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Well folks, I'm officially engaged! :) :) :)

He proposed to me last night and I said YESSSSSSSSSS!

eta: and if any of you were keeping up, I actually thought it was gonna be in December. He caught me out there big time :lol:
 
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i'm so glad he is back in my life! we text each other everyday to say good morning. i get so excited to see him, or hear his voice. every time we see each other, he is all over me. i catch him staring at me at times, and it doesn't even make me feel uncomfortable.

He tells me not to ever change, is that possible? can i continue to be and give him what he wants now, always? i changed something terrible when i got married. i don't want that to happen again.
 
ChasingBliss said:
Well folks, I'm officially engaged! :) :) :)

He proposed to me last night and I said YESSSSSSSSSS!

eta: and if any of you were keeping up, I actually thought it was gonna be in December. He caught me out there big time :lol:
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No one deserves it more:) :congrats: So happy for you.
 
I'm not trying to be a butthole but why not call me? I haven't responded to any of the text messages that you've sent me for the last four days because... I don't know you!!! If you want to get to know me... You're going to have to call!!!

I'm supposed to meet another guy from POF this weekend. We've been chatting for few weeks now. The convo is great and he's persistent... I'm still not getting my hopes up! I've been disappointed too many times!!!

The MIA guy resurfaced... Too bad I'm over it. Sorry my attention span isn't that long!!!
 
barbiesocialite said:
o wow, you sound like my bff in college. Her SO--now DH-- is half Mexican and Black; his parents weren't too fond of her. Actually it was his dad (who's black) that didnt care too much for her because she was black. I guess the bff's English accent didnt help like it usually does jk :lol:
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His dad is white and his mom in Filipina. I met her and spoke for maybe 5 minutes. but I've yet to meet his dad and according to SO I probably won't ever meet his dad or his dad's family, who hate black people.
 
NaeChail said:
I have a friend that is willing to walk away from a girl that is PERFECT for him because of this. He truly believes that her lack of that level of care for wayward kids will hinder him....he said he's going to find someone who cares that much or be alone...smh...

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This may be true, although it's never been a problem for me. I have no problem with walking away from a person that's not giving me the time and attention I deem necessary. Oddly, every time I do this miraculously those wayward kids become second and I become first as they try to get me back.... by that time, I'm usually gone with someone more suitable to my interests and have no intention of ever coming back....
 
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I'm realizing this thread is therapeutic for me....

these men! and their memories! I don't remember ****! why do they know when they met me, the time of day, what I was wearing, the weather, what i said and the exact date of everything???? what's wrong with these people... it's not that serious.... I don't remember... I barely know you....let **** go, let me go....stop chasing me... stop giving me dates of everything.....

I can't give you what you want or what you want from me, or even what you're used to from other women... I'm weird.... yes, I love you one day and hate you the next..... all I will do is disappoint you....

i feel like I'm being pressured....smothered..... I can't breathe....
 
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Why did I volunteer to go on this damn date knowing I do not do horror films. I am gonna be in that theater hollering :lachen:
 
...you would call me the exact day that I decide to delete your information. This would be easier if you weren't so fine :lick:. You were visiting family so you get a pass.
 
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Love Always said:
@SuchMagnificance, is this the guy you met online?
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Love Always

All the guys Ive met recently have been online..Most of them dont make it past the first date..lol...this is my first time speaking about him though..He is someone I previously overlooked before :rolleyes:..So he hit me up again and we've been talking every since..He's pretty cool so far..Our first date is Saturday. He's articulate, nice looking, no kids, gainfully employed..Now we just have to see if we click.
 
Our weekend together was good. Not great though. It rained all weekend and the fair was boring. I also find him impossible to read. He can be super excited and his manner is nearly the same as when he's bored. Instead of raising his energy to my level, I lowered mine to his. The more I think about it the more anxious it makes me. We also didn't talk about the things I wanted to talk about.

He is a total gentleman though. Never did my hands touch a single door handle or pull out my own chair. He also paid for everything. When I attempted to pay for my drink he looked at me like I was crazy. During the 45 minute ride home he held my hand the entire time. I actually got emotional because I realized I didn't want him to leave. Da hell is that about? I played it off though and said the rain must be kicking up my allergies :lol: I have no allergies. IDK if he knew what was really going on.

We also broke public decency laws :blush:
 
So I saw the random older Indian dude in class today. He made a point to sit next to me (he usually sits way in the front, and I always sit pretty close to the back lol). I think he's crushing. Like I walked into class and he was already kinda settled, but he got up from where he was and changed seats to sit next to me. I gave him the side eye of the year lol. We had a nice convo though. He asked me a bunch of questions about myself, and we chatted about Chicago, it was cool.

He still wants us to meet up for drinks or something, but I'm really busy. I think he thinks I'm like this social butterfly (or maybe even "a creature unlike any other" :rolleyes:), but not even... our schedules just don't match.

My friends are saying I should give him a chance, but I don't know what to think about him. At first, I thought he was one of those Indian guys who thinks he's black, but I just looked through a bunch of his photos on FB today and this dude is soooo Indian! Like totally standard 1st-gen Indian boy :lol:! Lots of traditional stuff going on, and I have enough Indian friends to know that Indian parents are not okay with their sons dating black chicks :nono:! Especially if their son is a doctor and uber-successful, they'd absolutely die :lol:... Plus he had all these girls commenting all over his FB page, I think he gets a lot of attention... he's probably a catch where he's from. I sure somebody has a girl picked out for him.

He's actually really cute, and I'm kinda tempted lol. I've never dated outside my race before, and he seems like a fun guy. I dunno. We'll see. I told my mommy about him and she swiftly told me to cut it out (:blush: :lol:) and that I should be little more than civil in my interactions with him. :lol:
 
VeryBecoming said:
@freelove I agree with PYT. You should go get drinks or suggest daytime coffee or something that fits with your schedule instead. My SO is Indian so perhaps I am biased :lol:
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VeryBecoming
LOL really?

Are his parents cool with you and everything? I have a lot of Indian friends and they've all been pretty frank about their parents' attitudes toward black people lol
 
The Morehouse guy on OKC messaged me his number and wanted me to text him :ohwell:

I responded that I think we should be exchanging names first before numbers... somehow we'd shared several messages without asking each other's names. Once we got through that, he again pointed out that we should exchanged numbers.

I gave him some thought, and I decided that I didn't want to. I am feeling more and more comfortable with not having a guy in my life at the moment, and I like it that way. I don't want to fall again into the pattern of receiving cute/flirty texts throughout the entire day and ultimately expecting it. My phone no longer blows up with vapid text messages, and it is great this way. Hasn't been like that since... 2007.

So, I let him know that I didn't feel ready to exchange phone numbers, but that I am interested in getting to know him and would like to communicate via email for sometime longer. He emailed me jokingly talking about feeling rejected:confused: We pretty much emailed back and forth for the first part of the day...

and that's precisely it... I don't want to give my number out precisely not to receive a flood of messages during the day as I often do with guys.

Why carry on extensive conversations with someone who lives in a different state when we have made no plans to find a way to meet up anytime soon? Besides, our online messages haven't given me enough impetus for revving up the frequency of our contact. At some point during the day, after a curt message from me, he stopped sending emails.
Hmmmm. eh. :ohwell:
 
freelove said:
@VeryBecoming
LOL really?

Are his parents cool with you and everything? I have a lot of Indian friends and they've all been pretty frank about their parents' attitudes toward black people lol
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I've dated two Indian guys besides the current and their parents were cool. Although one said it was because I was lighter than all of them and that was more important :nono: I'll ask my boyfriend tonight. I'm meeting his sisters next week and he hasn't given me any warnings or anything so I don't know.

All my serious relationships have been interracial so I know about the anxiety over whether or not their family will have a problem or not. It's definitely something I'd ask about early on if you see it going somewhere. But I mean, if you're just going for drinks have fun and get to know him better.
 
freelove said:
So I saw the random older Indian dude in class today. He made a point to sit next to me (he usually sits way in the front, and I always sit pretty close to the back lol). I think he's crushing. Like I walked into class and he was already kinda settled, but he got up from where he was and changed seats to sit next to me. I gave him the side eye of the year lol. We had a nice convo though. He asked me a bunch of questions about myself, and we chatted about Chicago, it was cool.

He still wants us to meet up for drinks or something, but I'm really busy. I think he thinks I'm like this social butterfly (or maybe even "a creature unlike any other" :rolleyes:), but not even... our schedules just don't match.

My friends are saying I should give him a chance, but I don't know what to think about him. At first, I thought he was one of those Indian guys who thinks he's black, but I just looked through a bunch of his photos on FB today and this dude is soooo Indian! Like totally standard 1st-gen Indian boy :lol:! Lots of traditional stuff going on, and I have enough Indian friends to know that Indian parents are not okay with their sons dating black chicks :nono:! Especially if their son is a doctor and uber-successful, they'd absolutely die :lol:... Plus he had all these girls commenting all over his FB page, I think he gets a lot of attention... he's probably a catch where he's from. I sure somebody has a girl picked out for him.

He's actually really cute, and I'm kinda tempted lol. I've never dated outside my race before, and he seems like a fun guy. I dunno. We'll see. I told my mommy about him and she swiftly told me to cut it out (:blush: :lol:) and that I should be little more than civil in my interactions with him. :lol:
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Hmm, I mean, why not have a drink or whatever? No commitment. Keeping it casual, you know. But I have the same race-based suspicions you have for Indians in America. But why did this story remind me of my S African homestay brother, when I told him an Indian guy hit on me at the park (in SA), he told me all extra serious that I needed to watch out because those Indian guys really liked to do it in the butt. :rofl:
 
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