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Jamaica this summer and now Mexico for Christmas and LA for New Years! Should be a blast with my boo....his mom too though :ohwell: I like her more and more at least :)
 
Beautytalk69 said:
The problem is, I've had trust issues with everyone I dated. So it's hard for me. I don't know if it's a problem I need to deal with.
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So he may be innocent, and you may be a little paranoid. Or have your past trust issues materialize into real issues of infidelity? It's one thing to have trust issues because your intuition tells you something is wrong, when something is actually wrong, but it's a totally different thing if you have no basis for the issues.

I hope you and your hubby can work through this together. Trust issues are hard. I know from personal experience.
 
SweetNic_JA said:
So he may be innocent, and you may be a little paranoid. Or have your past trust issues materialize into real issues of infidelity? It's one thing to have trust issues because your intuition tells you something is wrong, when something is actually wrong, but it's a totally different thing if you have no basis for the issues.

I hope you and your hubby can work through this together. Trust issues are hard. I know from personal experience.
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I have serious self esteem issues. I don't know if that has something to do with my inability to trust
 
Beautytalk69 said:
I have serious self esteem issues. I don't know if that has something to do with my inability to trust
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It has everything to do with your inability to trust. You're insecure in your relationship so you're always wondering if he's going to leave you.
 
D@mn ninja, that was so cold, you just straight threw her @ss under the bus. Ninjas are so cut throat. And yet, we (women) sit up and come on forums and analyze whether or not we should keep him around and put up w/random BS. And go on and on about how much we care, but "he's really a good guy, he just has these issues", etc.

But when it comes down to it, most of the ninjas I know don't even blink an eye. Just throw yo @ss under that bus and press the pedal to the metal and keep on going w/o looking back not even once. (except maybe if he wants some quick and easy p****, they'll always resurface for that)
 
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freelove said:
Tired of being patient. When is someone going to take me out on a date?
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Lol. I wanna go on a date too. Eat some shrimp and moscato. :lachen: J/k

But for real, I do want to go on a date, last time I did it, it was fun....even tho it only took me like one or two outings to see it wasn't going anywhere:look: Ate some good (free :look:) food, saw some cool new spots, and got out the house.
 
A lot going on....

I'm really not sure about New Orleans guy. He is very self-absorbed and after finding out that his last relationship was in college (he is 34 now), I understand why he's so "me-centered."

That's a problem for me because I'm used to balance. I'm used to the guy bending over backward (or at least attentive). And this guy is not. Despite the chemistry. Despite our friendship. Despite the laughter and compatibility. And he has tried (calling more, checking in more, making efforts to see me, etc.) But he's just not "that" guy who wants to commit, wants to protect and provide. It's not him and I'm not naive enough to think I'm gonna "change him." :nono:

Meanwhile, I am back in touch with a friend from New York (we talked a few years ago but it never took off due to distance- I'm in TX, he's in Manhattan) and he adores me. But he is involved (not engaged or married) and I'm not going there.

Please, Lord!! Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
We finally talked about the situation and he said I hurt his feelings. I really need to choose my words more wisely and realize men are sensitive. Guess I will have to stop thinking men should "MAN UP" and get over it, they get in their feelings too. Glad we cleared the air.
 
Excited for tomorrow. You're coming over and we're just going to snuggle and watch movies all day. :grin:
 
Two in the morning, massive headache, with the sniffles, cant sleep, two breakouts (one right between the eyes) and you will be home from work in TWO DAYS! Why was everything going well skin and healthwise until THIS WEEK. ARRRRGH! I think I pressured and stressed myself too much trying to get this bday thing together.
 
So... I haven't been able to figure out how to close my OKCupid accounts. So recently, I wrote in the About Me that I was no longer living in NY and had relocated and thanked the fellas for their sweet messages.
Well, the day after, I get this email notification that this guy is checking me out. I look at his profile and think: Hm! he's cute! and from the South!

Turns out he messages me immediately after saying: "Man... why did you have to move? :(" ... I thought that was cute.
So, I explained my move a bit, and he's been chatting me up on the website since. I think this is the most I've ever communicated with anyone on OKC. He says he wishes I were still in town, bc he would have liked to ask me out on a date. Nice, nice.

Then, I learn that he graduated from Morehouse.... PAUSE.
The last guy I dated (earlier this summer) was also a Morehouse man (who did not graduate from there).

I don't know why this keeps happening. Last fall, I was hanging out with a Howard guy for the first time, and for the months that followed, most of the guys I met or who expressed interest in me turned out to be Howard men as well. Sadly, I met the one that I was most intellectually compatible with the last... so that was a lost cause.

I'm slightly apprehensive, and I don't know why. The other Morehouse men I've met are quite upstanding. But that pesky boy was just a downer on the rest. Grr.

I've yet to respond to Morehouse man's message.
 
Dear, dear Monkeybutt,

So you wake up and play "Ain't No Sunshine When She's Gone" to start our morning and play "One More Night" as we walk out of the door an I prepare to haul a** 800 miles back home.... Are you trying to tell me something? :look:

yeah... me too,
daydreem
 
RANDOM e-mail from a classmate I just got. You never know who is checking you out.

He was asked to given an impromptu presentation during our class yesterday, and as I was leaving class, I told him "good job"... you know, just to be nice. He started asking me a few questions, turns out we had lived in the same area for a few yrs (albeit at different times)

ANYHOO. He tells me that we should hang out outside of class, and I'm like, yeah, sure... I thought he was just saying it cuz everyone says that you know?

Anyways, he just sent me an e-mail asking me to come out for drinks after class next wk lol... and I'm like cool cool... how nice of him....and then he asks me a few more q's then ends with a "PS-What made you smile the most today"... and I'm like hold up... that's different....wait... is he asking me out???? It was totally out of left field, b/c we never really spoke prior to yesterday :perplexed

Secondly, he's 10 yrs my senior! Whoa buddy

I don't think he knows how young I am tho

Also he's Indian! Most of the Indian guys I know don't date outside!
 
It's crazy that the ones who you want to love you, care for you.. don't. But the ones that you don't have that type of affection for, they adore you. :nono:

This man remembers the date of the last telephone conversation we had, which was over 18 months ago, and he remembers what it was about. And he saved the entry where I called him that day in his phone because he knew that he wouldn't talk to me for a while. But I just don't feel that way about him, and I have TRIED several times.

Whereas this other knucklehead ninja treats me like organic ****. *sigh*
 
You are sooo sweet! You ran my bathwater yesterday after you got home from work....and I'm not even working. Yes, I had a long drive back, but that was so awesome of you! I think I made a good decision in deciding to get back with you. I thought the honeymoon phase was over (or at least dwindling), but I guess not. :love2:
 
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