Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

bellatiamarie said:
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lol...I tried to post a picture but this daggone site wouldn't let me...
 
Someone asked me for a loan and because I had it to give I said ok. This person wanted to come all the way to my house this evening to pay me back and it would have been inconvenient for me to rush home so I just told them to keep the money. She said she was so touched and called me to thank me and was legit crying on the phone. I was glad I could help but I couldn't get off the phone fast enough lol Overly grateful people make me uncomfortable because I am so used to people just taking.
 
I've been having a particular issue/conflict for a while, which has been putting me in a bad mood on a regular basis. Recently, I decided to confront the people causing me distress. I'm glad I did, and hope this issue is resolved. If not, I plan to take the next step up in the chain. I refuse to accept unacceptable behavior. I feel so emotional right now because I wish I confronted them months ago. I could have resolved this months ago. We'll see what happens.

For now, I am going to refocus on raising my vibrations and continuing to be happy.
 
I survived a visit from my dad, step mom, and their kids. I can't fault the kids for asking questions but I guess they didn't understand that their mom wasn't my mom so the questions were super awkward. I haven't seen them in probably 4 years. It'll probably be another 4 before I do again.

I hope my friend's boyfriend is actually getting divorced and it doesn't end up being a hot mess situation.
 
Welp! That only lasted a day. No one can say that I didn't try to resolve this amicably. I spoke to management today, who assured me that a letter would be sent to the offenders regarding my complaint. Of course, they'll know exactly where the complaining came from.

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TwoSnapsUp said:
I've been having a particular issue/conflict for a while, which has been putting me in a bad mood on a regular basis. Recently, I decided to confront the people causing me distress. I'm glad I did, and hope this issue is resolved. If not, I plan to take the next step up in the chain. I refuse to accept unacceptable behavior. I feel so emotional right now because I wish I confronted them months ago. I could have resolved this months ago. We'll see what happens.

For now, I am going to refocus on raising my vibrations and continuing to be happy.
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I'm kind of feeling some type of way at the moment. I've been dating and now in a relationship with someone, and we have hung out with their friends numerous of times. But when I try to get my friends to hang out with us there is always a reason why they can't. I know this sounds silly, but me and this person have been dealing with each other since November, and my BFF has only met them once.

And I'm kind of peeved because whenever my SO comes to town I let them know. And we were trying to set up something for the weekend but there was always some reason why they couldn't. We were going to hang Saturday night, and I told them what we could do. And my BFF told me to let her know what we were doing because she was with her SO visiting their parents and were about to leave. I sent a text and me and SO waited for them to respond. To which my BFF responded like hours later at 4 in the morning saying her phone died and that her and the SO went to go see a baby. And it's like who goes and visits a baby at 11/12 at night!

I'm to the point where I'm over trying to set up meet ups and even having my SO come in town. I much prefer the city SO lives in and their friends, I'm always amazed at how open they are with each other and how supportive they are with one another.
 
hopeful said:
@mz.rae
I’d let it go as far as getting your friends to meet up. If I recall, I thought you had problems in the past with the bff?
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Yes there were some problems in the past, but I always felt it was because of the person they were dating at the time. It's funny because SO calls them petty, which makes a fourth outside person that I've brought around that feels iffy about the people I hang with.

I don't know I guess I'm pushing it because I'm finally happy in a relationship that I have always wanted. And she is finally happy in a relationship she has always wanted as well, so I thought we all could just bask in each others happiness while hanging and getting to know each other's SO's.
 
I have been working on making my weekends count. I'd been in a slump since the beginning of the year. I am slowly working my way out of it. Last weekend I took DS for a quick beach visit, and we went outside and played. This weekend my girl is having a bourbon tasting party on Saturday, and Sunday if weather permits I am going to take DS out for a hike. It's nice to come out of the fog somewhat.
 
I have my weekend planned out for myself and I just know someone will come along to ruin it with their last minute plans. My father always cancels Father's Day plans or sleeps all day and calls later in the day. So this year I have decided I'm not planning anything. Instead, I am planning on spending time alone this weekend, reorganizing my tiny arse closet and getting rid of clothes I don't wear and probably will never wear again. I'm such a loser because I'm kind of excited about it.
 
Spent the morning with SO but I was most thankful to spend time with Dad today. Went for Mexican food and margaritas. We were talking noise and just having a good time.
Now when I told him I was taking him to eat he was real nonchalant, but when I picked him up he came out the house in his button down Polo shirt and creased jeans. I laughed a bit to myself, because I knew he wanted to go.:giggle:
 
Had a great weekend.

Played hookie from work Friday. Went to my mom's yesterday, and my nephew called me "Titi" for the first time. :love2:

Saw some friends from around the way I hadn't seen in awhile, then went out for drinks with my sis, BIL, cousin and my homie.

Today I've just been laying on my couch watching Parks and Rec. Dreading work tomorrow. :ohwell:
 
SuchMagnificent said:
Spent the morning with SO but I was most thankful to spend time with Dad today. Went for Mexican food and margaritas. We were talking noise and just having a good time.
Now when I told him I was taking him to eat he was real nonchalant, but when I picked him up he came out the house in his button down Polo shirt and creased jeans. I laughed a bit to myself, because I knew he wanted to go.:giggle:
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Aww how cute. He was excited.
 
SuchMagnificent said:
Spent the morning with SO but I was most thankful to spend time with Dad today. Went for Mexican food and margaritas. We were talking noise and just having a good time.
Now when I told him I was taking him to eat he was real nonchalant, but when I picked him up he came out the house in his button down Polo shirt and creased jeans. I laughed a bit to myself, because I knew he wanted to go.:giggle:
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Awe he was ready for his daughter date! Glad you had a nice time with your Daddy!
 
Going on vacay for the 4th. Leaving the country for the first time in 2 years but feels like 10 years. I have had to make so many adjustments in my life from suffering from severe endometriosis. I just want to relax and enjoy myself. I'm happy to be healthy. I'm so excited, I'm already packing.
 
mz.rae said:
which makes a fourth outside person that I've brought around that feels iffy about the people I hang with.
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I’ve learned that the hard way. When outsiders keep reacting negatively to my friends then I need to re-examine the friendship. Outsiders tend to see things you can’t because you’ve become accustomed to the bad things the friend does. I always defended those friends but sure enough ALL of those friendships ended eventually. Toxic people.
 
I have been really happy lately. Everything isn't perfect but I am ok.
I'm dating and one suitor wants to get serious. I asked how he can improve my present state of happiness. *silence* well then you don't get that honor.

I'm off to Cali in a couple of weeks. I will stay still till then. I'm enjoying life and trying to stave off the feeling that something bad will happen due to this happiness. I've worked hard for this level of peace.
 
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BrownBetty said:
I have been really happy latley. Everything isn't perfect but I am ok.
I'm dating and one suitor wants to get serious. I asked how he can improve my present state of happiness. *silence* well then you don't get that honor.

I'm off to Cali in a couple of weeks. I will stay still till then. I'm enjoying life and trying to stave off the feeling that something bad will happen due to this happiness. I've worked hard for this level of peace.
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:lachen::lachen:Awesome!! I’m so happy for you! I know how hard you’ve worked for your level of happiness. It’s all coming to fruition. I’m proud of you.
 
I have a very good friend that acts very aloof and borderline rude around my other friends that she doesnt’ know. I’ve been friends with her since we were teens but it’s gotten worse as she’s gotten older.

The first time I noticed it was at my first baby shower (12 years ago) that was given to me by coworkers. We were all sitting at a table at a restaurant and She would whisper in my ear the whole time, refusing to really speak to my coworkers. I started getting annoyed and she seemed annoyed when I spoke to my coworkers. I mean, they were giving me the shower, I can’t just sit there and only talk to her.

More recently, since we are both married with kids, it’s been at kids’ birthday parties or when I have pool parties. I will introduce her to people and she barely acknowledges them and when I try to include her in the conversation she says something dismissive or borderline rude. I’ve asked her about it directly and she said there’s no problem or seems confused. However, the people that she does this too have asked me if they did something to upset her.

When we are alone or with mutual friends, she seems fine. Any opinions on this? Is it just her personality? She says she’s an introvert but I’ve never really seen her that way.
 
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