***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

[Imani]

I'm so over sex. Ironically, I think if I were having sex right now I'd be a lot less irritable.

I don't think I'm irritable. Perhaps tense. Sometimes I do think it would be nice to have a fine chocolate maintenance man to relieve some tension Like, seriously. But alas, I know thats probably not a good look.

 

[Softerlove]

Ok, its on. Il let you do all the work...you asked me to chill right? You got it. keep asking me to chill out and I'll chill with someone else....

As someone once said "I told you I have needs, I found someone to fulfill my needs, so now I don't need you" your so close...

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[cutenss]

I think that I have meet "the one". But time will tell.

OT: Sign the petition in my siggy

 

[ChasingBliss]

Wow, sorry guys, you all lost! Mission was not accomplished. Nice try though.

 

[CarLiTa]

Am I realky getting asked out on a date via office communicator?!??



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[SUPER SWEET]

This older lady at church kept telling me I have to talk to you. So im thinking it's about a committee. She calls this morning about 8am. It's about her brother. Why is her brother all of 70 wanting to take me out. And this lady got the nerve to say he's well-off and was REALLY trying to sell me a dream.

YEA , well off his rocker.

I told a friend of mine about this and she was like atleast he'll pay for the date. I know times are hard but come on, 70. No way. Yes he looks 60 but that aint no better for my standards.

 

[hopeful]

^^^ That old lady ought to be ashamed of herself!

 

[Love Always]

I don't like this one bit, especially when someone from church tries to do this mess. Just because a young lady is single they automatically assume she'll go for anybody. Not every woman is interested in an older man!

This older lady at church kept telling me I have to talk to you. So im thinking it's about a committee. She calls this morning about 8am. It's about her brother. Why is her brother all of 70 wanting to take me out. And this lady got the nerve to say he's well-off and was REALLY trying to sell me a dream.

YEA , well off his rocker.

I told a friend of mine about this and she was like atleast he'll pay for the date. I know times are hard but come on, 70. No way. Yes he looks 60 but that aint no better for my standards.

 

[ChasingBliss]

I don't like this one bit, especially when someone from church tries to do this mess. Just because a young lady is single they automatically assume she'll go for anybody. Not every woman is interested in an older man!

Yup, when I was younger, I hated the idea of dating a much older man. If I was 22 he had to be between 22 and 24. You could be no more than two years older but never younger I'm much older than 22 now but my thinking remains the same. If your 70 go find yourself a nice 70 year old lady...mkay?

 

[SUPER SWEET]

^^^ That old lady ought to be ashamed of herself!

She had NO SHAME. Acted as if she was doing me a favor.erplexed

I don't like this one bit, especially when someone from church tries to do this mess. Just because a young lady is single they automatically assume she'll go for anybody. Not every woman is interested in an older man!

See they think the money is gonna attract a young woman. And also, the fact we are all in church together is suppose to mean an exclusive dating pool.

Yup, when I was younger, I hated the idea of dating a much older man. If I was 22 he had to be between 22 and 24. You could be no more than two years older but never younger I'm much older than 22 now but my thinking remains the same. If your 70 go find yourself a nice 70 year old lady...mkay?

He really should look at lady atleast 55 and up. Plenty of them WANT a man. He still got lusty ways and thinks I would give it up for some $$$. His sister put it out there that he takes pills for stamina.

I almost want to say something to a leader in the church about her and her brother. But they are big givers so nothing probably won't be said...

 

[gabulldawg]

I REALLY don't understand why women try to downplay men's opinions so much. Unless you are homosexual or planning on being a nun or living some other type of celibate/single lifestyle you should care how a man views you!! We have SO many threads on here with women complaining about being single and wanting to find a man. Would it hurt to make some superficial changes if we know there are certain things that the average man may like or not like?? I don't get it.

 

[greight]

So I think I'm in a relationship now . He and I had an interesting night. He's celibate, looking for marriage, has a good job that he hates, but he has goals/ambitions that he's making happen.

He seems to be constantly interviewing and evaluating me. Not in a bad way, but still. He wants to take things slow so we'll see where he and I will go. I met some of his friends last night.

 

[ChasingBliss]

So I think I'm in a relationship now . He and I had an interesting night. He's celibate, looking for marriage, has a good job that he hates, but he has goals/ambitions that he's making happen.

He seems to be constantly interviewing and evaluating me. Not in a bad way, but still. He wants to take things slow so we'll see where he and I will go. I met some of his friends last night.

Yeah, I would say it sounds serious. Be careful though, that interview process can be a ******. When they are ready for serious relationships especially leading to marriage, they want to know EVERYTHING about you. It can almost feel like a grill session--I guess that depends on the man's personality though.

 

[greight]

Yeah, I would say it sounds serious. Be careful though, that interview process can be a ******. When they are ready for serious relationships especially leading to marriage, they want to know EVERYTHING about you. It can almost feel like a grill session--I guess that depends on the man's personality though.

Yeah, he's serious. He talked about me meeting his family during the first date . Also mentioned that I remind him of his sisters in the family (a good thing).

I'm not sure if I care too much about his questions . I feel like if he's gonna like me, he's gonna like me. I like him, but I don't have my emotions in this... yet.

 

[LushLox]

He asked me if we could be exclusive, well he asked me previously but I didn't give him an answer. No running away from it this time as he was very serious when he asked me. I do like him even though it does seem a tad bit rushed, we get on great so lets see.

 

[LovelyRo]

This last guy made me really think about my dating "philosophy." I knew from the beginning that it wouldn't work yet I still entertained the idea of dating him... Why? I'm learning to not only trust my instincts but to act on them as well!!

Eta: A FB friend posted a QOTD Asking Men why they cheat.... OMG alot of guys responded all saying the same thing.... They cheat because the can... It's a divide and conquer thing and it has nothing to do with their girl... The honesty was unreal!!! I don't want to deal with any of that!!!

 

[Curlybeauty]

Monday will be fun

I can't eem' wait

 

[Simply_elle]

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Some of you ladies just need confidence! There I said it... So many lovely men are waiting, you wont be struck to Hades if you make the first move!! I asked my s/o if he wanted to join me for drink two years ago Friday, and yeah He's not the "call a sista out" type so I panic to think we wouldn't be together if....ya girl here lacked balls!!! (He swears he was working the nerve to talk to me lol)

Get out your lipgloss, rock that dress and work it!!! Men love confidence...!

 

[LushLox]

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Some of you ladies just need confidence! There I said it... So many lovely men are waiting, you wont be struck to Hades if you make the first move!! I asked my s/o if he wanted to join me for drink two years ago Friday, and yeah He's not the "call a sista out" type so I panic to think we wouldn't be together if....ya girl here lacked balls!!! (He swears he was working the nerve to talk to me lol)

Get out your lipgloss, rock that dress and work it!!! Men love confidence...!

That's a very admirable quality. Personally I would say I am quite confident, but I think like a lot of ladies I want to be pursued by him from the outset. Perhaps that's an outdated, old fashioned mode of thought, but it's just preferable to me.

 

[gabulldawg]

That's a very admirable quality. Personally I would say I am quite confident, but I think like a lot of ladies I want to be pursued by him from the outset. Perhaps that's an outdated, old fashioned mode of thought, but it's just preferable to me.

It's not outdated. I was the same way. If a man really wants you then he will make that step! I wish more women understood this.

 

[dollface0023]

Why on earth am I texting back and forth with this idiot!?!

First he asks me out for Sunday and figures that I'm going to be the one that plans the date. I bring up just meeting for coffee since we don't know each other at all. Then he says that sounds boring and wants me to think of something else. Lazy bastard! You just turned me off with the quickness on that one.

He then suggests that we do the coffee thing then watch a movie at my place. Not only are you cheap but your game is whack. I don't bring random a$$ men to my home douchbag!

 

[Simply_elle]

That's a very admirable quality. Personally I would say I am quite confident, but I think like a lot of ladies I want to be pursued by him from the outset. Perhaps that's an outdated, old fashioned mode of thought, but it's just preferable to me.

I thought that too and felt super brazen... However he took it from there and as been the "instigator" since LOL. He called me...took me out...wined and dined. And well he never stopped Like I said he's shy and so not the call you out type, however when He knew I was interested... I say try it...You never know...

I've dated a bit..Thats pigeonholing yourself...IMHO. OH YEAH...Silly me there are TONS of cute,professional,articulate, and sexy bodied black men floating around all over the world. I'll wait so he'll notice me, and wait...(So then we opened the door for the ballsy *** yt/latina/asian girl who will come put her boobs and cooch on him, and then we wonder WHY he went home/talks to with her and NOT me!!! *tear*) Um...no

Also my rationale was: Do I really want to be in a relationship with a guy who's comfortable "calling out" other ladies? My sweet is a catch..Glad he's not that "aye gyal" kind of man... Well in bed..now he is

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

Well he came and brought me my Sade tickets and picked up his keys it's over for real. 

 

[Theo]

I think I have that someone new someone different someone bigger someone better syndrome.

I just get so bored so quickly and so easily

 

[Ms Red]

Well he came and brought me my Sade tickets and picked up his keys it's over for real. 

 

[Do_Si_Dos]

Oh my, I am really starting to like him....... He meets a lot on my check list..... This is almost scary.....

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[Curlybeauty]

That's a very admirable quality. Personally I would say I am quite confident, but I think like a lot of ladies I want to be pursued by him from the outset. Perhaps that's an outdated, old fashioned mode of thought, but it's just preferable to me.

I guess i'm aggressive then.

I texted him today and asked him what he was doing on Monday..he said working..and I said I would come by after he's off to kick it. He said cool

Women love to be chased, and men love when women go smack at them. Not in a desperate manner.

 

[VelvetRain]

So I think I'm in a relationship now . He and I had an interesting night. He's celibate, looking for marriage, has a good job that he hates, but he has goals/ambitions that he's making happen.

He seems to be constantly interviewing and evaluating me. Not in a bad way, but still. He wants to take things slow so we'll see where he and I will go. I met some of his friends last night.

Yep all too familiar. He's doing his research on you probably because he may be interested in wifing you up.

 

[MzLady78]

I had so much fun with him at my staff outing yesterday. It was nice to have a date for a work event for once. He actually said he's been looking forward to it all week and had started thinking about what he was gonna wear on Monday. I didn't pick my outfit til yesterday morning.

He also said he almost had a heart attack when he thought he was gonna have to go back into work, he didn't realize he was on call this week and he would have paid someone to take his shift so he could go. I swear, no matter how frustrated I get, he never fails to remind me why I haven't gone anywhere.

 

[MzLady78]

I REALLY don't understand why women try to downplay men's opinions so much. Unless you are homosexual or planning on being a nun or living some other type of celibate/single lifestyle you should care how a man views you!! We have SO many threads on here with women complaining about being single and wanting to find a man. Would it hurt to make some superficial changes if we know there are certain things that the average man may like or not like?? I don't get it.

I get what you're saying but some ish is just ridiculous. And my issue is that most of these same men complaining about little stuff like footwear are coming with way more serious issues.

You got 50-11 kids and 4 baby mamas but I'm supposed to give a ish that you don't like wedges? Yeah ok.