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Incognitus
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No "official" breakup but haven't seen him since Jan/Feb. This is clear enough for me.
Betrays me and intentionally breaks my confidence by sharing something extremely personal. In the mean time he:
Calls me every week (like clockwork) to "check up on me". I never call him.
A month goes by.
Calls and wishes me Happy B-day.
5 weeks go by.
Sends me a "general email" about a business opportunity. I dont respond.
2.5 weeks go by.
Texts me a pic of someone who he says "could be my twin". I dont respond.
Why is he doing this to me?
Is he in denial or is he intentionally toying with me???
Betrays me and intentionally breaks my confidence by sharing something extremely personal. In the mean time he:
Calls me every week (like clockwork) to "check up on me". I never call him.
A month goes by.
Calls and wishes me Happy B-day.
5 weeks go by.
Sends me a "general email" about a business opportunity. I dont respond.
2.5 weeks go by.
Texts me a pic of someone who he says "could be my twin". I dont respond.
Why is he doing this to me?
Is he in denial or is he intentionally toying with me???
Incognitus
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its october and i am still dateless. i feel like i will be
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I keep pulling old ugly mennow the guy with the googly eyes at work keeps hitting on me
i didnt know who he was talking to at first
why cant i find a decent guy my age?
And here I am, looking for an older man (but NOT ugly).....well, not that much older. Just someone who is stable, secure, knows what he wants and is ready to have a family/settle down. Maybe someone in the late 30s or early 40s. (with a late 20s body..lol.) Maybe a former soccer player or basketball player or boxer or black belt with hot jiu jitsu moves or... ok, ok, n ow I'm just rambling. I got a little carried away there, sorry.
tocktick
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He's presuming at some point you'll be dumb enough to fall for the bait. Looks like you're doing well avoiding the trap and he's coming across like the dummy.
Incognitus
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^^It's hard for me as it is. I'm using up all my strength not to fall. He was the first man I truly opened up to....
Think I'm going out this weekend, the weather is supposed to be nice. Think I'm going to try a twist out for the first time on my natural hair, last time I tried it was a year ago when I was still transitioning and my hair was much shorter. At least now I have enough hair to where if its a HAM, I can just pull it back.
I got lazy with going out, got busy with work stuff, then kept getting sick (sinuses), etc. Its tiring going out, esp since I live so far from the city, I have to really be proactive to get out and do stuff.
It would be nice to meet and go out with someone (I did go out with one guy a few times since I moved here, it was fun but I decided I didn't like his vibe after a while). I think I'm finally over the hump with this no casual sex thing, so I'm not even pressed about that. Nor do I even want a boyfriend right now. Just some company, some laughs, a little flirting, etc.
I got lazy with going out, got busy with work stuff, then kept getting sick (sinuses), etc. Its tiring going out, esp since I live so far from the city, I have to really be proactive to get out and do stuff.
It would be nice to meet and go out with someone (I did go out with one guy a few times since I moved here, it was fun but I decided I didn't like his vibe after a while). I think I'm finally over the hump with this no casual sex thing, so I'm not even pressed about that. Nor do I even want a boyfriend right now. Just some company, some laughs, a little flirting, etc.
Just when I start slightly feeling some kind of way about not having any romantic prospects...I hear about folk's relationship drama. At least my life is very much so chill and stress free, just how I like it. I'd much rather be alone than caught up in some dramatic BS. I felt dramatic just listening to it
I've made a lot of progress on many personal goals this year, my life is actually pretty d@mn good.
I've made a lot of progress on many personal goals this year, my life is actually pretty d@mn good.
SUPER SWEET
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Here it is in WHITE again The ex-friend got a called and needed to vent to me tonight. I can't help.
He gave her brainwashing 101. These are the words he said.....
1.All these years and no man has ever committed. You must have been doing it all wrong. Let me show you the right way to live life. We live good,travel and love unconditionally.
2.How many men have you dated?And look you have nothing to show for it. Follow me.
3.Do you think it's better to sleep with a man and recieve nothing? You must like giving it up for FREE? Payday is every night with me.
4.In order to build a house you have to have a builder. You surely can't build a house alone. Think of me as the builder, i have the tools and make the best foundation.
5.As women age there is a man shortage. If you're going to share, why not interact and enjoy the benefits of me with other women. Sistergirlfriends it is called.
6.Blackwomen waste too much time dreaming on whitemen that would never look that them. Let me introduce you to whitemen that want you and we can get all the years of oppression with pay back in cash.
7.The body was designed to release, when you close your eyes it all feels good. Think of me doing it.
8.Do you want to work for the man for the rest of your life? Time to retire from that 9-5 and join a winning team.
I can't even remember the rest....
She has been turned out!
The ex-friend got a called and needed to vent to me tonight. I can't help.He gave her brainwashing 101. These are the words he said.....
1.All these years and no man has ever committed. You must have been doing it all wrong. Let me show you the right way to live life. We live good,travel and love unconditionally.
2.How many men have you dated?And look you have nothing to show for it. Follow me.
3.Do you think it's better to sleep with a man and recieve nothing? You must like giving it up for FREE? Payday is every night with me.
4.In order to build a house you have to have a builder. You surely can't build a house alone. Think of me as the builder, i have the tools and make the best foundation.
5.As women age there is a man shortage. If you're going to share, why not interact and enjoy the benefits of me with other women. Sistergirlfriends it is called.
6.Blackwomen waste too much time dreaming on whitemen that would never look that them. Let me introduce you to whitemen that want you and we can get all the years of oppression with pay back in cash.
7.The body was designed to release, when you close your eyes it all feels good. Think of me doing it.
8.Do you want to work for the man for the rest of your life? Time to retire from that 9-5 and join a winning team.
I can't even remember the rest....
She has been turned out!
One more random thought, then I'm done, lol. Why do some guys seem to like these extra/dramatic @ss chics? Its like...dude you KNEW how she was when you met her, why you complaining now? You must obviously like that ish? I don't get it.
But yet, they seem not to like someone like me who is chill/laid back/drama free. I'm usually automatically put in the homieloverfriend category: Sexy and attractive enough that you want to sleep with me; cool, interesting and fun to be around...but yet not the one who's ever taken seriously. But yet, you take Ms. Drama Queen seriously then wonder why you always got some ol dramatic @ss ish happening to you?
I'm not really tripping tho, its just...interesting. In the not so distant past, I just assumed something was wrong with me/I needed to change who I am, etc. Thankfully, I see now I was just dealing with immature, trife and/or dramatic @ss dudes and why would I want a dude like that anyway?? And a real dude will appreciate me just as I am. But more importantly, I appreciate and like myself just the way I am.
But yet, they seem not to like someone like me who is chill/laid back/drama free. I'm usually automatically put in the homieloverfriend category: Sexy and attractive enough that you want to sleep with me; cool, interesting and fun to be around...but yet not the one who's ever taken seriously. But yet, you take Ms. Drama Queen seriously then wonder why you always got some ol dramatic @ss ish happening to you?
I'm not really tripping tho, its just...interesting. In the not so distant past, I just assumed something was wrong with me/I needed to change who I am, etc. Thankfully, I see now I was just dealing with immature, trife and/or dramatic @ss dudes and why would I want a dude like that anyway?? And a real dude will appreciate me just as I am. But more importantly, I appreciate and like myself just the way I am.
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@SUPER SWEET You must be a glutton for punishment! Didn't we tell you to leave her alone???? Now let me go read this foolywang 
ETA: Girl that coulda been in black font. Fish in a-hole? WHITE FONT. But umm...
she needs reconditioning entirely.
ETA: Girl that coulda been in black font. Fish in a-hole? WHITE FONT. But umm...
she needs reconditioning entirely.Incognitus
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Here it is in WHITE again
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She has been turned out!
Um, that sounds like some weak game to me. That's like being had by a cheap car sales man. Not even a good car salesman. He sounds like a JD Byryder, Carmax, Joe's Car Shack type of salesman. If I'm gonna be conned, I want to be conned by a pro! LOL.
crlsweetie912
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No offense, but how old is your friend? Is she slow or just horribly naive....what the......I pray she doesn't turn up dead behind following some of this stupid stuff....Lawd....Here it is in WHITE again
He gave her brainwashing 101. These are the words he said.....
1.All these years and no man has ever committed. You must have been doing it all wrong. Let me show you the right way to live life. We live good,travel and love unconditionally.
2.How many men have you dated?And look you have nothing to show for it. Follow me.
3.Do you think it's better to sleep with a man and recieve nothing? You must like giving it up for FREE? Payday is every night with me.
4.In order to build a house you have to have a builder. You surely can't build a house alone. Think of me as the builder, i have the tools and make the best foundation.
5.As women age there is a man shortage. If you're going to share, why not interact and enjoy the benefits of me with other women. Sistergirlfriends it is called.
6.Blackwomen waste too much time dreaming on whitemen that would never look that them. Let me introduce you to whitemen that want you and we can get all the years of oppression with pay back in cash.
7.The body was designed to release, when you close your eyes it all feels good. Think of me doing it.
8.Do you want to work for the man for the rest of your life? Time to retire from that 9-5 and join a winning team.
I can't even remember the rest....
She has been turned out!
SUPER SWEET
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Mid-40's....
Never been married,no kids but not from trying not to have them.PYT[USER][/USER]
I tried to get off the phone but I just was too nice. I'll be mean soon PMS time will arrive.
Incognitus[USER][/USER]
There's more but I just had to stop listening. And I guess when he took her body to new levels it just made it all seem real.
I do white not to bother people.....
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Do_Si_Dos
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Um, that sounds like some weak game to me. That's like being had by a cheap car sales man. Not even a good car salesman. He sounds like a JD Byryder, Carmax, Joe's Car Shack type of salesman. If I'm gonna be conned, I want to be conned by a pro! LOL.
Girl, he dropping that pimpology. It works when you have reeeaaaalllllllyyyyyyyyyy low self esteem.
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CarefreeinChicago
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I need some tips on how to get over this breakup I keep thinking he's going to call or emal me or text me any minute this one is going to be rough
itismehmmkay
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Awww ::::hugs:::::
Yeah it actually helps when they call, cause blocking or ignoring kinda helps make you stronger. I know I always read some good books as a distraction. Matter of fact I need a distraction now so I'm about to read in a few. Something that you enjoy doing and that will take your mind off of some things. Each day will get better.
rafikichick92
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Things are going well with Zdubs. We laughed together some in lab which helped break the ice some and we left lab together (he usually just walks out). We would have gone to lunch with him and another guy in our program, but he left his wallet and his roommate forgot to bring it to him, so he decided to just go home (he lives off campus), but I got him to offer me a ride back to the dorm because I wanted to see his car because in truth, I can walk back to the dorm just as quickly as he could drive me there. It was good to interact outside of class even if it was only for like 5 minutes. And even better, when he came into class this morning, he asked about my weekend. Usually he doesn't talk in class. So, progress. I really need to get his number. That can be the goal for this week.
Incognitus
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I sooo know wht you're going through. It's tough, but you will make it...and I will make it too.
SweetNic_JA
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I haven't seen you in a month, and just as you are about to come my skin starts acting up. Damn those asian rice noodles! I thought they were gluten-free.
itismehmmkay
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Where he at!?
SUPER SWEET
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Sometimes I believe there is no reason for actions other than people want to do them. We try to look for excuses to justify or explain but there isn't one good reason for non-sense.
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