ITA with MzLady. For me I personally don't care about what men like or don't like in general. I just don't care like at all. If you have this or that preference then find a woman who is on the same page, t'is all, I'm not your woman so why I care you don't like wedges? Now dh is a little different. I do some things that accommodate him, emphasis on some. For instance, when we first met he said he hated sling-backs. I adore them. I was only like 19 when he told me this but I was still like so
. And he got over it. He didn't like me going natural at all at first. But that was something I needed to do for me and now he loves loves my hair, especially when I wear it out so I make a point to wear it out when we go out on dates, etc.
IMO it is essential that men and women be who they want to be, dress how they want to dress, then find someone who adores you for you. I am a pretty nice and accomodating person but the idea of men dictating in general how women dress, wear their hair ticks me off. I feel like this: you don't like my fro or my wedges or my sling backs? Too damned bad. We woman deserve those little joys. If we let them men will control EvERYTHING and half the time they don't know what they are talking about.
Thanks so much!
He would kill me if he knew I was sharing this, but I can't help it. I shed a few tears after reading this.
4:10am Just got back to the hotel.....couldn't text or call.
Tired.....hungry.....cold......a little delirious, but I will go to sleep with a smile after reading your email.
I'm glad we can talk through things too. I'm glad you sent this email too because sometimes through e-contact, what we say can get lost in translation and I take everything you say literally. I sometimes get down because I wonder if you feel the same way I do, as if I can't live without you.
Even though I may not say it, I do notice and appreciate all the things do for me (dem French toasts mmmmm).......the things you've done in the past (09 stx), and the things you're going to do (relocating). I just need you to know that I'm next to you all the time.
I spend an unhealthy amount of time everyday thinking about you, looking at pics (that's why I visit your FB), and obsessing. I don't know what or how you did this to me, but I'm happy that you did because I feel as if nothing else matters.
I don't think words can ever express how much I love you........how much I want to be with you or how much I need you, but I'll say it away....I love you.
PS: I don't have a cool pic to insert like you did.....and I'm too tired to find one, so just imagine something awesome.
lol I told him that I would not seriously consider moving if we weren't getting married. Now, I'm waiting on him to pop the question. For some reason, he said he's always felt like I was going to be his wife. I don't know why he didn't share that before. He said I never told him how I felt either. lol Men! We're planning to be engaged for about a year, and then have a small wedding back home on the beach.
lol Yes, it is long distance. I've known him since high school. We've always been interested in each other, but the timing was always off. We saw each other for the first time again 6/7 years ago, and it was amazing. It was like time never moved on..the only problem was the distance and my ex whom I was still allowing to pollute my life. Anyway, once again, we still remained in contact until 3 months ago. He thought he was going to lose me, and that's when he started to open up and he told me how he truly felt. I was completely floored. lol I swear back in 09, I stepped back because I didn't think we were on the same page. He's definitely ready now, and he proves it everyday.
This is how we're making it work with regards to the distance. We text throughout the day if we can. We video chat every night until we're ready for bed. lol We see each other once a month, either I go to him or he comes out here. We have a vacay planned in a couple months, and I'm relocating at the end of the year.
lol Yes, it is long distance. I've known him since high school. We've always been interested in each other, but the timing was always off. We saw each other for the first time again 6/7 years ago, and it was amazing. It was like time never moved on..the only problem was the distance and my ex whom I was still allowing to pollute my life. Anyway, once again, we still remained in contact until 3 months ago. He thought he was going to lose me, and that's when he started to open up and he told me how he truly felt. I was completely floored. lol I swear back in 09, I stepped back because I didn't think we were on the same page. He's definitely ready now, and he proves it everyday.
This is how we're making it work with regards to the distance. We text throughout the day if we can. We video chat every night until we're ready for bed. lol We see each other once a month, either I go to him or he comes out here. We have a vacay planned in a couple months, and I'm relocating at the end of the year.
and you tell him what you consider good treatment and he STILL won't do it, then, to me, it's time to bounce. Some of that stuff is free. 
Take that Kool-Aid and shove it.
. Another person I asked to help me drive to Illinois this Friday bailed out on me (that's 2 so far) at the very last minute after promising about a month ago that he was down to help me.
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and I could tell he was trying to meet them. When I told him that this was all really nice and that I was having a great time, he looked happy. 
Ya'll sure know what you're talking about when you say, "when a man really wants to be with you, he'll show you through his actions". I love this man like I've never loved another in my life! We were talking about how much we miss each other a couple weeks ago (just saw him a couple weeks ago btw), and he sent me his travel schedule for the year. Then he suggested we plan dates to visit each other around this schedule. He bought all of my tickets.
We've been talking about getting married, and just this morning we were talking about the names of our future kids. lol I'm kinda just biding my time waiting for him to officially propose. It's a very exciting time right now.
Here's a little convo we had the other day:
Me: I've been wondering about the creative, unique way that you'll surprise me. lol (that will be captured with pics, of course -- hint hint) lol
Him: I want it to be special.......
Me: really?
Him: Yes....because I know it means a lot to you.....so it means a lot to me.
Me: awww...you're so sweet. that means a lot for me to hear you say that. gosh, i sure do love you. can't help it lol
Him: I love you too.......and I can't express it enough.
They get on my nerves with that mess.That usually means that some other woman has gotten tired of their mess and figured out their weak game and they are rolling through their little black books to see who they can test the waters on next.
