Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

Had dinner with my friend tonight. We were both tired and funky but we still had a nice time. I could tell she was annoyed because she had a tough day at work - she looked wrecked. And I was aggy because my schedule is jam packed and I don't like having back to back engagements (i'm an introvert that needs my recharge time otherwise I will be very unpleasant to be around). But we acknowledged these things and still had a great time. There were times where we just kind of sat there quietly not saying anything and probably both silently thanked the other for not talking. Lol This is a good friend. We get each other.
 
I'm currently on vacation with a bunch of my girlfriends. We are having such a great time . One gf goes from happy to belligerent when she is tipsy in a matter of minutes. Usually I pay her no mind and let her dance it off.
Apparently last night she was acting up while I wasn't around . One of my other gfs, gf-2, waited until gf-1 went to the rest room to express how she was acting and you could clearly see how nervous she was. Mind you we don't really know anyone else here but our group and I don't want my trip ruined. I speak to gf-1 and tell her she needs to sober up a bit because she gets angry quick and we aren't home, essentially get it together because she was making gf-2 nervous and I didn't want to have to deal with the BS. I tried to be an adult and tell her just to let some things go. You cannot react to everything other people do. Some things aren't worth the energy. If we are out and a guy tries to dance with you, you can deal with it w/o getting into a fight for example .
This broad reacts like a petulant child. Gets an attitude and says she doesn't want to discuss it. Now she is walking around sulking like a 4 year old. I am actively ignoring her bs because I won't have my trip ruined. We wil be having a chat once we get back to our lives.

Aside from that I am having a wonderful time!

Happy Mother's Day ladies!
 
caribeandiva said:
@BrownBetty is this your first time vacationing with gf-1?
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Nope we travel together often.

Update:
Gf-1 and I had a chat . We are good. Gf-2 was being dramatic and made the situation a lot more than it was. Gf-1 apologized. The rest of our day has been wonderful. The rest of the group was unaware of the tension.
I love me some gf-1. She gets on my nerves but we can usually hash out our stuff and move on.
 
I went out on a post birthday dinner "date" by myself. I spent my birthday with people, which I didn't mind but I wanted to go to my favorite restaurant by myself and eat all the delicious food. I didn't invite anyone, just got really cute, beat my face and threw on my heels.
My friend says I am brave to eat out alone but I love my own company and I hate waiting around for folks.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful week!

Any weekend plans?
 
I had such a good time last Friday with my friend girls. I can’t believe it’s Friday again. We went to this Mexican restaurant/club and I had soooo much fun. I never left the dance floor and that’s so big me. I think I’ve gone out every single weekend for like two months. I don’t ever remember having this much carefree fun/joy.
 
I'm upset with a friend of mine
her car broke down around midnight last night and she called me to help her.
ok.
fine, I thought it was something simple - like pouring water in the radiator
it was not something simple

so I said call insurance...
she can't.. because she hasn't paid it
ok... I say... I'm not please but I say lets deal with the issue at hand
lets call a wrecker to get you home
no she doesn't have money fro a wrecker she wants to flag down ppl in the middle of teh night!! to see if they can help..

NO! I'm not trying to end up dead in a cart road.

so I call the wrecker pay for it and send her home and told her I'm upset with her but too tired to deal with it...

some where in between there I was trying to offer other suggestions and she was shooting me down, for uultimately valid reasons and says something along the line of ' you have no idea what it is to live my life'

and I want to say... I don't because you aren;t being honest with me, and not with yourself.

also
I bought both of us party tickets for an event, and I hadn't stressed the payback because it didnt seem like a lot of money fpr me to wait on her to pay me back

of course... now I know that I'm probably never getting that money back...
I'm thinking about selling her ticket.
stupse
 
I'm in such a good mood today.

Went to my mom's house Friday. My nephew opened the door for me and immediately grabbed my hand and dragged me into the dining room, then wanted me to pick him up. I didn't even have time to take off my coat. :lol: I could have cried, y'all. It's the first time he hasn't run to one of his parents when I came in. He's 3, autistic and hasn't seemed like he liked me much the last year or so. He'll normally warm up to me after awhile, but it made me feel so good that I didn't have to wait for it this time.

Saturday, I did nothing. I was so tired for some reason. Then Sunday, my cousin came over. She cooked some chicken I had and made me watch Game of Thrones til midnight. Now I'm all into it and can't wait to get home to start watching again. :lol:

Next weekend, a bunch of my cousins and hopefully, my siblings are coming over to have a Sunday pot-luck dinner at my place. My first time hosting more than 3 people in my apartment. I'm excited but a little anxious. My place isn't that big, I can currently only comfortably seat about 8 people. But 2 of my cousins have volunteered to bring chairs. I'm sure it'll be fine.
 
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It's amazing how time passes and your wants and needs change. I used to feel like I needed to live in the middle of the action, I would only consider living in major cities. Now I am like, give me a nice house, Target, clean outdoor spaces, an airport, and decent weather and I am there. I just want to be at peace and huge cities with high cost of living kind of force you to live with a certain amount of hustle and bustle. And my energy is zapped for that lifestyle LOL! When you start thinking New Mexico looks like a good place to be (minus the whole Breaking Bad thing), you're definitely over it.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
It's amazing how time passes and your wants and needs change. I used to feel like I needed to live in the middle of the action, I would only consider living in major cities. Now I am like, give me a nice house, Target, clean outdoor spaces, an airport, and decent weather and I am there. I just want to be at peace and huge cities with high cost of living kind of force you to live with a certain amount of hustle and bustle. And my energy is zapped for that lifestyle LOL! When you start thinking New Mexico looks like a good place to be (minus the whole Breaking Bad thing), you're definitely over it.
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I feel you. One of my cousins lives in nice house on the end of cul-de-sac about 45 minutes from the city. It's so peaceful and serene. If it wasn't for not wanting to impose on his family time with his wife and kids, I'd be out there every other weekend. I absolutely love it. I'd trade my luxury apartment building with the pool and concierge in the heart of the city for that any day.
 
MzLady78 said:
I feel you. One of my cousins lives in nice house on the end of cul-de-sac about 45 minutes from the city. It's so peaceful and serene. If it wasn't for not wanting to impose on his family time with his wife and kids, I'd be out there every other weekend. I absolutely love it. I'd trade my luxury apartment building with the pool and concierge in the heart of the city for that any day.
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That sounds heavenly! It makes me think about D. Lewis, I couldn't appreciate her country living back then, but I get it now. Its something about having that quiet at night, without the city sounds. I really need a master plan to get what I seek.
 
Friend and I are chatting in her driveway debating on if we are going to wait for another friend before we head to this party or meet her there. Her husband is chilling outside as well, grilling.

My friend's husband to me: I like those shoes
Me: Thanks!
Friend to her husband: I got something for you
Me (thinking in my head): I wonder what she got him

Friend pulls out shoes that look similar to mine to show her husband.

I go back and forth on if that was weird or normal lol.
 
MzLady78 said:
I'm in such a good mood today.

Went to my mom's house Friday. My nephew opened the door for me and immediately grabbed my hand and dragged me into the dining room, then wanted me to pick him up. I didn't even have time to take off my coat. :lol: I could have cried, y'all. It's the first time he hasn't run to one of his parents when I came in. He's 3, autistic and hasn't seemed like he liked me much the last year or so. He'll normally warm up to me after awhile, but it made me feel so good that I didn't have to wait for it this time.

Saturday, I did nothing. I was so tired for some reason. Then Sunday, my cousin came over. She cooked some chicken I had and made me watch Game of Thrones til midnight. Now I'm all into it and can't wait to get home to start watching again. :lol:

Next weekend, a bunch of my cousins and hopefully, my siblings are coming over to have a Sunday pot-luck dinner at my place. My first time hosting more than 3 people in my apartment. I'm excited but a little anxious. My place isn't that big, I can currently only comfortably seat about 8 people. But 2 of my cousins have volunteered to bring chairs. I'm sure it'll be fine.
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So I had my little get-together on Sunday, and it went really well! My brother even came, which was nice. He doesn't spend much time around the extended family, and they're always asking about him.

My cousins and my aunt cleaned up my kitchen and did the dishes before they left, I so appreciated that. It was an absolute mess and I was exhausted by the time the last person left. I did nothing on Monday but binge-watch "Game of Thrones".

Next Saturday, I'm going to Foxwoods with my mom. I don't really have money to blow like that, but maybe I'll get lucky. :lol:
 
Had soooo much fun throwing a mini bday get to gether for my line sister! Drinks, finger foods, ratchet music, and laughs all night. Lol. I don’t know why we allow work to succomb us so much that we forget to spend time with each other, let our hair down, and just BE! So much fun! I’m glad I did it. We planned on having another one Thursday just because lol.
 

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RoundEyedGirl504 said:
That sounds heavenly! It makes me think about D. Lewis, I couldn't appreciate her country living back then, but I get it now. Its something about having that quiet at night, without the city sounds. I really need a master plan to get what I seek.
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I love it too. I’m starting off just having an itty bitty garden. It keeps me focused and balanced.
 
PrissiSippi said:
Had soooo much fun throwing a mini bday get to gether for my line sister! Drinks, finger foods, ratchet music, and laughs all night. Lol. I don’t know why we allow work to succomb us so much that we forget to spend time with each other, let our hair down, and just BE! So much fun! I’m glad I did it. We planned on having another one Thursday just because lol.
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Looks delish! What kind of dipping sauce did you have for the fruit?
 
oneastrocurlie said:
Friend and I are chatting in her driveway debating on if we are going to wait for another friend before we head to this party or meet her there. Her husband is chilling outside as well, grilling.

My friend's husband to me: I like those shoes
Me: Thanks!
Friend to her husband: I got something for you
Me (thinking in my head): I wonder what she got him

Friend pulls out shoes that look similar to mine to show her husband.

I go back and forth on if that was weird or normal lol.
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Welp, you know that she’s angry and disappointed with him. This is likely a habit of his to notice other women’s nice things, take the time to compliment them and make them feel good, but not bother with doing the same for her.
 
hopeful said:
Welp, you know that she’s angry and disappointed with him. This is likely a habit of his to notice other women’s nice things, take the time to compliment them and make them feel good, but not bother with doing the same for her.
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Oddly enough, knowing him, he probably did the same for her but before I got there lol. He says nice things about everyone, her included. I do agree that that might've angered or annoyed her a bit but idk why.

I can't even recall what he said afterwards cause I was confused about her whipping her shoes out lol.

Humans are strange.
 
oneastrocurlie said:
Oddly enough, knowing him, he probably did the same for her but before I got there lol. He says nice things about everyone, her included. I do agree that that might've angered or annoyed her a bit but idk why.

I can't even recall what he said afterwards cause I was confused about her whipping her shoes out lol.

Humans are strange.
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Some men are good at making sure others see them a certain way. When I left my dh everyone thought I was THE luckiest and most loved. But idk. Only time will tell. It’s just too bad you were put in the middle of it. Really nothing to do with you.
 
I'm learning how not to be sensitive and take things personally. I have a tendency to take things to heart when it shouldn't matter that much. I was on another forum I frequent and I posted a question. Some people came in there with little advice other than a bunch of "if it was me..." and why I'm stupid for whatever reason (kinda like here :look:) I responded with a take it easy and I can take tough love but y'all need to chill and obviously I was looking for advice which is why I posted the thread. I didn't call anyone out just a general post but a hit dog hollered and came back in saying think about the advice I would give my sister and I can think whatever I want but...blah blah blah. I can't stand people who try to justify mistreating someone (even on a forum) especially in a thread about being mistreated. Oh the irony.

Anyway, the forum is heavily moderated and they keep folks in check over there with the bickering. It's great because you can be a foul mouthed sailor but as long as you respect other people's thoughts and opinions all is well. One of the mods came in to tell everyone to cut out the snark and be cool. So I went to that poster so I could PM her and squash it. This is when I realized homegirl blocked me. :lachen:At first I was furious because how the heck she gonna block me when she is the one who came in my thread and then came for me. I was not bothering her at all. Then I took a deep breath, decided this was her problem and not mine and kindly emailed the mod apologizing and asking her to close the thread. Mod says poster has already been suspended.

This was not personal and I shouldn't have taken it that way. I want to stop letting little things like this bother me and I feel like I had 2 small victories tonight. 1 me being big enough to chill and not take it personally and try to squash and 2 salty poster getting suspended without me having to do anything.

Sorry for the vent. Other than that, today was an ok day.
 
Man just had an epic girls trip. My friend called me last week if I wanted to go to DC with her and some friends for her birthday.
It was epic. Drinks, food , dancing , paintnight , casino .
I had so much fun it was great to get away. Even if it wasn't that far. I leave for San Diego next Sunday for work, then Chicago and VA in July.
I feel so amazing enjoying life and having fun!
 
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crlsweetie912 said:
Man just had an epic girls trip. My friend called me last week if I wanted to go to DC with her and some friends for her birthday.
It was epic. Drinks, food , dancing , paintnight , casino .
I had so much fun it was great to get away. Even if it wasn't that far. I leave for San Diego next Sunday for work, then Chicago and VA in July.
I feel so amazing enjoying life and having fun!
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