pretty much...
in this scenario i would've just mentioned i am handling a problem and wouldnt be able to see him until resolved, at that point he would've inquired and i would explained to him what was occurring and the cost of the repairs would've came up because that is the root of the issue..at that point he wouldve/shouldve/couldve then suggested he would take care of it..not just one part the entire thing...
no tricky or nothing magical needed..hey this is whats going on, hey okay cool, i can help you in this way...simple...i dont think stuff like this is difficult at all
and in the event that he didnt help, he would've reached out to her again and stated hey hows everything at that point i wouldve stated i am handling the situation with "insert another guys name" he was so helpful and xyz....
the $250 is not a ton of money imho...and the other aspects of the issue he couldve handled which he did attempt to....
lol i wouldnt have needed to ask because any man i was dating wouldve offered and if he didnt i would explain the same thing to the next dude..hence having a rotation/starting line up of sorts..if your dealing with a few guys someone let alone all should be decent enough to offer help in some way..if not monetary than their time and resources
i wouldve let him help me in every aspect of this situation lmaoooooo i do not turn down help from a man who can actually help...
women think to much lol...oh i dont wanna appear as this oh i dont want him to think this..ummmmm he likes you just go from there!!!!
im a 24/7 356 damsel in distress...lmaoo it has worked for men in all facets of life...work, home, family, etc
OP fine tune your approach but the only thing is i wouldve let him help me thru all of the things you stated...
black women have a way of not accepting any help,, we dont wanna appear as if we cant handle or manage or take care of something..we work to exhaustion and have mental health and emotional and physical health related issues due to this weird strong blk woman phenomenon..strength is preserving oneself and the only way to preserve thyself is to allow ppl to make your life easier by accepting help in some way...men could care less...pardon the right man wouldn't judge her about the stuff, she is a single college student, she had a few nuances and just so happen all at the same time....men love to help women..they like to earn points with women..i dont get why adult blk women dont get that at this point...every time i talk to a man whether its his wife,,, gf or etc they are actively trying to impress or do something to help said woman
Meh, who cares. The op is young and learning. I'd much prefer a young woman thinking men should help her out and make her life easier, turning down dates because she's tired, versus idolizing some random man just because he owns a business and feeling like she has to prove herself worthy of his time and attention. OP don't you dare change completely or doubt yourself. Make a few tweeks here and there, finish school, and do you. *** these men. He'll be ok.