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How would you feel if other women sent your guy gifts? Would it depend on what kind of gift it is? Would it depend on whether or not it's a gift that could benefit you too? (Sorry, had to throw that one in there for laughs )
The issue comes up because of something quite unexpected that happened with me and the boyfriend the other night. He got a package from a girl that he hung out with last summer. Not a "hook up" or anything. Just someone he met when another friend of his was in town with her. He's gotten presents from friends before - both male and female. Just cute innocuous gifts, like a souvenir from another country or something funny. When he saw the package, he asked me to come over and check out what he got. He unwrapped it and there was a box of chocolates, a card and a scrapbook. My first thoughts were "Aww, that's kinda cool and sweet. Person put some thought into it."
But then, we both read through the card and the scrapbook. Um...girlfriend was basically telling my boyfriend that she LOVED him and thought about him everyday. He seemed surprised (and mildly amused), considering that he hasn't spoken to or heard from the girl in a couple of months or so, and he also said that she doesn't know that he now has a girlfriend.
I really had NO idea how to react. On the one hand, I was like, "Okay, she doesn't know he has a girlfriend, so this was sent pretty innocently." But then again, I was kinda like "What kinda SH*T!?!?"
Maybe there's something wrong with me, but reading the words of some other woman professing her love for my boyfriend just, uh, yeah, NOT the most comfortable feeling in the world. And, yes, that was DEFINITELY expressed to the boyfriend. It's especially weird because I've never been in a situation where I've seen my boyfriend receive such an intimate gift from another woman.
How would you guys feel about it?
BTW - he's told me that he's going to reach out to her and thank her for the gift, but tell her that this sort of thing is inappropriate because he has a girlfriend now.
The issue comes up because of something quite unexpected that happened with me and the boyfriend the other night. He got a package from a girl that he hung out with last summer. Not a "hook up" or anything. Just someone he met when another friend of his was in town with her. He's gotten presents from friends before - both male and female. Just cute innocuous gifts, like a souvenir from another country or something funny. When he saw the package, he asked me to come over and check out what he got. He unwrapped it and there was a box of chocolates, a card and a scrapbook. My first thoughts were "Aww, that's kinda cool and sweet. Person put some thought into it."
But then, we both read through the card and the scrapbook. Um...girlfriend was basically telling my boyfriend that she LOVED him and thought about him everyday. He seemed surprised (and mildly amused), considering that he hasn't spoken to or heard from the girl in a couple of months or so, and he also said that she doesn't know that he now has a girlfriend.
I really had NO idea how to react. On the one hand, I was like, "Okay, she doesn't know he has a girlfriend, so this was sent pretty innocently." But then again, I was kinda like "What kinda SH*T!?!?"
Maybe there's something wrong with me, but reading the words of some other woman professing her love for my boyfriend just, uh, yeah, NOT the most comfortable feeling in the world. And, yes, that was DEFINITELY expressed to the boyfriend. It's especially weird because I've never been in a situation where I've seen my boyfriend receive such an intimate gift from another woman.
How would you guys feel about it?
BTW - he's told me that he's going to reach out to her and thank her for the gift, but tell her that this sort of thing is inappropriate because he has a girlfriend now.