Lhcf Taboo Topic..black Women Who Are Done Checking For Black Men

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FemmeFatale

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And exclusively dates white men..

Do you know any black women who feel this way? I know more than a few black women who have openly shared this sentiment. Are there any women here that feel this way?
 
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I caught myself saying that a while ago, then dated a white man and then changed my mind completely:lachen:
 
I know women that say this. Not sure if they are serious but they do share palpable disdain for BM...
 
FemmeFatale said:
Lol! What happened?!
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The longer I was in the relationship, the more I realised how important it was to me for me to be in a relationship with a strong black man. I became more aware of the differences between me and my ex (white) and I wasn't really prepared to overcome the hurdles- I honestly didn't care enough because my heart wasn't in it....:look:

UN-PC:I also generally am not blown away by white men physically, they are not my preference.
 
How is it taboo when this has been discussed ad neauseum

Anyway I dont know any that have completely decided to dip on black men..then again the ones I know are well aware black men go beyond just the ones in the US.
We believe in being open to others(some have marry others, some found their black knight) but to give up completely on black men, it hasnt gotten to that point. Doubt it will.
 
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FemmeFatale said:
And exclusively dates white men..

Do you know any black women who feel this way? I know more than a few black women who have openly shared this sentiment. Are there any women here that feel this way?
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I used to say this, but I changed my mind. It was birth from being done wrong by black men over and over again, and being done right by a white man. However, I've learned to not let those past experiences close me off from black men entirely. I'm open to both races. It's just a matter of using a better jerk filter.
 
i will still date a black man if one who meets my standards catches my eye, but for the most part im done doing any kind of search for love amongst black men. and agree that this subject isnt taboo :lol:
 
A lot of black men act über entitled. I don't understand why they have this particular form of machismo but if you run across enough of the wrong ones the smell of the bull**** starts to become overwhelming. Anyone walking around likes behaving with the mindset that someone else should feel lucky to date them and not in a self confident but arrogant way is very off putting. There's a lot of good guys out there, A LOT, but they're not the ones doing most of the approaching and I think that's where women get frustrated and say f black men.

Yesterday on st pattys day me n my girls were on a bar crawl and this group of guys started talking the usual hey girl whatever whatever and we kept walking and then dude called us a bunch of angry black women and started talking trash. We just started making jokes about it bc it was so ridiculous n he came back and apologized but still...and then another black guy at a bar squared up on my girlfriend when she came back to the group asking what's going on bc he thought she was sending signals talking trash, when she was motioning for another drink -__- This jack off was like oh I thought I was gonna have to swing on you and we were like uhh excuse me? You need to go now. It's that type of attitude that once you experience it from the type you never expected (professional, college educated, so on and so on) some just wanna be like let me get with my white boy over here. Although white boys can be jerk offs too so don't get it twisted we just haven't experienced enough of their rudeness yet lol
 
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I doubt if anyone is going to say, yes I am done with BM on here. This is LHCF and they will get persecuted, talked about and forever be known as the member who hates herself.

Just sayin'.
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Yes. I have a close friend who dated and married a white man. She wouldn't have it any other way.
 
Nope. I don't know any women that have completely written off dating black men.

But what I do know is that people love assuming that I'm one of "those" black women because my current SO is white.

I was joking with someone about how my ex must miss me so much that he's dating another Nigerian girl from the same ethnic group. And she goes "oh he must love that chocolate." :rolleyes:

I was like, "um yeah, he's Nigerian. Why'd you assume he was white??"
 
I've encountered women like that and I eventually let it be known that its a ridiculous stance to have, and this is coming from someone that dates WM from time to time as well. Judge people by the content of their character, how they approach you, how they treat you, chemistry etc. there are good and bad apples in every ethnicity and its a bad look when you buy into unfair stereotypes for males of your own race. It also kinda reflects badly on the woman imo makes her look resentful and like she has baggage.

Now I understand that there are some professions that once you're in them you're pretty much interacting with mainly WM so there are just higher chances of it happening and thats cool, also if you're a Zoe Saldana type and WM simply approach you more then anyone else then I get that too. But to rule out men of your own race altogether....thats too much and requires some introspection imo.
 
lesedi said:
I caught myself saying that a while ago, then dated a white man and then changed my mind completely:lachen:
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I dated white men for YEARS. I ended up marrying another Latino. If I ever became single again I would never date/marry a white man. I'm all set.
 
BlackMasterPiece said:
But to rule out men of your own race altogether....thats too much and requires some introspection imo.
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I agree. I think when I said I was just frustrated that I was constantly meeting Mr Wrong but I didn't hold myself accountable for any of it. Frustration drives a lot of BW to say this....even if they don't mean it (like me:look:)
 
I know one person who is like this.

She said she would like to date black men but none of them have their lives together. I thought it was funny because all the things she said black men are lacking, she's lacking herself.
 
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Observing...that's all.
 
But I will speak my piece (I like that saying now lol) before I leave. I don't think I will ever completely write off a specific race of man. I really think that's stupid lol. As many men who inhabit this Earth? You haven't met all of them. And yea yea I understand if someone has dealt with mostly losers of a specific race and the only 'logical' conclusion to come too is to be done with them........but I still think it's stupid :look:

With that said, I'm not the type to seek out majority black venues in hopes of finding me a good black man to create a skrong black family with :lol: . I feel no loyalty to black men. I feel no loyalty to any man that I don't personally know. I also think that is stupid lol

And yea, I live with mah black daddy and he is great :lol:
 
MaryJane3000 said:
Yesterday on st pattys day me n my girls were on a bar crawl and this group of guys started talking the usual hey girl whatever whatever and we kept walking and then dude called us a bunch of angry black women and started talking trash. We just started making jokes about it bc it was so ridiculous n he came back and apologized but still...and then another black guy at a bar squared up on my girlfriend when she came back to the group asking what's going on bc he thought she was sending signals talking trash, when she was motioning for another drink -__- This jack off was like oh I thought I was gonna have to swing on you and we were like uhh excuse me?
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I see you're in DC. Yea, your men are rude. :ohwell: Was there for Halloween, I actually threw my drink in one dude's face cos he violently pushed me trying to get ahead of me toward coat check. :nono:

I wish it was a glass of cyanide and not just ginger ale :rolleyes:
 
I want to know where are you meeting these non black men and how do they approach you. I've dated one white guy before but we met in high school. I get stares and looks from all men, but I never know if they are "giving me the look." Black men are much easier for me to read and relate to, but I like milk in my tea too.
 
I'm checking for men who are checking for me period, regardless if he's black, white, red, yellow, brown :drunk:. Although, I do have my preference for dark BM w/ locs and Middle-Eastern men..oh yeah and Pacific Islanders :lick:
 
qchelle said:
With that said, I'm not the type to seek out majority black venues in hopes of finding me a good black man to create a skrong black family with :lol: . I feel no loyalty to black men. I feel no loyalty to any man that I don't personally know. I also think that is stupid lol

And yea, I live with mah black daddy and he is great :lol:
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I feel no loyalty either. Me wanting a black man is about preference. Rich brown skin does it for me, as do juicy lips and dark eyes. It's just what I like.
I want to be able to sing 'brown skin' by India Arie and make some kinda sense:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
I don't know any women like this personally. The women I know want a good man and would prefer he be black but if he is not and treats them well, they keep their options open.
 
O-ren said:
I see you're in DC. Yea, your men are rude. :ohwell: Was there for Halloween, I actually threw my drink in one dude's face cos he violently pushed me trying to get ahead of me toward coat check. :nono:

I wish it was a glass of cyanide and not just ginger ale :rolleyes:
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what?!?! I've thrown my share of drinks but that was funny :lachen:
 
Lucie said:
I don't know any women like this personally. The women I know want a good man and would prefer he be black but if he is not and treats them well, they keep their options open.
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We are >>>>>here<<<<<

And yes ladies, I see it is Sunday, huh. :lachen:
 
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