The dinner was fun. We had 30 minutes to chat beforehand and we played "this or that" to get to know each other. I discovered he doesn't like cats or steak. I love cats and steak.
When I got home, he said we didn't discuss what changed, in his words. I guess he's cautious and wary which I honestly understand.
I'd just say I don't know and that It isn't something I've been focusing on.The dinner was fun. We had 30 minutes to chat beforehand and we played "this or that" to get to know each other. I discovered he doesn't like cats or steak. I love cats and steak.
When I got home, he said we didn't discuss what changed, in his words. I guess he's cautious and wary which I honestly understand.
ITA and if he can't, let him be in his feelings by himself . Don't over compensate your interest level to reassure him of anything. You agreed to go out with him. That's more than enough.
I rarely give men my real reasons for doing ish. Keeps them guessing. So, yeah, it's a lie, a lie intended to say 'You heard of feminine mystique, right? Well, this is it.'
It is a lie.
I rarely give men my real reasons for doing ish. Keeps them guessing. So, yeah, it's a lie, a lie intended to say 'You heard of feminine mystique, right? Well, this is it.'
me too. Or I would say like she mentioned earlier, that he seemed to have workaholic tendencies and at the time that was a turn off. I would not take one for the team or shoulder most of the blame. If he can't handle that then oh well. Once I answered his question simply, I'd say can we move on now or nah? Can we move forward and have fun or we gon' just keep rehashing why I wasn't interested in you two years ago 
? It's like he wants a guarantee that she won't go ghost again or for her to gush about how great he is now but she can't really -- here they are once again at the beginning stages of dating and getting to know each other.
The dinner was fun. We had 30 minutes to chat beforehand and we played "this or that" to get to know each other. I discovered he doesn't like cats or steak. I love cats and steak.
When I got home, he said we didn't discuss what changed, in his words. I guess he's cautious and wary which I honestly understand.
. I hope not. Go ahead and have the conversation, don't take the blame unless you did something really awful to him, and see if he can then move on and get to know you. If not then I don't know what to tell you.
I agree with @Browndilocks
I don't like how he keeps circling back to this what happened thing. Hopefully you can have one good convo where both of you share some and move on. Otherwise he will end up being a wet blanket. Maybe this is what you were sensing before and why you bailed two years ago
. And sounds like you would have been ready and open to proper courting. But he wasn't doing that. It sounds like you guys got off on the wrong foot and he is hopefully happy that he is getting a 2nd chance. If a guy brought someone on our first date I would not have explained or asked anything. He is very lucky he got a 2nd date.
Now we are getting somewhere. Bringing someone on a first date is ridiculous and insulting. That is why I would not say I wasn't in a position to be pursued. He was not pursuing you
I was trying to figure out if I liked him to continue then he sent me that text asking if I wanted to come over and I knew I didn't.
Funny thing is, he also invited his friend (my friend's BF) and she came with him. She didn't realize this was our date (not just another double date) and she made her BF leave with her. So both B and her BF are idiots.
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I'd say: "You brought along your friend on our first date and spent the whole night talking to him! Then on our 2nd date you asked me to come over even though there was a death in my family." I guarantee you he'll quit asking after that. 
I think that a conversation need to be had and put your cards on the table as to what did not go well the first time, then the ball is in his court. He seems to be playing the "back then they didn't want me, now I'm not they're all on me" game. I also think that you should stop suggesting dates, things to do, places to go, accompanying you to xyz place etc. I get that you really like him but he needs to get it together and pursue the hell out of you if he wants you. You're the prize.
He probably didn't know how to date either. My bf had this problem, however he figured it out before we became exclusive. When we became exclusive I sat him down and told him to stop asking me what to do, he needs to figure out what I like, make plans and I'll show up looking pretty. So far so good
Honestly if he kept asking me why am I interested now versus earlier, I'd straight up tell him. I'm blunt like that.
i simply replied that I still don't like him. Congrats on your new found degree, car, home and whatever else you've accomplished but I still don't like YOU so what point are you really trying to make here? We don't mesh and that's ok. My goodness. 
