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Has anyone had any experience with tweaking their appearance, be it their style of dress or the way they wear their hair in order to meet different types of men versus the ones they are used to meeting? When I watch epsiodes of What Not to Wear, I am often suprised at how a hair cut/different hair color and a different selection of clothes can make a woman look totally different..Not to say that she isnt a nice person before the change, but we know that men are visual creatures and we want to be mutually physically attracted to each other..
I say all that to say, Ive been thinking about adding some color in my hair, maybe it will brighten up my face and Ive been slowly re-creating my wardobe with more selections that stand out more.. Im re-evaluting my game plan for the second half..
 
Some of you may have already seen this but I wanted to post this. Someone had it as their status on facebook.



Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don't have commercials? REASON: They know the value of their product attracts their clientele to them. LESSON: When you know your value, you don't have to beg people to be your mate, to spend time with you or love you. Be confident in who GOD made you to be. Everyone can't afford the luxury of your friendship or your love.
 
:yep: That, and the things and services you really want don't want to lose their exclusivity. It's like those lawyer commercials - the lawyer who could really win your case probably doesn't need to advertise on tv. Or quality schools - they don't need to advertise to get people to apply and want to go there. Anything worth having is usually hidden that you don't know about, have to find, and is a secret only amongst those in the know.

I can see how abstractly that can be applied to relationships but I'm not sure how it could be pragmatically applied :lol:
 
tinkat said:
Some of you may have already seen this but I wanted to post this. Someone had it as their status on facebook.



Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don't have commercials? REASON: They know the value of their product attracts their clientele to them. LESSON: When you know your value, you don't have to beg people to be your mate, to spend time with you or love you. Be confident in who GOD made you to be. Everyone can't afford the luxury of your friendship or your love.
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I'm not on facebook, so no had not seen it. Excellent analogy. Thanks for posting
 
mischka said:
:yep: That, and the things and services you really want don't want to lose their exclusivity. It's like those lawyer commercials - the lawyer who could really win your case probably doesn't need to advertise on tv. Or quality schools - they don't need to advertise to get people to apply and want to go there. Anything worth having is usually hidden that you don't know about, have to find, and is a secret only amongst those in the know.

I can see how abstractly that can be applied to relationships but I'm not sure how it could be pragmatically applied :lol:
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Exactly, hopefully someone will chime it to break it down for us.
 
tinkat said:
Some of you may have already seen this but I wanted to post this. Someone had it as their status on facebook.



Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don't have commercials? REASON: They know the value of their product attracts their clientele to them. LESSON: When you know your value, you don't have to beg people to be your mate, to spend time with you or love you. Be confident in who GOD made you to be. Everyone can't afford the luxury of your friendship or your love.
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Thank you. I needed that today.


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:ohwell: The evening group coffee date turned ugly. :nono: Why? One of the men said one of the ladies there looked like Terrence Trent Darby. Then he began to sing" sign your name across my heart". My new friend got involved......:nono: now there is a broken windshield. I think I may have to sit this one out.
 
Girrrl. This made me LOL for real :) Thanks! :lol:
SUPER SWEET said:
:ohwell: The evening group coffee date turned ugly. :nono: Why? One of the men said one of the ladies there looked like Terrence Trent Darby. Then he began to sing" sign your name across my heart". My new friend got involved......:nono: now there is a broken windshield. I think I may have to sit this one out.
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^^^^Thanks for the song too add to my grooveshark. lol.

Is it bad to accept a date with someone I'm not really attracted to just because I want a free meal?

Me thinks not....lol.

#ihatecooking
 
Mr. Virgin Islands is a good cook-curry(ied) chicken with brown rice and mixed veggies. It was a decent meal. We had a nice time. Next date? Saturday at a dinner movie theater.

On another note: I'm still not ready to invite him to my place. I'm trying to take all my mistakes from the past and get this one half way right.
 
:ohwell: He called this morning left a voicemail and acted if nothing happen last night. :nono: " Goodmornin love,can't wait to see you today" NO WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY I like my car windshield.
 
So, the date from the other night could have been classified as a pretty bad one if I were actually emotionally invested.

Should I tell you guys that I'm certain we almost got into an accident? :lol: I can laugh now, but my heart almost flew out of my chest then.

He was driving and holding my hand and staring at me. Lucky for me, I wasn't staring back. It looked like the car was abt to veer off the road. I think I was paralysed for a nano second and then yelled watch the road!

He did and swerved back left. I was like did you even see that car?!? He said he did and had plenty of space to adjust. I'm like um, DON'T look at me, just drive please!

I may only be interested in the physical (feels so strange admitting that, and my friend doesn't seem to believe me bc I'm so relationship oriented), but I need to still establish some standards... like don't make me think you're abt to kill us both on the road, and other more trivial things.

On another note:
My former SO sent a text saying hello and talking abt missing me... 2 hrs before my date with the other fella. A month ago we decided to stop talking every day as we used to. When I asked him what made him reach out yesterday, he says he doesn't know, and that he just felt strongly compelled to... and that it seemed such a coincidence that I was in his city the following day (for work).

The universe is hilarious. This is my first date with someone since we made the decision last month... and this pretty much always happens (often on both ends).



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I have to cast a wider net..sorry BFF who's married, Im tired to going to places because you dont want to pay to get in, or "its too hot outside to attend a daytime party"..I have to work up the courage to these places alone..I have to step my cocktail dress game up because sistas out here aint playing..
Treating dating like Im looking for a job, just like it was mentioned in another thread
Gotta revamp my "resume" ( appearance has to be on point)
Gotta apply for each and every job (go to different venues outside my normal radius)
Apply for jobs I never thought I would take previously ( be open to change)
 
dude i have never talked to anywhere close to romantically posts pic of girl hes been dating since idk when

i proceed to hate

really, misch? :rolleyes:

you definitely gonna have to do something soon
 
tinkat said:
Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don't have commercials? REASON: They know the value of their product attracts their clientele to them. LESSON: When you know your value, you don't have to beg people to be your mate, to spend time with you or love you. Be confident in who GOD made you to be. Everyone can't afford the luxury of your friendship or your love.
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I am so in love with this quote!!!!! tinkat Thanks was not enough for this post!!! It really made my day!!!!:yep:
 
I saw you check me out in my new dress while I was on my way to the break room to get napkins (that I didn't need :look:). Watch me find a reason to stop and chat with your cube-mate before the end of the day, even though you sit waayyy over there in the corner...

:angeldevi
 
My cousin informed me that I f'd the situation up myself (I agree, reluctantly), so I'm going to sit down for a while and see what happens. *Goes to sit in the corner*
 
It's amazing what a family (cousins and aunts) will do when they they get thrown off a money train they should never have been on. Just evil!
 
Did this clown really ask me to stop by my house to talk? Talk about what? Tonight is dc night.... I just want to relax, not listen to your foolishness... I can't.

Honestly, I don't even like you, so if it can't be said over text, it won't get said. Boy, bye.

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