We have a date on Sunday. We're gonna play putt putt golf.
CaraWalker
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girl i hope you really like his corny ass because these shenanigans 
BGT
Well-Known Member
girl i hope you really like his corny ass because these shenanigans
Well....I'm corny
caribeandiva
Human being
Da hell? Couldn't be that important since he forgot. Shenanigans indeed. Girl you've got more patience than Mother Teresa. I command you. I know I couldn't do it.He went out last night and told me that he wrote down an important question he wanted to ask me on a napkin but lost the napkin and can't remember the question.
GraceJones
Well-Known Member
Right? Why mention it then?girl i hope you really like his corny ass because these shenanigans
SlimPickinz
Summer where are you?
Y'all are moving so slow lol how many dates have you guys been on?
BGT
Well-Known Member
I don't mind slow; I'm busy, he's busy. I'd rather a slow burn than an inferno and quick fizz out like my last two relationships. And since we reconnected we've been on two but we talk everyday on the phone.
C@ssandr@
formerly known as "keyawarren"
SlimPickinz
Summer where are you?
Naw I believe when a man wants to be with you he'll bend over backwards to spend time with you. Two dates in a month? I'm hoping there's some cake deliveries in between or study dates. Something.Impatient are we?
BGT
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He works probably 80-100 hours a week and I work full time and go to school full time. We're busy.
hopeful
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He works probably 80-100 hours a week and I work full time and go to school full time. We're busy.
80-100 hours a week? Then he is still a workaholic, no? Are you assuming that you two are just having fun and that neither of you have the time to invest in a real relationship at the time? You going to school full time and work full time I assume is short term and that will change. But is he happy with continuing to work 80-100 hours a week indefinitely? I'm not sure you will be able to develop a real relationship or get to know how serious he is until your life calms down. Right now it seems that you guys are a match because neither of you is fully available for a deep relationship.
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