Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread
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Nay
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@PrplStuff I love that song by Luther! And, girl, you're so silly 
PrplStuff
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Same! IJS@PrplStuff I love that song by Luther! And, girl, you're so silly
weaveadiva
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My mom is coming to visit tomorrow and I can't wait 
hopeful
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Lucky you! Enjoy every minute!My mom is coming to visit tomorrow and I can't wait
weaveadiva
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Thank you, and I did. I'm so grateful of the relationship we have. The older I get, the more I appreciate having her in my life.
@Crackers Phinn I want to get a Cameo for a friend. Being the
Plushottie
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@Ganjababy i hope she is well supported. Not a fun experience
weaveadiva
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So sorry to hear this. How did you find out?
She told me. We are keeping a close eye.
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
I checked my account and old emails and I don't see one. Sowwy.
weaveadiva
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I'm glad she felt comfortable coming to you. I hope things get better.
Plushottie
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Wish I could meet girly women to be friends with it feels so suffocating not really getting to chat with women who are traditional yet have to make the best of the world we live in
weaveadiva
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My friend is struggling to pay rent this month and I want to help but there's a grown a** raggedy man living in the household so I'm feeling some kinda way. Which makes me feel even worse because that's my girl. I feel like it's his responsibility to step up but why am I in grown folks business? Plus she has children so why should they suffer?
I won't offer, but if she asks for money I will gladly gift it. No strings attached and no repayment needed.
I won't offer, but if she asks for money I will gladly gift it. No strings attached and no repayment needed.
oneastrocurlie
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My closet friend does this thing were she's like "we should go to brunch, happy hour, etc" and then it's up to me to find a new place to go.
Another friend, if she hits me up to go to eat (she recently did this because she got a new job) or maybe check out a place for say restaurant week, it's always up to me to find and decide where to go.
Now idk when I was looked at having the pulse of new restaurants in the city but I feel like if you asking me to go somewhere with you, the finding of the somewhere shouldn't fall to me.
This probably sounds silly but trying to find a place you think someone else will like, that has good reviews, and fits in the price range you think they'll pay takes some effort effort. I got a job, a fairly busy one, and that ain't it lol.
Another friend, if she hits me up to go to eat (she recently did this because she got a new job) or maybe check out a place for say restaurant week, it's always up to me to find and decide where to go.
Now idk when I was looked at having the pulse of new restaurants in the city but I feel like if you asking me to go somewhere with you, the finding of the somewhere shouldn't fall to me.
This probably sounds silly but trying to find a place you think someone else will like, that has good reviews, and fits in the price range you think they'll pay takes some effort effort. I got a job, a fairly busy one, and that ain't it lol.
BrownBetty
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@oneastrocurlie
I am you in a couple of my friend groups. I don't mind doing it because I rec where I want to eat. If they don't like it they can pick.
In your case I would push back and tell them to choose a place also so you don't feel resentment. Little issues can turn into big issues if not addressed.
Good luck.
I am you in a couple of my friend groups. I don't mind doing it because I rec where I want to eat. If they don't like it they can pick.
In your case I would push back and tell them to choose a place also so you don't feel resentment. Little issues can turn into big issues if not addressed.
Good luck.
oneastrocurlie
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You're right. I really should just pick where I like to go and they can deal lol. It's the emphasis on it having to be a new (or new to us I should say).
Evolving78
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I know I wouldn’t waste my time with someone like that. I have picked places and certain individuals caused a lot of passive aggressive ruckus, ruining the whole dining experience because it was somewhere they weren’t feeling. But if you want to continue hanging out with someone like that, I would communicate with them how that type of behavior makes you feel.
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weaveadiva
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Found out part of the reason she's behind is because she took out a loan to bail him outta jail. Also found out he's sitting on a couple thousand and ain't offer na'an penny for rent. Let me go sit my black behind down somewhere.
BrownBetty
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@weaveadiva I don't blame you one bit.
My aunt refuses to financially help any of her daughters if they got a whole man in the house. She said "what is he there for? What is his job if he can't ensure my child is doing well?"
She told this daughter to leave the boy alone. She refuses. My aunt said she ain't contributing to the mess.
My aunt refuses to financially help any of her daughters if they got a whole man in the house. She said "what is he there for? What is his job if he can't ensure my child is doing well?"
She told this daughter to leave the boy alone. She refuses. My aunt said she ain't contributing to the mess.
My niece asked me for money after she moved in with her man. I told her she should not be asking me for money if she is living with a man. I was baffled. Why would I be funding your household when you have a whole, big horse grown man under your roof?
oneastrocurlie
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I'm quoting myself cause I have a couple additions.
Friend asked for bday dinner ideas. I give like 4, she picks a total different place. No issue there. Cute place. Not one I'd go back to but all good in the hood.
Another friend asked to go to brunch. I say "sure, got a place in mind?" (see I learned from the last time I posted). She says nope, she just wants xyz. I respond with idk of a place that serves that (which is true). Couple hours go by and she picks a place.....
It's a place I've been to and it's meh lol. I laugh because I think to myself you know what I see why they ask me to pick places cause they choices teeter between "meh" and "1/5 stars, don't recommend". Life is funny.
I notice white people are always “othering” their mixed relatives. I’m the kind of person that cannot keep my mouf shut when something bothers me. I have this co-worker who keeps referring to her young nieces as black and/or Guyanese. They have never been to Guyana. They don’t live with their Guyanese dad. They live in a rural white town with their white mother. After seeing their pic and realizing they do not look black. But mixed. Could pass for Indian/mixed Indian. Totally straight hair and tanned complexion. I asked her why she was “othering” these poor kids. I told her they were not black. They were not Guyanese because they know nothing of the culture. They were as Canadian as her and their mother and her telling them otherwise everyday will mess the up. people are so ignorant and thoughtless.
I am feeling extremely down. I work on a geriatric ward with mostly dementia patients. I think about 10 of them died in the last month. It’s an unusually high number. One died last night from choking. He was 94. The cutest little gentleman. Thank god it was not on my shift but I cannot stop crying. I don’t think I can continue with this job. I keep thinking I would get used to the deaths. I am not getting used to them. They are taking a toll.
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Ayesha81
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If yall watched the news I live 2 minutes where the plane got stuck in the power lines, Thank God the passengers were saved. So I have this long time guy friend he lives in another state and we talk anyway I was telling him there's a plane in my neighborhood that's stuck in the powerlines and I sent him a picture. Then he was concerned about my house and I told him there's so much going on and they turned the electricity off because of the plane the entire town is out of lights I wasnt even concerned about that I was concerned about the passengers. I think he thought the worst and texted: Have a goodnight and work week. I feel like he abandoned me.
He has never sent a text like that to me ever. First of all the plane was in the shopping center away from my house so if anything happened it's not like my house would blow up and be out of a place to live. So the next day I texted him everything is fine and then he calls to check on me asking about he didn't know I was still working he thought the electricity was out. I don't think I like him anymore. He has anxiety issues and texts me that he needs to talk when he's depressed I call and talk to him and then he turns around and leaves me hanging. I really want to curse him out and be done with him he's weak af for that. I realize I value "no matter what" people in my life.
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He has never sent a text like that to me ever. First of all the plane was in the shopping center away from my house so if anything happened it's not like my house would blow up and be out of a place to live. So the next day I texted him everything is fine and then he calls to check on me asking about he didn't know I was still working he thought the electricity was out. I don't think I like him anymore. He has anxiety issues and texts me that he needs to talk when he's depressed I call and talk to him and then he turns around and leaves me hanging. I really want to curse him out and be done with him he's weak af for that. I realize I value "no matter what" people in my life.
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